i«?iffi|f;^^4*3P«iif»'*^ . v^nSS V4V1. Ills'!. t.'iVmt'k''^''''^* •¦'¦ ¦¦ •g* .,«'«' ^Kj- p3 ¦ \ ¦ . . n Im ^4 1 s I iMKWtM^!MM 'iium'iiw-"-'--' ^W||| Iff */•'?¦ '•¦'•¦' ''^gi^Hlit v,j:;t*^i:€l 'm Ml 'fffj ii illm mi MM tgiii .i.€%^%iiMiiii44^i;v;i44^i4g|^iMMa4|§i^^ y^M/^^,^ ^g^Mmmm Gift of MISS SUSAN E. DAGGETT 1930 THE OL'D HOMESTEAD IN WINTER. THE FIFTIETH ANNIVERSARY MARRIAGE JOHN J. AND SARAH A. KJSTOX. OCTOBER 7, 1863. FOE PRI^.,ATE CIKOULATION. NEW YORK : ANSON D. F. RANDOLPH, No. 770 BROADWAY. C,32. THE GOLDEI^ WEDDII^G. The happy days of that golden week ! how shall we keep their very presence ! — the beaming faces of the honored pair who much more than renewed the youthful wedding time; the thronging associations, the old-house reminis cence among the children ; the lighted faces and excited laugh of merry grandchildren ! If we could only get the pictures of those changing hours, and bind them in a book, and keep the picture-album to look at in all our homes, and give now and then a friend or acquaintance the lib erty of turning the leaves, that would be so much better than to print the story told by the unskilful pen. But if we can not have the eye and the hand of the artist, we ourselves may at least try to catch the impressions of the day and the week. The grandchildren's grandchildren would rather have an inky drawing of the old homestead than none at all ; and to us, who were present, glad mem ory will soften and shade the crude outline till it seems touched by art. On Tuesday night the good folk came, except those who had come before. Four of the five daughters had indeed been at home, making preparations for the family gather ing, and the son at ' the other house' had been building and decorating the arbor for the more formal ceremony. And, besides them, three or four early comers had found 4 THB GOLDEN WEDDING. the other house ready to welcome them. But the grand arrival was when the two great stage wagons were heard coming through the gate, and when, in the darkness, the well-known voices of the children were shouting their greetings up across the lawn. The tea-serving, which, after waiting patiently an hour or so, had reluctantly com menced before the arrival, was quickly ' cut' by the young folk for the piazza and the carriage-way. The lighter par ticles of the kin flew off the big black masses before they had come to a stop. And from the tall grave great-uncle and the quiet meiTy-hearted great-auntie, to that small grand-boy, Eobert, the multitude were unwrapped and unloaded — except Eddie Anderson, who was passenger- escort on the baggage-wagon, a mile or two behind. Then came the greetings — and the surprises, as one after another found some person whom he had not before seen. The tea-serving went on. Plate and napkin were found. The hour and a half pricked quickly by on the wheels of nimble conversation. The ninetieth Psalm was read by the elder of the two sons who had grown into the sacred ministry, and who now thanked the great Father for the union of an unbroken- family. The various families were told where their lodging places were^ in the neighboring houses ; and in private talk . and planning, the weary travellers rested and waited for the Golden Wedding Day. It came, — ^not without clouds, not without coolness in the air, but the sun gilded the east, and the day grew THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 5 into a mild and cheerful warmth. In groups and frag ments, through the three rooms of the other house, break fast leisurely took its way until the last late-comer got his coffee and a volley of ready hits together. From the Scriptures the one hundred and twelfth, the one hundred and twenty-eighth, and the one hundred and thirty-third Psalms were read. The first of the hymns written to gratify the wishes of the father, was sung ; and the devo tions were led by the younger minister. THE HYMN.— fiaJroM. BY W. B. K. " Tlius far the Lord hatli led us on, ''Thus far his power prolongs our days;'' Let heart and voice in unison, A tribute render to his praise. Parents and children here we stand, Spared through the swift revolving years, A numerous and unbroken band, "With liopes triumphant o'er our fears. Sweet memories of days gone by, Childhood and youth, with all their joys, Bind us anew in friendship's tie, Whose strength no time nor space destroys. We bless our God for mercies past, We'll trust Him for the years to come ; And whereso'er our lot be cast, May Heaven at length receive us liome ! It had been the request of the bride and groom that there should be no exchange of golden gifts, but while the family were together in the morning three tokens 6 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. were presented simply to represent and to fix the happy time. It was in fulness of gladness, mingled with sacred gratitude for the unbroken family that some eyes overfiowed while the album, filled with the family faces, was placed in the hands of the parents by their children ; and not less was the pleasure when the wedding ring from the granddaughters was placed by their representative on the finger of the bride and the breast-pin was put into her hand ; and when in words fitly spoken, the grandsons' rep resentative came forward with the golden-headed staff for the bridegroom of the day, all the secret wishes of the two for each other could not have been more exactly met. And equally well did the little pieces of needle work and smaller gifts, wrought and given by children and grandchildren and discovered during the day, succeed in gaining the cor dial and expected response. The leaves of the album were turned again and again, as the family gathered around, the ring and the breast-pin were examined, the grand father showed his cane until the last child's curiosity was filled. Then the grandchildren got out to examine the swings, the old haunts of play, and most of all the arbor which was to take the place of the smaller apart ments of the old mansion — except those of the small people who gathered at the piano to sing a song, inspired by the rising poetic genius of the family. If the rumor was true, the muse had descended at early light and touched the pen for the grandchildren's sake. The song grew to be a decided favorite during the week, and was sung again and again by the merry and excited grand children ; and although it bears with it the evidence that THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 7 the muse had not her breakfast of ambrosia, the record of the day would not be complete without it. THE GRANDCHILDREN'S SONG. We've come to the good old homestead, Where live the good old folks, Who always have good bowls of milk And eggs with yellow yolks. Then come to the wedding. Come to the wedding, Then haste to the wedding. Or you'll miss a happy time. And opposite the homestead There stands the good old store. A thousand things are in it And never so many more. Then come to the wedding, &c. And just before the parlor, Right down among the trees, Is a swing with rings and ropes-es. All made for little " we's." Then come to the wedding, &c. And- over in the orchard Are apples red and ripe. On the hills and in the valley Where they laid the water-pipe. Then come to the wedding, &c. And out in the garden, It's rather late in the fall, But grapes are in the arbor And pumpkins over the wall. Then come to the wedding, &c. And down in the cellar Are potatoes, meat and fruit ; When they come upon the table They're always sure to suit. Then come to the wedding, &c. THE GOLDEN WEDDING. We love the good old homestead. We love the good old folks, For they love to make us happy And they never play us hoax. Then come to the wedding. Come to the wedding, Then haste to the wedding, Or you'll miss a happy time. The part of a family yet lacking to make the number who could be piesent complete, came over the hills from Clinton during the forenoon. The invited guests, who came to present their congrat ulations, began to arrive as the morning passed into the afternoon. Early friends and associates, a few of those who were at the first wedding, kindred and business acquaintances, townspeople and neighbors, merchants who had been clerks at the old stand, matrons who had been helpers in the old mansion, at length filled all the rooms of the old house to overflowing ; and even when the great parlor of the arbor was substituted for the smaller parlor of the house, the company filled the spacious room quite to its capacity. The grandchildren afterwards had the satisfaction of knowing that the apples which they had hung to the cherry-tree branches, thoroughly deceived an expert in fruits into the belief that two apple-trees were under the roof The grapes on the little arbor in the corner made, no doubt, the same pleasing deception. The arbor itself was on the old grounds, and just between the two houses. As the large family of children and grandchildren were gathered on either hand of the grand parents, 'Brother Will.,' known to the wide world in THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 9 more dignjfied and stately style as the Eev. William E. Knox, introduced the ceremonies of formal congratulation in woMs like these : " Others, more eloquent than ourselves, might have been invited to speak on this pleasant occasion and to represent fitly the thoughts here awakened. But we have chosen the rather, however humbly we may perform our part, to keep the guidance of these exercises in our own hands, and thus to pay our respects to our honored parents. As an appropriate opening to this happy anniversary, I will invite the pastor of the church where for so many years we have worshiped, to offer an introductory prayer." Prayer was then offered by the Rev. Oelo Bartholo mew. Then came THE ADDRESS OF CONGEATULATIOlSr rOB, THE CHILDREN, BY REV. WILLIAM E. KNOX. Deem- and Honored Parents, — Tour children, grateful to a kind Providence for the favors so abundantly granted them to-day, desire to present you their congratulatory address on this fiftieth anniversary of your marriage. That memorable event was solemnized on the evening of October 13, 1813, in this good town of Augusta, not 2 10 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. more than three miles from the place where we are now assembled. Besides the youthful Bridegroom and Bride (whose united years were but forty, the former" being nearly twenty-two, and the latter eighteen years of age), there were present, their parents, James and Nancy 'Knox of Canajoharie, Montgomery county. General David and Lucy Curtiss, at whose house the nuptial rite was per formed ; your brothers, Hermon Knox, John G., Hiram, Harry, and Harley Curtiss; the sisters, Elizabeth Knox and Emily Curtiss ; the ofiiciating clergyman. Rev. David Kendall, Pastor of the Congregational church ; together with some thirty or forty invited guests. Of that company, beside the two in honor of whose bri dal they were met, very few are the survivors. Your parents, four of your brothers and sisters, the worthy Pastor and most of the guests, have passed away. There still remain, so far as is known, to receive invitations to this Anniversary, Miss Elizabeth Knox, now of Knox- ville, Illinois, Mrs. Ruth Curtiss, of Canastota, widow of John G. Curtiss, Hiram Curtiss, of Augusta, Harry Cur tiss, of Deansville, Erastus Lewis, John Thompson and Samuel Allen, of Augusta. Of this number there are to day among your Golden Wedding guests, Miss Elizabeth Knox, Mrs. Ruth Curtiss, Messrs. Lewis, Thompson and Allen. The town had been first visited by New England emi grants about twenty years before, and rapid advances had already been made in its settlement. The forests had fallen away on every hand before the axe of the pioneers ; well-cleared farms and comfortable though rude dwellings THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 11 were visible throughout the township. The road running south from this place to General Curtiss' house, by the way of Benjamin Warren's, must still have been, to a con siderable extent^ through the original wilderness. The highway by the Centre was more open and traveled ; and it was along this route, on the morning after the wedding, that the first buggy wagon introduced into Augusta, with its ' bran-new ' invention of wooden springs, might have been seen conveying the young merchant and his more youthful bride to this their future place of resi dence. Our hamlet, it must be confessed, was not at that time a pretentious one, consisting as it did of a single store, a blacksmith shop, perhaps a school-house, and from six to eight dwellings. The sagacious eye of its first tradesman, however, had marked it as the practicable centre of an extensive and lucrative business, and had two years pre viously selected it as the field of his commercial opera tions. His capital was not large, consisting mainly in an un doubted capacity for business, a social and buoyant tem perament which no obstacles or reverses could subdue, a sterling integrity of character which no temptation of sor did gain was bold enough even to assail, and, crowning all the rest, his newly-obtained treasure in the person of a prudent wife, which we know, on the authority of Scrip ture, is "from the Lord." If it was a day of small things with the new settlement, this was but in keeping with matters throughout the county. Utica was at that time but a fiourishing village. 13 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. Rome lacked several years of receiving its charter, and with Clinton, Yernon, Waterville and other now pleasant towns, was in its comparatively small beginnings. Ham ilton College had been open just a year lacking fifteen days, and was represented by the old Kirkland Academy building, four professors and perhaps a half dozen stu dents. Telegraphs, railroads, canals and post-coaches al most, were as yet unfamiliar to the eyes, of our worthy ancestors. The chief commercial connection of the little settlement was with the State capital, whither its merchant sent his processions of lumber wagons in the Spring and Fall, and of sleighs in the Winter, loaded with grain and potash, to be freighted homeward with dry goods and groceries, and whatever else the purchaser might need for the supply of his rapidly enlarging circle of customers. It is appropriate to note too the wider circumstances of the event which we to-day celebrate. The wedding took place, as does this fiftieth anniversary, not in a time of peace, but of war. The nation was engaged in its second struggle with our amiable step-mother over the water, and just a month within three days preceding the evening- gathering at General Curtiss' house. Commodore Perry indited his memorable dispatch to General Harrison, giv ing the result of the great naval battle on Lake Erie : "We have met the enemy and they are ours ; two ships, two brigs, one schooner and one sloop." War, it seems, did not then prevent the people from marrying and giving in mar riage, any more than it now does their descendants from commemorating such doings, or occasionally getting up an original wedding on their own account. We are glad THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 13 also to record that the practice of gaining victories as well as of getting wives, did not cease with the good old times of 1813, as the glorious achievements of Dupont, Farrigut, and Foote on the sea, and of Unconditional Surrender Grant, Rosecranz, Banks and Burnside on the land, re main to testify. It is a change of scene, as if by magic, which the half- century anniversary we observe to-day, witnesses. The thick-standing forests which, especially on the slope rising westerly from this spot, covered all that hillside quite down to the infant hamlet, have long since been cut away, per mitting the eye from this sightly place to roam over the picturesque landscape of these rolling uplands. The rude settlement has become a neat village, with a history which does its name no dishonor.* The primitive store, which even the older children can only remember as furnishing, in its later days, a diminutive dwelling, near where Mr. Jarvis Kendall's store now stands, has given place, as has its more respectable successor (the residence now of Mr. David Stilson) to the substantial and spacious edifice which occupies the main business corner. The large stone school- house has supplanted the old red building in which most of your children received their primary education. A- comely church, with its musical bell, better graces the central lot on which it stands than did the barns of the public-house in our days of childhood. The ample and * Tlie settlement was first known as Cook's Corners, from an early and prom inent resident. G-raduallj it came to be known as Knox Corners, and was so named officially when the post office was first appointed. The day of the Golden Wedding an official order arrived from Washington, changing the name of the post office to Knmsboro, 14 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. shaded grounds about us are no longer an open common with scarce a tree or shrub, unless it were this group of sycamores, which was, in the early times, a favorite loung- ing-place for the Stockbridge Indians during their trading visits to the new settlement. The town itself has become the home of a population whose character for thrift, sobriety and general intelli gence, will not compare unfavorably with the best New England communities, from which, indeed, most of the early settlers derived their origin. The academy at the Centre, five church edifices in various parts of the town, and school-houses in each district, testify of the hold which education and religion have upon the hearts of the people. The Congregational church, upon whose ordinances you and your children have been for so considerable a portion of their days regular attendants, numbers at the present time two hundred and fifty communicants, and previous to the colonization of the church at Oriskany Falls num bered just four hundred members. It rejoices, too^ in a pastorate of nearly thirty years' continuance ; a proof, at the same time, of the moral worth of the beloved incum bent and the stable piety and sterling sense of his parish ioners. It should not be withheld from the credit of the town how thoroughly loyal and republican it is in senti ment, always by its votes sustaining the Administration in its efforts to uphold the cause of the Republic, and giv ing freely of its sons to fight the battles of civilization, law and liberty, against barbarism, sedition and slavery. Intemperance, let it be noted, has as little quarter given it here as disloyalty, only one corner of the town having THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 15 room for a dram-shop. So that if all our communities re sembled those of Augusta in this respect, the Temperance Millennium would be already dawning. In respect to all these particulars I need not remind those who know the history of things here what potent infiuence for good has gone out from the precise locality where we are as-. sembled. Looking for a moment abroad over the county, we see ' Old Oneida' rising steadily to its high position among the sister counties of the Empire State. Utica has become a town of 23,000 inhabitants. Rome, Clinton, New Hart ford, Whitesboro, Yernouj Waterville, are among our finest villages. Hamilton College, on whose list of living Trustees your name. Sir, stands first in order of election, has become a power in the literary world. Many of the youth of Augusta, including four of your own sons, are among its graduates. It is time however that we limit this survey to our own domestic circle and concerns. It is a grateful office indeed, which we perform in recognizing the good hand of our God upon us this day. First of all, how kindly has Providence dealt with you, beloved parents, in sparing your lives, and health to this hour, and in permitting us to hope that your three score years and ten may be made four score years without fulfilling the Psalmist's predic tion of bringing either labor or sorrow. In this house, where you still live, were all your children born — save the eldest — ten in number, equally divided in sex, and all to day living and in the enjoyment of health. There have been many happy meetings and greetings in the old home- 16 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. stead, many songs of praise and voices of prayer uplifted there, hut never yet, during these fifty years, a death or fu neral of any child or relative ! ' Not unto us, 0 Lord, not unto us, but unto Thy name give praise for Thy merc;^ and for Thy truth's sake.' Two only of the sons are absent from these festivities, each holding a post under Government, from which in these times of national exigency they could not be ex cused even for the attractions of this golden celebration. One of the sons-in-law is also absent, occupied with the demands of his chartered vessel, about to bear her liberal supply of provisions to our brave boys on Morris Island. All of us but two have married. Twenty-eight chil dren have been born to us, twenty-one of whom are living and nineteen are present on this occasion. The whole number of your descendants is therefore thirty-eight, of whom thirty-one are alive. One only of our number has been called to part with the companion of his youth,* a native also of this town, with whom some of us had grown up from childhood, and whose amiable excellencies and endeared family associations will be held sacred in our thoughts while life remains. Two of your sons have entered the sacred ministry, a third having been prevented by the failure of his health during his theological studies. Nearly all are members of the Presbyterian and Congregational church ; every one, sons and sons-in-law, claim to be sober, industrious, moral and loyal men in our several callings, legal, com- * Mrs. Mary A. Knox, only daughter of Winthrop H. and Abigail Chandler. She died at Watertown, June 22, 1845. THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 17 mercial and clerical ; and it is our desire and aim, as it has often been your prayer, that ' the world may be the better and not the worse, for our having lived in it.' We are more sensible than words can express of our obliga tions for what we are personally and for any infiuence for good we may have exerted, to the power of your con sistent example, wise instructions and earnest prayers, and when we are permitted no longer to behold the one or listen to the other, it will be left to us still to say, in the words of the English poet, ' Our boast is not that we deduce our birth Prom loins enthroned and rulers of the earth. But higher far our proud pretensions rise, Children of parents passed into the skies.' We are met on an occasion such as we can never expect to see again. The recollections of the past, the anticipa tions of the future, how they throng on the mind at an hour like this ! Amid these familiar scenes were spent our childhood and youth. The old homestead stands the same substantially as we knew it in our earliest years. These venerable sycamores lift their benignant heads just as when we sported beneath their branches. This quiet neighborhood and its familiar dwellings, yonder radiant hills with their autumn-colored forests, their meadows and pasture-lands, their grazing flocks and pleasant farm houses, the valley of the Shenandoah lying beneath in a Sabbath repose — how delightful and impressive is all this now as when our eyes in early childhood were familiar 3 18 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. with the scene, and our willing feet explored the whole region in our youthful wanderings. We are surrounded to-day by the faces and forms of many dear relatives not of our immediate family circle, by the companions of our parents' youth, by the friends of our own early days, by many honored citizens of this and of neighboring towns. Here are the venerable pastors of the church in which we were baptized, here are our old Sabbath-school and Bible-class teachers, our schoolmates and college associates ; here are many whose goodness and piety we have for long years known and respected, and whose voices we have heard so often in fervent exhorta tion, sacred song and uplifted prayer. Where but in this place could we have gathered around us a company at once so numerous, so memorable and beloved ! It is not the least among the causes of our congratula tion, that there is no one of all these your townsmen and acquaintances, who have known you longest and best, whom you. Sir, cannot look in the face and, like the last of the judges of Israel, boldly make your appeal and say, " Behold, here I am ; witness against me before the Lord and before his anointed : whose ox have I taken ? or whom have I defrauded? whom have I oppressed? or of whose hand have I received any bribe to blind mine eyes there with?" On the contrary, you have ever regarded your own welfare as identical with theirs, and prospering only as theirs prospered with it. There is no interest of this community, whether commercial, agricultural, educa- . tional, moral or religious, which you have not been fore most in promoting. For such a record we, your chil- THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 19 dren, to-day thank you as we thank God for his favor toward you. And for the grateful appreciation and cor dial confidence with which these, your friends and ours, have ever responded to your just and generous course, we render them our heart-felt acknowledgments. And now, beloved Parents, may that Divine blessing which has been so manifestly yours in years gone by, still abide upon you. May the evening of your days be as se rene as your morning has been bright and your noontide benignant; and may this Golden Wedding be to parents and children, relatives and honored guests, an earnest of that assembly yet to be convened, when our Lord shall gather His loving household home to His heavenly presence and marriage-feast, each one prepared ' as a bride adorned for her husband.' Then followed the address to the grandparents from the grandchildren. THE ADDRESS OF CONGRATULATION FOR THE GEANDCHItDEEN, BT REV. CHARLES E. KNOX. There are others than children in this family group to present their congratulations on this happy occasion. To you, who are our honored parents, we children give our respect, our reverence and our gratitude ; and to you who are the grandparents, another circle, larger than ours and 20 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. younger in years than we, bring their thanks and love and confidence. It is my lot to stand between the grandparents and the grandchildren. As the youngest son of the grand parents and the youngest father of the grandchildren, it is my pleasure, as it is the pleasure of the family, to ex press the grandchildren's interest in the history of your wedded life and in this glad celebration of the fifty years. Certainly there could be no purer and deeper pleasure to me, on such an occasion as this, than to speak to you, whose integrity and purity, whose diligence, industry and faithfulness, whose unconscious Christian character and uniform religious influence, have had the growing admira tion and respect of my maturer years; and to speak _/or these grandchildren, whose loving thoughts of you, whose ardent interest in the earlier and later years of your suc cessful life, will increase just as years give appreciation to all that is noble and good in domestic character. You have already entered the borders of old age. They are just beginning to pass- over the limits of youth, of child hood and of infancy. We, the children, stand between you both, knowing something of your experience, having caught a little we trust of your sober wisdom, and feeling, it may be, even more than you feel, the quick, warm, eager pulsations of hope and desire in their immaturity. And if this glad hour can be made to transmit to them some thing of your wisdom and worth as the guide and security for the future, they will, I am sure, long bless us as the intervening link which binds them in a new and sacred and happy attachment back to you. The memories of these children of the second growth. THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 31 with ours, are associated with this good old home. And although the grandchildren follow on in regular succes sion, the oldest but just younger than the youngest of the children, yet their associations do not go back so much to the past as ours. All this change of fifty years, in its wide relations of town and country and nation, of society and character and education and religion, many of their minds do not quickly grasp. But within a smaller hori zon their minds are as quick as ours to recall the pleasant things of the past. They do not forget, they will never for get — the most of them — the happy hours in this old family homestead, where the grandfather and the grandmother lived far back past all their childish recollections. Many things which have escaped your special notice have given them happiness. Just as there has been going out from this Christian household a uniform silent infiuence which has made us children better and purer — just as we have felt that, so surely as your lives were spared, morning and evening the prayer would go up from the family altar that God would care for us and bless us — so has there been a silent, happy influence diffusing itself into all our families and connecting this house and home with pleasant memo ries in all our children's hearts. And if they have not been able to appreciate fully the grander principles which have been at the centre of your life and character, they have seen and heard and felt here many things which fix some of their happiest thoughts on you and your pursuits. Little things, which perhaps you have little cherished, have been sources of great happiness to them. This spa cious yard, with its big sycamores and locusts and outside 22 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. row of maples; the orchard, with its apples and hills; the garden, from lettuce and asparagus to hollyhocks and blackberries ; the swing and the arbor in summer ; the bins of golden pippins and the ride down the Brewery hill in the winter ; the time of the haying and the har vest ; the rides in the carriage to church ; the reverend pastor, without words of ill against him ; the store, with its goods and goodies, to some of which they were never denied access — these may all seem little things to you, but they are great things to children, and we thank God to day that our children, from the oldest almost to the very youngest, have their associations happily fixed in the midst of so many healthful pleasures. They will remain in their memories, as they do in ours, bright things, — rays of sun light, broad beams of sunshine, sending their lines of gold all through their m 'mories of grandfather's house. I need hardly speak of graver influences, of the moral lessons of honesty, fairness, temperance and truthful speech which you have ever sustained each other in teaching, and, especially, of that religious influence which it would be your chief happiness to perpetuate in all your chil dren's children. You see these grandchildren gathered from their differ ent homes, with happy faces and beating hearts, coming up here to crown your golden wedding with a living wreath. They have learned to love you, because you have loved them and have done them good in wise and good ways ; and their very presence is the highest expres sion of thanks and congratulation. Out of th^ twenty-eight grandchildren who have been THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 33 born, all but four have now seen this family home and have known right here the good things of all the house. One only of the living, and he the latest-born, has yet to discover the good things which, we trust, will be long in store for all the grandchildren. When we think that some of the twenty-eight have died, we are reminded sadly that a pang has struck sharp and deep into the hearts of some of us, which you have never known, and which we devoutly pray — while with equal fervor we pray for your long unclouded life — it may be your happy lot to pass through life and not feel. Bringing those whom a kind Providence has kept for us and most of whom He has blessed with health and lusty life, we come to say to you, ' Here are we and the children whom God hath given us,' and to say to them, ' Here are the parents whose life has helped us so far as we have given anything good to you.' Two of them have grown to years- of mature strength and of independent action. Fourteen of them range all along the various stages of education, acquitting themselves in their various degrees of merit. And five are still within the limits of infancy and fast learning to seize and use the gift of speech. Three of the twenty -one live near the old scenes and re peat here the sports of our childhood, while eighteen of them, in village and city, far and near, are always glad to breathe the fresh air which floats through these syca mores, to sit at that table which is always loaded with the best of good things, and to carry back with them health and goodness and innocent pleasure from this af fluent source. 24 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. Two of the grandsons, the oldest and the next the youngest, bear. Sir, your honored name, one of whom honors you and us by defending his country's honor and by wiping out treason's dishonor at the gates of Charles ton. For honorable conduct he is temporarily with us to-day. Two of the grand daughters bear also, dear mother, yoiir good name, and, we trust, will adorn your virtues with their ripening years. All of them have re produced in our homes those sweet and hallowed pleas ures which sprung up in your own home during the earlier half of your wedded life, and which a benign Providence has intimately connected with the virtuous family. I might speak of the eventful changes which have oc curred during the years of your life which these grand children have occupied ; of the fact that this period reaches over just one-half of these fifty years ; of our na tion at the beginning and at the end of that time ; of Andrew Jackson standing at the opening years with the dead viper of treason flung from his iron hand to the earth, and Martin Yan Buren taking his seat in the Pres idential chair ; and at this end of the years, a million of men standing in arms to strike to the earth a full-grown monster of the same venom. I might speak of the great men who have preceded us within that time ; of the towns in which the grandchildren live as they were at that time : New-York just recovering from the great flre, building the Crotou acqueduct, with her oldest daily newspaper but five years old ; the Albany people climbing the graded rail road to Schenectady, in cars drawn by a stationary engine ; Oswego, a village of about 4,000 people ; Rome less than THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 35 one-half its present size, without railroad or telegraph, the Erie canal following the original line through the swamp, and Utica not larger than Rome now is ; Yernon, on the great thoroughfare, in the height of its prosperity, with sometimes a hundred and fiftj^ passengers in the overloaded coaches; St. Paul, in the depth of the waste territory of the United States. You, Sir, were Colonel of the 6th regiment of the State cavalry, and still selling merchandize in the old store, and the present pastor of the church had been but two years in his place ; your oldest son, a merchant in the village of Clinton, and your second son, to whose words we have just listened, a dignified member of the Junior class in Hamil ton College. Reminiscence of this kind, in full freedom, is more fit ting in the family groups than in this gathering of invited guests. And now these last twenty-five years have gone, and, instead of one grandchild, you have more than the years have numbered. We children come back gladly to thank and to bless you. These grandchildren do some thing more than catch their spirit of congratulation from us. As we look upon your faces to-day and gather up the history of half a century's wedded life, as we let the play of reminiscence in our early home stir our humor, as we permit the power of your united character to pour its flood of light and love over us, the words of the wise Solomon come to our lips, and we feel that among the virtuous humble, as well as among the virtuous great, 'the glory of children are their fathers.' As we turn again to the bright 4 26 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. spring-time of life, reflected in the faces of these our chil dren, as the fresh purity of our own domestic pleasure in all its many happy hours, gushes anew through all the chambers of our hearts, and in their active, sprightly thoughts and words we see reflected the contrast of yonr peaceful and quiet old age, the wise man's words again speak the deep feeling of our hearts, when he says, 'chil dren's children are the crown of old men.' Long may they be your crown, more easy and more glorious than diadem of brilliants, more sure, more constant than the royal symbol of king and queen. Long may the golden- headed staff of your grandchildren be the true index of your strong comfort in them. Long may the jet and gold borne on your bosom shine with the radiant luster of their becoming lives. Long may the Golden Wedding Ring betoken the purity, the preciousness, the enduring love of your well-tested union. 'Behold that thus shall the man be blessed who praiseth the Lord.' Behold thus shall it be with ' the virtuous woman, whose price is above rubies, the heart of whose husband doth safely trust in her, and whose children rise up and call her blessed.' As the youngest grandchild had not received baptism, at the close of this address the rite was administered by the two clergymen under whose pastorates the father of the child and both the grandparents made profession of their Christian faith. THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 37 The introductory prayer was by the Rev. Orlo Barthol omew,* and the rite administered to Maet Fake Knox; and the concluding prayer was by the Rev. Ely Buechaed. The early school-friend and room-mate of the bridegroom being invited to speak, courteously responded to the invi tation. WORDS OF GREETING FROM THE HON. GERRIT SMITH. Venerable and Beloved Pair, — I congratulate you that you live to see this day, to enjoy your Golden Wedding, or, as I might say, this Golden Celebration — ^tbr such it emphatically is — of your wedding half a century ago. I congratulate you that your children, all of them prosper ous and happy, are still all spared to you, and that you have so large a flock of grandchildren. And, dear chil dren and grandchildren, I congratulate you that this aged and precious pair, whom you love and whom we all love, are still preserved to you. * Since the pleasant day, to which he contributed so much, this good man, venerated and respected and beloved for years by all the family, has gone to a higher life. His funeral sermon was preached, at his own request, by Rev. Wil liam E. Kuox, on May 10, 1864, the twenty-eighth anniversary of his first visit to Augusta. He died at the age of sixty-two years. Lamented by large numbers of people, beyond the limits of his own parish, whom he had befriended and blessed by his self-denying labor ; carried to his grave by aged and devout men, who expected thai he would lay them in their graves, and who made great lamentation over him ; his mild and peaceful influence will continue to bless the town as long as men survive to remember his gentle and pure example. 38 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. Let me say to the numerous friends whom this occasion has brought together, that it is our duty to inquire into the causes of the remarkable success of this family, to the end that we may be instructed and may instruct others by their example. The touching recitals to which we have just listened, seem to bring out these causes. Let me add a few facts of the same tendency. It lacks but two or three months of fifty -four years since I became acquainted with General Knox. We were at that time members of Fairfield Academy, in the county of Herkimer, and occupants of the same room. Our room mates were Ezekiel and Harry Sanford, brothers, of Zanes- ville, in Onondaga county ; Delamater and Bronson. Ezekiel was a scholar, and took his place amongst the lit erary men of Philadelphia. Harry was a fashionable and elegant young man. Said a lady to me, far more than forty years ago, ' How splendidly Harry enters a ball-room ! It is like the rising of the sun !' Ezekiel and Harry both died before reaching middle age. Delamater, I believe, died young. Edwin Bronson, brother of Hon. Alvin Bron son, of Orange, removed to a western State more than thirty years ago. It is quite probable that he also has gone the way of all the earth. I do not recollect that there was any remarkable bril liancy or readiness of attainment in General Knox at that period. He was a moral, sedate, studious youth, who played no tricks and was guilty of no folly. Soon afterward — perhaps not more than a year — I learn ed that General Knox had pitched his tent in the town of Augusta, near the spot where he now resides and where THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 29 we are to-day so happy a company. It is to me a pleasant fact that this spot is within the limits of the great tract of land which my father obtained from the Oneida Indians. He and all the other white men of this section who spoke the Oneida language fluently. Judge Dean, Abraham Yan Eps, Abraham Young and Daniel Petrie, have long since passed away. Then, in a year or two more, the General married into one of the old and respectable families of Augusta. The Lord gave him his wife ; for the Good Book says, that 'a prudent wife is from the Lord.' I for get, my dear Madam, when I became acquainted with you. It was before your marriage. Long before that your brother, John G. Curtis, was my much-valued companion. He was a bright, warm-hearted, winning boy. My mother loved him, and in his manhood he would tell me of the good pieces of pie and cakes he had received at her hands. Time passed on, and General Knox became known as a man of uncommon judgment, industry, energy and per severance, and, what is far better, as a man not of a merely sentimental but of a practical and working religion. Ere long he was spoken of as a wealthy merchant. And now we saw him giving freely and largely, not only of his time, but also of his money, to the advancement of great and good objects. Especially interested was he in Temperance, the Sabbath-School and Education. General Knox could not help getting rich. His quali ties necessitated this result. And how pleasant it is to see such a man get rich! — a man who uses his riches in giving a good education to his children, and in promoting objects that benefit and bless mankind. 30 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. And now, in the light of the characteristics of Gen eral Knox and of his excellent wife — for, if they were not originally alike, they, nevertheless, by force of their pursuit of common objects and devotion to common interests, came to be — we can see how to account for the achievement of their great success. They have accumulated a large prop erty'. They have used it wisely. Their ten children are all living virtuous and useful lives. So also are their sons- in-law and daughters-in-law. In a word, I know not where we shall look for a family more truly honorable and happy. Whence has come all this ? It has come, under God, first, from the strong common sense and sound judgment of this amiable pair ; secondly, from their untiring industry ; thirdly, from the sober and practical type of their religion. May all be and do like them ! Quite to the surprise of the family, at the conclusion of Mr. Smith's address two other gentlemen, well known to the children of the family, presented themselves, asking permission to speak a few words. ADDRESS OF MATTISON RICHMOND, Esq., FOE HIMSELF AND JOSIAH COOK, Esq. Mr. and Mrs. Knox, — We too claim the privilege to congratulate you. We belong to a family of business men that have gone out from your employment. Twenty-eight years ago I came to serve a clerkship with you ; and I well THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 31 remember, Mrs. Knox, dining with you on the twenty- second anniversary-day of your wedding. My friend Cook and I attempted last New Year's to make you a visit, for the purpose of doing what we are happy to do to-day, but circumstances prevented ; therefore you will allow us to trespass on this interesting occasion, to do what we intended to do then. After clerking in your home store about one j'ear and a half, you enlarged your then extensive business by taking Targe canal contracts. In this new branch of your busi ness you sent my then clerk-mate, Mr. Cook, to Clinton, and myself to Little Falls. In these villages we still re main. We have been prospered and successful in busi ness. We have been honored by our villages and counties. When we commenced business for ourselves, your letters of credit were our capital, and to you. Sir, we owe our thanks. Your advice and your counsel and, above all, your example, has been a monitor to us thus far on our journey of life, and well may your sons and daughters re joice to-day that they have a father and mother still living. Our fathers and mothers have long since gone to their rest. Now, Sir, as a token of our high esteem, allow us to pre sent you this valuable cane, with the wish that it be a prop to you for many years; and when the balance of your life is ended, it will be said that a 'good' and 'honest' man has gone from earth to heaven. At the conclusion of the ceremony, the family and the wedding-guests congratulated the bride and groom on their long and happy union. 33 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. The social festivity flowed on with the good cheer of the well-spread table. The shadows were already falling when the company began to be thinned, and the arbor and the table at length were left alone, to represent the occasion on which, to the last hour of their lives, blessing will rest from grandpai-ents and children and grandchil dren, made happy with the purest and the most delightful of domestic pleasures. Then to the good old house ! — the good old house, where every child had passed his infancy, childhood and youth, on which no shadow of death had ever yet fallen, through the rooms of which more than one troop of grandchildren had many a time made merry 1 It was filled in every cell. Through the evening the family conversation went cheerily on in the parlor — now and then interrupted by the little people's sport — with more than one reference to the good uncle whose face looked down from the wall on the un usual gathering, and whose young heart had perpetuated its freshness through the many years since he had passed away. The whole company were called out too, to the middle parlor to hear the song which only a part of the people had heard in the morning. And then, too, were read the pleasant words of regret sent by kind friends who could not be present. And, at the close of the evening, the devotions, the first in the old house, were again led by ' brother Will. ' Due notice was given of the breakfast hour 'at this house,' and of the 'reminiscences' which were expected to follow the family worship in the morning. THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 83 The last good-night was quickly followed by the first good-morning, as the family gathered to the tables in the same old dining-room, where the good things of the table — ' always sure to suit ' — had often tempted the appetites of others than the little ones. The grandchildren took the places made vacant by the children, and at length fol lowed their parents into the further parlor, when the morning devotions were attended ; the early friend of the father, William McElroy, Esq., of Albany, who, with his lady, had consented to stay over night, leading the prayers. THE 'S.Y'K'S.—St. Thomas. BY W. E. K. In childhood's happy days. Within this place of prayer, We poured our cheerful song of praise And cast on God our care. Scattered from hence — we come At the parental call ; One family, again at home, One heart and hope in all. Oh, bless the Lord ! our souls. For His preserving grace ; His hand our wand'ring path controls. And brings us face to face. While here we briefly stay, And when again we part. Still, gracious Lord, direct our way And bind us to Thy heart. 34 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. And when no more below, Parent and child, we meet. That bliss divine, oh may we know, A home at Jesus' feet. The 'reminiscences' were then called for. And when a wedding ode was offered as preliminary to the family stories, the suggestive query was put whether the muse had this time been wooed before her breakfast. THE WEDDING ODE. BT 0. E. K. The ruddy russet robes the woods. The golden sun looks down. As fifty autumns they have done Since Sarah wedded John. The woodman's axe no longer rings To clear the forest town ; No Indians roam, as once they did. When Sarah wedded John. The merchant-boy, who saved his pence. And hid them with his purse, Who early learned the gains of trade And found with gain no curse ; The skillful girl, whose work made thrift With wheel and wool and flax. Who father's blessing, neighbors' praise. Approved by worthy acts; THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 35 The healthful love which bound the twain And made the two lives one. Twine three-fold now their cord, as when Young Sarah wedded John. The buggy, with its wooden springs. Has long gone to decay, But happier they, who rode therein, Than on their nuptial day. The silver moon shed full its light O'er all the landscape wide, A long, long month upon the house Where young John took his bride. With growing years the homestead grew. And children grew to bless ; And children's children blessed tTieir sires. And loved grandmaui's caress. Young John and Sarah now are old. And fifty years are gone : But still the same the charm, as when Young Sarah wedded John. The sun must move adown its steep When once its height is past, But, gathering radiance with its hours. Most golden are its last. These golden years, O chain of love ! Their happy course have run ; O long and peaceful be the rest — Of Sarah and of John. The reminiscences which followed told the story of the early mio-ration of the Mother's father into the town at the 36 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. time of its early settlement ; of the log house, the tavern, the great highway, the clearing and the opening roads; of the new stores of Carrington and of the Chandlers at the centre of the town, and of Knox on 'the hill;' of the first ride in the cutter with the young stranger, the town talk about him, the first sight of the ' clean face ' of the young man, of the singing-schools and the church-choir. They told the story, on the Father's side, of the three brothers who came from the north of Ireland ; of the branches of the family in Hartford and Schenectady ; of the location in Canajoharie ; of the grandmother Yan Evera, and her es cape in the stockade fort from the Indians, during the Revolutionary war ; of the mari-iage and settlement of James Knox on the Mapletown farm ; of the boyhood and clerkship of John, his Academy days, his new home in Albany and of the discovery of the ' great wheat county,' which at length made the city clerk the merchant in the new country before his twentieth year. They told the story of the growing prosperity of the young merchant; of the maidens fair and charming who looked with winning eyes on the rising captain ; of the dance and the party to which the daughter of the Justice of the Peace was taken ; of the visits after betrothal ; of the hasty wedding, its aft ernoon supper and its evening ceremony, the wedding dress of the bride and the gloveless hands of the bride groom. Whoever reads those chronicles may further find the outline of the enlargement of business, the moral bat tling against gaming, profanity, intemperance; of the ' treating ' system, the ' Brewery ' and the Total Abstinence THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 37 Reformation ; of the cavalry career in the State service, from private to brigadier-general ; of the reception of La fayette at Utica ; of the farms, the new store, the college trusteeship, the canal-lock work and the bank ; of the post- office, the plankroads, the mailcoach, and still more par ticularly, the growth of the old homestead, the growth and education of children and their marriage, the happier and the sadder occasions in their families, the reunions which took place now and then, ' at home,' even down to the blessed days of the Golden Wedding. It had been in the plan. that the grandchildren should have a grand ride together in the afternoon, taking the old roads as they were half-a-century ago, and visiting places where the early immigrants first located, and the land marks of the town for the last fifty years. The eager in quiries of the children about the threatening clouds were answered by the heavy showers and the muddy roads, and reluctantly, after the dining hour had passed, the only unsuccessful project of the week was given up. But the children's attention was soon diverted to the arbor, which was now being fitted up for their evening entertainment. With the help of shawls the platform was turned into a stage, a canvass partition made a small audience-room out of a large one, the Chinese lanterns suspended from the beams took the place of apples on the cherry trees, and benches and chairs were arranged to fill the space. The neighbors, with whom ' the different families had been the guests, and the domestics, were invited to help make up the audience. And so that nothing improper might occur 38 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. in so theatrical a performance, the two reverend gentle men of the family themselves took charge of the curtain, and their wives directed the scenes within. The perform ance, which had no postponement on account of the weather, was opened by the entire company of the grand children, singing their song of welcome ; and the evening was filled with riddles and charades, devised, revised and extemporized. The entertainment was pronounced emi nently satisfactory to the immense and select and discrim inating audience, whose wit in guessing the charades and riddles was highly creditable to the borough and the fam ily. From the entertainment each family, gathering its shawls and equipments, took their departure to their lodg ings — the evening Scripture being read to the few who re mained by sister Emma, and the evening prayer being offered by father Knox. On Friday morning, at the family devotions, after the Scripture and one of the hymns, the same familiar voice offered the common thanksgiving and petition. Those pleasant half-hours of family worship, reviving all the prayers of years morning and evening at the household altar, we can never foi'get, especially when that voice, now more trembling than it once was and full of sacred feeling, breathed the thankful petition. The morning was given, among the young people, to recreation of their own devising, and by the older folk to family talk, broken by calls to the new patent cider-press (straws free) of the young home-mechanic, to the patent THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 39 swing, and to the jolly wagonful of small people, who were having a gay ride, without horses or driver. The store and ' the other house,' the old swing, the garden, the orchard, received their due attention. Those most ac ceptable photographs of the bride and groom were distrib uted during the day, while the card-pictures of the different families ^vere exchanged. The evening was given again to merry-making : the children at first trying ' conse quences ' by themselves and then getting the people of the other parlor to join their games. In capping poetry, in mourning the loss of that royal lady of Carthage who died of violent gesticulation, in guessing the rhyming-word, in telling ' what my thought is like,' and why — to all of which merriment no one contributed more than the honored great-uncle from the West — the evening swiftly went by, the jovial sport at length giving way to the Scripture and the prayer by the great-uncle William. On the morning of Saturday all was preparation for de parture. The best time must have an end. The parting hymn must be sung, the parting prayer offered. THE PARTING WiM^.—Ortomille. BT W. E. K. The golden band of wedded love. The household company, An earnest is of life above, Of heaven's felicity. And such the joys which we have known Amid these festive days ; 40 THE GOLDEN WEDDING. How swift the winged hours have flown ! How bright their genial rays! We part — but may Thy blessing. Lord ! Upon us all abide ; For where Thon dost Thy grace afford What ill can e'er betide ? And when Thon spread'st Thy marriage feast. Our Father's house on high, O ! may we, each a welcome guest. Abide eternally ! Many were the words of satisfaction that our thoughts had been so pleasantly expressed in the various doings of the week ; and there was thankfulness in the heart of all that a day bright with the light of pure domestic pleasures had been placed in the journey of the years. No formal vote of thanks was passed to the good brother who had contributed so much in arbor-building and in the pleasant arrangements, but it was on the lips of more than one and in the hearts of all. Many, many times, all along the blessed hours, the hearty regret was expressed for the absence of those whose presence would have made the family complete. The name of each — the two brothers, the brother-in-law, the sister-in-law, the two little children — came often to the lips, with the expression of their loss in absence from all these glad hours. The kindness of neighbors was remembered, too. Nor did we forget how much the people of the kitchen contributed through all the week to help on the general contentment. From that most useful ' chief cook ' to all the cheerful, willing assis- THE GOLDEN WEDDING. 41 tants, the hard work went smoothly on, and the comfort and pleasure of the many was much increased by the good- humored faithfulness of the few. After the luggage had been cared for, a pair of great- uncles and a great-aunt were first packed within the big wagon with the Albany family and a part of the Clinton family; and, amid the repeated good-byes, the horses whisked down the curve, and, once through the gate, turn ed their heads towards Utica. The Rome family, the Yernon family, the Oswego family, were packed, too, with more skill, into the family carriage and the other wagon ; kisses and good-byes fell like snow-fiakes, the spurring wheels took the road to Rome, the waving handkerchiefs of Johnnie and Bennie sending back still their greeting till the last flourish was hidden by the hill. Later in the day, 'Master Will.' escorted over the Brothertown hills the rest of the Clinton family, leaving still the oldest daugh ter and her children, and the good ' auntie ' whose very name and smile were one of the fondest treasures of the fifty years, to make less abrupt the departure by a week's lingering among old friends and old scenes. O happy days of a golden week! Come again, O golden day ! come to some of us ! iuim(i(i''A:it' * y* \'. \ \ \ ^ \ k »'»\ V V V » V V V v» »i> V V s V >V'» iV*'* 4. ». vl'ikV, > J, '^ \ V < V vv t \ \ y!),^ > % ii \ V \ \ > s >'\\ M v V \ » % t V \V\'\ t !, 1 -» V. 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