Iliilll C'Oip^htN'* COPYRIGHT DEPOSIT. nmmm-i»mwmii^t,:.Km^mmmwtmmmiWW OUR CHILDREN HINTS FROM PRACTICAL EXPERIENCE FOR PARENTS AND TEACHERS BY PAUL CARUS KOMMT, LASST UNS UNSEREN KiNDERN LEBEN ! " — FROEBEL. CHICAGO: THE OPEN" COURT PUBLISHmG COMPANY LONDON AGENTS Kegan Paul, Trench, Trubner & Co., Ltd. 1906 I LIBRARY of CONGRESS Twe Copies Received JAN 2 1907 , C«pyrlet)t Entry , CUSS ^ XXc, No. COPY B. ,r^. COPYRIGHT BY THE OPEN COURT PUBLISHIiSG CO. 190G CONTENTS PAGE Education and Progress 1 The First Steps 6 Parenthood 13 Imagination and Love of Truth 22 Worldly Prudence 28 The Use of Money 34 Square Dealing 40 Sympathy with Animals 46 Don't Say Don't 50 Treatment of a Naughty Child 58 Stimulate Self-Criticism 64 Do Not Punish 67 Direct and Divert, but do not Suppress ... 76 Sanitary Attention to Children 82 The Significance of Naming Things in the Nur- sery 94 Counting 103 Mind-Reading and Arithmetic 109 Natural Science 120 Facts not Fancy 125 Foreign Languages 128 Mathematics 134 Music in Education 140 Playful Instruction, and Genius 147 Rationalism in the Nursery 160 Mutual Education of Children 171 Fear and Circumspection 178 Santa Claus 190 Index 205 OUR CHILDREN EDUCATION AND PROGRESS How can we judge of a civilization, and is there any standard at all by which we may gage its power and significance? This question should not be impossible to answer and we believe that the replies given by different thinkers will be characteristic of their philosophy. It is a test question that will reveal the true nature of a system of thought. St. Francis of Assisi and his followers find its answer in the supremacy of the spiritual over the material, under- standing by the spiritual the mode of thought which is entertained by the priest. The philosopher of matter and motion measures the advance of society by the complexity of its phenomena; to him evo- lution is a progress from the homogeneous to the heterogeneous. We agree with 2 OUR CHILDREN. neither and would say that culture is at- tained in the measure that truth has been actualized in life. We insist that the actualization of truth is the only standard which can be used as a criterion, but we will not deny that there are many indicators of progress which like straws in the wind are signs of the times, and most of them will not be contradictory with each other. Of these indicators there are as many as there are diverse attitudes in life, nay more than that, as many as there are functions of life in which progress may manifest itself ; and we will enumerate only a few of them. It has been claimed that the standing of woman in the community, the respect shown to her, the assurance that her rights will be protected, may be regarded as an unfailing evidence of civilized conditions. The finan- cier is inclined to regard that nation as leading the others in the march of progress which controls the finances of the world. The engineer takes his measure of value ac- cording to the amount and efficiency of ma- EDUCATION AND PROGKEStS. 3 chinery used for tlie manufacture of goods. In the domain of transportation most is made of the proportion of railroad lines to the area, or perhaps the population of a country. So every one uses the measure to which he is accustomed in his own home, his trade, or his own vocation, and even the soap-manufacturer gages the civilization of a people according to the consumption (i. e., the use, perhaps even the waste) of soap. But if we attribute to the parent the senti- ment that the rank of a community in the scale of progress should range according to the significance ascribed to the education of children, we would perhaps have an indi- cator that comes nearest to the real criterion of true culture. The higher an animal ranges in the scale of life the more it stands in need of educa- tion. The lowest organisms needno parental cnr'e whatever for they merely vegetate, but the more prominent becomes the part played by the mind the less complete is a creature at its birth, and the less prepared for the struggle of existence. More than other 4 OUR CHILDREN. creatures, man needs protection and instruc- tion, so as to be preserved during the tender age of infancy and fully equipped for the heavy demands of life. Our frontispiece, a picture by Georges La- vergne, represents a child's first steps un- der the mother's guiding love, symbolizing the instinctive anxiety of mankind to lead the growing generation in the right path and develop its latent forces so that when the present generation has passed away, it will in its turn take up the torch which has been handed down and carry it further on in the advancement of the race. The educational ideal does not merely mean a preservation of the treasures of the past, but includes future progress. It is not sufficient that the children of to-day be like their fathers. We understand the meaning of the law of evolution better than our ancestors did, and since we can give our children better chances in their lives than we ourselves possessed, we can expect of them more than we have accomplished. They should surpass us, and it is our duty EDUCATION AND PROGRESS. 5 to enable them to do so; for Goethe was right when he urged that "the son be better than his father!" Our lives are limited, and the older we grow the more will our personal interests be narrowed and reduced; but we can keep our hearts young if we live with, and for, and in, our children. They can attain what was unattainable to us, and they can become w^hat w^e wished to be, but the best of it for us is that we our- selves can be instrumental in helping them to actualize our ideals. THE FIRST STEPS The first steps we take in life, especially the first steps in our intellectual and emo- tional development, are not so indifferent as may at first sight appear. Children are imitative, and their souls are built up by the impressions which they receive. Every single experience, every ob- servation of older folks, of parents, of nurses, but especially of elder brotliers and sisters, and generally of all belonging to the circle of their acquaintance, exercises a powerful influence in the building up of the character of the child. The child inherits from its ancestors a great many things which constitute the cap- ital with which man starts in life. This capital consists not only of the bodily or- ganism with all its details, but also of the mental as well as emotional dispositions and aptitudes, the significance of which can THE FIRST STEPS. .7 never be overrated. But this endowment is not definite either in quantity or quality, because the application made of it, the use to which it is put, and the moulding of this raw material into concrete forms is not in- herited. The formative work is done dur- ing the life of the individual, first by edu- cation, then by experience ; during childhood in our homes, our schools, and social sur- roundings, and when we have reached ma- turity and become independent, by our- selves. Hence the paramount importance of education. The babe's brain contains besides other areas of importance, an undeveloped part in the so-called Island of Reil, which is to be the center of speech. The disposition to develop language is absent in any animal brain. But while the aptitude for speech is inherited, language itself is not. Our mother tongue is not born with us but must be acquired. A talkative propensity may be inherited, but the language which a man is to speak in life depends on the influences of his early childhood, which determine not 8 OUR CHILDREN. only the nature of his cast of mind, his na- tionality, etc., but also the character and usage of his speech in after life, whether or not his linguistic talent will make of him an orator, a poet, an author, a philologist, a linguist, or perhaps a mere gossip. A child endowed with musical talent might Avith proper surroundings become a second Mozart, the model of a pure and clas- sical taste, or a composer of rag time tunes ; or, if he grows up among absolutely un- musical people, his musical disposition may remain latent and show itself only in a freakish way, producing, like a fallow field, an exuberance of tonal weeds. The raw diamond is valuable in itself, but its greatest worth consists of opportunity. It becomes a valuable solitaire only by cut- ting. The soul of every babe that is born into the world possesses a w^orth that needs de- velopment if its opportunities shall be changed into actual values. It is the duty of parents to see to it that this is done, and the right kind of parents will endeavor to THE FIRST STEPS. 9 have the better part of their own selves, with an excision of their shortcomings, reared in their children. We all of us owe much, in fact our entire being, to the past, for we actually are the sum total of the soul-life of all of our an- cestors; and here in our children,— or for those who have no children of their own, here in the growing generation, — is the place to pay our debt. And upon the whole, parents are well in- clined to do their duty. Nature has her own sly ways of doing her pleasure, and so she makes people press on to the destined goal that she proposes. She appeals to self-love, and even to vanity, to make us work for her great aim which is the procreation of an in- creasingly improved mankind. We believe in evolution, and the doctrine of evolution promises that the future man shall range as much higher than the present man, as the present man ranges above the proto-savage, the primitive homo in spe just emerging from the state of brutehood. As yet we have only imperfectly realized the human 10 OUR CHILDREN. ideal. The man of the future shall be a true man, higher and better and nobler than the average man of to-day. We can all do our share in reaching our aim. We are all tending toward it and yearning for it ; some do so consciously, some unconsciously, and more or less intelligently. All our most personal interests, our love of life, our in- stinct of self-preservation, our interest in our own character, our hankering after the immortalization of our own particular per- sonality, our determination to maintain oui*- selves in the struggle for life, are intimately interwoven with the great plan of nature, with the realization of the highest type of manhood, — ^the actualization of the human ideal. This explains why parentage is re- spected among all races and nations as the noblest calling of man. The first impressions made on a child's mind are especially important as they form the basis of man's whole future develop- ment, and they remain for a long time, some- times forever, the standard by which all later impressions are measured. Should THE FIRST STEPS. 11 we not, therefore, exercise the gi'eatest care, and instead of leaving the first mental im- pressions of children to accident, see to it that they are throughout correct? The first education of babies is frequently left to mieducated nurses, who sometimes have not the slightest idea of the sacredness of their trust and know very little of the right treatment of infants. Nurses should be chosen with great care and should always remain under the personal supervision of the mother. They should be mere assistants of the mother, but never take her place. How many of us are oblivious to the fact that whatever we do and say, whatever error we commit, whatever example we may set, is impressed upon and perpetuated in the little souls in our charge ! Let us keep this in mind and let us look upon the child as a sacred trust. Let us give children the right start in life, and let us begin at the very beginning. Let us not wait until the children have grown old enough to understand us and be capable of entering into our plans and ideas. Let 12 OUR CHILDREN. US begin the work of moulding their souls while they are still plastic, and not wait un- til character is already forming, for then it may be too late. Let all parents join in the sentiment ex- pressed by the great apostle of education in the words, Kommt, lasst uns unsern Kin- dern lehen! "Come, let us live for our children!'^ And if, indeed, we do live for our children, it will not be a sacrifice on our part, not a waste or loss of energy, for the reward we receive in return is much richer and by far more valuable than all the gifts we have to offer. Children are a fountain of youth in which our hearts are rejuvenated. PARENTHOOD Parents that cannot make up their minds to live for their children have no business to have children. Children are not dolls; they should not become toys for our amuse- ment and diversion. Children are pledges. The possession of children implies duties, and the fulfilment of these duties demands not only a painstaking labor and watchful- ness, but also great discretion and wisdom. The obligation of educating children ex- ercises a most beneficial influence upon par- ents, and it is by no means untrue that the most humanizing factor in the evolution of mankind has been the presence of children, implying the necessity of educating them. The proposition to discuss ^'the education of parents by their children" ^ is not as paradoxical as it seems. We may say that ^ This is the title of an article by Carus Sterne, which appeared in The Open Court, Vol. I. Nos. 22-23. 13 14 OUR CHILDREN. no one, neither man nor woman, has grown to mental and moral maturity until he or she has been confronted with this noblest of all duties, the care of bringing up children. Cams Sterne ^ says : ''Every child requites much of the love be- stowed upon it by the parents, by making them better and more perfect beings than they were before its advent into the family. In fact, the highest polish, the finishing touches of educa- tion, are given people neither by home, school, nor church, but by their own children. Should they be so unfortunate as not to have any, they will experience difficulties in replacing this lack- ing factor in the education of their affections." Frequently sexual love is spoken of as the factor that exercises a civilizing influence upon man; but Cams Sterne, "at the peril of exposing himself to heresy in poetical matters," declares that on the contrary it 2 Carus Sterne is the now, de plume of Dr. Ernst Krause, of Berlin, a well-known German author of scien- tific and popular-scientific works, his most celebrated work being Werden und Vergehen. He is counted among the foremost evolutionists of Germany, and did not fail from the very beginning to emphasize the moral significance of the doctrine of evolution. ' PARENTHOOD. 15 engenders cruelty, produces destructiveness and brings about beneficent results only when resulting in a firm union, demanding reciprocal surrender and self-sacrifice. The religious aspirations of mankind so important in history, are of a secondary growth, for they develop from the relation between parents and children. Says the same author: ''Out of parental and filial love there devel- ops, even in immature minds, a universal love for humanity. The infant becomes the Saviour — the earthly father becomes the prototype of the all-wise, all-bountiful Father in heaven." Protestants as a rule object to Mariolatry as pagan. They are aware of the pagan features of any image worship and are there- fore disgusted with their Roman Catholic brethren. But belief in the divinity of motherhood contains no less truth than the belief in the divinity of fatherhood. Protestants, as a rule, believe in the latter, and are therefore not aware of the Protes- tant paganism that results from a sensual and literal interpretation of the belief in 16 OUR CHILDREN. God the Father. The family relation is not dual, but trinitarian. It is not parent and child, but father, mother, and child. Carus Sterne, too, touches upon this point. Though Protestant by birth and absolutely independent in religious matters by his scientific education, he says: ''The early endeavor to elevate the mother into the realm of the divine is a deeply felt and psychologically well justified factor in the de- velopment of Christian dogma. It was thus that the mother with the infant on her lap was made the chief picture at the shrines. The "Holy Family," so typically portrayed by Raphael, wins all hearts, even at this day, in Protestant countries, for it justly makes the nur- sery the sanctuary which produces and constant- ly feeds the pure flame of love of man and of God." The possession of children is a blessing, and the joy that parents may derive from them is immeasurable. It would neverthe- less be a grave mistake to think that such happiness can be had simply through the procreation of progeny and by indulging, simian fashion, in a love of one's own off- PARENTHOOD. 17 spring. The bliss of parenthood has to be bought with many cares, with sacrifices of all kinds, and with far-seeing forethought. It is a common observation that the char- acter of people changes for the better, the moment they become parents. The average man is thoughtless and perhaps even frivo- lous, but as soon as the duties of parenthood approach him, he begins to reflect and be- comes considerate. Now he weighs his words and takes life more seriously. Many who never before gave a thought to the prob- lems of religion, because they are lukewarm and do not care to have a settled opinion, pause for the first time in their lives and ask themselves whether they had better teach belief in God or unbelief. The moral views of people assume a decidedly more definite form when they think of their children, and our behavior is influenced by the idea that in our habits we are setting an example to our sons and daughters. What a wonderful plan it is of nature to split up the evolution of mankind (whose life in its entirety forms one uninterruxDted 18 OUR CHILDREN. line of progress) into innumerable sections of individual lives! We could very well imagine a different arrangement. The in- dividual and the race might coincide, and we should then have the growth and evolution of one immortal personality, in the place of an immortal race broken up into a pro- gressive succession of mortal individuals. There would be no death in the dispensation of the unlimited life of such a race-individ- ual ; nor would there be any birth, and man- kind would not need to start life over again with every new baby ; there would be no need of education; no need of love. But where would the interest in life remain, if this mankind-individual lived through centuries and millenniums without being obliged to continue its existence through begetting and educating children *? Life would be unpala- table if it were not broken up into limited pieces and constantly started over again. What a monstrosity such an immortal man- kind-individual would be! It would think and feel as does Goethe's Mephistopheles, who in Scene IV says to Faust : PARENTHOOD. 19 ''Trust me, who for millenniums, year by year, The same tough cud must masticate and test : No mortal from the cradle to the bier Can ever this unsavory stuff digest. Trust one of us to whom this life is known; The whole can be endured by God alone." The mutuality of life is the condition of our moral ideals which naturally have a tendency to break through the narrow range of exclusively individual interests ; it points beyond the sphere of individual life without annihilating the importance of the individ- ual. It makes the individual the represent- ative of superindividual aspirations which, through the inherited parental affections, have become sufficiently deep-seated as to well up spontaneously whenever needed, sometimes even in criminal characters, in spite of themselves. Egotism and altruism are both useful and beneficent instincts. They balance each other, and where either is missing the other will run to seed and do great harm. Our ethics, our religion, nay, our whole 20 OUR CHILDREN. interest in life, is simply an expression of the natural constitution of mankind, viz., of the system of mutuality. It may be wrong to say that without the mutuality of life there would be no ethics at all, because another arrangement would simply imply other rules of conduct than those w^hich we now call moral. In other worlds of a different constitution, with other interrelations, there may be other needs, and consequently its creatures w^ould aspire af- ter other ideals. It is difficult to say what might be; but this much is sure, that our moral and religious conceptions are a prod- uct of the conditions which have shaped our lives. However much religious truths have been represented as a contradiction to nature, they are nature (though, of course, nature transfigured) in its highest efflores- cence; and wherever for a time, through gross sensualism and childish immaturity, by a literal conception of parables and an unspiritual pagan interpretation of the na- ture of dogmas, mankind has drifted into a hostility to nature, religion lost its true PARENTHOOD. 21 significance, but showed always, even in the darkest ages, a tendency to return to a purer, more elevating, and more natural morality. It is mutuality that gives zest to life and makes it worth living. The interest that keeps us in the world and attaches us to ex- istence is like the vault of a massive struc- ture, where stones keep one another up by inclining toward and pressing upon one an- other. Mutuality holds up the lofty arch as firmly and as solidly as the interrelation that obtains among the various members of human society naturally produces and sus- tains ethics; and the most important, be- cause fundamental, mutuality of human life is the relation between parents and children. It is apparent that mankind would never have developed true humanit}^, had it never witnessed a mother's love. The sublimest and noblest sentiments would be still un- known, had not generation after generation been trained in the school of parental care and self-sacrifice. Men have learned the lessons of life by living for their children. IMAGINATION AND LOVE OF TRUTH Love of knowledge is a good thing, but love of truth is more important than any- thing else, and should be impressed upon a child's mind as early as possible; but we must not be blind to the fact that the con- ception of truth can scarcely develop be- fore the fourth or fifth year. Although the idea is very simple to an adult, it is, in its full significance, quite complex, — indeed, too complex to be appreciated in all its im- portance by children. The first condition for developing the love of truth is never to let the punishment of a small criminal follow his confession of a trespass. For fear is the main, and in many cases, the only, incentive to telling lies, — lies in the sense of wilful misstatements of facts, of deceptions, made for the purpose of gaining advantages or escaping unpleas- ant results. 22 IMAGINATION. 23 We ought to know that sometimes a child tells untruths which are not lies. Children have a vivid imagination, and they are apt to invent facts. A certain small boy who was suspected of having broken a dish de- nied the fact, while his little brother, who could not have done the deed, positively as- sured his parents that he had broken the dish. He told an untruth simply because he imagined how he might have broken it. The case was interesting to him, and in his vivid imagination he depicted all the details, and told with great complacency a long story describing how the accident had happened. To many children the dreams of their imagination at once become as real as the reminiscences of actual events, and in our fervor of impressing upon children a love of truth, we must not be too quick to con- demn a little sinner before we positively know that he tells not a mere untruth but an actual lie invented for the purpose of shirking his responsibility. Love of truth ought to be closely connected with self-esteem, and what is commonly 24 OUR CHILDREN. called the sense of honor. There ought to be no worse opprobrium than the defa- mation of being a liar. When years ago I was a scientific instruc- tor at the Royal Corps of Cadets at Dres- den, I adopted the principle, whenever any disturbance of a recitation occurred, of simply asking the question, ''Who did it?" On the first occasion, of course, there was no response, whereupon I spoke contempt- uously of the spirit of the whole class, in which there was some one too cowardly to stand up frankly and acknowledge the mis- chief which he had committed. I argued that all the members of the class were re- sponsible for the esprit de corps; and that so long as such cowardice was condoned and encouraged, I could have no respect for the class. When this happened for the first time, the charge of cowardice stung the evil- doer, but he did not rise to confess, although the whole class grew more and more indig- nant and urged him to do so. The duty of the class, I continued, is so to influence its members that none of them shall shirk the IMAGINATION. 25 responsibility and fail to acknowledge what- ever he has done. In a society that tolerates suspicious characters one must be on one's guard ; and so a teacher cannot treat a class in which some refuse to confess the truth frankly and openly, as young friends, but as inferiors, comparable to inmates of a penitentiary who are always under the sus- picion of wrong-doing. The result was that somebody rose to expose the delinquent; but I refused to listen to the denunciations, and stigmatized, at the same time, in strong terms, the practice of playing the informer, saying that I did not care to know who did it, but hoped that the guilty one would have honor enough to tell the truth, if it w^ere for no other motive than to avert suspicion from an innocent comrade. The malefactor appeared after the recitation and denounced himself privately, but here again I refused to listen to the confession, and told him the proper thing would be to stand up before the whole class and publicly acknowledge his guilt. What he had done before the whole class, he must confess to before the whole 26 OUR CHILDREN. class. Without any further suggestion, at the next recitation the malefactor jumped up, and in a few clear words made the con- fession required. An occurrence of this kind took place once only in every new class and never again. The class understood the principle, and whenever anything out of the way happened, whenever there was a noise which was diffi- cult to trace, or whenever a disturbance of any kind took place, the cause of which could not be discovered, the question, "Who did if?" was always followed by the prompt self-surrender of the delinquent. He knew, of course, that he would not be punished, nor was it ever necessary, because the con- fession ended the joke, if there was any joke in it, for its repetition had become impos- sible. When I was a child attending school, the investigation of criminal cases was a fa- vorite pastime for several of my teachers. I remember that many of our lessons were idled away by cross-examinations. The professor played the judge in court, and IMAGINATION. 27 every one of the boys deemed it his duty to mislead him. It was almost impossible to learn the truth, for the esprit de corps of our classes resulted in a very strong notion that belying the teacher was the proper thing to do, and any one who had told the truth plainly, either in self-confession or in denunciation of others would have been re- garded as an abject fellow who, without self- respect, bowed his neck under the yoke of our common oppressors. During my expe- rience as a teacher at the Royal Corps of Cadets, I was never obliged to undertake any investigation, and I may add, I never had reason to doubt the word of the boys. Many of them are now officers in the Ger- man army, or may do duty in the very insti- tution at which they were educated, and I hope they have learned to treat soldiers and cadets in the same spirit. There is no rea- son why the same method should not be employed in schools and nurseries all over the world. WORLDLY PRUDENCE While love of truth must become part of the foundation of a child's mind, we should not one-sidedly press the importance of truth to the utter neglect of discretion. Common prudence teaches that we have to tell the truth at the right moment and in the right way. Love of truth should not be identified with bluntness. We are by no means requested to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, to every- body. We should tell the truth above all considerations where it is our duty to do so, and that depends upon circumstances. The phj^sician who shocks a sick man by bluntly telling him, "Your disease is fatal," may be guilty of a criminal offence in so far as he hastens the dissolution of his patient. He must be on his guard and break the truth in an appropriate way, as the occasion re- quires. Due reserve is not lying, and blunt- 28 WORLDLY PRUDENCE. 29 ness is not love of truth. We must consider the consequences of our words, and choose such expressions as will bring about the re- sult at which we truthfully aim. We must tell the truth with discretion. The main thing is to tell the truth to our- selves. The old evening prayer has a very good feature in its review of the day's work, and its self-criticism, at any rate, should be kept up. Whenever a child has done any- thing wrong, let him consider it in a quiet mood when he retires for the night, and drive home to him the lesson that, the more severe he is with himself, the more apt he will be to make a success in life. Most fail- ures in life are direct results of vanity, which prevents us from seeing our own faults. Truthfulness to ourselves must be the basis of our truthfulness to others; as Shakespeare says: "This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow as the night the day Thou canst not then be false to any man. ' ' As to cleverness and discretion, I know no better way to cultivate them than by 30 OUR CHILDREN. reading with the children ^^sop's Fables and even Reynard the Fox. The former have the advantage of being short, and most of them need no explanation as to the les- son involved. The moral of the latter, how- ever, is almost dangerous, and can at any rate be easily misinterpreted, because it seems to teach that cunning is the most valuable equipment in life, and that the clever liar will win in the end. But I am not willing to reject the story on such easy terms, for many of the situations and many of the delineations of character are too real- istic and intrinsically true not to teach a useful lesson. Reynard the Fox is a story without a hero ; it does not hold up an ideal to be imi- tated, but teaches us the dangers of life. A few words of explanation will prevent children from drawing the wrong moral from the story. First we must call their at- tention to the fact that all the creatures so ingeniously duped by the fox are caught by their own faults — Bruin, the bear, by his love of honey; Tibert, the cat, by his pro- WORLDLY PRUDENCE. 31 clivity for mousing ; Bellin, the ram, by his ambition to appear as a clever councillor; Kyward, the hare, by his stupidity, which in a certain sense is a vice too, and which our children must be taught to overcome as a matter of duty. It is true that Reynard is the personification of cunning, but Isegrim the wolf, his enemy, has all the faults of the fox with the sole exception that he is phys- ically his superior, and is, in addition, vora- cious, improvident, slovenly, and villainous. While morally the wolf is no better than the fox, the latter is at least clever; ingenuity is his redeeming feature. And with what a humor are all the other characters de- scribed! Grimbart, the badger, the un- critical admirer of Reynard; Baldwin, the ass, the learned clerk; the she-ape, Ruck- inaw^, an intriguing chambermaid. Noble, the lion, is a very short-sighted sovereign who becomes a mere puppet, a plaything, and, without knowing it himself, is used by Reynard as a tool. The fox comes out victorious, because he is smarter than his enemies, but for all that, he remains a ras- 32 OUR CHILDREN. cal who constantly runs the risk of ending on the gallows. With some such hints, a reading of this ancient animal epic will be very instructive, especially if after its perusal the children are told that the tale reflects the age in which it was written — an age in which true goodness was rare and the importance of a genuine love of truth was not yet appreci- ated. Civilization was then so low that cleverness, even in the low form of cmming, was uncommon, and whenever found it was appreciated as a rare gift from heaven. It takes quite a clever man to tell a lie with approximate consistency, and the Odyssey, written in an analogous period of culture in the Greek nation, expatiates with great sat- isfaction upon the virtue of lying and the mendacious genius of its versatile and in- ventive hero, whose usual epithet, ttoAvVt^ti? (he of many counsels), sounds like a transla- tion of Begin-hard} There can be no doubt that the animal ^ Reynard means " strong in council " ( regin = wisdom, advice, council ; and hard = strong, firm ) . WORLDLY PRUDENCE. 33 fables, including the story of Reynard the Fox, are among the best methods, if not the very best, to teach in a playful way the first elements of worldly wisdom. The fact that yEsop's Fables can be traced back to In- dia, that fables are mentioned in the Old Testament and in the history of Rome as early as the sixth century B. C. ; further, that similar poetical productions of an in- dependent growth have been discovered in the tales of Uncle Remus among the ne- groes of the United States, and in the an- imal stories of the natives of America, Af- rica, and Oceanica, is sufficient evidence not only of the fact that they must be a very an- cient and venerable heirloom of ancestral wisdom, but also of their popularity and usefulness as a means of instruction. Carlyle speaks of the animal fable as ''a true world's book which through centuries was everywhere at home, the spirit of which diffused itself into all languages and all minds, . . . the universal household pos- session and secular Bible." THE USE OF MONEY Money is an important factor in the world of the adult, and children, who are so keen in their observation, will as a rule no- tice the fact at a tender age. The time comes when they introduce its use into their play, and it is not an uncommon occurrence that they manufacture a monetary system of their own for shopping and bartering, for banking and making investments to bear interest or bring returns. I have seen chil- dren do so on their own account without any instruction, and it seems that such tenden- cies deserve encouragement, for the notion of money should not be left out in the nur- sery. Children will instinctively anticipate the conditions of the life that is in store for them and their plays are and ought to be an education. Games are in the market which have been invented to familiarize children with 34 THE USE OF MONEY. 35 money, but I do not remember any one that would deserve recommendation. Nor would I advise the use of artificial money such as accompanies these games for it is much bet- ter if the children themselves manufacture the money which they need for their own games. They can easily limit the amount by having every piece of currency .signed by all members of their little community and they may start with an equal amount allotted to every one, and have them backed up by real things that possess to them a value of ex- change, such as marbles, beans, or other de- sirable objects. Here, as in all other cases, parents should allow their children to in- vent their own methods. When the chil- dren come more and more into contact with the domain that lies beyond the pale of the nursery they begin to feel the need of real money and it will be wise to let them have a definite allowance so as to accustom them to the use of money and establish in their minds at an early age habits of thrift and order. There are two opinions prevalent con- 36 OUR CHILDREN. cerning money both of whidi are wrong, and it is important for man to have the right conception of the significance of money before he starts in life. Some hold money in contempt and look upon it as the thing which defiles, while others worship it as the golden calf, the measure of all values and the power that governs the world. William Matthews in his well known book. Getting on in the World, says rightly : "The philosophy which affects to teach us a contempt of money does not run very deep ; ' ' and "The way in which a man spends his money is often one of the surest tests of his character. ' ' Money is neither the sordid thing which it is often believed to be, nor is it the omnipo- tent ruler of all earthly affairs. Money be- comes sordid only by the touch of sordid hands; in itself, all money is honest, for it represents a certain amount of human la- bor, equal to the exertion of procuring it. Nor is money the almighty power that rules the world; the worth of money consists in THE USE OF MONEY. 37 what it may buy, but there are goods that can not be bought with money, — health and youth, beauty and energy, talents, genius, ideals, and more than all, honesty and a clear conscience. Money has been compared to the blood that circulates through our arteries. It must circulate to be useful and it must serve wholesome purposes. It is a means to an end and as such it must be appreciated. Money has no value in itself and for itself. To earn money for the sake of hoarding it may be useful for the community, for large capitalists are as much needed in a social aggregate as a living organism needs cen- tral organs for its blood circulation, but the man who hoards will find the work neither profitable nor pleasant. Between the two extremes of a wrong usage of money lies the golden mean and our children ought to know it. They ought to know that it is the duty of every man to earn a living, and a living that is merely from hand to mouth is insufficient for a man of providence, and Robert Burns is right in 38 OUR CHILDREN. pointing out in one of his poems that the proper use of money is *'Not for to hide it in a hedge Nor for a train attendant, But for the glorious privilege, Of being independent." The best method of accustoming children to the use of money is to put them in a small scale in such a position as they will occupy later on in life when confronted by the cares of making a living. Allow them to bear in a small degree the burden of life by giving them an allowance for which they have to procure certain necessities of their life, their shoes, their ties, gloves, school utensils, car fare or other things occasion- ally needed ; and arrange it so that they can freely cover their expenses, and, if they are thrifty, save a little for themselves which they may use as they see fit. This allowance should not be irregularly increased but should be paid out like a salary on regular pay days, and it should be made on the condition that a strict account of it is kept which must from time to time be balanced. THE USE OF MONEY. 39 It will not be wise to interfere with chil- dren for the unwise use they might make of their savings, though it may be opportune to point out to them the folly of unnecessary expenses, and unless there are weighty rea- sons to the contrary there ought to be no prying supervision of their account books, the main object in view being, that childi'en learn to make both ends meet. It will be good, too, if children begin young to earn money, but this ought not to be done at the expense of their education nor in any way that would practically amount to begging, but in actually accom- plishing some useful work that possesses a value to the party who pays for it. And the money earned or saved, if not immedi- ately used, should be deposited in a kind of savings bank, which the parents will keep for their children or as soon as it be large enough may be deposited in a real bank. No child is so poor and none so rich that he does not stand in need of some practical instruction in handling money, in saving it, and in spending it in the right way. SQUARE DEALING There is an innate desire among people to get something for nothing, or to gain by a reduction of prices. On this principle those merchants base their business who announce that they are enabled by bankruptcy or otherwise to sell under the manufacturing price. While I do not deny that this is sometimes possible, there is no question that some of the goods bought in this way rep- resent a smaller return for the money paid than the reduction promises. The man who buys well-made goods at an exorbitant price loses money, but he owns the goods. He has what he wanted. But he who buys poor goods at a reduced price loses both money and goods, for he gave away the former, and the latter are without value and will either be useless or will not serve the purpose for which they were bought. The fact that cheap goods are ^'made to 40 SQUARE DEALING. 41 sell" is admirably set forth in Dr. John Wolcott 's humorous poem The Razor Seller, which I quote: A fellow in a market-town, Most musical, cried razors up and down, And offered twelve for eighteen pence; Which certainly seemed wondrous cheap. And, for the money, quite a heap. As every man would buy, with cash and sense. A country bumpkin the great offer heard, — Poor Hodge, who suffered by a broad black beard, That seemed a shoe-brush stuck beneath his nose: With cheerfulness the eighteen pence he paid. And proudly to himself in whispers said, ''This rascal stole the razors, I suppose. ''No matter if the fellow he a knave, Provided that the razors shave; It certainly will be a monstrous prize." So home the clown, with his good fortune, went. Smiling, in heart and soul content. And quickly soaped himself to ears and eyes. 42 OUR CHILDREN. Being well lathered from a dish or tub, Hodge now began with grinning pain to grub, Just like a hedger cutting furze; 'Twas a vile razor ! — then the rest he tried, — All were impostors. "Ah!" Hodge sighed, "I wish my eighteen pence within my purse." In vain to chase his beard,, and bring the graces. He cut, and dug, and winced, and stamped, and swore; Brought blood, and danced, blasphemed, and made wry faces. And cursed each razor's body o'er and o'er: His muzzle formed of opposition stuff. Firm as a Foxite, would not lose its ruff; So kept it, — laughing at the steel and suds. Hodge, in a passion, stretched his angry jaws. Vowing the direst vengeance with clenched claws. On the vile cheat that sold the goods. ''Eazors! a mean, confounded dog. Not fit to scrape a hog ! ' ' Hodge sought the fellow, — found him, — and begun : ''Perhaps, Master Razor-rogue, to you 'tis fun, SQUARE DEALING. 43 That people flay themselves out of their lives. You rascal ! for an hour have I been grubbing, Giving my crying whiskers here a scrubbing, With razors just like oyster knives. Sirrah! I tell you you're a knave, To cry up razors that can't shave!" ''Friend," quoth the razor man, ''I'm not a knave, As for the razors you have bought, Upon my soul, I never thought That they would shave." "Not think they'd shave!" quoth Hodge, with wondering eyes, And voice not much unlike an Indian yell ; "What were they made for, then, you dog?" he cries. ''Made" quoth the fellow with a smile, — "to sell" It is sad, but nevertheless true, that most people who are cheated in life are deceived by their own desire to deceive. For in- stance, there is a trick among gamblers, which rarely fails among the uninitiated. The gambler who plays puts down three cards and requests those present to bet on one of them. While jDutting down the cards, 44 OUR CHILDREN. there is a disturbance somewhere behind the gambler, and he indignantly turns round, requesting the people to be quiet, and this moment of his apparent inattention is utilized by a bystander who lifts up one of the cards, shows it to some others, and puts it down again. It is done quickly enough not to be noticeable to the gambler. But woe to him who imagines that on the strength of this deception he can risk his money on the exposed card. For, when the card is turned up it proves to be different from the one he has seen. The man who lifts up and shows the card belongs to the gang; he is an adept in sleight of hand and before he puts the card down again he re- places it b}^ another one. There are always plenty of people who, if they but have a chance to deceive their fellowmen, venture to do so, and thus they are gulled by their own evil desires and have no reason to com- plain about it. The bait which will catch the unwary with the greatest ease is flattery. Vain people are most easily inveigled and defrauded by SQUARE DEALING. 45 praise, or by propositions that appeal to a sense of their own importance, or fame, or ability. The fable of the fox and the crow repeats itself more frequently than any other allegorical story, and it is worth while to have our childi'en learn it by heart so that they will remember the lesson. Let us teach children at an early age and as soon as they can comprehend it, not by moralizing, but by practical instances such as they observe in their surroundings, that the employment of tricks never pays; and that they should look with suspicion on every one who invites them to gain by an- other's loss or by deception. To gain by cheating others is always a doubtful advan- tage, and therefore, as a mere matter of prudence, it should not be practised. In fact, one must become a professional trick- ster, or gambler, in order' to succeed in the profession of cheating. A bird that is caught tightens the noose by its own move- ments. So a country clown, when victi- mized by a gang of tricksters, as a rule him- self closes the snare into which he falls. SYMPATHY WITH ANIMALS It is well to impress children at an early age with the truth that animals are sentient creatures as we are. It is not necessary to make children sentimental or to avoid tell- ing them that^^nimals are used for meat; but they should not witness such scenes as the slaughter of chickens, or pigs, or other creatures. Our Western civilization is in many respects, and, indeed, in its most im- portant features, superior to all other civili- zations, but it is inferior to Hindu habits, in so far as it has no proper sympathy with animal life. I read, for instance, in an otherwise good book, the title of which is The American Boy's Handy Book, on page 386, the following passage: *'Mr. Fred Holder, the celebrated naturalist and writer of boys' books on natural history, is responsible for 'the goose fisherman,' which is nothing more nor less than a live goose, with 46 SYMPATHY WITH ANIMALS. 47 a line and spoon-hook attached to one leg. Mr. or Mrs. Goose is driven into the water and forced to swim, which, owing to the nature of the bird, is not a difficult or disagreeable task. *'As the bird swims, using its feet as paddles to propel itself, the spoon at the head of the line is jerked along in a most interesting manner to the fish, and if there are any pickerel, with their voracious appetites to spur them on, they can- not often restrain themselves, but needs must seize what, to them, appears to be a fat, shiny, young fish, but which they learn to their sorrow to be a hard metal snare. "Then the fun begins. The goose feels something tugging at its leg, and becomes ex- cited. The unfortunate fish plunges about, only to drive the cruel barbs deeper into its car- tilaginous mouth, and make escape impossible. ** Finding, as it supposes, a hidden enemy in the water, the bird, seeks refuge on the shore, where its master gleefully unhooks the fish, and starts the bird on another trip." What a barbarous game! Can there be any better mode of teaching boys cruelty? And what will be the result of an education in which the distress of a goose is thought to be exciting fun? The game is not so cruel as many other sports, but it is cer- 48 OUR CHILDREN. tainly calculated to harden a boy's heart to the sufferings of helpless animals. Hunt- ing and fishing are good out-door exercises, but they can be tolerated only on the con- dition that the mind shall not dwell on the havoc which is caused in animal life. The sole inducement to hunting and fishing ought to consist m the exercise it affords, and perhaps also in the difficulties which the pursuit of the game offers. I, for one, cannot understand how a man can shoot at a deer that does not run away but confidently and boldly faces the hunter. That hunting and fishing are sports is a mark of barbarism. They ought to be simply a business, engaged in on account of the necessity of killing a certain num- ber of animals either for food, or because of the danger of their becoming a plague to the country, as in the case of the rabbits in California, which have to be killed because they destroy the harvest, and because their rapid increase makes it a question whether they or man shall inhabit the country. A disinclination to regard hunting as a SYMPATHY WITH ANIMALS. 49 noble sport may appear sentimental; but I am happy to say tliat a man who, if he lacked any virtue, lacked in sentimentality, cherished the same opinion. Frederick the Great, who is unexcelled in the history of mankind, as a warrior and general, had a great contempt for hunting, and declared that there was as little enjojnuent in killing deer as there was in butchering calves. But Frederick was an exception on the throne, for hunting has always been, and is still, a royal sport, and the slaughter of game by many sovereigns is looked upon as a very important practice in their lives. The only hunting worthy of man is the lion or tiger hunt, which is heroic and means salvation of life by the destruction of those creatures that are destructive to it. But most of the hunting that is actually done is little better than mere slaughter, the worst sport being coursing, for which the animals are first caught and are then let loose for the purpose of being hunted to death. DON'T SAY DON'T There are two interpretations of the doctrine of the Fall and the scheme of sal- vation that was held among the school men of mediaeval Christianity. One regards the fall of man as a break in God's plan, while the other one represents the view that it was God's intention to let man pass through sin to salvation; for without sin man would never have acquired the knowledge of good and evil, which forms the climax of his simi- larity to God. Adherents of the former view belonged to the school of Nominalists while the latter showed an inclination toward Realism. The former regarded our present world as one particular anomalous accident, and would at the same time insist on the dogma of the cosmocentricity of the earth, which means that the earth is the stage on which alone God became flesh and revealed himself in Christ. All the other 50 DON'T SAY "DON'T." 51 planets, the sun and the moon, and all the fixed stars, exist simply for the sake of the earth as lights that might serve to make time-measurements for human purposes. On earth man was created to be tempted, and when he had fallen God would set all the armies of angels in motion and come down upon earth himself to redeem him from perdition. This is the view of those who regard every experience of theirs as a particular case, and who see in universals no truly universal features but mere ''names" (in Latin nomina), a definition from which the name "nominalism" has been derived. Their adversaries, the Keal- ists, were inclined to look upon every par- ticular case as an instance of universal law, and thus they were inclined to regard man's fall not as an accident, but as a necessity. They argued that man fell because God wanted him to fall. And how could the good tidings of the God-man have been pos- sible if man had not to rise from a lower state to a higher, if he had been and re- mained from the beginning perfect and 52 OUR CHILDREN. without sin? How could there have been any worth in his character if he simply were good because he was created good? No, man had to work out his salvation for him- self, he had to establish his own good char- acter, and that feature in man which ac- complished his salvation is God himself! Thus, according to the philosophy of the Realists, the earth would be a typical case for any possible world on which life de- velops, and the consistent conclusion would be to say that the same events naturally and necessarily take place in other worlds. On all of them we should find sinners, on all of them error and evil, yet at the same time on all of them God would appear in the flesh and would teach men that self-sacri- ficing love is the way of salvation. And further, what would Christ or Saviour mean but an actualization of this self-sacrificing love? Whatever these two schools may pretend, this much is sure: when, according to the legend told in the first chapter of Genesis, the Lord put the man he had created in the DON'T SAY "DON'T." 53 Garden of Eden, and said to him with re- gard to the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, "Thou shalt not eat of it," the man, as soon as left at liberty to do as he pleased, would not and could not fail to disobey the command. As the story stands God must have had the intention to make man fall. Otherwise the Ophites, the Syrian Gnostics who be- lieved in the divinity of the serpent, would have been right when they declared that Yahveh was an inferior God, who, himself a slave of passions, like wrath, jealousy, vengeance, etc., wanted to keep man igno- rant. The highest God, however, the God of love, mercy, and wisdom, sent the serpent as the first messenger of the gnosis to aspire for knowledge and prepare mankind for the arrival of Christ. If you wish a child to perform a certain act on its own accord, and not at your re- quest, you need only tell him "Do not do it, ' ' and he will be sure to do it. You may by force or by fear prevent a boy from be- ing disobedient, but you cannot prevent him 54 OUR CHILDREN. from feeling the itching in his fingers to do what is forbidden. All the various injunc- tions so freely given to children are so many temptations to become disobedient. A little party of children had thrown sev- eral boxes of blocks down stairs, which would have given the nurse a good deal of trouble to pick up. They enjoyed the joke greatly, but when a w^aggish uncle told them that for a punishment the blocks should re- main down stairs and that no one should be allowed to bring them up again, the little urchins started at once to carry every block up, and the joy of being disobedient beamed in their eyes. Hence the lesson. Don't say ''don't" to your children. Do not forbid. Do not lead them into the temptation to become dis- obedient; in other words, respect their lib- erty and allow them to act foolishly, if they prefer to do so at their own risk. But the objection may be made: "Chil- dren must be educated, and education con- sists precisely in teaching them what not to do." That is quite true. But the DON'T SAY "DON'T." 55 method of teaching them what they should not do ought not to consist in prohibitions. If you do not want the baby to walk down stairs because he will hurt himself and is liable to fall, let him try, and let him by his own experience find that he runs a risk when going down. Tell him he will fall, but do not forbid him: Don't say "don't." When approaching the stairs for the first time, watch over him so that he does not do himself serious harm, but let him experi- ence the fear of falling, and warn him that he will hurt himself. If he disregards the warning, it is better for him to be suffi- ciently frightened by a fall to remember it. If a child approaches the stove or the fire- place, warn him in the same way; tell him "hot," "hot," and if the child does not mind, let him burn himself a little. The nurse's business is simply to see to it that he does not meet with a serious accident, not to hinder him from making unpleasant but valuable experiences. You will find that children who are informed about the evil consequences of certain actions will 56 OUR CHILDREN. mind the warning much better than the chil- dren who are forbidden to eat an apple for no reason whatever. That apple will ap- pear "jDleasant to the sight and good for food," more so than any other fruit that may be around. When children want more sweetmeats, more strawberry shortcake, or more ice cream than is good for them, give them a fair warning. Tell them, ''I should like to eat more of it myself, but I believe I shall ruin my stomach and be sick if I do ; there- fore I don't." If the children are strong enough and can stand a disordered stomach, it may be advisable to let them once or twice take more and let them find out themselves what an abused stomach means. But when a child falls sick and when its stomach re- volts, the best plan is to sit by his bedside and help him pass in review all the things he has eaten on the previous day, and then to say to him without reproach: ''I believe you ate too much ice cream," or whatever it may have been, ''and I would not eat so much again. It is mipleasant to be sick, DON'T SAY "DON'T." 57 and it is after all the same taste whether you eat one or two dishes." Sickness is a good teacher of self-control in eating, but parents must improve the oc- casion and help the child to discover the cause of its indisposition. You cannot educate children by pun- ishments. You must make them, so far as possible, feel the evil results of their actions, and the insight into the causation of good and evil will exercise a better and more edu- cational influence than the fear of the rod or the sting of bitter reproaches. The child wdll be an echo of your own behavior. Scolding makes him a scold and severity renders him resentful. TREATMENT OF A NAUGHTY CHILD There is a peculiar difficulty in treating children when they become naughty. They scream, they howl, and become obstinate to all moralizing. Their bad temper becomes part of themselves, and to relent naturally appears to them a self -surrender. What is to be done in such a case 1 Shall educators break the will of the child as is often proposed, or shall they yield and let him have his will? Neither seems to be practical, for, on the one hand, instead of breaking the will we ought to strengthen it, and, on the other hand, instead of yielding to his will, we ought to lead it and direct it in its tendencies. Will in itself is neither good nor bad ; and strength of will is rather a virtue than a vice, but the goodness of a will depends on the aim toward which it tends. A child's soul, accordingly, should be 58 A NAUGHTY CHILD. 59 treated as what it naturally is, a living com- monwealth of various and frequently con- tradictory tendencies. And in doing so, it is advisable to identify those tendencies that are to be cherished and strengthened with the child's self, but to brand those which we wish to remove as foreign ele- ments that are to be discarded. They are like the injurious offshoots of fruit trees which have to be pruned. If the naughti- ness of the child be treated as something that he is possessed of, as a mental poison that he has to expel from his mental system, as demons and devils such as Jesus cast out according to the Gospel stories, — educators will far more easily regain the good-will of their little rebel if they allow him to capitulate without suffering a humiliation. Here a combination of two principles ap- pears to be of advantage: first, the divert- ing of the attention of the child from the cause that produced his ill behavior, and secondly, the personifying his rudeness with a bad boy that has entered his little self. Address the child, saying: " There is a bad 60 OUR CHILDREN. little boy in you, come quick, let us cast him out," and then begin a chase after the imagined bad boy. The pursuit will give joy to the child who will soon understand the joke and with shining eyes delightedly help to expel the little devil whom he learns to consider as the cause of his bad behavior. Afterwards he will learn no longer to ad- mit the bad boy, but to expel him before he is able to do any mischief. At any rate he will be able to distinguish between himself and the evil that might originate in him, and will thus preserve his self-esteem and there will be no need of breaking his will in the interest of good behavior. The methods of casting out bad boys may be changed as physicians may employ vari- ous medicines for attaining the same eif ect. Sometimes it is advisable to pull out the bad boy as the dentist might pull a tooth, which may be done with a corkscrew after the manner of uncorking a bottle. Another practical method which can be highly rec- ommended is the employment of pincers. The little fellow must open his mouth for A NAUGHTY CHILD. 61 inspection, for the bad boy is supposed to sit inside, in the place whence the shrieks proceed. The opening of the mouth will of course stop further crying, and now you can give some information about the little shrieking imp inside who must be caught with the pincers. " Keep still," you tell the child, " I'll catch him with the pincers and take him out ; and then you will be our good boy again ! ' ' From a quite varied ex- perience in these experiments, I found that the method works well and the child enters into this theatrical performance of a mod- ernized exorcism with great readiness. He accustoms himself to speak of the prior naughtiness as something foreign to his bet- ter self and will easily understand the de- sirability of ridding himself of bad and un- worthy qualities, of anger, malevolence, envy, and other passions or vices. A similar method is applicable when chil- di^en, as they frequently will do, hurt them- selves and begin to cry. If the pain is not serious and will pass away as soon as their attention is called to something else, a good 62 OUR CHILDREN. plan is to post them at one end of the hall, or at one corner of the table, fasten the pain with fictitious nails to the spot where they stand and then bid them run away. In speeding along the hall or running round the table, they will quickly overcome their trouble. The activity of running works up an increased circulation and it will not be long before they forget their pain. Under no circumstances does it seem ad- visable to pity children or to join in their complaints, even though they may be justi- fied. Commiseration makes a child dissat- isfied and you can bring the happiest child to tears simply by pitying it for anything, however ridiculous your compassion may be. Do not show anxiety, for thereby you make the child anxious. Do not show any worry about his bad habits, for thus he will be worried himself and you weaken his char- acter. Show a simple and straightforward determination to help the child to discard what is undesirable in the makeup of his soul, and he will naturally acquire the habit of ridding himself of the petty vices of A NAUGHTY CHILD. 63 childhood before they can harden into habits. All these methods can be intensified by a review of the past in calm hours. The fath- er and the mother must be the child's most intimate friends and counselors. They ought to tell him when they are alone with him, what they themselves think of this or that naughtiness; what other people think of it; what will be the consequences; ask him how he would like the same behavior in others ; and finally tell him how to mend the fault and how to avoid it in the future. There should be no scolding at such a mo- ment, for that would disturb the calmness of the child's mind. In order to render this instruction effective, not for the mo- ment only, but for the child's whole life, it should be a lesson of self-contemplation and a calm self-criticism. When the child grows older, he should gradually acquire the habit of exercising this self-criticism for himself ; and here it is advisable to call the child's early attention to the dangers of vanity. STIMULATE SELF-CRITICISM While strength of will is a virtue, vanity is a vice. Vanity is the most dangerous demon that can take hold of us, for vanity renders self-criticism impossible. Every child will be able to grasp the im- portance and paramount usefulness of self- criticism. Only tell him the story of a man who always blamed others when he did some foolish thing, and who, adhering to the be- lief in his own perfection, remained a fool all his lifetime. He gathered a rich store of bad experiences and came finally to the conclusion that the whole world was wrong, — but the world thought all the while there was something wrong with him. On the other hand, illustrate by the examples of great men, that great successes are never gained without a stern self-criticism. Self- complacency may create a very happy dis- position, but this happiness will not be aus- 64 STIMULATE SELF-CRITICISM. 65 picious; it will be the happiness of lucky Hans who joyfully exchanges his gold for a horse, his horse for a cow, his cow for a pig, his pig for a goose, his goose for a grindstone, and when the grindstone drops into a well, glories in his having so fortu- nately got rid of his burden. The way to success in life is the very opposite to self- complacency and is incompatible with van- ity. When the foolish man complains about the wrongs of others, the wise man, when- ever ill fate befalls him, inquires first into the origin of his own mistakes. So, for in- stance, when he is cheated, he does not glory in his own honesty and blame only the ras- cal who cheated him. He blames instead, his own credulity and his lack of experience not to have seen through the schemes by which he has been caught. Remember that the net in which most peo- ple are caught is their own vanity. La Fontaine tells the instructive fable of the raven and the fox and adds that the raven, seeing his own foolishness, vowed that he would never be caught again. But the 66 OUR CHILDREN. probability is that a vain fellow would not have blamed himself ; he would have scolded about the untrustworthiness of people and the frauds of foxes, but would have again fallen an easy prey to the next flatterer who approached him in the same or a similar manner. None of the animals in Reynard the Fox blames himself, but all denounce the fox's villainy. What appears to us a misfortune is fre- quently the result of a bad quality in our character. Gamblers are in the habit of catching their victims by first giving them a chance to cheat; tricky agents make you believe that they sell under price; dishon- est lawyers give you a chance to make a con- tract in which you believe that you cheat some one else, while in fact you are being cheated. Considering the truth that our own petty vices are the greatest dangers of our life, we must early teach children to regard them as foreign elements which they should cast off, through self-criticism and a rigorous self -discipline. DO NOT PUNISH Since the days of barbarism a constant change in the treatment of punishment has been going on in civilized countries. The old method was a system of retaliation. Punishment is revenge. The new method which replaces punishment by correction may be called, briefly, a system of education. The turning point in the evolutionary curve of mankind is of a religious nature. It ap- pears first as goodwill toward all, the good and the bad alike, and in the history of the East in Buddha's teaching, it is based on the consideration that all creatures, both good and evil, are the product of circumstances, and that therefore the bad deserve compas- sion, not hatred. If a man's character is conditioned by his past, by the circumstances under which he was developed, there is no longer any sense in expecting that he should act differently from what he does according 67 68 OUR CHILDREN. to his nature. Every creature is as its own life history, since the beginning of life on earth, has formed it; and as it is, so it will act. There is no cause for becoming excited about criminal actions. We must imder- stand them, we must above all investigate their motives, and must treat them in the same way as a physician treats a disease. That society, or the government, or the judge, should commit a crime on the crim- inal because the criminal has committed a crime on society, is as ridiculous as it would be to inflict upon the stomach a stomach- ache because by its indigestion it has pro- duced a head-ache or otherwise injured the fellow-limbs of its organism. Retaliation is a continuation of moral disease, not a cure, and what we need is a cure. Taking this ground, Buddha abolished in the realm of religion the idea of hatred and revenge by saying that hatred is not appeased by ha- tred. Hatred ceases by non-hatred only. And in the same spirit Christ taught in the Sermon on the Mount (Matt. v. 38-39), say- ing: DO NOT PUNISH. 69 "Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth : But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil." We need not discuss theology in this place, and do not care in this connection whether Christ 's doctrine was really an absolute non- resistance of evil, as is maintained in this and the following sentences. We only point out the truth of the sentiment which prompted these sayings and which should be expressed in the sentence: "Resist not evil with evil." Evil must be resisted; but we must not retaliate. Instead of demand- ing a tooth for a tooth, and giving a lie for a lie, we must overcome a lie by truth, wrong by right, and violence by patience. This ideal of Buddhism and of Christianity has not been introduced into our law books, but is an ideal which mankind in its further progress of evolution is endeavoring to actualize. Justice during the Middle Ages was to a great extent an administration of retaliating punishments. Criminals con- demned to die were pinched with red hot tongs, their limbs were broken on the wheel, 70 OUR CHILDREN. they were burned alive, and all kinds of cruel tortures were cunningly invented to make the death of the criminal as painful as possible. All this has changed. Capital punish- ment, above all, has ceased to be a retali- ation, and has become more and more a mere protection against the repetition of a crime. As it w^ould be wrong to leave a tiger abroad, so a man, who by his very nature is a mur- derer, should not be allowed to remain at liberty, and since imprisonment is on the one hand not a sufficient guarantee for the safety of society, and on the other hand a more cruel treatment than death, capital punish- ment is, so far as our civilization goes, still a necessity of our penal law. Yet the at- tempt is no longer made to retaliate on the murderer the cruelties which he has commit- ted. It is a maxim which has never been explicitly introduced by law, but which is nevertheless firmly established in all civil- ized countries, that the death punishment should be inflicted with as little pain as pos- sible. The criminal is simply no longer al- DO NOT PUNISH. 71 lowed to live, and capital punishment has ceased to be a revenge or retaliation. It has become a cure based upon the experience that the man who commits a murder is liable to commit another murder. Hence a mur- derer who has killed a man not on account of his murderous inclination, but through an unhappy complication of circumstances, be it in defence of his honor, or for some other reason which is regarded as a sufficient explanation of an unusual and justifiable wrath, will not be treated as a habitual mur- derer, and according to the laws of all civil- ized countries, is not punishable by death. Our penal laws are not as yet fully adapted to the new view. All the minor punishments are still based upon the plan of retaliation which makes our prisons and penitentiaries breeding-places of crime in- stead of what they ought to be, moral hos- pitals. There is no question, however, that the more rational treatment of the criminal will in time be brought about. The result will as surely take place as the religious con- siderations of justice towards our fallen fel- 72 OUR CHILDREN. lowmen and a scientific consideration of crime as a moral disease will in the long run change our methods in education as well as in the administration of justice. I do not wish to be misunderstood. My advocacy of an abolition of punishment as punishment should not be interpreted as due to that maudlin sympathy with criminals which is often met with among sentimental people. The criminal behind the bars ought not to be pampered, but should receive prison diet and prison treatment as in ac- cordance with the regulations of the place where his own deeds have landed him. It is part of the cure. The execution of a mur- derer is merely the removal of a dangerous member of society, for the same reason that a limb of the body infected by blood poison- ing must be amputated. What our courts of justice ought to be and ought to become, parents must realize on a smaller scale in the education of their children. There ought to be no punishment of children in the old and proper sense of punishment. Punishment, if we are per- DO NOT PUNISH. 73 mitted to use the old word in a more general sense, ought to become a method of educa- tion, an^ ought to cease inflicting pain with- out any ulterior purpose. Punishment ought to be nothing but the consequences of a wrong act which is brought home to the knowledge and sentiments of the child. As a rule, parents do just the reverse. They make the children escape the evil conse- quences of wrong doing, and let them feel a punislunent, the reason of which must nat- urally appear as the expression of wrath or ill-will. If a child breaks things, it ought, if possible, be made to feel the loss of the broken thing. Suppose he has broken his own glass, then it should not be replaced at once by a new one. If it is the glass of his brother or sister, he ought to give up his own to replace the loss, and if possible some arrangement should be made to let the harm that he has caused fall, at least in part, upon himself. There is perhaps no harm for parents to show anger if children become very mis- chievous, but the anger should be felt by 74 OUK CHILDREN. the child to be the direct result of his ac- tion. There is a rule propounded by educators never to punish in a state of anger, and the rule is good. But it is insufficient, in so far as the child ought to feel the anger of his parents as the result of his own deeds more than the punishment itself. It may be ad- visable even to simulate anger so as to im- press the child's mind with the danger of losing his parents' affection. The child ought to learn what deeds are productive of wrath, and this should be made a means (one of the means only) of learning to avoid them. Otherwise, if parents would not resent mischievous acts, when the child later on becomes acquainted with other peo- ple, he would be very much disappointed in the world, for no one else would exhibit the same patience. The proper punishment would be to let a child feel the full result of wrong and un- wise deeds. If once in a while you allow a child to eat his fill of sweets and become sick, and remind him when sick that his sickness DO NOT PUNISH. 75 is of his own doing, you apply a natural punishment, which without makmg him ob- stinate wall cure him of a bad habit. It is sometimes a risk to give too much liberty to children, but it is better to take the risk and watch the results than to make them fear the rod which can only produce a sneaking and hypocritical character. When our children have grown up we can punish them no longer and must then, at any rate, leave them to themselves. If they have not become inured to the bracing air of liberty while young, they will never ac- quire the independence needed at an adult age. To educate children simply by punishment is not the right way of securing manly in- dependence. There ought to be as much lib- erty as possible, for by liberty alone the sentiment of responsibility can be insured. DIEECT AND DIVERT, BUT DO NOT SUPPRESS Man is by nature a creature that yearns for activity. All his nerves and muscles are storehouses freighted with energy which are eager to perform work. The main duty of education consists in directing the work, but not in suppressing it. Every function per- formed establishes a case of precedence, and however easy, as a rule, it may be to dig the first channel for the rivers of the soul, it is very difficult to change them as soon as they are firmly established in habits. Children that are taught to busy them- selves will be more manageable when they grow older, than children who in their ear- lier years are left to themselves. The age of early babyhood so much neglected now, is in fact the most important period of a man's whole life, and this is not less true because the evil consequences that result 76 DIRECT AND DIVERT. 77 from mistakes made at the beginning of life, are the most difficult to trace. The child has a right to be active, and par- ents and nurses should see to it that when the little one is in good health he should al- ways be busy. Now it sometimes happens that a child does something that it should not do, that it touches things which it might break, that it begins to busy itself with things which it would better leave alone. In such cases it is not advisable to interfere violently by tearing away the thing which it should not handle. Educators will find it easy to divert the child's attention by giving it some other toy which for the sake of newness, or for some other reason, it will at once prefer. The policy for all cases ought to be to divert the attention of a child instead of rob- bing it by violence of any object which it may happen to take hold of. When things are taken away from the child, the child will naturally cry, and no one can blame the little fellow for it, but if his attention be diverted he will drop the 78 OUR CHILDREN. forbidden thing voluntarily and there will be no crying and no naughtiness. Therefore, nurses should make it a rule never to snatch away anything from a child before substituting for it some other toy which would appear at the moment prefer- able to the child's mind. The same is true of bad as well as dan- gerous habits to which a child should be dis- accustomed. Children generally love pen- cils and will put them into their mouths. Of course they may fall and knock the point of the pencil right into their throat. If children are forbidden to put pencils into their mouths, they will be all the more anxious to do so and may develop a habit of doing it when unobserved, whereby an ac- cident is almost sure to happen. But if you teach the child to take the pencil lengthwise in the mouth, he will more readily discon- tinue putting in the point foremost and you will forestall in this way the formation of a dangerous habit. What is true of children is true generally. Any one who has to deal with obstinate peo- DIRECT AND DIVERT. 79 pie, especially the warden of an asylum for the insane, will be wise never to antagonize passionate outbursts unless compelled to do so by the direst necessity. Diversion is easier and more effective than suppression. There is a story about a warden of an in- sane asylum who visited the institution of a colleague. He was admitted to the grounds by the janitor who knew him personally, and while walking in the park, met a gentleman who introduced himself as a doctor and inspector of the wards. The two gentlemen shook hands as colleagues and enjoyed a pleasant walk and talk and at last the visitor was shown up to a wooden tower which commanded a general view of the park and its vicinity. When the two reached the top, the inspector at once pro- posed to his guest to jump down, as that was his fashion with all the people whom he showed round through the institution. Now at once the visitor, to his dismay, be- comes aware of the fact that he is face to face with one of the patients, who by some mishap must have escaped from his keeper, 80 OUR CHILDREN. and as insane people frequently do, had up to that time behaved in a quite sensible way. But now the pretended inspector began to show all the symptoms of an approaching at- tack, and the visitor looked round for a means of defending himself in case of ag- gression. Had they come to a fight on the narrow platform of the tower, they would both have fallen a considerable depth. The visitor, being accustomed to insane persons, remained calm and said quietly to his com- panion: ''You want me to jump down from this tower ? That is nothing, every one can do that ; but it is much more difficult to jump up from below. I'll show you how to do it, come down. ' ' The patient was startled, and asked, "Can you do that really?" ''Of course I can," was the reply, "come down and I '11 show you. ' ' Thus the expert alien- ist diverted the wild imagination of the pa- tient aijd led him down to a place in which he was no longer in danger. They had scarcely reached the ground when the keeper arrived and took charge of the fugitive. The lesson is obvious and the policy of the DIRECT AND DIVERT. 81 clever warden can be profitably imitated in practical life whether in dealing with iras- cible adults, with mobs, or with children. Children should be forced to a thing as little as possible ; the will should be directed and guided, not broken. We insist that a broken will is a weak will, and a weak will more than a strong will is given to obstinacy — the disease to be cured by breaking the will. We speak of obstinate people as head- strong, while in fact they are weaklings in intellect, and educators who deem it neces- sary to break the wills of their charges will unfailingly produce the result which they propose to avoid. SANITARY ATTENTION TO CHILDREN Care for the bodily health of a child is of paramount importance ; but it deserves a de- tailed treatment and does not lie within the pale of the present investigation. However without pretending to do justice to the sub- ject, the author believes that he can suggest some advice which he has learned by ex- perience in his own home. It is a matter of course and needs scarcely any mention, that mothers and nurses should always think of their children, that they should attend to their physical wants at reg- ular hours and whenever special occasions may demand it — on retiring in the even- ing, immediately at their awakening in the morning, when they are restless at night, before and after walks. They should not allow the little folk to become over hungry nor over thirsty, and must patiently con- 82 SANITARY ATTENTION. 83 tinue to remind them of attending to their various necessities until definite habits have been established. If something is wrong in the child's deportment, parents should be inclined, first of all, to blame themselves for lack of attention. As soon as children begin to eat flesh diet, they should become accustomed to cleaning their teeth, and this must be done in the evening, not in the morning. It is during the night that the teeth are affected by the impurities of the remnants of food which form a thin layer on the teeth just as a fatty coat will cover a plate after use at table. In olden times when man's diet was simple, no tooth brushes were needed; for the best method of keeping the teeth clean, more thorough and gentle than a toothbrush, is eating mibuttered bread of moderate dry- ness. It is more serviceable than the bris- tles of the brush. If the teeth have been cleaned in the even- ing, more than rinsing with pure water will not be required in the morning. To brush 84 OUR CHILDREN. the teeth once a day may ordinarily be suffi- cient, since bristles, especially if too harsh, are liable to cut or wear awa}^ the enamel of the teeth, which is the best protection of the bony substance, and the slightest crack opens the door to the inroads of decay. Children that grow up under the condi- tions of our overcivilization are apt to suf- fer from bad teeth at a very early age, and it is wise to let a considerate dentist fill the cavities. In order to render this feasible, make it a rule never to speak of the pains that you yourself have suffered in a den- tist's chair, although you may mention the fact that it sometimes hurts incidentally, and add that no wise man cares for that, because a little pain saves from worse suf- ferings. Should you happen to go to the dentist, inform your children of the fact as if you were telling them a story that may interest them, and as soon as it is necessary for them to have their teeth attended to, you will find them more willing to do so, and they will mount the dentist 's chair with a good deal of satisfaction. They will even SANITARY ATTENTION. 85 ask (as I know by experience) to be taken to the dentist, as a favor, for children love to imitate the doings of older folks, and I went so far as to threaten one of my little boys that I would not take him to the den- tist if he were not very good. I did it, of course, and I did it as a special favor by way of recompense and in recognition of his creditable behavior. The dentist treat- ed him as tenderly as possible, only once causing him pain, and then probably not much. The little fellow sat in the chair as proud as a man who is attending to an im- portant business, and he will go again if any one of his teeth should need treatment. Children are apt to have dirty hands, for they creep on the floor, poke in all corners, handle almost everything without hesita- tion, and gather the dust and the dirt that can be found anywhere. It is impossible to prevent it, and therefore it is necessary to teach them to wash their hands whenever they eat, not for general cleanliness only but for sanitary reasons, which latter the child will appreciate more readily. 86 OUR CHILDREN. Further, children must learn not to stick their dirty fingers into their eyes, noses, mouths, and wherever the mucous mem- branes are accessible. The mucous mem- branes are not so well protected as the other skin of the body, and the most terrible in- fections can thus be introduced into the sys- tem, causing painful diseases, loss of eye- sight, and other misfortunes. It is very important to beware of public water closets and to let children know that there are dangers of infection. Before the children go to bed their hands must be washed. If they have clean fin- gers, they can rub their eyes in the morning without danger. Speaking of the eyes, I may incidentally mention that at birth they should be care- fully cleaned with a soft rag soaked in warm water that has been mildly disinfected. Perhaps more than fifty per cent, of all the blindness on earth is due to a neglect of this important measure. In the days of health, think of sickness, and the most insidious cases are diseases of SANITARY ATTENTION. 87 the throat. It is therefore specially impor- tant to prepare children for the occasion so as to render a constant supervision possible. Take them to the window when they are well and make them put out their tongue and say Ah ! so as to show their larynx. Do it in a joke or play doctor, and tell them you will see whether their little throats are in good condition. If you understand at all how to deal with children, you will easily succeed, and if one child sets the example, the others will follow suit without giving any trouble. Children so trained will at once open their mouths and allow you to ex- amine their throats, which should be done at once whenever there is the slightest sus- picion of any kind of throat disease, above all the most terrible of them, diphtheria. It is a common experience of physicians that children do not allow their throats to be examined when sick and no coaxing will prevail upon them to change theii* mind. The little patient's mouth has sometimes to be forced open, which is very hard on a child, but it must be done when its life is 88 OUR CHILDREN. at stake. Yet there are cases when chil- di'en die through being untractable. The dangers of throat diseases are suffi- ciently great to justify the prescribed meth- od of preparing children for such an occa- sion. As a rule throat diseases begin with colds ; and where the membranes are affected, in- fectious germs find an easy entrance. Stop therefore the malady in the very beginning and let the children use the spray of some mild disinfectant, for which purpose there are probably no better drugs than liquid vaseline or listerine. The latter should be weak enough not to be too stringent for a child. When children have a sore throat, you may be sure that they will refuse to take the spray and you must therefore train them for taking it readily when needed. You can do that simply by using sometimes the spray in the presence of your children, your- self, and it is as harmless to a healthy throat as it is salutary for a sore one. Wait till the children ask you. What are SANITARY ATTENTION. 89 you doing, papa? If they should not ask you, announce to them that you are going to take a spray to-night, and they are sure to be anxious why you do it. Then is the time to explain to them that you feel a little sore in your throat and the spray will do you good. They will soon ask you to en- joy the spray themselves. Be careful not to give them too much ; that would frighten them and make the experiment futile. Just let them enjoy it so long as it is mere exer- cise until they get accustomed to "the throat-machme. ' ' Should a spray be needed by children be- fore you have accustomed them to it, you might carefully apply it in their sleep, watching the breathing and pressing the India rubber ball at a few successive in- halations. But this is a mere makeshift and will not be so effective as when the child voluntarily gives his consent to the perfor- mance. One word more about the treatment of the stomach of children. Here, as in many other cases, the best method is the golden 90 OUR CHILDREN. way of leaving the children at liberty to eat what they please. The two extremes which trespass against this rule, viz., compelling children to eat and coaxing them, are equal- ly obnoxious. If children should eat a cer- tain kind of food, set them the example yourself and they will imitate you. If you force them to eat something that is good for them, the food becomes disgusting to the child and thereby loses some of those quali- ties on account of which it seems recom- mendable. Only in cases of extreme danger when a sick child objects to the food while on the point of starvation is there any justi- fication in employing force. By far the more common mistake is coax- ing, the results of which are very injurious. When you find a child that has no appetite and would never eat heartily, but merely nibble at this and that tidbit, and even then only on repeated serious entreaties of his mamma, you may be assured that the little fellow is one of the many victims of coax- ing. The anxious mamma will tell you that the child is as thin as a ghost, you can SANITARY ATTENTION. 91 count his ribs, and if you do not coax him he will starve. The truth is, his food has become disgusting to him by coaxing. He is overfed, not underfed. What is to be done under this trying and exceptional condition 1 The best appetizer is hunger. Try the starvation cure. Do not make any fuss with a boy of that kind, but tell him, "Very well ! If you do not want to eat you need not. I will not force you. You are at perfect liberty to do as you please." Take him out for a walk ; either do it yourself, if you are his father or mother, or let the nurse do it, or an uncle, or a friend, and when you re- turn, tell him that you have grown hungry and have a good appetite for a piece of bread or a roll and milk, for milk rice, for soup, or whatever may be on hand. Sit down and eat, and invite him to join you without, however, coaxing him. The prob- ability is that the child will show a better appetite after the first doses of the starva- tion cure and he will ever after like the food which once satisfied his hunger; for 92 OUR CHILDREN. the stomach too has a memory, and appetite for a special dish means the stomach 's recol- lection that it has given it satisfaction on a similar occasion. Never give children sweets when they are hungry, but always substantial solid food, and set them whenever possible the exam- ple yourself by partaking of the same dish. Make it a rule not to show them sweets when they should not have them; it un- necessarily leads them into temptation ; and too many sweets will spoil the stomach. Nor are sweets indispensable in life. Even Christmas can be celebrated without them. Festive seasons are dangerous solely on account of sweets, and if statistics show an increase of children's diseases or even mor- tality after Christmas, it is to be attributed to the exaggerated consumption of sweets. But because sweets are dangerous, you should not forbid your children to eat them ; on the contrary, whenever they come within the reach of the little ones, let them have of them as much as they demand and as the stock which you expose to sight will allow. SANITARY ATTENTION. 93 it is better children have once or twice a spoiled stomach than that they hanker after forbidden fruit. Let them acquire them- selves the strength of refusing what is not good for them. Do not act the part of the police or of a paternal government, that forces on the people what in the opinion of the authorities, is good for them. Let the children have all they want, even though it be all there is in sight, and tell them they will have to bear the consequences. There may be exceptional conditions when the rule of liberty must be suspended, as it may sometimes be necessary to declare mar- tial law, but under ordinary circumstances let the rule remain in force, that children must be reared in liberty. The method of rearing children in liberty must not lead to unrestrained license, but to self-control, and educators must never lose sight of their ultimate aim. THE SIGNIFICANCE OF NAMING THINGS IN THE NURSERY. The aim of all education is to enable the child when it attains to manhood to exercise dominion over the world of realities, and this is done by establishing in our children's minds clear representations of things and happenings. In the book of Genesis we read that God gave man dominion over all the animals and things of creation (i. 26) ; and he brought them unto Adam to see how he would call them (ii. 19). The connection between man's language and his superiority over all other creatures is not fortuitous, for by naming things man gains dominion over them. In language man mirrors the w^orld and classifies its phenomena. Through language alone can he acquire exact knowl- edge and learn to foredetermine the course of events. 94 NAMING THINGS. 95 I had occasion to observe the truth of this broad statement when showing to an infant boy the movements of the machinery in- a factory. The child was at first frightened by the noise and naturally did not take kind- ly to the formidable din of the rolling-mill. But it is easy enough to accustom even a baby to any monotonous noise by imitating its sound. The rollers produce two peculiar clangs, — one sharp, the other muffled. When the little fellow was frightened we re- treated from the rolling-mill, but I con- tinued to remind him of the noise by telling him of the clang and the thump that were heard in rapid succession. He seemed to regain his self-possession, and the banging of the mill ceased to be formidable, for he grew rather curious and turned his head to look. Then he was slowly carried back to the rolling-mill, where he began to anticipate the noise as accompanied by the words clang, thump. The constant repetition of these words imitating the noise, kept the child pre- pared for what was coming, and he now soon became accustomed to the sight of the roll- 96 OUR CHILDREN. ers which he began to contemplate, not without awe yet without terror. I had occasion to make similar observa- tions at the dump of a coal shaft. As soon as a child is prepared for the deafening noise of the falling coal by some adequate imitation of the sound, something like hoom hoom hoom, he will instead of fear show a desire to watch the process from a place of safety. In performing such experiments . care should be taken that he who carries the baby should never approach either nearer or more quickl}^ than the child desires to go, and chil- dren are never at a loss to indicate their wishes unequivocally. The naming of any happening is the first step towards mastering it. The image of the process, instead of being a bewildering sense-impression, becomes a mental act and is now clearly subsumed under, and repre- sented by, a somid symbol. Thus, to the memory of the event itself a new and higher soul-structure, a name representing the event, is added which becomes connected • NAMING THINGS. 97 with, and will always at once awaken, a rec- ollection of the original sense-impression. The recollection is comparatively faint, and being not as overwhelming as the immediate presence of the reality itself will allow a calm contemplation of the process. With such preparation a repeated approach will not disturb the child's self-possession. He will now begin to observe, and the former feeling of fear will yield to an eagerness to witness the scene. There are in the bustle of a factory so many details which should be clearly ap- prehended, that it will be a great help to the growing intellect of the child if here again the most striking of them are named. While the coal car is being pushed to the verge of the dump, the process may be ac- companied by some such words as rolly- rolly-roUy. The turning of wheels may be accompanied by rotatory movements of the baby's arm, and you can almost see how thereby the child is enabled the better to watch the rolling. In an analogous way the movement of hammers, the backward and 98 OUR CHILDREN. forward motions of pistons, the rotation of cranks, etc., etc., can be imitated, which will help the child to grasp quickly and clearly the elementary features of sense-impres- sions. The fires are best imitated by sounding the aspirate, h^h^hli\ bells by ding-dong, the puffing of engines by tch'-tch', animals in the traditional way, how-wow, moo-moo, etc. Adopting this method of naming events in baby language, I succeeded in teaching a very small child the mystery of the re- versing lever with its accompanying ma- chinery. When the reverse turned the drum of the coal-shaft-elevator in one direction, say to the right, I called the oscillations of the reversing gear vicU vack, vick vack, and when the lever was reversed and the drum turned in the opposite direction I called it vack vick, vack vick. The reversion of the name suggests the reversion of the move- ment and helps to fix in a child's mind the sense-impression in its essential features. A little steam-engine model was an ad- ditional help, giving an inside view of the NAMING THINGS. 99 piston and side valves in their connection with the reverse lever. The child must have the most essential features of processes and events delineated in his mind in strong outlines and it will then be easy to add the more complicated details without causing mystification or con- fusion. That the chicken-yard, farms, sheep-folds, and other places where living animals can be observed should be visited, that birds, dogs, horses, should be watched and their behavior noted, goes without saying, and evierywhere the same method should be ap- plied to render the sense-impressions more distinct by gestures as well as names. If in the imagination of the child sense- pictures are thus connected with definite sounds, it will be easy to revive the memories of former experiences; and one is enabled to tell to babies when they are restless either in the evening or at night, stories which draw upon their little stock of memories, and it will quickly quiet them because they are greatly interested in hearing the tales LOFC, 100 OUR CHILDREN. of their own experiences which will be the more interesting to them the greater the ter- rors that had originally to be overcome. The application of baby language is of manifold use especially at night, when for some reason a child is restless and the usual methods fail to quiet his imagination. The usual lullaby songs are upon the whole very good ; longdrawn notes, words of soothing sound, with prevailing o and espe- cially u tones are most soporific; but it is sometimes difficult to put babies to sleep, and then you may in a hushed voice which will raise expectancy sing a story consisting simply of the repetition of familiar sounds. The child will listen to the song, nonsensical though it may appear to outsiders and to all people not initiated into the mysteries of baby language. It will quiet down, and give the nurse a chance gradually to change her song to more monotonous lullaby tunes, such as "the rolling-mill goes clang-thump!'' or *'the choo-choo says ding-dong/' or "the lit- tle lamb says haa, haa/' etc. The baby will listen with as much interest as older children NAMING THINGS. 101 manifest when a fairy tale is told, and the interesting images will by and by be trans- formed into dream visions. It is easy enough for a nurse to watch and to influence the growing intellect of an in- fant, and every nurse ought to be able to ac- count for and understand her charge's vo- cabulary of those sense-impressions which in the beginning of life play a prominent part. * * * Special attention should be paid to such events and natural phenomena as are apt to frighten children. When thunderstorms come up, the father or mother should take the baby without any excitement. Show it the lightning with signs of an appreciation of its beauty and prepare the baby's ear for the rumbling thunder. The least evidence of fear on the part of the parents will affect the child and may make him a coward for life. Of course, you must avoid coming near the iron pipes and electric wires, and must remain in such places as are compara- tively safe. Moving about is upon the whole 102 OUR CHILDREN. better than staying in one place, because it diverts the child's attention from the formidable impression. It must be remem- bered that troops under fire who remain in- active break down and lose courage sooner than troops who are advancing or are other- wise kept busy. These hints, if observed, help to establish in the child a self-possession which in later years will be so much needed. Which impressions should be the first stratum of the child 's soul, depends of course on surroundings and other conditions. However, we must expect that the compre- hension of facts will be followed by a de- termination to handle the realities which have been watched in early childhood. Therefore when machinery is shown, the child should at once learn with what care and precautions it must be handled. COUNTING A little boy of about five years was in the habit of counting 1, 2, 3, 5, 7, and he stuck to this habit. He was told that he omitted 4 and 6, and he probably understood the cor- rection, but whenever he began to count he fell back for a long time into his old habit of counting the numbers wrongly. The reason was that by accident he had learned the numbers in the wrong way and it stuck to him. Another little child always called a sea- gull in his picture-book a swallow, for he had been told so by his nurse, and got ir- ritated when contradicted, insisting even to tears again and again on its being a swallow. By and by, however, he relented, but even then he continued to say, "This is not a swallow, but a seagull," and only in time did he drop the negative expression and knew and declared without any irritation that it 103 104 OUR CHILDREN. was a seagull. Such trouble originates by a little mistake, and shall we not be careful in laying the foundation of a human soul ? As to counting, I would say the easiest way to teach it is to count the steps by walk- ing up or down stairs. If this be done pa- tiently again and again, the child begins to listen to the numbers and will very soon be- gin to accompany each step with its proper number. The first mistake should be avoided, and my experience is that children will, without the slightest trouble, learn to count first to 12, then to 20. When they have learned to count to 20, they are pre- pared to count to any number up to 100 or more. The third step is an intellectual step, by learning to understand the function of the decades 30, 40, 50, etc., which are, how- ever, clearly grasped as running parallel with 3, 4, 5, and so forth. Before an attempt can be made to count the steps, a preliminary exercise might be the frequent repetition of 1, 2, 3, which can be practised on various occasions; for in- stance, when turning oif or on the electric COUNTING. 105 light, or by playing peekaboo, etc., whereby the order of the three numbers impresses itself mechanically upon the memory of a child. Then proceed to counting fingers and toes, and only when the first five num- bers can be repeated without difficulty, pro- ceed with counting other objects. One peculiar j^hase in learning how to count is marked by the child's ability to stop at the right time. Childi'en first acquire the mechanical memory of saying 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, etc. When they are shown five spoons or five chips or other things of any description and are requested to count them, they begin to count mechanically without be- ing able to stop at the right time. It indi- cates a more advanced degree of mentality when the child possesses a perfect parallel- ism between the names of the numbers and the things which, by being pointed at, are to be counted. The process of counting has reached its maturity when a child learns to stop at the proper time. In the beginning the tendency will predominate that when- ever the child begins to count, it will count 106 OUR CHILDREN. the whole series of numbers as far as it knows them ; but the relation between things and the series of word-images of the nu- merals is easily established by stopping the child and summing up the situation by say- ing: There are five spoons, there are five chips, or whatever it may be. In the case of practising counting, as in all other instances of memorizing, we must consider that a great number of mechan- ically impressed memories will subsequently render the conscious and intelligent manip- ulation of the ideas connected therewith easier. The subconscious memories which have been early acquired, form a very valu- able capital which will never fail to be most serviceable. As children now are commonly educated, they have either no such mechan- ically impressed memories in their minds, or their impressions, be they numbers, im- ages of things, or other conceptions, form an irregular conglomeration which will rather serve to bewilder than to help them when the years of school-life begin. A healthy development of mind is possible only COUNTING. 107 when our subconscious notions are distinct and clear. This can be accomplished by rendering as definite as possible the first sense-impressions, which precede the form- ation of more conscious and more intel- lectual operations. Before concluding this chapter it seems advisable to forestall an objection which might be raised to the proposition that our subconscious notions should be distinct and clear. The terms clear and subconscious do not exclude one another. An idea or a sense-impression may be quite distinct and correct in its details without fully rising into the field of conscious attention, and it is one of the most important duties of the educator to devote much care to the province of the subconscious which in our intellectual as well as our emotional life is of greater significance than at first sight it might ap- pear. The first simple examples of the multipli- cation table should be done with concrete objects, at the very start with the child's fingers, then with the beads of an abacus 108 OUR CHILDREN. or counters. The abacus should consist of ten rows of ten beads each, and if counters are used they should when counted in large numbers, be piled up in heaps of ten, so as to represent the decimal system which to us is and will remain the basis of number-lore. Multiplication tables should be worked out by the children themselves, and they should be helped to find out for themselves the relations of numbers to geometrical fig- ures such as the areas of quadrangles and their purely arithmetical proportions. For one of my little boys who found it very hard to remember the multiplication table of 9, 1 invented an easy method, which I will here communicate for the benefit of other children. Put both hands on the table and let every finger successively stand for one number. When you are asked to multiply by nine you lift the finger representing the multiplier and read off the product from the remaining fingers. The number of fingers on the left represents the tens, and that on the right the units of the product. MIND-READING AND ARITHMETIC A good method of keeping up the interest of boys and girls in mathematics is to ex- plain to them easy arithmetical tricks which they can readily perform for themselves. A very simple card-trick, which appears quite wonderful to the uninitiated, is as follows: Ten cards from ace to ten are laid in or- der in a row, beginning at the right and with their faces down. The performer of the trick anounces that he will tell the number of cards which may be moved by one of the company from the right to the left and in addition pick up the card bear- ing this number. As we wish to explain the trick, we will play with the faces of the cards upwards; and the original order (when uncovered) will be this: T* • ^ *'* *'' *^ >.* V.T* TV VT* VT* 4. 4. 4.*4. *^+ •!• + •!• * + •{»«|» i|»«{a al**!* «|*^ J^ J^ af*^ •{»«}• 109 no OUR CHILDREN. The magician then leaves the room, and some one who wishes to test the extraordi- nary accomplishment of his young friend transfers a few cards in their regular order from the right side to the left. Let four cards be moved, then the new order will be this: You will at once see that the four-spot has become the first card of the row. The first card tells the number of the cards moved. Accordingly the young performer lifts up the first card, and seeing that it is a four-spot declares, "Four cards have been moved." The art of the magician consists in giving the impression that he knows the card before he picks it up, and that the dis- covery of the position of the four-spot is only an additional proof of his omniscience. He goes out again, knowing beforehand that whatever number of cards may be moved from the right side to the left, the card which bears that number will alwavs be MIND-READING. Ill found in the last position of the ten-spot, which at present is the next place after the four cards transposed in the first move ; i. e., in the fifth place. If no card is moved, the ten-spot will remain in its place and will be picked up as a sign that all ten cards, or none at all, which means the same thing, have been moved. But suppose that three cards have been moved, then the three will be in the fifth place : 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4* 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4- + 4.* + *4.* 4.*4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4.*+ The place of the card showing the num- ber of cards moved will always be ' ' one plus the total number of moves, ' ' and it is a mat- ter of course that only units count. After the' second move the card to be taken up will be 1 + 4 + 3 = 8, and sup- posing that five cards are now moved the five will appear in the eighth place. Thus we may continue, and the uninitiated will wonder what trick is at the bottom of the performance, which is nothing but a very simple example in addition. 112 OUR CHILDREN. Another trick, wliich may be called "mind- reading," is also the work of simple arith- metic. Suppose you request a person to think of any number from 1 to 15 and to point out to you the rows in which his number occurs in the following scheme : 1 3 5 7 9 11 13 15 2 3 6 7 10 11 14 15 4 5 6 7 12 13 14 15 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 You will at once know the number which the person has in mind when he tells you in which horizontal rows it occurs, for all you have to do is to add together the first num- bers of these rows. A close inspection will tell you that 3 occurs in the two lines be- ginning with 1 and 2; the number 5 in the lines beginning with 1 and 4, etc., and 15 in all four lines beginning with 1, 2, 4 and 8. If we now replace the numbers with pic- tures, the arithmetical clue will be concealed, and the audience will be thoroughly mysti- fied. In order to assist the little magician, MINDREADING. 113 whose memory is not as yet well trained, we propose to replace the nmnbers with pictures which will readily suggest the numbers that they represent. This may be done by rep- resenting the four numbers 1, 2, 4, and 8 by wheels; 1 by a wheelbarrow, which has one wheel ; 2 by a bicycle or a cannon, which has two wheels; 4 by a wagon, which has four wheels ; and 8 by an engine which has eight wheels. Another method of representing these four numbers would be by feet: 1 as a top or as a stork standing on one foot; 2 as a man; 4 as any quadruped; and 8 as a spider or an octopus. The other figures may be rejDresented by other objects suggesting the several num- bers. Clover may represent 3 ; a hand or a starfish, 5; an insect having six feet, 6; a rainbow, 7; the Union Jack, which can be made with 9 strokes, or a school-house, will represent 9 (nine o'clock being the hour for beginning the recitations) ; the decalogue of Moses, 10; or if this be too weighty a sub- ject or too difficult to draw, take a tent, the sound of whose name will remind you of 114 OUR CHILDREN. (T^ MINDREADING. 115 1 ^ ^ /I 116 OUR CHILDREN. i^^^'^-i j,