BF 171 .W9 Copy 1 THE WONDERFUL MINI) OF THE MAN AND THE WOMAN, -A.3ST3D THEIR WAY IN LIFE. BY / J REV. M. W. WYNN Published by M. W. Wynn, Peter Gray and B. M. Pace & Co., A D. 1884. GREENSBORO: J. S. Hampton & Co., Steam Printers. ' m -' THE WONDERFUL MIND OF THE MAN AND THE WOMAN, .A-ILTID THEIR WAY IN LIFE. -^S^Eg Sg^fcKJ ■ BY REV. M. W. W-YNN, Published by M. W. Wynn, Peter Gray and B. M. Pace & Co., A D. 1884. GREENSBORO: C*^ •• ? J. S. Hampton & Co., Steam Printers. Entered According to Act of Congress, in the Year 1884, By Moses W. Wynn, in the Office of the Librarian of Congress at Washington, D. C. INTRODUCTION. Now, we find that there is no end to books. So, the writer of this little book feels, and hopes, that it will be a useful thing to the mind of the man and the woman, and while the mind of the man and the woman are al- ways desirous to be awakened to its benefit interest, so let us ever try and look to the tuture, and pray, and watch, and rejoice in the God of our salvation, and, dear readers, be careful to select choice and profitable works well adapted to expand, develop and decip- line the minds, to invigorate and elevate the heart and soul, to store and strengthen the memory, to vitalize, direct, and establish the will in prosecuting good resolutions for God, for humanity, and for heaven. But especially did I feel my responsiblity, and my mind cherish a thirst for sacred knowledge, after my conversion to God, to do good and to win souls to Christ. Moses Warren Wynn. Greensboro, N. C, Sept., 1884. CHAPTER L THE WONDERFUL MIND OF THE MAN AND THE WOMAN AND THEIR WAY IN LIFE. And it has been said by men of old times that the day breaks about 90 miles in a min- ute, and the wild goose flies from 60 to 90 miles an hour. But the wonderful mind of the man flashes around the world about 90 miles in a second, because you may ask a good thinking man a very important question and before that man will give you an answer he will look up toward the heavens and down to the green earth, because his mind begins to wander from place to place, and it is said by the great calculators that it is about 90 mil- lion miles from the earth to the sun, and we see every day how quick that wonderful mind of the man directs his eye up to the sun, and the mind of the man is the thinking faculty, and the intelligent power in man, and the un- derstanding of the soul, and the life of the man and the woman is very grand indeed, be- cause God made it glorious to behold, and the man is bold but the woman is beautiful, the man is courageous but the woman is timid, the man labors in the field but the woman works at the house, and the mans mind leads him to talk to the woman and to persuade her mind to please him. And we see that the man has a daring heart but the woman has a ten- der, loving heart, the man has power but the woman has taste, the man has justice but the woman has mercy, the man has strength but woman has love, and while the man is combat- ing with his energy and struggling with the world, but we find the mind of the woman 5 leads her at the house waiting to prepare the man's meals and to sweeten his existence. The man has his crosses but the woman is at the house to soften them, and the man's . mind may be sad and troubled, but in the loving arms of the woman the man's mind finds com- fort and rest. CHAPTER II. Now the man has strength and the exercise of his power and his mind is busy; he goes about, he thuiks, he looks forward to the fu- ture, and his mind finds consolation in the af- fairs of the world. But the woman's mind leads her at the house, and she remains there face to face with her sorrows and troubles and her eyes are often filled with tears and the woman remains at the house to feel, to love, to suffer, and to devote herself with the affairs at the house, and that will always be the sub- ject of woman's life. Now, look at the man. He has a precise and distinct language, but the woman has a peculiarly musical and mag- ical language, and the woman is heard scat- tering her words here and there with a song, and the woman's mind leads her to be very af- fectionate, indeed, and her mind is always in need of something to lean upon, like the vine that runs upon the fence; and we the man's mind is directed to the house by the affections of the woman's mind, and the consolation she gives him to protect and support her, and the woman is both superior and inferior to the man because she was the mother of our Sav- ior, which made her superior to man, and sec- ond, the woman is inferior to man because she was made out of the rib of the man. But yet she is humbled by the heavy hand of nature, and at the same time the woman is inspired by the immediate knowledge of a higher order than the man can ever experience, and the woman has already charmed the man's mind and innocently bewitched him forever and the man's mind still remains enchanted by the wo- man has a more stronger affection than the man, and a man with a bad heart has often been saved by the strong mind of a woman and the wonderful mind of a woman will often decide a question at once, to which the man's mind would be pausing over for hours and still finding his mind getting deeper and deeper into doubts and difficulties. CHAPTER III. Now look at the woman again and see how peculiar she is and how quick she will decide in her wonderful mind about a man. Just as soon as she looks the man in his eyes she will decide at once whether he is honest or not and if the woman fully decides in her mind that the man she met or came in contact with was dishonest, she will stand to her opinion though she may not assign any particular rea- son for such an opinion of the man. But she will say, I do not like the looks of his eyes for they do not- look right; and the woman will stand to that in her mind. Like the woman did at one time when she had decided in her wonderful mind to aggravate her husband by calling him old Crack-louse. So she continu- ed to call him that old name for a long time; finally he said to her, I want you to stop call- ing me old Crack-louse, and if you don't I will knock you down, but she would cry out and say, you are old Crack-louse, and at that time the old fellow knocked her down, but when she raised her head up she said, you are old Crack-louse, and he continued to knock her, but she would cry out every time old Crack- louse, and finally the old fellow chocked the old lady so that she could not talk loud, but she would work her mouth or whisper and say easy, you are old Crack-louse, and when he had beaten and choked her so that she could not talk loud nor whisper, so while she laid on the floor, she opened her eyes and looked him in the eyes and then put her two thumbs together as though she was cracking a louse, to let him know that her mind was fully made up to call him old C. L., and he could not change her mind. Now this is one great distinction of the wo- man's intellect for it walks directly by a more delicate insight, and a more refined and trust- ed knowledge, to which as man's mind gropes along and the woman's mind has already ex- ercised the greatest beneficial influence in sof- tening the hard and untruthful heart* of man, by which knowledge is apt to assume in the hands of direct observers, and the woman's mind have prevented the casting away the great and valuable truths which is too fine to be caught in a material sieve, and the wo- man holds the fine boundary line where the mind, matter, sense, and spirit wave their floating and undistinguishable boundaries, and exercise their complex action and re-action, and when a woman is in possession of a high degree of skill, she can see when any little trouble is about to take place, then she will say in a calm way, things are not going right now, and the woman notices the eye of the man, and she can see any sudden turn in the man's conversation, and at once she prepares her mind to meet him halfway, and above all the woman can penetrate into the state of man's mind so as to detect the gathering gloom upon his brow, before the clouds can thunder too loud, and the woman's mind can perceive any unwelcome that has been present- ed by the man's mind, and she knows when the pulse of feeling is beating higher or lower on account of some trifling circumstance which has just taken place, and the woman can change the feeling of social life, and the cur- rent of feelings so suddenly and in such a way that the man can not see her at all times, and that is done by the power which nature gives the woman, and the woman saves society a jgpreat many times from pain which would be apt to rise from the bad management of the man's mind as in the case when David sent to a certain man once to send him some provis- ions, and the man's mind led him not to send it. But the wonderful mind of the woman thought at once that David was a king; and she knew that there would be a great trouble with her husband; so she with her men went to meet David, and gave him some provisions. But notwithstanding the man's mind led him to send David's officers back without any pro- visions, but the woman's mind led her to go and meet David and present to him some pro- visions, and for such she saved a great trouble on herself and husband. 9 CHAPTER IV. Now look at the man's mind and see the way it leads him to be the creature of interest and ambition and his nature leads him out into the world to struggle, and the man's mind seeks for high and noble things in the estima- tion of the world, and to rule over his fellow- men. But the woman's mind is not that way but we find the woman's mind and whole life is a history of affections, for such is the wo- man's world* and it is there her greatest love seeks for hidden treasures, and her mind sends out her sympathies on the man as he goes out into the world, and the woman embarks her whole soul in the merchandise of affection and love, and if she gets broke in that trade, her mind and heart becomes bankrupted, and not her poeket. But the man's mind is not so, for if he gets disappointed in love, it may sometimes give a bitter pain to the mind and wound some feel- ings of tenderness, and it may blast some pros- pects of great happiness. But the man may scatter his thoughts in the whirl of occupation or go away into great pleasures, to get clear of his troubles and his mind is soon at ease again. Like the man that w r ent to town once on a big day, and while being there on that day, his wonderful mind led him to take a drink, and that drink called for another, and that for another, until the poor fellow became very un- ruly in the streets of the town; so at last his friends made up their minds to put him away so that he would not disturb the peace. So they locked him up in a very large cellar, and IO he being unconscious about where he was; so he awoke way lite in the night and got up from where he was laying and looked all around and about, and then he began to feel about and a great many drunken men gener- ally do when they fall down they reach up for the ground. So that fellow, after feeling all around and over, his head, he could not see nor feel any top, no bottom nor sides, so all at once he looked up and made a long sigh, and he decided in his mind at once that he was in hell; so the poor fellow cried out and said, well, dead and in hell just as I expeeted, and said he, I wonder if there is any place around here that a fellow can get a drink at. Now we see how that man's mind went and come. CHAPTER V. x Now the woman has no natural gift that is more bewitching to the man's mind than that of a sweet laugh, for it is like the sound of a clarionet upon the waters, and it 1 ads from the woman's mind in a clear, sparkling rill, and the heart that hears that voice feels very glad indeed, and no doubt that you have pursued an unseen figure through the trees led on by a gentle laugh, now here, now there, now lost, now found, and the wonderful mind of the man is pursuing that wandering and loving voice of the woman to-day. And now in the midst of care and sorrow, and then we turn away and listen, and soon we hear that won- derful mind of the woman is changed and we hear her voice ringing throughout the house like a silver bell, with power to drive away the i r evil spirits from her mind, and now we see how much the man's mind is indebted to that sweet laugh, for it turns prose to poetry, and it flings showers of sunshine over the darkness of the wood in which we are traveling, and we always see more of heaven than we do of earth, and the man's mind always leads him to look for more women, than men, and the man's mind is seldom unhappy while he has the love and smiles of the woman to go with him in every department of life and the world may look dark without, but when the man returns to his house and feels the tender love of the woman, that man's mind forget his cares and troubles for a little while, and there is no pe- culiarity of character so valuable in a woman than to have a sweet mild temper and the home of the man will not be happy unless the woman is in possession of that great talent, for it is like the flowers that spring up in our road, reviving and cheering us on our way. Now let a man go home at night wearied with the toils of the day, but how good that man's mind feels when a kind word comes from a good loving mind of the woman, for it is like the sunshine falling on his heart, and soon the cares of life is forgotten, and when you see a woman with true intelligence she is a blessing at home and abroad and in society, and wher- ever she goes she carries with her a health- giving influence, and there is a beautiful har- mony about her character, that at once in- spires a respect that soon warms into love, and that man who gets out of the way of the fe- male society, is like a blind man, for beauty has no charms for a blind man, and music does not please a poor beast who does not know 12 one tune from another, and there is one good blessing about the man, he is bound to respect the woman, and sometimes the woman's mind and heart twines around a proud and sinful spirit like roses round a lightning rod, cling- ing for help, and it often brings down upon her head the thunderbolts of woe. CHAPTER VI. Now you have a sketch of the national pe- culiarity of the woman's mind and character in four different parts of the world, England, France, Italy and America. I. The English woman is respectful and proud. 2. The French woman is gay and agreeable. 3. The Italian woman is zealous and passionate. 4. The American woman is sincere and affectionate. With the American woman's mind love is a principle, with the French woman's mind love is -a caprice, with the Italian woman's mind love is a passion, with the American woman's mind love is a sentiment on a thought prompted by feelings. Now, for the minds of these women in marrying: The English woman's mind is to marry a Lord, the French woman's mind is to marry a companion, the Italian woman's mind is to marry a lover, and the American woman's mind is to marry a husband. Now, for the man, in respect to the woman: The English man's mind is to respect his lady, the French man's mind is to esteem his compan- ion, the Italian man's mind is to worship his mistress, and the American man's mind r is to love his wife. And at night the English man's mind leads him to his house, the French man's mind leads him to his establishment, the Ital- 13 ian man's mind leads him to his private place, and the American man's goes to his home, and it is hoped that the American will go to his home a little oftener than the Irish man called on the Lord, for there was an Irishman at sea once, and he fell over board, and when he found out that he was about to be lost, he cried out and said, Lord, I am not one of them that is always hollowing and bawling after thee, but if you will just deliver me now I will never call upon you any more. CHAPTER VII. And the strongest man feels the influence of the woman's gentle and thoughtful mind, as it was with the wonderful mind of David's wife, the daughter of Saul, when she secured David, by pretending that David was in the house when he was out, and never did. Lan- guage speaks so truthful, as when she called the woman the better half of the man, and the man's mind admires the ladies because they are beautiful. The man's mind respects the ladies because they are virtuous. The man's mind worships the ladies because they are in- telligent, and the man's mind loves the ladies because they cannot help themselves. And we see that a woman's mind is more ingenious than a man's mind, and it seems to be so de- signed by the all-wise Creator, for the preseva- tion and perpetuity for the race of mankind, and the patience, the fortitude, the integrity, the piety, and the devotion of the woman's mind, are naturally stronger than the man's mind, and we read that the wonderful mind of the woman was the first to break the law. Yes, and we read again that the wonderful mind of the woman was the first to amend the law on earth by being the mother of our Saviour. CHAPTER VIII. Now, look at the woman's mind again and see how it led her. Yes, that wonderful mind led the woman to stand by the Cross, and see the last of our Saviour, while dying on the Cross, where the man's mind and heart had failed him; and the woman's mind led her to embalm the Saviour's sacred body. Yes, the woman's mind led her to the Saviour's tomb, very early on Sunday morning. Now, see the firmness of the woman's mind under afflictions, especially physically, for. it has been proved as a nurse that one woman will stand more than five men. Then again look at the woman's mind about her soul's salvation, and we find, as a general thing, that there are five women to one man that has decided in their mind to seek their soul's salvation and to connect them- selves with the Church, and the woman's wonderful mind has exercised a great and re- markable judgment in regard to the great is- sue of times, and her mind has prevented the casting away the great and noble plans which have led to great and remarkable discoveries and inventions, as when Columbus laid the plan to discover the New World, and Colum- bus applied to the man, but the mind of the man led him to laugh and turn his back on Columbus and his great plans. But the wonder- ful mind of the woman led her to hear his plans and to help him carry them out, and the i5 wonderful mind of the woman equips the man for the voyage of life. But the woman is sel- dom a leader. But she meets the man as a helper, and the man executes the project. -But the woman fits him out for the task, as Isabella did Columbus, when her wonderful mind led her to sell her jewelry, to lay down her vanities and her comforts, to send the man out for the good of the world, and such is the wonderful mind of the man and the woman | CHAPTER IX. Now, see how poor Katie's mind changed: Once there was an old lady who had decided within her mind, and a great desire also, to go to Heaven, and every morning poor Katie would get up very early and pray to Master Jesus to send Master Angel down to carry poor Kate home to Heaven, and this she did every morning. But at last the overseer or head man on the plantation heard poor Kate pray- ing, and the head man on the plantation de- cided in his wonderful mind at once, what he would do to old Katie on the next morning following. So, early the next morning the overseer got up before the old lady did and went to Katie's house, and she got up. She began to pray to Master Jesus to send Master Angel down to carry poor Katie home to Heaven. So, while she was speaking these words, the overseer knocked at the door very loud, and Katie stopped praying and said who is that. Then the overseer said, I am Master Angel, come down to carry poor Katie home to Heaven, and at that time the old lady jumped up and said with a sharp and loud i6 voice. Poor Katie is not here, she has not been here for two weeks. And such was the chang- ing of her mind. And we see, again, that it does not take a woman a great while to dress herself. But it takes the woman a very long time to decide in her wonderful mind which is the right and which is the left shoe, and what kind of a show she will make after she gets dressed. CHAPTER X. Now, the wonderful mind of the man and the woman are like the human pulse, and as the pulse beats very fast, indeed, and so it is with the wonderful mind. It changes very fast, indeed, and as the pulse is a throbbing of the arteries caused by intermitting impulses communicated to the blood by the heart. And 30 it is with the wonderful mind of the man and the woman. It flashes and charges about by which a thought takes place, and works upon the brain, through which the mouth and tongue commits to memory and the hands and feet perform the duty. And within the limits of health there may be considerable variation, in the frequency of the pulse, and the number of times the pulse beats in a minute, differs very much with age, sex, stature, mus- cular action and mental action. The state of the digestive process, the time of the day, and the average frequency per minute, is approxi- mately indicated by the following table, given by Mr. Carpenter, one of the great calculators of pulses, and as there is such a great differ- ence between the beating of the man's pulse and the woman's pulse, and so it is a great dif- i7 ference between their minds in changing, etc. Now, we look at the beating of the pulse, from a newly born infant to that of old age. Now, the pulse in a newly born infant beats from 130 to 140 times in a minute, and during the first year the pulse beats 115 to 130 times in a minute, and during the second year the pulse beats 100 to 1 1 5 times a minute, and during the third year the pulse beats 75 to 105 times a minute, and from the seventh to the fourteenth year the pulse beats 80 to 90 times a minute, and from th^ fourteenth to twenty-first year the pulse beats 75 to 85 times a minute, and from the twenty-first to the sixtieth year the pulse beats 70 to 75 times a minute, and during old age the pulse beats 75 to 80 times a min- ute, and the pulse of a grown woman exceeds that of a man of the same age as much as 10 to I4beats a minute, and the average beating of the pulse per minute in standing, sitting and lying, is, standing, a healthy man's pulse beats 81 times in a minute, sitting, 71 times in a minute, lying, 66 times in a minute, standing, a healthy woman's pulse beats 91 times in a minute, sit- ting, 84 times in a minute, lying, 76 times in a minute. CHAPTER XI. Now, for the woman's mind beating the man's mind. Some years ago a celebrated lawyer in England was examining a very young lady, who was a witness in a case in court, and the lawyer asked the lady if the person who was assaulted did not give the defendant some very ill language, and uttered words so bad that I cannot repeat them, and the lady said, yes, sir. Well, said the lawyer to the lady, will you please, madame, be so kind as to re- peat.the words to the court. Then, replied the woman, with her woqderful and thought- ful mind, said to the man, why, sir, after know- ing all the words yourself, and if you have not impudence enough in your mind and brass enough on your face to speak the words in court, how can you think that I can speak such impudent words as they were in court? So you can speak them yourself, and I will answer to them, right or wrong. The man's mind, on the sweetness of the night, How sweet these sacred hours of rest, The fair portraits of the virtuous breast, Where lawless lust and passion rude, And folly never dare intrude ! Be others choice the sparkling bowl, And mirth the passion of the soul ; But a nobler jov my mind's design, Instructive solitude be mine, be mine. That silent, calm repast A cheerful conscience to the last. The pleasing and comforting, loving mind of the woman. Oh ! if there is one law above the rest written in reason; if there is a word that I would trace as with a pen of fire upon the unsunned temper of a child; it there is any thing that keeps the mind open to angel visits and repels the ill spirits, it is a loving hu- man mind, and God has made nothing worthy of contempt, for the smallest pebble in the wall of truth has its peculiar meaning, and it will stand when the man's best mind, and minutes have passed away, and the law of Heaven is love. Though that law has been usurped by passion, and profaned to its unholy 19 uses through all times, but still the eternal principle is pure, and in these deep affections we feel the great power of love in us, for every bird that sings above our heads, and every creature feeding on the hills, and every tree and flower and running brook, we see how everything was made to love. CHAPTER XII. The thought of ^he wonderful mind of the man. Befcfre the foundations of the world were laid, before the kindling light, the Al- mighty word obeyed, thou wert, and when the subterraneous flame shall burst its prison and devour this from the angry Heaven. When the keen lightning flies. When fervent heat dissolves the melting skies, thou still shalt be as thou were betore, and know no change when time shall^be no more. Father of all! in every age, in every clime adored by saint, by savage, and by sage, Jehovah Jove! thou great first cause, least un- derstood who all my sense confined to know, but thou art good and I am blind, yet gave me, in this dark estate, to see the good from the evil, and binding nature fast in fate, he left the human mind still free. What conscience dic- tates to be done, or warns me not to do, then teach me more thy love to know what bless- ings thy free bounty gives. Let me not cast away, for God is paid when man receives, and to enjoy is to obey. Yet not to earth's con- tracted span thy goodness let me bound; let not this weak, unknowing hand presume thy bolts to throw, and if I am right, thy grace impart, still in the right to stay, and if I am 20 wrong, O! teach my heart to find that better way. Oh! save me alike from foolish pride and impious discontent, and teach me to fee! another's woe and hide the fault I see; that mercy I to others show, that mercy show to me. Mean though I am, not wholly so since I was quickened by thy grace: O! lead me, wheresoever I go, through this day's life or death ! This day be bread and peace to my mind all else beneath the sun. Thou knowest if best bestow r ed or not, and let thy will be done. The wonderful mind about riches. Can gold calm passion or make reason shine? Who can dig wisdom from the mine or pit? Yes, wisdom to gold my mind prefers, for it is much less to make our fortune than our happiness. That happiness which great ones often see with rage and wonder, in a low degree, them- selves unblessed, and the poor are only poor. But what are they who droop amid their store? And nothing is meaner than a wretch of state, the happy only are the truly great, and the peasants enjoy like appetites with kings and those best satisfied with cheapest things. 021 101 263 8 \