TWVXZfs&VA \l 3 !L I LIBRARY OF CONGRESS.? I — — — % , j .f^Ms, . I J TXITED STATES OF AMERICA. f M Our Household Pet. J. HENDRICKSON M'CARTY, D. D., Author of "Black Horse and Carryall." A little child shall lead them. — Isaiah. Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. — Jesus. These are they which make poor men rich. — Bishop Hall. 'T was an angel visited the green earth, And took the flowers away. — Longfellow. CI NCI NNATI: HITCHCOCK AND WALDEN. NEW YORK: NELSON & PHILLIPS. 1876. p i4i qO\ wmmm Due Um^nr WASHTHGiFW Entered, according to Act of Congress, in the year 1876, by HITCHCOCK & WALDEN, In the Office of the Librarian of Congress, at Washington. TO THE ereauect Jfatljers w& jjjoiherS, INTO WHOSE HOMES, DURING A MINISTRY OF TWENTY YEARS, THE AUTHOR HAS BEEN CALLED TO SPEAK WORDS OF COMFORT AND IN- STRUCTION IN THE HOURS OF DEEPEST SORROW; AND I" H e "* o ^v OF THE DEAR CHILDREN SAFELY GARNERED FROM THE HOMES OF PASTOR AND PEOPLE, AND IN TOKEN OF AFFECTIONATE REMEMBRANCE, S>hi$ Volume IS MOST TENDERLY INSCRIBED. PREFACE HE author is indebted to a little dying girl, not much over half a dozen years old, for the title of this book. The little sufferer was nearing the gates of the Celestial City; her weeping father sat by her bedside, holding the hand of his dear child in his own, while his face was wet with tears. In a moment of ease, for she was a great sufferer, she looked up into that tearful face and said : ' ' Papa, do n't cry; I '11 be just inside the gates when you come." What could have been said more touchingly beautiful than that? How full of cheer! How full of comfort! What stronger chain is there 6 PREFACE. to bind the heart of a stricken parent about the gates of heaven than the knowledge that a dear child is inside those gates? * For the subject-matter of this book, he is indebted to a sad, and yet joyful, experience. He knows what it is to be "joyful in tribula- tion." He writes about what he has felt, as well as thought. He and his companion have gone away four times from the new-made grave of a sweet child. And in this hard discipline they have learned that in the most bewildering gloom a star may yet shine out of the heavens to guide us on the voyage of life, and that the blackest cloud which ever hangs over mortal sky has a silver lining to the eye of faith. They have mourned in their Gethsemane, and they have rejoiced on their Olivet. There are those whose eyes may fall on these lines, whose dear children stand at the gates of "home, sweet home, ,, or who come tripping over the pavement to meet them when they return from places of toil or pleasure, who PREFACE. 7 have not been called to pass through the sor- rows of bereavement. Still, they may read this book, and be possibly all the better prepared for the affliction when it does come. The author has not forgotten that there are other gates than those of the heavenly world to be thought of. The Home> the Sunday-school, and the Churchy are sacred inclosures. Here are gates to be garlanded with beauty, and guarded with care. There are many homes in this world where loving mothers preserve with religious care the little "playthings" which the baby left, and cherish sweet memories of the dear ones "gone on before." To all such these pages offer in- struction and comfort, w T ith w r hat success the reader must be the judge. Hoping, then, that what he has written may serve in some degree to brighten the pathway of others, and make them stronger to bear up under the burdens of life; and that it may, though it be in a small way, call more attention to the child and its moral culture; and with a 8 PREFACE. sincere and earnest desire that both writer and reader may become in heavenliness n asa little child," — he sends this volume forth upon its mission. THE AUTHOR. Jackson, Michigan, 1875. CONTENTS I. Short and Simple Annals, II. The Empty Crib, . III. Sympathy, True and False, IV. Child-Life, . V. Child-Culture, VI. The Spiritual Nursery, VII. Children Saved, VIII. Children Lost, IX. Life and its Lessons, X. Darkness and Light, . XL The Silver Lining, . XII. Our Immortal Future, 13 33 S3 75 99 121 139 163 189 207 229 245 -M^ fe^ jllpjtji anb jlimjtfy %xtmk " There is no flock, however watched and tended, But one dead lamb is there; There is no fireside, howsoe'r defended, But has one vacant chair. The air is full of farewells to the dying, And mourning for the dead ; The heart of Rachel, for her children crying, Will not be comforted." " Had he lived and fallen (as who of us Doth perfectly? and let him that is proud Take heed lest he do fall), he would have been A sadness to them in their aged hours. But now he is an honor and delight, A treasure of the memory, a joy Unutterable; by the lone fireside They never tire to speak his praise, and say How, if he had been spared, he would have been So great and good and noble." EADER, have you ever walked slowly and thoughtfully through a cemetery? I know you have. It was, perchance, on a pleasant Summer evening, before the twilight shadows had fallen, when all was still and hushed, that you wended your way amid the tomb- stones, and thought of the dead. These habitations of the dead are every-where. Close beside every city, village, and hamlet, filled with men and women whose hearts are pulsating with life and hope, there is the city of the dead, where ' ' every tombstone we look upon in this repository of past ages is both an enter- tainment and a monitor." As you walked there on that Summer even- ing, and thought of the dead, and of the great 13 14 INSIDE THE GATES. hereafter, there came over your spirit a feeling of inexpressible sadness. The scenes around you became prophecies of your own dissolu- tion. The thoughts of death came welling up in your mind, and you said to yourself, "I, too, must die." But as you walked there, amid those marble slabs and grassy mounds, where old and young, poor and rich, friend and stranger, lay buried together in that equality which the grave gives; and as these solemn surroundings impressed themselves upon you, did there not also come to you a feeling of hope which sweetened the sadness? Did not your thoughts bound " From death's dark caverns, in the earth below, To spheres where planets roll and comets glow ?" And did you not look away from this world of sin and anguish, labor and care, to that bright world beyond the shadows of the grave, where the soul shall have eternal rest? There, on one tombstone, was a finger point- ing upward, which told of the hope cherished by some stricken heart. And again, on the head-stone of a little grave was carved a lamb or dove, symbol of innocence. Here, too, were choice flowers, expressions of love, emblems of the soul's immortality. As you strolled about SHORT AND SIMPLE ANNALS. 1 5 beneath the weeping willows, and read the epi- taphs, and saw the emblems of hope and love, you felt a strange drawing toward the better life which lies just beyond the boundary of our 'present vision. I am now going to beg a few moments of your time, and ask you to take a walk with me into a very small cemetery, comprising four little graves. To me this is in one sense a sad place, in another it is not. I am sad when I think of the loss I have sustained ; but when I remember the dear children, and think of their bliss, I am glad. My heart has bled, my spirit has reeled beneath successive blows ; I have walked the way of sorrow with a bowed head; still, I have not fainted nor fallen. In the midst of all these afflictions my confidence has not been shaken ; I have been able to say, ' ' Though He slay me, yet will I trust in him." We must look upon death and dying as one of the necessary steps in our great life journey. Death is not the end of being; it is rather the beginning. As you and I stand by the graves of our dear children, it is our privilege to feel that they have been promoted. They have been saved the hardships and turmoil of these slow- rolling years of earth-life, and have commenced on the higher plane of spiritual being. They 1 6 INSIDE THE GATES. have reached the Summer land, the land of beauty and of song, " Where fragrant flowers immortal bloom, And joys supreme are given." They are gone from us, but we shall meet them again. Blessed thought ! As we sit by our little graves, the curtain is lifted before the eye of faith, and light comes streaming in upon us from above. We forget the past, and look for- ward to the meeting-time ; and there comes over the spirit a sweet hope, that is like a beautiful sunrise after a dark and perilous night. But what means it that so many of our world's population die in infancy? Go into any cemetery and number the little graves, and you will almost wonder what fatal scourge has swept away the dear lambs from so many households. What cruel Herod has murdered the innocents? I can see no reason why a man who lives to be seventy should not live to be a hundred, or even five hundred years old. There is evidently a reason for it in the mind of the great Father, and a law against it. We know that people sometimes "die of old age. " The human ma- chine seems to wear out, and the spirit takes its flight. I can not see why my children should have died, why your sweet and promising child must die. I only know that die they do, and SHORT AND SIMPLE ANNALS. 1J die they will, till the end of time. Shield them by day and by night, guard their clothing, their food, and their habits ; and while good care may preserve some, and thus decrease the ' ' death- rate/' yet still they will die. The strong, healthy, robust child will sicken in a day, and another fresh mound will tell of sad hearts and a desolate home, and of another beautiful spirit redeemed and crowned in the everlasting king- dom. I can only say that in that which is so universal there must be some good. Happy are they w T ho can look up and say, "Our Father." It is not for the purpose of obtruding my personal griefs on the ear of a patient and con- siderate public that I attempt to recount my own sad experiences. This chapter is, at least in part, exceptional, and I place it here as an apology — rather, I should say, as the assignment of a reason why I write on this subject. Per- haps my affection gets the better of my judg- ment. Still, I can not convince myself that I ought to omit what follows. It seems fitting that I should lay the foundation for what I have to say in my own personal experience of sorrow ; and, consequently, when I offer words of comfort to others, they will know that I speak from the same grounds where they have stood. 1 8 INSIDE THE GATES. It will not take you long to read these "Short and Simple Annals," while it gives me a peculiar pleasure to put these names in just here. If you were passing by the place where these little ones sleep, you would willingly pause and read the names and the inscriptions on their tombstones, as I have done many a time — names even of strangers; and as I read I wondered about the sorrowing hearts and the vacant chairs, and tried to feel a deep, pure sympathy for the . bereft. Then, you will please regard this chapter as a little monument erected by a stricken father to the memory of four dear children — the fourth an adopted child — whose departure to their upper home makes him at times long to follow them. These little graves are to me a border land, quite on the verge of heaven. I sit there, this moment, in my imag- ination feeling that I am not far from the king- dom, and from those I love. I do not believe in giving way to a grief that will neither be solaced nor controlled; equally do I not believe in a stoical creed which seeks to banish from the heart its warmth, and robe it in the chilliness of an iceberg. My sorrow has not been greater than that which has come upon thousands of others, perhaps not half so great as that which has befallen many another SHORT AND SIMPLE ANNALS. 1 9 household; but still it has been great. I have had my sorrow and my joy; the comfort I have felt may comfort others. I cherish the warmest love for children. All these considerations move me to write. The first born and first buried of my house- hold was our little "Pet. " Just why we spon- taneously called her so I can not tell, only that she was a real pet in the family. All loved her, all petted her, all enjoyed her childish compan- ionship, all were interested in her baby prattle ; and even grandpa, old and venerable, yielded to the universal sentiment, and became her loyal subject. She quite won his heart one day, by looking up into his face, and with both hands laying hold of his long, white beard. She drew him down to her, or herself up to him, I scarcely remember which; but ever afterward she was "grandpa's pet. " Now, I very well know that some staid, sober, and solid kind of people would call all this mere sentimentality, and regard it as posi- tively unmanly and unwomanly to indulge in it. But as an offset to what they may say or think, I w r ould remark that whatever is so innocent, and so productive of a better kind of feeling, should be cultivated, for the fruit it yields in real and substantial pleasure. 20 INSIDE THE GATES. Life is very short, our families are soon broken, our dear friends are ever going from us; so it should be our study to get out of life all the joy we can. The truth is, one can not afford to dispense with these " sweet amenities'' of life. They cost so little, and yield such golden harvests of comfort to the heart, that I wonder why this great world is not richer in them than it is. Our "Pet" was known by no other name in the whole circle of relationship. Years have passed away since her sweet spirit winged its way to heaven. The companions of her child- hood have grown to maturity; but whenever I meet them, though these long years have passed away, they still carry in their recollection the name of their playmate — they still talk to me of "Pet. " It does me good to know that she is remembered; it shows she did not live in vain. "Pet," with us, did not mean a spoiled child. The word, to our minds, expressed rather the idea of fondness; with her it was only a name. She came to us on the 12th of April, 1853, and left us on the 21st of October, 1856. In her baptism we named her Anna Emily. A little tombstone in the cemetery at Twinsburg, Ohio, my first pastoral charge, bears the name, and beneath it the dust, of the dear departed child. SHORT AND SIMPLE ANNALS. 21 " Early, bright, transient, chaste as morning dew, She sparkled, was exhaled, and went to heaven." She is safe "inside the gates." That quiet and beautiful place is holy ground to us; But let me tell you a little more of the sad story. J. Espey came and went, but re- mained with us a much shorter time than she whose "little feet had climbed the golden stair." He was born January 22, 1858, and died the following August. It seemed as if he had just called to make our acquaintance before speeding on to his real home. His was a spirit destined not for time, but for x eternity. Nearly a score of years have passed since I pressed him to my heart as my dear boy. He lingers in my mem- ory yet as a sweet babe, full of romp and frolic. I love to sit down quietly, and live over those days again. It is like turning back the pages of some charming book, to re-peruse those passages, which pleased me most. I do not wish to forget my boy. I can this moment see him, as he used to sit on the floor, sur- rounded by his toys. I can see him dropping all when he heard my heavy step approaching; and then he would look up into my face, and plead so eloquently to be taken into my arms, and carried to see the horse, or out into the door-yard to see the birds and flowers. 22 INSIDE THE GATES. I can see him as he grew sick and pale and thin, and as he lay in his crib with congestion of the brain, slowly but surely coming under the fatal touch of death. I well remember, though long and busy years have passed since then, the sad moment when the spirit left the body, and the day when we laid him away to sleep by the side of his little sister, our "Pet." On the same tombstone in that rural cemetery are the two names, which, though unknown to the world, have a tender meaning to two strug- gling mortals. He, too, is safe ' ' inside the gates. " Then, again, while pastor of the Mathewson- street Methodist Episcopal Church, in Provi- dence, Rhode Island, our third child sickened and died, and now lies entombed in Swan's Point Cemetery, within sound of the beating waves of Narragansett Bay. No more truly delightful spot could be found on this round earth for grave of child or man. He came to us April I, 1863, and left us July 29th, of the same year. We called him Joseph Mathewson, after the Church of which I was pastor. His little body knew no day free from pain. It seemed such a mystery that a sweet, innocent child should be made to suffer so much. He expired in a terrible convulsion, which I had no power to relieve. But I knew that death was SHORT AND SIMPLE ANNALS. 23 the portal which would admit him to the society of those which had gone before. " Three cherubs met upon the other shore." He is mine, safe "inside the gates." The years passed away, and 1870 found us at Adrian, Michigan, one of the garden-spots of the West. The church is one of the finest, the society one of the largest. The parsonage was roomy, and the grounds around were so inviting, that I could not help thinking what a good home we could offer to some one of the many little waifs, thrown upon the world by adverse fate, in need of a home. But there were other rooms, larger than those of the parsonage, and more beautiful, that were tenantless, and other grounds than those surrounding it that had long been unpressed by the feet of childhood. I mean heart rooms, heart grounds. These rooms were all ready for an occupant. Dark shadows had fallen on those grounds, which the tripping of little feet and the merry, ringing laugh of childhood would dispel. Home without children is not home, in its highest, truest sense. In the early portion of married life, people may be satisfied to live alone, and enjoy each other's society, without the additional care of children ; but there will 24 INSIDE THE GATES. come a time in the life of such a family when the presence of children would be prized above any other earthly blessing. To see two old people living in the days of the "sere and yellow leaf," without child or grandchild to look to or lean upon, is a melancholy spectacle. It is a terrible penalty to pay for the selfishness of human nature. To see venerable people surrounded by their own offspring, blessed with children and children's children, is a beautiful sight, and the Great Father intends this to be the boon of most people. If death interposes, it must be received as a "blessing in disguise." But there are so many children born into the world homeless, deserted by one or both par- ents, or left orphans, that any who are deprived by death of their own, or denied the blessing by Providence, can yet find children to fill up the gap. It would almost seem as if God took some away to make room for others. "But how can I love another person's child?" is often asked. The experience of most people who have tried the experiment of adopting children is, that they can and do love them, if they are lovable, as they would their own. Reader, if you have a house, open its doors to some poor child ; give it a home. It will do you good, as well as the child. SHORT AND SIMPLE ANNALS. 25 At the time above mentioned, we felt a great desire to adopt some poor child and give it a home, and we so expressed ourselves to others. Some said, You may get yourself into trouble; you can not love it as your own. It may be- come wayward — a heart-break to you. My answer was, Life is a succession of risks and ventures. Our own children have as much of what divines call depravity in them as the chil- dren of other people. When people marry, they take risks; when men go into commercial speculations, they assume risks. Every child born has before it a life fraught with perchances. I said, I am willing to try it. ' If the child I take becomes wayward, it shall be no fault of mine; it will be so from its innate tendencies — and the chances will be in its favor if I take it ; for I will throw around it the attractions "of a Chris- tian home, and follow it with my prayers. And who knows but I may thus "save a soul from death, and hide a multitude of sins?" Perhaps this is God's plan of making me useful to some one of my fellow-mortals. The child we take, through our influence and teachings, may grow up to a beautiful manhood or womanhood, and be a blessing to the world. Who can tell what good may come to two lives by such an act? 26 INSIDE THE GATES. Within a short space of time quite a number of children were pointed out to me ; but among them all I did not see any one that I could take to my heart as I wished to do, and I did not desire to bring into the family a dear child, and then throw open only one room in the heart. If I took one, it must have the whole heart. All this may seem a little selfish, but I think it is not. God has endowed us with certain tastes which grow out of our individuality, that highest quality of human nature. I am not to blame for my tastes; so the child I might not prefer might yet please some one else. I had my ideal. Then I felt that love must be the su- preme power in my home, and unless I loved the child in a very true sense I could not do justice by it. Providence favored me. A friend called one day, with a bright, sweet, little girl, three and a half years old, of good parentage. The age suited me. She was young, and would easily take root in this new home soil. Her hair was golden — she was what they call a blonde — her eyes were a light blue. Her form was lithe and graceful. She called up the memory of my own child, whom fifteen years before I had buried. It did almost seem as though my departed one had returned to me again. The instant my eyes fell upon her I SHORT AND SIMPLE ANNALS. 2J said, She meets my taste. In some way she pleased me, and there was "love at first sight." I need not record here the movements that fol- lowed, only to say that on the 1st day of April, 1871, little Carrie became a member of our family by adoption, and every room in the heart-house was thrown wide open to her; all the heart-grounds, as far as they could be, or ought to be, were consecrated to her. The Lord had taken away. Now he kindly gave, and I felt that I had a new aim in life. I un- consciously began to plan for Carrie. We lived for her, and she became as dear to us as our own lost babes. She seemed to have dropped down upon us like a bird from the skies. Her coming was as from heaven, and her presence gave us a new lease of life. I may say that in the adoption of a child there may be — there was with me — the addi- tional obligation growing out of that adoption. Let people do what they will with their own children, not much is said; but in the case of adoption, how many there are who stand ready to criticise and condemn every act, using their influence to the injury of both parties in the contract! So I felt always the great responsi- bility resting upon me. I said, This is an adopted child. 28 INSIDE THE GATES. Two years and a quarter passed away, years of brightness and joy in the parsonage. The walks, the drives, the evenings, the mornings, the Summers, the Winters : O how much of pure happiness there was crowded into that brief time! But now, again, comes the sad part. In the Summer of 1873, while enjoying a vacation of a few weeks among friends in an- other State — a trip taken largely in dear Carrie's interest — she sickened and died. On Sunday, July 6th, she complained of a severe pain in her head. She grew rapidly worse, until I saw her the victim of that usually fatal malady, cerebro- spinal meningitis; and on the following Friday evening, just as the sun was casting his setting beams through the windows, the spirit of the dear child went away from our sight. I care- fully preserved the little body, brought it to our home, and laid it away to rest in Oak Wood Cemetery, near the edge of a steep bank, at whose base flow the waters of the River Raisin. I had gone as pastor to that same beautiful spot more than threescore times, to care for others who. had been called to part with their friends; but now the arrow had struck me, and I was bleeding from tire wound. But the words of consolation I had so often tried to speak to others came back to me now, and the Father SHORT AND SIMPLE ANNALS. 29 gave me the opportunity of practicing in my own life what I had been preaching all these years to others. Little Carrie was a universal favorite. In our frequent drives with the "Black Horse and Carryall," her place was on the front seat. I promised her, when she was sick, that when we got home she should go riding in the carryall. I did not think then that she would die; but I made the promise good, as the reader will see from the following brief extract, cut from a local paper the day following the funeral. This may have no special interest to others; but it does a stricken heart good to tell the story, for which I crave the reader's indulgence: "A Sad Bereavement. — A very large congregation assembled at the Broad-street Methodist Episcopal Church yesterday, at four o'clock P. 1VL, to attend the funeral of Carrie Estella, adopted daughter of Rev. J. H. M'Carty. Little Carrie was an unusually bright child, and was be- loved by all who knew her. Large numbers of children were present to witness the services, and show their in- terest in and love for Carrie. . .- . It was indeed a beautiful and impressive service. The little casket, of black walnut, trimmed with silver molding, was borne by four boys of the Sunday-school, and drawn to the cem- etery in the family carryall. Four little girls, dressed in white, were seated, two on each side of the casket, while a groom led the black horse which drew the sweet child on her last ride. The pastor, with his wife and child, left home a few weeks ago, under the most favor- 30 INSIDE THE GATES. able auspices, for a little vacation, and while with their friends were thus sorely stricken." . . . Her death was indeed a "sad bereavement' ' to me. I had made no calculation for such an event. But she was mine two and a quarter years, and every day of these years she made brighter. How glad I feel that she was ours so long ! I felt very grateful to my Heavenly Father for such a blessing. Years may pass away, but the name and memory of Carrie, and of my other dear children, will never pass away from the recollection. Amid earth's shadows and sunshine we toil on, hope on. " In that land of beauty, in that home of joy, By the gates they '11 meet us, 'neath that golden sky, Meet us at the portal, meet us by and bye." 3p Jrojtitj SrtL " O, MY heart is a garden, and blossoming there Is a fragrant and delicate flower; I guard it with care; So tender and rare, And so fair, It would die in a shower. O, my heart is a desert, my flower is not here ; I knew 't would be gone on the morrow. And sadly I go, Wearily and slow, To and fro, O'er the sands of my sorrow. Ah, my flower is transplanted to heaven so bright, By the Gardener; true to his love, It will bloom and be fair, And be safe for me there, In his care, Till I 'm summoned above." II. HAVE had no experience in life which has caused me a deeper sor- row of heart than the death of a dear I thought, when I came home S from the grave the first time, that the most expressive symbol of my loss was the little empty crib which stood in the corner of the room. On beginning that very interesting chapter in our lives, housekeeping, one of the requisites was a crib. People can have in their own homes what boarders, whose chief study is to economize space, must generally be denied. Now that we had gone to housekeeping, the little two-year-old must have a crib. Then I happened to be in just that condition wherein it was necessary for me to husband my 3 33 i it 34 INSIDE THE GATES. pecuniary resources, which at best were not very abundant; and hence, wherever it was possible, I used my hands, and whatever inge- nuity I possessed, to construct articles for household use. Every well-furnished house, I thought, should have a crib. Mine must have one. I am not ashamed here to put on record the fact that I could not afford to buy a crib such as I had seen at the furniture-shops, however desirable such an elegant article might be. Honest poverty is not to be despised. There is no other school where one learns so much, and so fast. It is really good to be poor. I think one of the chief mistakes we make, and one of the greatest barriers in the way of uni- versal happiness, lies in thinking that the money we possess is our own, and that they who have much of it are most happy. The discipline needed to ripen us into the better life often comes in the form of depriva- tions. The study of our means and our neces- sities; that is to say, the enumeration of what we want, or what we really must have — for our wants usually outnumber our actual necessities and the ability we possess of supplying them — is just such a study as humanity needs to develop the better traits. THE EMPTY CRIB. 35 In our journeys we often pass by many tidy- looking houses, where all the surroundings indi- cate poverty, but not always degradation. Some people are poor and low, others are poor and high. We must distinguish between these two classes. I refer to houses where every thing shows that there is the study of econ- omy and neatness. There is the snowy cur- tain in the window, the pretty bed of flowers at the front door, the whitewashed fence, and many other things which go to indicate that those within are possessed of refined tastes and good traits of character. Well, to return. I set to work at making a crib. I always could plan in mechanical matters better than I could execute. I would not care to show my work, but I can state the manner of procedure. The tools I used consisted of a saw, hammer, and auger. Taking the little one by the hand, I went to the barn, one bright, beautiful Autumn morning, to make a crib. It was an era in the dear child's life, a real gala- day. She was going to have a crib all her own, and papa was going to make it — a crib by a stretch of terms, by the way. She was as much interested in the work as I was, and knew nearly as well how to proceed as I did. I sawed off four blocks of wood, each about a foot in 36 INSIDE THE GATES. length, into the ends of which I bored holes and put castors. Then I nailed on strips, for ends, sides, and bottom, and the crib was com- plete, with the most trifling outlay of time and money. When it was done I felt that my inge- nuity had triumphed over my impecuniosity. The crib was put to its place, and the little darling of my house was as delighted with it as if she had come into the ownership of the most beautiful and costly piece of furniture in the world. For eighteen happy months, night by night, she sweetly slumbered in it, by my own bedside, " Tended and watched by angels, bending o'er, Waiting to bear her to that far-off shore." I have looked back to that morning's work a thousand times, as to one of the most pleasant hours of my life. Making the "crib" yielded far more pleasure to father and child than if some one had presented us one much finer. Sleeping by my bedside, the dear child would sometimes become wakeful during the long nights. Some noise would disturb her slum- bers, or something in her dreams would affright her. Then she would call to me. I laid down with the care of her on my mind; it was my choice to do so. The first sound of that little voice would generally arouse me. She usually THE EMPTY CRIB. 37 said, "Papa, hold my hand." Then I would reach out and take her little hand in my own, and in a few moments she would fall asleep again. Some way, she felt secure with her hand in mine. Now, is there not here a lesson for us all? Are we not all children of a common Heavenly Father? Are there not times when we are fearful and distrustful? Earth has many a long, dark night of sorrow, many a disturbing trial, many an enemy. Let us not forget our Father, w T ho will take our hand in his. Can aught harm us if he protects? Can we in the darkness say and feel that we are safe, in the storm feel that no evil shall come nigh unto us? Is it not written, "He shall hide me in his pavilion, in the secret of his tabernacle shall he hide me?" O happy, trusting love, that can say, always, "My Father," and then lean on Him for support ! That little, homely crib of ours, which would not have brought three shillings in any second- hand furniture-shop, was still valuable to us be- because of its associations, and we preserved it a long time for the dear child's sake. The sight of that crib would call forth our tears. I some- times thought we did wrong in giving way to our feelings so much. But what are these 38 INSIDE THE GATES. emotions for? Then, again, would-be comfort- ers would tell us not to grieve, for the child was better off than when it was living in the flesh, and that we could go to it by and by. All this may have been well-meant advice and consolation, which in the abstract was entirely true; but it utterly failed to make any impres- sion on our minds. Before death came to our home, I had often been called upon,, as a pastor, to comfort others in their sorrows; and I too had given just such advice, to those who stood weeping by the coffins of their loved ones, as others were now giving to us. But when the sorrow touched me, I found how far short I had come in my efforts to impart consolation. I felt like going straightway to every poor, sorrowing mother whose child had died, to confess my fault, to unsay nearly all I had said, to bid them weep; for I found tears to be a relief to a wounded soul. " Tears yet are ours, whene'r misfortunes press; And though our weeping fails to give redress, Long as their fruits the changing seasons bring, Those bitter drops will flow from sorrow's spring." God intended us to weep. Even "Jesus wept." It is said of the great Edmund Burke, that when he lost his only son his grief was appalling. He would sit in that unnatural calm- THE EMPTY CRIB. 39 ness of despair which was even more terrific than the display of the wildest passion. Then a burst of frenzy would come over him, and he would rush into the room where lay the form of his child, and call in accents of fearful anguish for the hope of his age and the comfort of his declining and now joyless years. There is an old saying, ''Little griefs speak; great griefs are dumb," which I can hardly indorse. In my opinion, it is a matter of tem- perament. Great griefs do speak. But, then, I know one's sorrows may become so great that there comes over the soul the "calmness of despair;" then tears are impossible. I have heard a broken-hearted mother say, "O, if I could only weep !" Such grief endangers health, and life itself. Here is mystery, an explanation of which would show us that we are fitted by this hard discipline the better to serve others. There are just two things in human life to be especially mindful of, — love to God and love to man. In such service we realize the highest perfection of our own being. Ever, after death had invaded my home, I said to the bereaved and stricken ones around me, Weep, for in tears the spirit finds solace. After a baptism of tears the heart comes nearer its reconciliation. Tears shed at the 40 INSIDE THE GATES. grave in some sense become a fresh tribute of love. When people become in the highest sense refined and cultivated in their feelings, they are more susceptible to sorrow, and more capable of true joy. There are heights of pleasure to whose bright summits the barbarian never comes, never can come. All genuine pleasure is spiritual, and implies high moral development. Jesus said, (t Man shall not live by bread alone." The sources of the truest life are not the material things which surround us. Then, welcome a spiritual cultivation that, while it makes us subjects of deeper woe, also elevates us to a companionship with angels. The savage mother can not mourn for her dead babe as the morally developed Christian mother mourns for hers. % " Dearly bought, the hidden treasure Finer feelings can bestow ; Chords that vibrate sweetest pleasure Thrill the deepest notes of woe." If the Christian heart feels a deeper grief, its consolation is also greater. The Christian's hope comes in to assuage the troubled spirit. As my second child gasped his last breath, and the spirit had fled, the mother bent over his little tender form, and gave full vent to her feelings. Up to this moment they were in part THE EMPTY CRIB. 4 1 suppressed. While there was life there was hope. Now that all was over, and the dear eyes were closed forever on this world, there was no feeling of that heart but what had its foundation in sorrow.. She wanted to caress the little body once more, ere it grew stiff and cold. She craved, as a last act, the privilege of press- ing the dear babe to her breast just one more time. It was an instinct of a motherly heart. Every tender emotion of that heart w r as stirred. The foundation of her whole being was shaken. Just then a well-meaning and really kind-hearted woman, one who had never lost a child, who never had one to lose, appointed herself mistress of ceremonies, and, being of strong will and equally strong arm, almost by force tore that bereaved and stricken mother from the lifeless form of her child, and bore her away to another room, vehemently exhorting her all the time not to weep and give way to her feelings; that it was wrong; that the indulgence of such grief was not the way to be resigned to the will of God. I say it was a well-meant effort to do a kind act; but if heart-instincts mean any thing, and surely they do, God has not endowed this human nature with such susceptibilities only to be crushed out. Then, the meant kindness was really an unkindness. The poor woman made a 42 INSIDE THE GATES. mistake, that was all. But that mother, to this day, has not forgotten that hour, and never will she forget it while her memory is enthroned upon its seat. Ever after death had come to my home, and by a bitter experience, I had been made to un- derstand what the word bereavement meant, I said to those who came to me for consolation, It is your right to weep, your duty to feel. The Father does not expect you to go through all this without feeling. As the plowshare breaks up the hardened soil for seed-time and harvest^ so God's providential chastisements prepare the hearts of his children for a glorious spiritual fruitage. "No chastisement for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous; neverthe- less, afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruits of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.' ' (Hebrews xii, II.) Through death He bringeth life, out of darkness he causes the beautiful light to stream. He has our whole existence in view, for eternity as well as time. He may make us unhappy . now, in order to make us happy in the future. These griefs are a discipline which shall bring us nearer our Father. Some one has said, "The rod of affliction is a branch cut from the tree of life." The difficulty with us is, we are too earthly. If God had not THE EMPTY CRIB. 43 interposed, we should not have thought of him or the heaven he has prepared for us. So I say the deaths of our children may be a bitter grief to us ; but they become the burnished links of gold which bind our poor hearts about the throne of Infinite Love. With such views, I have gone to the sobbing mother, every fiber of whose body was quivering with suppressed emotion, and I have said to her, Weep, mother, you will find relief in tears. God has as surely constructed the heart for feeling as for pulsating, the eye for weeping as for seeing, else why does universal humanity weep when great sorrows come upon it? Why have all men located the emotions in the heart, I mean the fleshly heart? Such a universal sentiment is not without a foundation in the nature of things, and the heart does sometimes break literally. As the brain is the seat of intelligence, so the heart is the seat of the moral feelings. I have said to the mother, Go, when the freshness and beauty of Spring come, when the buds are bursting into leaves, when the grass is green beneath your tread; go, when the sweet flowers are opening their petals and exhaling their fragrance, filling all the air with their deli- cate aroma; go to the little grave where your darling sleeps; plant flowers, train the myrtle, 44 INSIDE THE GATES. and bedew the little mound with your warm, fresh tears; and in this service of love you will be soothed, your spirit will be calmed; you will have been in communion with the angels. They will come to you, as they came to Jesus, and "minister unto you." I looked at the empty crib and wept; but I reasoned as well. My grief seemed too great to bear; but then I thought of the empty cribs in thousands of other homes in every land; and dear as were my children to me, to us, they were no dearer than other people's children were to them. I could see the brightness or the beauty of my own child as I might not see it in others ; as others might not see it in mine. Every fa- ther should think his own the dearest in the world. Our children are sweeter to us, simply because they are ours. It is right for us to feel thus, and to act upon it as a principle. All men admire such a love, and such an expression of the tender affection. The Father has thus wisely thrown around the child this protective shield of love. As I gazed on the empty crib, I thought of this great brotherhood of sorrow. How we do come together on this plane! The world some- times seems very cold and formal; but then let some great calamity overtake us, and it will THE EMPTY CRIB. 45 wake up the love of human hearts all around us. People whom we did not know will come and speak tenderly to us, and proffer their serv- ices with a heartiness which we can feel. One after another came to me, of whose deep per- sonal griefs I knew nothing, and could not know, until I had walked in the same hard road myself. And thus I learned to think more about them, and feel more for them. I used often to wonder why Mrs. B — al- ways wore mourning, and why her face always had such a weary expression. She looked as though she had never smiled. Her features, which were naturally fine, had the semblance of a clay or iron cast, as if her face w T as never made to wear a smile. She did smile sometimes, poor woman! but it was the result of effort, and not the spontaneous outgushing of a glad and cheer- ful heart. I knew she had met with the loss of one or more children. Always, when I went there, she talked about them, and showed me their pictures. It seemed to do her good to tell over the story. I tried to comfort her by telling her that they were better off, and that she must look on the bright side, and live to meet them in heaven. But the Father prepared me to do Mrs. B and others good, by afflicting me in the same w r ay. Then I could 46 INSIDE THE GATES. go to her as I never did before; for we had a common sorrow. Just over in the cemetery were three little mounds in one lot, and near them one little grave in another lot. One day we met there, and in my heart I said, Poor, afflicted Mrs. B , I do pity you ! I thought it was no wonder that she looked sad and weary and disconsolate. There were her three little graves against my one; for up to that day my crib had only been emptied once — hers, three times. I had kissed my dying child, and sadly parted with it; she had kissed and parted with her three. I said, No wonder she wears the mourning garment, when all the birds of her nest have flown away to a new clime. If in my home the disappearance of one little form, the absence of two little pattering feet, should make the home, otherwise bright and cheerful, so un- bearably dull and quiet, how must it seem in her home, from which three have been taken? Our homes from which children have been taken are " Like the vase in which roses have once been distilled. You may break, you may ruin the vase, if you will ; But the scent of the roses will hang round it still." I said to her : The frost which nips the foliage of the mulberry-tree does not kill the silk-worm cradled in its leaves. So death may blight our THE EMPTY CRIB. 47 homes, without destroying us. You have lost, I have lost; but there is good in it all. Let us arise from the earth, where we sit in our sorrow, and behold the day of God. Let us be learners in this school, where Jesus teaches to look through the grave out into the blissful regions of immortality. " What God intended as a blessing and a boon We have received as such ; and we can say A solemn, yet a joyful, thing is life, Which, being full of duties, is for us Of gladness full, and full of lofty hopes." There, too, was Mr. S , whose son was a hopeless maniac, roaming the streets, at times raving w T ild — the dread of the household, the terror of the community. In his childhood he was unusually bright and promising. His early boyhood was really brilliant. The hopes of a whole family were centered in him. Even in his ravings, there was at times an effort at reason. It was like the sun struggling through the rifted clouds ; but, alas ! these clouds would not open, and the sun would stay hidden behind their thick masses. That father would often say, "O, if he had only died when he was a child, and I could remember him always as he was then!" But that flower had withered; that cup was dashed into fragments. The only prospect 48 INSIDE THE GATES. was for poor G to be one of those unhappy- beings who are destined to run at large, dreaded alike by young and old, against whom the asylum is closed because the case is incurable. Had he died in infancy, leaving behind him an empty crib, that fond father and mother would have mourned; but now they bewail a heavier affliction. And there, too, was the C famiily. A beloved son had gone from home, they knew not whither. Perhaps he had sickened and died in some distant city; or, having gone to sea, he may by shipwreck or accident have gone to his final rest beneath old ocean's billows; or he may have met his fate by the hand of a mid- night assassin, or died a languishing death in some foreign prison. His fate they never could know; and so, in agony of spirit, they wended their dreary way through unbroken years of suspense. Ah, I could look upon my empty crib, and feel sure that my child was safe "in- side the gates;" I could go to my one little grave, and then to my two, and then to my three, and now four. I could plant flowers there, while I looked forward to the meeting- time which is sure to come by and by. I could call up their pretty ways, and their loving caresses. I could think of them, not as lost THE EMPTY CRIB. 49 to me, but saved for me; for I know where they are. As I thought more about my empty crib, and came into closer sympathy with those who had been called upon to pass through these dark waters, I found myself becoming more fully reconciled to my loss. I settled down into the full conviction that it was all right and best ; for it had taken place under the eye of my Heavenly Father, "who doeth all things well. ,, I had nothing to remember of my dear children that was not pleasant, nothing to fear for them in the future. A precious and comforting feeling of owner- ship in my children cheers me greatly. I can say they are mine yet; and mine they will be forever. I shall endeavor to show, in a subse- quent chapter, how the child will grow in heaven; but, notwithstanding that, nothing can ever change the fact that these bright spirits in heaven were mine, in a very special sense. I was their earthly parent. You were once the father or mother of a little suffering mortal — now, of a glorified spirit before the throne of God. My crib stood empty ; for the child had gone where there is no night, where they do not sleep. That little crib not only signified the 4 50 INSIDE THE GATES. absent child, but it led the thoughts up to the heavenly home, where she had gone, " Far beyond the reach of mortal ken. No eye hath seen it, nor hath human pen Portrayed the glories of that world above, Whose very atmosphere is love. There Christians, who in union dwelt on earth, Heirs of its mansions by celestial birth, In blest society shall meet and blend." We are going home — the tender ones have gone on before us. They have reached the gates, which have opened to let them in, and they are safe. iijm|m% t Irt^ m& %nh$* " That loss is common, would not make My own less bitter — rather, more ; Too common. Never morning wore To evening, but some heart did break. This truth came borne with bier and pall ; I felt it when I sorrowed most : 'T is better to have loved and lost, Than never to have loved at all." !C No radiant pearl, which crested fortune wears ; No gem, that twinkling hangs from beauty's ears; Not the bright stars, which night's blue arch adorn, Nor rising sun, that gilds the vernal morn, — Shine with such luster as the tear that flows Down virtue's manly cheek for others' woes." III. $yn\|)atliy, ¥ftie ki]d ^al^e. HEN all was over with my dear children, and the grave had shut them forever from my sight, I tried to feel reconciled. I felt that it was my £? duty to be resigned. But I questioned myself on this wise : What is resignation ? Is it to be indifferent? Is it to be in some way hardened? Does it mean that I am not to love the dear ones any more? Then I remembered that the in- tellect is one thing, and the heart quite another. I knew intellectually that my children were gone from me, beyond my powers of recall. I might complain about it, and wish it were otherwise; but the great and sorrowful reality could not be changed. A mother who once lost her child said to her pastor, "I can not, I will not, have it so." 53 A 54 INSIDE THE GATES. "Yes; but what are you going to do about it?" said he. Now, his answer might seem harsh; but he felt that an appeal to her judgment was necessary. We must be reasonable in our griefs. I think there may be such a condition as mental resignation to the death of a child, while the heart yearns after and still clings to the object of its love. This I sought to feel in my own heart. My judgment assured me that there was some good in it all. God, who knows what is best for his children, had sent this sorrow on me and mine. My heart and mind were weighed down under the mighty burden of a great loss. Then I prayed to my Father to help me to endure the sorrow and the disap- pointment, to subdue the longing for the little clinging arms that death had unloosed, and the sweet voice and the patter of little feet that would never more make music in my home. Very soon I came to the realization of a great fact, namely : that my life was being molded by an intelligent will, rather than by a blind power in nature which had in it no pity. Looking up to God, and praying to be made obedient, ena- bled me to look forward to the time when I should be made "perfect through suffering." Then, as never before, did I understand the words of Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane, SYMPATHY, TRUE AND FALSE. 55 when he cried out, in bitterness of soul, "0 my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless, not as I will, but as thou wilt!" That he should go and pray thus three times over, intensifies the thought. Jesus did not rebel against the Father's will, even though he prayed to be delivered from the bitterness of the cup. His human nature here and in this way asserted itself; but his higher, his divine, nature came in to aid him in the fearful ordeal through which his soul was passing. That ordeal was not the betrayal, the trial, the crucifixion; it was of far deeper significance. It was a spiritual agony of some kind, which made his soul "sorrowful even unto death." It must be that in that hour he in some way, without par- taking of sin, bore the sins of the whole world on his heart. He was then enabled to look back through all the past, and forward to all the future, while his eye swept around the whole horizon of the globe. Every woe of humanity then and there centered on him ; then and there he "tasted death for every man." But I was going to say that, as Jesus prayed "Let this cup pass," was it wrong for me, is it wrong for any father or mother, to pray the same prayer at the bedside of a dying child or beloved friend? Gladly indeed would I have 56 INSIDE THE GATES. had this cup pass from me ; but equally glad was I to know that if a burden of sorrow was laid upon me the Father would help me bear it. If Christ leads us into the dark, he will in time show us the "true light. ,J Then did I begin to realize that I had a sympathizing friend in Jesus. He taught me how to lie in the dust and pray, "Let this cup pass from me;" he also taught me how to rise and say and feel, "Thy will be done." In clinging to my dear children, I only gave expression to the richest gift of God to human nature: the affections of the heart. "Let this cup pass— Thy will be done," exactly expresses the position of the trustful and obedient disciple. Saying thus, with wounded heart, I waited the coming of the Healer. Very early in my ministerial life, I was called upon one day to minister consolation to a dying mother. It is a Jong time since that event — her name even has quite passed from my recol- lection; but I shall never forget the circum- stances, and the thoughts that passed through my mind during that pastoral visit. There, on her bed, lay that mother, pale and emaciated, while every thing in the room bore the marks of poverty. There were her children, three little girls — the youngest scarcely two years old, SYMPATHY, TRUE AND FALSE. 57 the eldest not more than seven. The father was not present; and, from what I afterward learned, his presence was an annoyance rather than a source of comfort to his family at any time. I was young in years, and had none of the experience which older ministers possessed, and which years have given me. The case was urgent; the poor woman, to all human appear- ance, would die in a few days. Taking a seat by her bedside, I talked to her about dying. She said she was not ready to die. I asked her if she loved the Lord. "O yes," she answered; "and in my poor way I have tried to serve him." Then I said, "God will save you; you have nothing to fear — only trust him." I in- quired if she had ever made a profession of religion. She said she had, but had been de- prived of the privilege of attending Church because she could not leave her children. I noticed that the mention of her children affected her very much. I told her that the Father looks at the heart, and not at the outward acts so much. "By their fruits ye shall know them," said the Savior. We can not know the heart, the interior springs of thought. God looks deeper than man looks. I may misjudge my fellow-man; but he who knoweth the heart always judges correctly. I told the dying 58 INSIDE THE GATES. woman that duty never called in two directions at the same time. When it was her duty to stay at home, and take good care of the little ones who needed her motherly attentions, it was not her duty to go to meetings of any kind. I did not say to her, but I will say here, that people may commit sin by too much church- going, as well as by too little. Christianity does not require of us to neglect home and children, husband or wife, to attend Church. I have known a iji&n to attend meetings, to the neglect of his business and the payment of his honest debts. I have known a mother to attend meetings while her children were racing through the streets and taking advantage of her absence to have dancing-parties in the parlor. Still I do not think this is a very prevalent sin — the tend- ency is rather to neglect the meetings by the generality of mankind. Believing all this, I assured that dying woman that, when she was at home caring for her chil- dren, she was just where God wanted her to be ; that people can serve God well in the home, if they have any heart to serve him at all. While I was talking, I noticed that she began to weep bitterly. The thought of her dear little girls, one of whom sat playing on the floor so innocently, so unconscious of its motherless SYMPATHY, TRUE AND FALSE. 59 destiny, came up before her, and a great wave of sorrow swept across her soul. "I can not be resigned,' ' she sobbed out. "I am afraid God will not save me." It was not necessary to question her much. The difficulty in her case w r as apparent. That trio of little girls bound her to the world. But I said, in order to open the way to the subject, "What is there, dear woman, that you can not give up?" "My children," she answered, in broken utterances. "What will become of them? how can I leave them?" Standing at the foot of the bed was an elderly, hard-featured woman, who seemed to have charge of the house. She stood there to hear the young pastor talk, and perhaps to come to his aid if necessary. "Never mind the chil- dren, Mrs. , God will take care of them." She spoke in a loud and harsh tone of voice. The latter part of the sentence was true, and was said as I should have said it myself, except in its harshness. I realized that I was in a most critical position, namely: to substitute a conso- lation that would commend itself to that loving mother's heart for that of the woman who said, "Never mind the children." As well might she have told her not to mind the shortness of her breath, or the burning fever that was literally 60 INSIDE THE GATES. consuming her life. I said to her, by way of what I thought better counsel: "Dear woman, you must not expect that while you are rational you can or will lose your motherly interest in these three dear little girls. God has given them to you, and he has given you power to love them and care for them. He never means you to cease loving them while you exist, in this world or the next. You may sorrow greatly at the thought of parting with them, and you may pray your Heavenly Father to spare you to them, if it be his will; but you know that God is good, and if he takes you away it will be for some wise purpose, which you now can not see. ' Now we see through a glass darkly, then face to face : now we know in part, but then shall we know, even as also we are known.' You will love your children more even than you do now. Our Father may per- mit you to watch over them by day and by night, a guardian angel ever near. God does not expect you to lose all your rational affection for those who are so near to you. You and they alike are children of a common Heavenly Father; all are members of God's great family. They may be here, and you there; but you can surely trust them to the care of one so wise and good. " I then opened my Bible, and read SYMPATHY, TRUE AND FALSE. 6 1 the one hundred and third Psalm, which is so full of tenderness; and prayed for the mother, that she might be able to trust all to God, into whose care we should place all our in- terests. I have every reason to believe that poor dying woman was the better for my visit. She sajd before she died that, without loving the dear children any the less, she could resign them to the hands of her Father in heaven. When death came to my household, I learned something about human nature which I other- wise could not have known. God has various ways of schooling his children. There was one man in particular, whom I often met on the street, but to whom I had never spoken. I could never catch his eye long enough to even bow to him ; and among the things I dislike in this world is that of bowing to people in a friendly way, and getting nothing but a stare in return. But when one of my children was lying dead in its little casket, this same strange, weird sort of a man came to the house early one morning, bringing a beautiful bouquet of flowers, which he had gathered with his own hands. He did not look up at me as I opened the door; but, handing the flowers to me, he said, "Put them on the little casket for me." He then 62 INSIDE THE GATES. turned and walked rapidly away. .That was true sympathy, modestly and beautifully ex- pressed. Ever afterward I had a new feeling of interest in that strange man. I could readily excuse his singular manners, for he had proved himself to me at a time when small acts are appreciated. There were some who came and t6ok us by the hand, and scarcely spoke, or if they did it was only a few tender words, which were like precious balm laid upon the soul. There were some people, on the other hand, who seemed to think that the more they could harrow up every feeling of the heart the more good they were doing me. With characteristic officiousness they rushed in upon me, at times when perfect solitude, with my own thoughts, would have been more consonant with my feelings than their honest, perhaps, though unwise, efforts to impart consolation. By a persistent and endless system of interrogation, they would seek to in- form themselves as to the nature and cause of the disease, and were sure to remark that it was always very fatal. Such people are quite apt to remind you that you might have known your child would die — they always felt it was not long for this world. Then, in their opinion, Dr. B would have understood and managed SYMPATHY, TRUE AND FALSE. 63 the case much more successfully than Dr. C , whom you employed, and who always lost so many patients, and gave such strong medicine. They inquire about the symptoms, and why you did this or that. They carry you to the grave, and speak to you of the "dismal falling clod," and express their regret that the burying- ground is "such a watery place," closing their attempts at consolation by exhorting you m to "try and bear it, for it is the way of the world." It is hard to be deprived of one's friends — I had almost said it is harder to have one's privacy intruded upon by such miserable comforters. Genuine sympathy, like genuine piety, is usually quiet and undemonstrative; while either, put on for the occasion, is noisy and shallow. A stream of shallow water, only a few feet wide, makes more noise, as it flows along, than the Mississippi River. I received from time to time, after the death of a dear child, some very tender letters. I will insert a few brief extracts from some of them, hoping that they may comfort others as they did me. A brother minister wrote: ' ' We this evening received your note, break- ing to us the sad news of the death of your dear child. We sympathize with you in this 64 INSIDE THE GATES. your deep affliction. Even our children took a good cry when we told them they would never see their little playmate again. The news was so sudden and unexpected to us that we can scarcely realize it. Death has never yet, thanks to our Father, entered our home; and yet we can imagine something of your feelings in this your bereavement. What if it had been one of ours, whom we love so well? What if God had said, ' Restore your, trust; give me back my own?' What would be our feelings, and where would be our consolation? Could we say, from the heart, 'Thy will be done?' Could we indeed feel that 'of such is the kingdom of heaven?' And yet, is not this the bereaved parents' consolation, that the lost child is now a bright spirit, infinitely more happy, better cared for, better educated, enjoying a purer society than is possible to this earth-life? The flower is not blasted, only transplanted. 'She is not dead, but sleepeth,' are the words of Jesus, and they are offered to you, sorrowing ones. Such would be my consolation, were mine to go; such must be yours, now that your child has been taken. Think not of your dear one as being in the grave, but in heaven. Think of her as mingling with the spirit throng. Feel that, as never before, your hearts are bound to SYMPATHY, TRUE AND FALSE. 65 the throne of God. Remember that ' God doeth all things well.' " Another wrote: "The intelligence of the death of your dear child was as painful as it was unexpected to us. In your letter to us, a few days ago, you men- tioned her sickness, but you apprehended no danger. O, how uncertain is life ! I know you are sad. Your house is lonely enough. I need not exhort you to be resigned. . . . How cheering now must be the doctrine of the atone- ment and the- resurrection. To you, the fact that Jesus died for all must be a precious thought just now. The sinless child is saved, even beyond a peradventure. The atonement says, 'All is well;' the resurrection truth com- pels the grave to say to the weeping parent, ' I will restore/ You sorrow now, as you look upon your empty crib ; but think of the spirit- treasure you have laid up in heaven. How strong is the tie which binds your hearts to heaven ! Yours is now a dispensation of sorrow. By and by God will raise the curtain which hides the mortal from the immortal, and you will see over into the better land, and your sor- row will be turned into joy." I received very many such letters from my friends, filled with words. of comfort and instruc- 5 66 INSIDE THE GATES. tion ; and being so true, and so kindly tendered, they made me feel thankful for sympathy. And yet there was the same void, the same cry of the heart after its treasure. It is easy to say, "Be reconciled ;" but the poor bruised and bleeding heart can not forget its pain and loss so easily. Only time, that great healer, and the precious pity and love of God, can lift us above such mighty griefs. A dear sister wrote: "It is only the breaking of the casket; the jewel is untouched. . . . You have the consciousness of her safety, and the memory of her sweetness, which must hang in your sky like a vision of glory. . . . Never before did I realize what a long, dark shadow one little coffin would cast. But if it be true that roughest rinds fold over sweetest fruits, and heaviest clouds rain the most ample harvests on the fields, and if deepest griefs have holiest ministries, then shall we all be better because of this bereavement ' God's ways are past finding out;' we can only trust and wait. To the eye of faith the pearly gates stand open wide, and out of the beautiful heaven I imagine the voice calls to us all : ' Come to this happy land, Come, come away.' " SYMPATHY, TRUE AND FALSE. 67 This universal human sympathy does put rather a cheerful aspect on life, after all. It is the rainbow that arches grandly over the cloud of sorrow; it is the sweet aroma that comes after the crushing of the flower. The first time I rose in the pulpit after a death in my household, I felt strangely drawn toward the people. That sorrow seemed to be divine. I said, It is of God; I am a better and a wiser man than I should have been without this experience. I am glad I have friends in heaven, glad I have children in heaven, — " Spirits elect, through suffering rendered meet For those blest mansions : from the nursery-door Bright babes, that climb up with their shining feet Unto the golden floor. These are the messengers, forever wending From earth to heaven, that faith alone may scan; These are the angels of our God, descending Upon the Son of man." A dear friend sent us the following, from the pen of an unknown writer, which has in it so much of beauty and of truthfulness that it may do others good, as it did me: "In his moral tillage God cultivates many flowers, seemingly only for their exquisite beauty and fragrance; for when bathed in soft sunshine they have burst into blossom, then the divine hand gathers them from the earthly fields, 68 INSIDE THE GATES. to be kept in crystal vases in blessed mansions above. Thus little children lie — some in the sweet bud, some in fuller blossom; but never too early to make heaven fairer and sweeter with their immortal bloom. N " Verily, to the eye of faith nothing is fairer than the death of young children. Sight and sense indeed recoil from it. The flower that, like a breathing rose, filled heart and home with exquisite delight — alas ! we are stricken with sore anguish to find its stem broken and the blossom gone. But unto faith, eagle-eyed be- yond mental vision, and winged, to mount like the shining lark over the fading rainbow unto the blue heaven, even this is touchingly lovely. "The child's earthly ministry was well done; for the rose does its work as grandly in blossom as the vine with its fruit. And having helped to sanctify and lift heavenward the very hearts that broke at its farewell, it has gone from this troublesome sphere, ere the winds chilled or the rains stained it, leaving the world it blessed and the skies through which it passed still sweet with its lingering fragrance, to its glory as an ever- unfolding flower in the blessed garden of God. Surely, prolonged life on earth hath no boon like this. For such mortal loveliness to put on immortality; to rise from the carnal with so SYMPATHY, TRUE AND FALSE. 69 little memory of earth that the mother's cradle seemed to have been rocked in the house of 'many mansions;' to have no experience of a wearied mind and chilled affections, but from a child's arch-angelic intellect to be raptured as a blest bat>e through the gates of Paradise, — ah, this is better than to watch, as an old prophet, for the car of fire in the Valley of Jordan. "Surely God is wise in all his works; and even amid our tears will we rejoice, in this harvest-feast, that among us, as elsewhere, he gathers so largely 'the flowers in their season.' "And as of flowers, so of fruits in their order and after their kind, 'each cometh in his season.' Some fruits ripen early. Scarcely has the delicious June poured its full glory over the earth ere some rare and delicious species are already ripened. And some ripen later. There are trees that do not even blossom until mid- summer; there are fruits that remain hard and unsavory until God shakes them in the wild autumnal wind, and treats them with the dis- tressful ministry of frost. And so it is in the spiritual world — souls develop and mature dif- ferently. Some are ready for gathering at life's early Summer; some come not to the earing till the 'time of the latter rain.' And God yo INSIDE THE GATES. watches carefully that 'each shall come in his season.' We indeed talk of the ' untimely deaths' of young Christians, removed too early from spheres of usefulness, as if the omniscient husbandman did not know when his immortal grapes are purple, and his corn in the ear. Surely God does the whole thing wisely, gath- ering each spiritual growth just as it comes into condition for its immortal uses." O, thought beautiful and comforting. Death is not destruction, but harvesting: the gathering from fields of mortal tillage ripe fruits in their season. And why, then, should our harvest- feast be sad over garnered immortality? Why should the sweetly tolling bell, filling the trou- bled earthy airs with a gentle sound, so startle and appall the trustful spirit? God strengthen your faith so as to behold this mysterious thing in a light from heaven, that its dark veil shall seem transparent, and a face with soft eyes shall look forth, loving and bright as the face of an angel. No. Death is not destruction. Death is not even decay. Death is harvesting. Hear, ye parents, from whose households sweet children have been rudely parted, hear ye this: ''The beloved has gone down into his garden to gather lilies. " Ye children, who have lost revered SYMPATHY, TRUE AND FALSE. 71 parents, and whose life is chilled in the shadow of that dread " thing, orphanage, hear ye this : " As a shock of corn cometh in in his season, so shall matured souls be gathered in the garner of God." O yes; my dear children and yours are only transplanted flowers. In the Summer-land of immortality they bloom, never to fade. " Not lost! O no; not lost, nor dead. Immortals can not die ; They only quit their crumbling cage, For mansions in the sky. Beyond the reach of tears and pain, Where death hath lost its sting, Within the realms of endless day, They fold their weary wing." »pfr-Jt% ;< Light to thy path, bright creature ; I would charm Thy being, if I could, that it might be Ever as thou dreamest, and flow on, Thus innocent and blissful, to heaven. " " 'T is granted, and no plainer truth appears, Our most important are our earliest years ; The mind, impressible and soft with ease, Imbibes and copies what she hears and sees, And through life's labyrinth holds fast the clew That education gives her, false or true. Plants raised with tenderness are seldom strong; Man's coltish disposition asks the thong ; And without discipline the favored child, Like a neglected forester, runs wild." IV. «? sfe AM now going to ask. you to turn your thoughts from the child dead to the child living and moving about in this world. We need not forget the dear departed ones whom we have laid away in dreamless and unbroken sleep. Their memories are too precious to us ever to pass away from the recollection. But we know that our children dead are safe. Our children living are not free from danger, even with all the protection of parental love, and the hallowed influ- ences of home to shield them. The little child in your family may be pure and innocent to-day ; but, alas ! to-morrow the mark of sin may be on its soul, and as it grows up to manhood or womanhood it may be scarred all over with sin. 75 76 INSIDE THE GATES. I have somewhere read of a famed artist, who in his youth conceived the idea of painting a picture of innocence. He therefore went to to the nursery, and made a sketch of a little child at its mother's knee in the attitude of prayer. It was a beautiful conception ; and he wrought out the picture and placed it on the walls of his studio, and called it " Innocence/ ' The years passed by, and the artist grew to be old; but ere he would put away his brush and pallet forever he desired to paint a picture of guilt. Then he went, not to the nursery, but to the prison; and there, on the floor of a gloomy cell, lay a wretched man in chains. His eyes glared, and he cursed all who came near him. The artist made his cartoon, wrought out his picture, and hung it beside the beautiful picture of "Innocence." So "Innocence" and "Guilt" hung side by side— the one in all its purity and sweetness, the other loathsome in its moral deformity. The legend affirms that they were paintings of the same person. The guilty wretch on the prison-floor in chains was once the innocent and beautiful child of the nursery repeating his evening prayer with uplifted hands, differentiated by time and sin. And so it is: the child in your home to-day, pure and sweet as an angel, may be in the years child-life. yy to come the wayward boy or girl — yes, the guilty criminal in the prison-cell. These are startling possibilities, and should move us to mighty exertions to rescue the innocent one from its possible perils. I am a firm believer in the possibility of saving- all, or nearly all, of the children. I say nearly all; for I have known spme parents who were so judicious, good, and true, and yet whose children grew up so wayward and wicked, that I can not say all. There seem to be some cases of such entire moral perversion that one gets a very strong argument from them in sup- port of the doctrine of total depravity. Then, I say nearly all — at least vastly more than are saved. Let me now inquire, what is a child? If we may get the answer from the way so many people treat their children, then a child is a little living being who has by some means stum- bled into existence. A being with a pair of feet to run in all sorts of paths, according to its own will; a being with a pair of hands to work good or evil, as it pleases ; a being with a pair of eyes to see whatever sights come in its way, taking note many times of the inconsistencies of its elders; a pair of ears that gather up the sounds that fall upon them, flashing their im- 78 INSIDE THE GATES. pressions home to the heart; a being for years subject to the will or caprices of its elders, whose influence may cause it to grow up to the perfection of manhood or womanly virtue, or which may burrow its way into the earth, and become earthly, sensual, devilish. At the very basis of all education, moral and intellectual, there must be a proper understand- ing of child-nature, or child-life. Our business, as parents and teachers, is to take the child as it is, and shape its being. A child, then, is an ungrown, undeveloped man or woman. Let me illustrate : The little tree in your garden is only a couple of feet in height; it is held in the earth by only a few small and tender rootlets; its bark is thin and delicate; its branches are easily bent or broken. The winds could easily push it over, or a passing cart-wheel crush it. And yet our little tree is perfect in all its parts, from root to topmost branch. But it can not endure what the old tree, with rugged limb and deep root, can bear easily. You know this, and accordingly you guard that tree most carefully by an inclosure of some kind. You cover the earth about the roots with compost, to enrich the soil, thus at the same time protecting them from Winter's frosts and Summer's heat as well. You watch it, and think about it, and look CHILD-LIFE. 79 forward to the time when it will be full-grown, beautiful, and fruitful. Sometimes the very young tree is gnarled and crooked. What now does the careful nur seryman do? Does he cast it aside to be burned? Or does he gather all the gnarled and crooked trees together and make an orchard of them, unsightly and useless? No. He takes the little tree and prunes it; he straightens the crooked places, scrapes off the diseased parts, takes special care of it, supports its tender stem and weak branches, with intelligent refer- ence to the nature of the tree. By and by it becomes fully grown, and by its beauty and symmetry amply repays the husbandman for all the care he has bestowed upon it. Like the little tree in the garden, the child in the family is very tender and susceptible. It is not very deep-rooted, as the thousands of little graves scattered over all the world abun- dantly attest. These little moral trees are very easily pushed over by the winds of disease or the wheels of harsh treatment and neglect. They are sensitive, the bark is easily abraded, the branches are readily bent, their powers of endurance are comparatively small; so they must be watched and protected, and receive the most constant and intelligent care. 8o INSIDE THE GATES. But there are some gnarled and crooked children in this moral garden. What, I ask, is our duty toward them? Shall they be per- mitted to grow up in their perversity, dwarfed souls, a blot upon the age in which they live? Why not do with them as the gardener does with the little trees under his care? It is cer- tain, however, that with the tree much depends upon the soil in which it is planted. It is equally true that much depends upon the home where the child-tree has taken root, and is destined to grow up. I think, if you will carefully study the child, you will find that it possesses all the faculties of the full-grown man or woman. You will discover there memory, will, and judgment, though with less of strength than the adult possesses. The strongest of the three is usually the will; and it should be strong in child or adult, for it is the motive-power of being. .All it needs is proper education. A weak engine in a ship would be no more deplorable than a weak will in a child. It is no disparagement if your child has a strong will; only train it. That willy in after-life, may carry its possessor over difficulties that otherwise would be insurmount- able, and away from temptations that might prove damning. CHILD-LIFE. 8 1 Again, the child soon shows that it has the power of perception. The first time it opens its eyes it perceives something, and receives an impression. Then it begins to conceive ideas. Thought comes to its mind through the eye and ear. Thought is to the child's mind what food is to the stomach. The one stimulates the digestive organs, the other the mind's organs. These mental powers act on the thought, and new ideas are brain-born; ideas of relation, which come not of the senses. The child is a thinker, a reasoner, almost as soon as it begins to live. 11 Thoughts upon thoughts, a countless throng, Rush, bearing countless thoughts along." The child grows to manhood as the years go by, and these thoughts become the principles and theories of the man — "the child is father of the man" — thoughts which rule empires, giving joy or sorrow to millions of mankind. Furthermore, the child has a conscience, and it is naturally disposed to be religious. This moral determinative faculty is part and parcel of our nature. The child is therefore a perfect being as it comes from the hand of its Creator. It is a miniature man or woman. I have in my microscopical collection many pictures which are so infinitesimal that they are invisible to 82 INSIDE THE GATES. the unassisted eye ; but under the glass they are perfect and beautiful. Look at the child. It is little, almost nothing, in the estimation of many ; but turn on it the glass of the Gospel, and it rises up into beautiful and perfect proportions. "Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. " Such is the estimate which Jesus places upon the little child. The child is an imaginative being. Its little life is largely one of fancy. It plays school and visit ; it converts a chair into a table, a chip into , a dish, the window-sill into a piano, and a bunch of rags into a doll. It holds conversa- tions with unseen companions, it assumes gov- ernment over them, and in a thousand ways contrives to keep itself busy. Thus all these infantile activities are but the first outgoings of manhood and womanhood, the beginnings of real life. The child's mind is also susceptible to all kinds of impressions. It has been compared to a clean sheet of paper to be written upon. And O, how sadly is the page spoiled sometimes by un- skillful hands, and what fearful blots often mar and disfigure a whole life! Childhood is the time when the character is most easily warped or molded. It is then that the greatest acquire- CHILD-LIFE. 83 » ments of the whole life are made. The first five or six years of every child's life are the most important of its whole being. Hence, we see the demand for wise and careful training — that which includes patience, forbearance, and love. Character of the better kind is of slow growth ; but its beginning is in infancy. Pre- cocity is to be dreaded. Too much brilliancy may soon go out in an eclipse. Bear with the little struggling soul. Help, with a smile and a kind word, the little pilgrim in its journey. Do not make the mistake of expecting that the little tender mind will go at one full bound up to the heights where you now stand. That summit is gained only step by step. But I must again refer to my tree. A little tree in the garden may be very easily warped. That which was trim and beautiful may become crooked, and if left to grow up in that condition will be deformed through its whole life. Nature has her laws and penalties, and they will be respected. The crimes of a boy may be the moral ruin of the man. We write our own histories, and preach our own funeral sermons. "The rolling rock leaves its scratches on the mountain, the river its channel in the soil, the animal its bones in the stratum of rock, the fern and leaf their modest epitaphs in the coal. 84 INSIDE THE GATES. The falling drop makes its sculpture in the sand or the stone. Not a foot steps into the snow, or along the ground, but prints in characters more or less lasting a map of its march. Every act of the man inscribes itself on the memories of his fellows, as well as in his own face. The air is full of sounds, the sky of tokens; the ground is all memoranda and signatures, and every object is covered over with hints which speak to the intelligent." Little Things. Not less surely do little things in a child's life influence its future. A blow undeserved, a cold turning away from its childish questions, a want of sympathy in its troubles, may send it away into solitude and grief with a wonder in its mind what life means, and for what purpose it was created. A child's trouble is not a small thing to its sensitive soul. It comes to you with tearful eyes, and a heart throbbing with distress, because of some little hurt, or the loss of a penny, or the breaking of a cherished toy. It is indeed a trifling thing to you, the mature man or woman; but to the little one it is an appalling disaster, a grief that beclouds the young soul, and hangs a dark curtain before the brightness of future days. And yet, because it CHILD-LIFE. 85 is so trifling an affair to you, you turn coldly away from the little grieved soul, to whom the sorrow seems intolerable. O, remember that the dear children need sympathy, just as much as you do when great waves of anguish sweep over your soul; and when the sympathy of friends comes into your heart it is balm to the wounds and healing to the sorrows. I have somewhere read a story, in which is a lesson of value to parents and teachers. One of the Roman kings, in pursuing some of his military schemes, had occasion to cross the Adriatic Sea. No other opportunity occurring, he hired a simple boatman to row him across. In the midst of the sea a storm arose, and the boatman was alarmed, and relaxed his efforts. But the future emperor of Rome cried out, 11 Courage, my man, courage! you carry Caesar and his fortunes." O father, mother, teacher in the Sunday or day school, do you ever yield to discourage- ments because of the obstacles that surround you? Do not forget that in the mind of your child or pupil there is more than the fortunes of Caesar. That little spirit is destined to live on and on, through all the years of God ! Your hand and voice are giving direction to a soul which is to outlast twinkling star or blazing 86 INSIDE THE GATES. sun. The mother molds the child; her hand shapes its destiny. " Like wax, she can mold it in the form she will; What she writes on the tablet remains there still. And an angel's work is not more high Than aiding to form one's destiny." The great mistake of the world has been that the child has been too much overlooked and undervalued. There is a strong tendency in human nature generally to overlook little things, forgetting that law of the universe, that great things are made up of these. The grass, which carpets the earth in beauty, does not come forth in a moment by some fiat of the Creator; but it rises to the surface as gently as the com- ing of the morning — it comes up, blade by blade, till the hill-tops grow green in the soft Spring air, and the meadow smiles in verdant beauty. The rain, by which God brings the harvest, does not fall in a deluge upon the the thirsty ground; but drop by drop it comes on the mountain and valley, till the dry land becomes a pool, and in the desert there are springs of water. The great mountains, whose summits arrest the clouds in their course, have been built up grain by grain, and rock by rock, O, these little things ! The nerve in the tooth, which is almost microscopic in its minuteness, CHILD-LIFE. 87 can yet cause your whole body to quiver with pain. So the mind of the child expands, little by little. Day added to day makes up life, pulse-throb by pulse-throb, we reach our three- score years and ten. Patience. The little child needs your patient care. Patience is one of the cardinal virtues of the household, and your little blue-eyed boy has been sent down to develop in you that virtue. The little fellow annoys you sometimes by his efforts to "live and learn." He wants to know what this strange world means, what it is for, and how to manage it. It looks pretty large in his little eyes ; but there is a feeling in his baby-breast that he is equal to the emergency, and if he can have fair play he will master the situation, or die in the attempt. He does not mean to torment you, weary mother, but he does, or you make torment out of it; just as Christian people sometimes convert mere trials over into temptations, and that which God meant as a blessing becomes a curse. No; he does not even mean to try you. It is his way, that is all. He wakes you up before daybreak by jumping and frolicking; he wants to be dressed, and ready for business. He is afraid 88 INSIDE THE GATES. the world will not go on right unless he looks after things himself. He thinks every thing in the universe was made for him, and he is about right. He wants something to eat, and can not wait very patiently for the clock hands to get round to a certain mark on the dial- plate; and then, before grace is half said, he utters an emphatic "Amen," to hurry up mat- ters. He gets his hands into the batter, and then wipes then! on his bib or your dress, whichever is most convenient. Your head aches, but his does not; and he is so hungry! He eats, and then starts out contentedly on a voyage of discovery. He finds your work- basket, which to him is a perfect curiosity-shop. He pushes your needles away down into the cushion, where neither he nor you can find them. He is studying the interior of the thing, taking his first lesson in geology. He unwinds your spools, and gets tangled in the threads. These tangled threads may be a prophecy of his future calling, when, as some great and learned divine, he may be called upon to unravel the tangled threads of theology. There are the the sharp, bright scissors, which he drops down into the register, greatly delighted to hear them go rattling away down the tin pipes. Your thimble he throws out of the window; the CHILD-LIFE. 89 button-box he empties on the floor, and get- ting down among them, fills his hands with the curious things, and wonders and wonders where they all came from, and who was so good as to make all these things for his amusement. All this is trying to the mother's patience; but it is just the way the dear boy learns that a woman's work-basket generally has in it only a few select articles, and that they lie there in the most orderly manner! This is the process by which he learns that the inside of a pin- cushion is usually full of needles ! and that every body, even a mischievous child, may get tangled with the affairs of this world sometimes. He learns in this way that the register-pipe is a good receptacle for scissors; for then he knows just where they are, and it will not be necessary for mamma to hunt a whole forenoon for them. When he threw the thimble out of the window and saw it roll away, he got his first lesson in distance and gravitation; while the button- box could only serve to impress him with the simplicity of the age into which he is happily born; He must be active every moment, when he is awake. If he does not obey this dictum of his nature he will die, or lapse into idiocy. 9<3 INSIDE THE GATES. Now, you have three things to do. Study his nature, direct his activities into the right chan- nel, and bear with him. Some one has said: "If you put your child into a room full of ordinary matters, and do not give him an abundant supply of things which are his own, you need no more marvel that he should be mischievously busy, in touching what he ought not, than that he should eat what he ought not, when he is hungry, and you put him where he can get only improper viands." Let the dear boy die, and then, as you look back upon his young life, you will wonder that you were ever impatient. Could you have him back again, to press once more to your heart, you would willingly suffer any thing for his sake. But he is gone, and, a bright cherub, he is safe inside the gates of heaven. " Sweet, laughing child! The cottage-door Stands free and open now; But O, its sunshine gilds no more The gladness of thy brow. Thy merry step hath passed away ; Thy laughing sport is hushed for aye. Thy mother by the fireside sits, And listens for thy call; And slowly, slowly, as she knits, Her quiet tear-drops fall. Her little hindering thing is gone, And undisturbed she may work on." CHILD-LIFE. 91 Courage. People often seem to forget that children are timid. Some are more so than others, it is true. The child is generally conscious of its weakness and need of support. But the mis- take is often made of driving the little one to obedience by exciting its fears, telling it stories of ' l ghosts " and 4 ' hobgoblins ' ' and ' ' black- man.'' Charles Lamb puts on record the testi- mony that his whole life was marred by the foolish stories told him about ghosts and witches when he was a child. He says: "The nirfit- time solitude and the dark were my hell. I never laid my head on my pillow, I suppose, from the fourth to the seventh year of my age, so far as my memory serves things so long ago, without an assurance which realized its own prophecy of seeing some frightful specter.'' A similar experience had Jean Paul Richter. "From hearing ghost-stories around the fire- side," he says, "I went to bed, and lay with my head under the bedclothes, in a cold agony of fear of ghosts, and saw in the darkness the lightning from the cloudy heaven of spirits, and it seemed to me that man himself was spun round by spirit-worms." Fear may be pushed so far in the mind of 92 INSIDE THE GATES. a child as to unsettle reason, and drive it into idiocy. The wild shriek may be prolonged through all the years of its life. An eminent writer says: "Fear enfeebles and distorts the understanding more than all the other emotions of the mind; but terror, which is sudden or in- tensified fear, for the time paralyzes the under- standing, and may even annihilate it altogether. One shock of terror may produce a state of mind which is ever afterward susceptible of the same agony; and from such a time fear is never absent." It is a sad spectacle, in either the school or family, to see a timid child tormented with threats of punishment. And yet it is no un- common thing for the little, bashful, distrustful child to be called up to recite a lesson, or do some other duty, and for it to be so overcome with a dread fear of the rod that its little frame will be shaken with nervous tremors. When children are timid, their fears must be dealt with in a cheerful manner. The child needs assurance, which comes from without and is based on experience. We protect our young trees from the winds by proper supports; but the tender children of our households are ex- pected to grow up against innumerable odds, and come out safely at last. O, if people only CHILD-LIFE. 93 understood the children, what sin and wretched- ness this world might be spared! The very best remedy for timidity in the child's mind is knowledge. Ignorant people are generally cowardly, because they are super- stitious. To cure your boy of " being afraid in the dark," do not put hickory on his back, but put knowledge into his head. A good book on science or history will infuse more courage of the genuine sort into a boy's mind than all the rattans in the world. Then there is the detestable practice of scolding, which is quite too common. You may as well expect to improve the growth of a rose-bush by throwing stones at it as to bring up a child properly under the influence of a scolding tongue. If you want your children to be disregardful of what you say, just open your mouth like a hydrant, and let a stream of scold- ing run on their ears continually. The very best way to irritate the nerves, sour the temper, and make your child thoroughly hate home and you, is to scold it frequently; the surest way to make it bad is to scold it. We should talk to our children, and thus cultivate their reasoning powers. Thus may we make them an orna- ment to us, and a blessing to the world. Mothers, I speak to you particularly; for the 94 INSIDE THE GATES. destiny of the child is largely in your hands. Richter says, "Miserable indeed is the man for whom his own mother has not made all other mothers venerable." Your life should be such that in after years your child can point to no word or act not becoming the relation you sustain. Thus will your memory be most precious. " O heart, that fainteth underneath thy load Of toil and care, along life's rugged road, List to the gentle music, soft and sweet, The music of the restless pattering feet. 5 T is thine to lead them into pathways bright, *T is thine to guide the little feet aright : So let thy weary heart find sweet repose, Thy toil and anxious care the Father knows." There is nothing on earth so beautiful as the household on which love forever smiles, and where religion walks, a counselor and friend. No cloud can darken it; for its twin stars are centered in the soul. No storm can make it tremble; for it has a heavenly support and a heavenly anchorage. The home circle that is surrounded by such influences comes nearest the joys of heaven of any in this world. If the mother has the responsibility, hers is also the deep joy of maternity, the bliss of giving to the world an immortal. Children ! They are a sacred happiness. CHILD-LIFE. 95 What gentle influences they shed! Their un- conscious smiles and sweet tenderness have won many a soul from sin, and cheered many a despairing heart in life's rough journey. The only bright spot in the life of many a miserable, neglected, and ill-treated wife is her child. Its sweet presence is a daily benediction on her heart. The cloud that settles about her dwell- ing is spanned by this one beautiful rainbow. On that otherwise darkened soul this watch- light ever burns.; and they who would tear from a mother's throbbing breast the child of her love commit by that act a horrid blasphemy against nature, and do violence to God's own decrees, by lifting away from that heart the consecrated instruments of its power. Then make your child's life bright and joyous; consecrate it to the service of God, and ever give it the stimulus of a noble and pure example. >ph-§uHuip t " I SAW a tiny plant, in tender green, Grow, leaf by leaf, till, robed in velvet sheen, From out its heart there burst a blossom fair, That shed its fragrance on the Summer air. I saw a child, that by its mother knelt, And prayed, 'Our Father.' Then and there it felt The precious kindlings of a mighty love, That drew its dawning infant thoughts above. And one by one they went, the golden years; The mother's spirit fled to radiant spheres; But, with glad banner of the Cross unfurled, Her child went forth a man, to bless the world." CJl^ild- dulttufe. F the child is, what I have stated it cJLf to be in the preceding chapter, an embodiment of all the affections and powers of the adult, existing in an unde- veloped, but developing, stage, character- ized by tenderness, sensitiveness, impress- ibility, then the question of its culture is one easily solved. It is the simplest problem before the mind of the Christian world this day. I admit there is more to do in the training of a child than in the training of the little tree in the garden. The tree is pass- ive in your hands — the child is active. But then the tree, on the other hand, can do noth- ing for itself — the child can do so much. The tree is shaped by the laws of vegetable life, has no will — no conscience. The child has a 99 A 100 INSIDE THE GATES. life of its own, and this life is exhibited in its will and its conscience. But, I say, the question of child-culture is a simple one. I do not mean by this that the child is simple. I should say, rather, its psy- chological organism is complex, but simple in a sense, because it can be understood by us; for we ourselves have been children, and know of the thoughts and feelings of childhood by our own experience. The most complex piece of machinery may be very simple to the practical mechanic, because he has studied its mechan- ism, though very complex to others. Each plant in the greenhouse, while obeying the general laws of vegetable growth, yet has a nature pecul- iar to itself, and needs care and culture accord- ingly. So must every individual child be studied. For example: some children need to be held back; their brains are too active, the nervous force is expended too rapidly. The brain liter- ally consumes the body. Send such a child off into the country, away into quiet, and let its brain rest and its body grow strong. Take a plant out of the greenhouse into the field, and in less than a week it will begin to put on a different kind of growth and verdure. And what is true of a plant is equally true of a child. Take one of your sickly girls from the CHILD-CULTURE. 101 crowded city in August, and let her climb the hills and roam through the valleys, and she will soon become as sprightly as a deer, and as fresh and rosy as June. Some one has said that a dose of good country air is better than all the medicines in the world. The characteristic of another child is its acute sensitiveness. It will droop under a sharp word, like a delicate plant before a blazing fire. Another child is obstinate, and will be satisfied only w r hen carrying out its own will. Some children are naturally frolicsome. They go bounding about like rubber-balls, upsetting some things and breaking others, and teasing every body with whom th£y come in contact. Then there are the dull children, whose minds expand slowly. But give them time, and deal with them carefully — the mind that unfolds slowly may yet open and be brilliant. We are told in classic story of one Herodes, who, to overcome the extraordinary dullness of his son Atticus, educated along with him twenty-four little slaves of his own age, upon whom he bestowed the names of the Greek letters, so that young Atticus might be compelled to learn the alphabet as he played with his comrades. But all children are not really dull who may seem to be so. The mind machinery is all 102 INSIDE THE GATES. there, but in partial repose. And then, again, there is often a sub-current in the mind, not obvious to the gaze of the world: " The wealth of the ocean lies fathoms below The surface that sparkles above." But what if your child does seem to be dull ? I have seen it stated that Sir Isaac Newton, whose name is associated with the constella- tions, the discoverer of gravitation, was a dull boy. Sheridan, the orator and statesman, was pronounced by his teachers an " incorrigible dunce." His mother — and a* mother generally looks upon her child with a feeling of charity — said he was "the most stupid of all her sons." Goldsmith, Shakespeare, Gibbon, and Dryden were all of them of an inferior standard of intel- ligence in their boyhood. When Berzelius, the great Swedish chemist, left the preparatory school for the university, he went bearing the credentials, "Indifferent in behavior, and of doubtful hope;" and when he was nineteen years old he was taunted by his classmates with the question whether he understood the differ- ence between a laboratory and a kitchen. Sir Walter Scott had the unenviable reputation of owning the thickest skull in the school which he attended when a child. Milton and Swift CHILD-CULTURE. 1 03 • are said to have been dull boys. The celebrated divines, Scott and Clarke, who have won fame the world over for their learned commentaries on the Scriptures, were pronounced positively stupid in their youth, and were looked upon by their parents with but little hope for the future. The fireside is the child's first seminary, and is of infinite importance in its life. It is the universal school of infancy; and the education there received is woven in with the very woof of its being, and gives form and color to the texture of its whole after-life. And, furthermore, you can not tell just what your dear child may become. With what an utter disregard of what the world calls wealth, or position in society, our Heavenly Father scatters the priceless gifts of genius among his children! The great poet or preacher, the illustrious statesman or scientist, senator or President, is as likely to go forth from the humble dwelling of the day-laborer across the way as from the princely palaces of wealth and fashion. He who shall wear upon his brow a nation's honors, he whose voice shall hold and sway tens of thou- sands of his kind, may this day be unconsciously digging in some field, unnoticed and unknown by the great world. In your own quiet and simple home, in your Sunday-school class, dear teacher. 104 INSIDE THE GATES. is some little boy, who may one day be a great and powerful man, whose words and deeds shall affect the destiny of millions of his race. Mother, teacher, is there any stimulus to your heart in that thought? But that is not all. I do not approve of telling boys in the Sunday-school that they should be wise and good, for some of them may be called to positions of honor, such as Gov- ernor or President. This is a deplorable mis- take. There are higher inducements than that to be good. Teach the boy to be a wise and good man, whether it be stone-mason, merchant, President, or any thing else. " Honor and shame from no condition rise; Act well your part — there all the honor lies." The real object of our education is to give the young mind resources that will endure as long as life endures, to establish habits of thought and action that will run through its whole being. Education that will render sick- ness tolerable, solitude pleasant, and life itself dignified and useful, is the kind to be sought. No other culture is in accordance with the na- ture and demands of human existence. The education of the ball-room, "the last new novel" — the world, in short — will not do this, CHILD-CULTURE. 105 because it does not meet the inevitable facts in the life of man. In all religious training, the child should ever be taught the difference between a mere out- ward form of goodness and the genuine thing itself. A child that hears its mother tell her callers she is so glad to see them, and then, when they are well out of the gate, hears her say that she was annoyed with them; the boy who hears his father boast of how he took advan- tage of a neighbor in a bargain; children who hear their parents tell in prayer-meeting how much they love God, and then never hear a word addressed to him in prayer, or about him in conversation, at home, from one week to an- other — who in meeting talk of going to heaven, and then all through the week plunge deeper and deeper into the world, — such children have but little to encourage them in the development of real heart -goodness. That they perceive these inconsistencies, when they exist, is very certain. Real goodness is in the heart, or it has no substance. It can not be counterfeited success- fully. The culture of the little child must em- brace this. It must be taught to be unselfish, generous, self-sacrificing, not for the purpose of winning applause, but because it is right to be 106 INSIDE THE GATES. so. I am reminded of an Oriental tale, told by Lord Bacon, where a cat was changed into a lady, and behaved very lady-like, until a mouse ran through the room, when she sprang down upon her hands and chased it. So with chil- dren; if their goodness is only an outward thing, when temptations come they will down and follow them. Give them right notions and sound principles, and they will be firm. In after-life the waves of affliction or sin may beat around them, but they will stand serene amid them all, " Firm as the surge-repelling rock." It must be remembered that parental love does not preclude correction. The tenderest love may find expression in the rod — the rod as a last resort, however. The parent who will allow a child to drift off into wrong, without correction, is doing an injury which time can not repair. "Whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. ,, The child that the parent truly loves should be corrected, if correction is needed. Government is an absolute necessity, and no family should be allowed to grow up in disregard of it. The young mind must be taught law and order as a first requisite. Let the child be left unrestrained, undisci- CHILD-CULTURE. 107 plined, and yet be surrounded by all manner of inducements to bad living. Let it grow up thus, fall into evil ways, commit criminal acts, and in process of time land in jail, then our concern for it begins; then we begin to talk about its training and discipline. But it is too late. The habits have become fixed, the char- acter is formed, the criminal has been made, and reform is now at least doubtful. A man can not live his life backward. O, this letting a child get well under way toward absolute ruin before you take any decided steps to bring him up right! There is where so many fail. Many a parent has cried out, in bitterness of soul, "O, that I had begun earlier!" Then, I say, begin earlier to shape the young tree in your nursery into usefulness and beauty. Remember that every day which passes by ren- ders the chances of success less and less. Life can not be unlived, nor can habits once formed be easily uprooted. ;< Too late ! The curse of life ! Could we but rend The thoughts that ever bleed, How oft are found, Engraven deep, those words of saddest sound, Curse of our mortal State; Too late ! Too late !" "Father," said an Indian chief to a mission- ary who had come among them, "You will find 108 INSIDE THE GATES. among us many old men, like myself, whose opinions are too confirmed to be changed. They will assent to almost any view you may advance ; but, when done, will remain unchanged at heart. Do not waste your time on such. But here are our children. Their minds are young and tender, and will receive any impres- sion you may wish to make upon them. Take them, and raise them as you think best." Dear parent, that bright-eyed boy, on whom you are bestowing your affections and lavishing your money, may either be a blessing or a curse to the world. He will be true or false; an honest man, moral, upright, and good, or given over to vice and its resulting degradation. Your sweet girl may *be wrapped about with the beautiful mantle of innocence and virtue; or, vicious and depraved, will realize from whence she has fallen, and then her words may be : " Once I was pure as the snow; but I fell, Fell like the snow-flakes, from heaven to hell ; Fell, to he trampled as filth of the street; Fell, to be scoffed, to be spit on, and beat ; Pleading, cursing, dreading to die, Selling my soul to whoever would buy, Dealing in shame for a morsel of bread ; Hating the living, and fearing the dead. Merciful God ! Have I fallen so low ? And yet I was once like the beautiful snow." CHILD-CULTURE. IO9 Which of these shall be the fate of your child ? Time alone can. give the answer. This I do know, however: much depends upon the early training you bestow. These little be- ginnings of wrong in our children must be watched most carefully : for on them depends all the great future of their lives. The displacement of a little iron bolt no larger than your thumb may wreck a train of cars, and hang crape on a hundred doors. So a word spoken to your child at a proper time, and in a right manner, may save it from ruin of soul and body in after years. A child starts from its mother's door and takes a few steps along the busy street, noticing the many objects which attract its attention, until it falls into the drifting current of human- ity, and, borne onward, is soon lost to its home and its mother. It was charmed into forgetful- ness by the many strange and beautiful sights which met its gaze, and the many sounds that fell on its ear. Thus many a youth ventures away from the home of virtue, out into the world of evil, and soon finds himself charmed and bewildered with enchanting scenes, crowded forward amid the bustling throng of humanity, with the certain doom of God's judgment hanging over him. I IO INSIDE THE GATES. These, when once fully embarked in their downward career, are forever clamoring to be let alone — they do not wish to be interrupted in their course of folly. "There is a way which seemeth right unto them, but the end thereof are the ways of death/ ' Lay your hand gently on the shoulder of that thoughtless young man, and that equally thoughtless young woman, in the ball-room; say to them, "This is but a flowery path to ruin;" and they will often turn upon you with the bitterest invective; they will charge you with interfering with their private rights. The way they have chosen "seemeth right unto them." Go into yonder gilded saloon, and speak to that young man, as he raises the glass to his lips, and whisper to him: "Look not upon the wine when it is red;" "Touch not, taste not, handle not;" and he will be likely to revile you, and call .you a bigot and a meddlesome body. Go, stand at the door of the play-house, where are congregated the real pleasure-loving; tell them, as they enter, that their course is wrong, and that time thus spent is worse than wasted, and they will laugh you to scorn, and call you a fool. Go, place yourself by that dark passage-way, CHILD-CULTURE. 1 1 1 that carries a multitude down into the cellar, where all the night long the dice clatter and the cards are shuffled and the hard earnings are wasted. Tell these men they are going straight to destruction, and then beseech them, with the utmost tenderness, to turn away from the haunts of vice and come to the house of prayer, and they may heap curses on you. Not all will do this. Some will be touched, and can be thus won, even from the lowest degradation into which sin has plunged them. " Some word may lift the shadow from the past, So long by sin and bitter shame o'ercast, And show in early life some sunny spot Where still a mother's prayers are imforgot." But the cry of the amusement-loving world is, "Let us alone." God's prophets, in the olden times, were always a trouble to evil-doers. None are so blind as those whom sin hath blinded. The wandering child is lost because it moves on thoughtlessly with the crowd, — so our young men and women press onward with the multi- tude whose feet are swift to destruction. It is always safe for us to make the certain- ties of life govern the uncertainties. We ought to prepare for w r hat we know it will be our lot to pass through. While we can imagine a 112 INSIDE THE GATES. thousand things which may or may not happen in our lives, there are yet some things which must occur. We must die. No one pleads ignorance of this. Therefore, in view of death, how ought we to live? If you were doomed to die next week, and your child were standing by your side, to receive words of counsel that should govern and shape its future life, would you advise that child to follow a course of crime? Surely, you would not. Would you, then, advise it to engage in. whatever in your judgment would lead to crime? Most assuredly not. You would not admonish it to be miserly or selfish, for these would make it unhappy. If, then, theater-going, dancing, card-playing, and the like, are allurements to crime, is it safe in any case to encourage them? And who denies that these things do lead to vice ? There is not one who reads this, who would not most solemnly counsel prayer, faith in God, holiness, and all other gifts and graces which are taught in Holy Writ. It is proper here for me to allude to a com- mon sin, that of gambling. There are some games that do not lead to gambling, while others do. I mention it, because your child must meet the temptation, sooner or later. Gambling does not often begin in the professional hall. CHILD-CULTURE. 1 1 3 Its beginning is in the misapprehension of a moral principle. It is said that all error is per- verted truth. So the innocent sport of child- hood may be carried over to the side of wrong. Let two boys of tender years, in their playful mood, win from each other marbles in their game. Your brave boy, flushed with his vic- tory, comes home to tell you of it. You take no notice of it, or you dismiss it from your mind as only a boyish prank, quite indicative of his skill and smartness. Suppose that boy had come home and shown you a penny, which he had stolen from a play- mate or from some one's money-drawer — only a penny I but how shocked your feelings would be ! You would weep over him bitter tears, quite as bitter as though he had stolen a larger sum ; for the amount of property involved is not the question in your mind, but the fact simply that your child has been guilty of theft. Now, these boys are soon to be men, and they are even now laying the foundations of their future manhood, "The child is father of the man." The seed of morality or immorality is being sown in the heart-soil, and out of the heart proceed the issues of life. Then, these playful children are learning a lesson of wrong; for it is as wrong to gamble 1 14 INSIDE THE GATES. on a small scale as on a large one; it is as wrong for a boy to win a marble, and keep it as property acquired in the game, as for the professional gambler to fleece his verdant victim out of a thousand dollars at a faro-bank. It is the principle, not the quantity of property, with which we have to do. I have known Christian people to defend these simple winnings because of their littleness, not seeing how easy it is to warp the moral judgment of childhood, blunt its moral sensibilities, and lay the foundations of moral ruin, by thus giving it an impetus in the direction of professional gambling, starting the soul on a career that may end in a prison- cell or on the gallows. At the very threshold of your child's life, teach it moral principle; for this determines its usefulness and happiness in after-life. . " A pebble in the streamlet scant Has changed the course of many a river ; The dew-drop on the baby-plant Has warped the giant oak forever." Two young men sit down to a game of cards, to while away the evening hours. At first they do not bet; but soon the interest flags. They then playfully wager a supper, or a sleigh-ride, or a bottle of wine, or something else. This seems quite innocent to them; but they have CHILD-CULTURE. 1 1 5 now started on the road to ruin. First, a so- called innocent game, then a simple bet, then more earnest playing and deeper betting, con- tinued from evening to evening, from week to week, and month to month. Do they lose? it only makes them the more determined to win in the next game, and they play on. Winning stimulates the desire to win more, and gain larger sums. The morals are now fast degener- ating; the sense of right is becoming extinct. Conscience is being "seared over, as with a hot iron/' The hours which should be spent in the company of the good, in reading books that enrich the mind with thought, or in peace- ful slumbers are devoted to the card-table and its kindred evils. Many a young man has squandered the money of an employer, and gone to ruin, through the enticements of the gambling-table. A young man loses in this process, and becomes maddened, and then drinks to obliterate the sad recollections, and again plunges into vice, until character and all he should hold dear lie in hopeless ruin. You may see him in the prison, as he paces the narrow limits of his cell. The memory of all the past crowds upon his mind ; visions of other days are before him, when he was respected, loved, and honored. He looks 1 1 6 INSIDE THE GATES. wildly at you. Ask him the cause, he will tell you, the card-table, the wine-cup, and a lack of proper discipline in his childhood — these have sent him down. But there is a young woman, the pride of some cheerful home, in whose face is the light of hope, and in whose step is the buoyancy of youth. She wins, by her purity and grace, some noble young man, whose life, like her own, is full of promise. The spell of love comes over them, and locks their two hearts into one. They enter upon life's journey, hand in hand. If they are careful, they may avoid the quicksands and dangerous places; but if not, their way will soon turn from the enchanted ground, where all is beauty and joy, to the deserts, where the air is heavy with poisonous vapors, and the deep caverns and fearful steeps make life a hard and joyless road. They make a mistake. On New- Year's Day she puts on her table a bottle of wine; he makes the mistake of drinking it. To add to the interest of their meetings, they play at cards. They do not bet, nor drink, nor revel, nor profane; but it becomes a habit with them. She watches him with her love, and says to herself, "If he strays, I will win him back again;" or she thinks one so noble as he can CHILD-CULTURE. 1 1 7 not do wrong. How little of human nature does she know! He too feels strong in his manliness, and boasts of his mastery over him- self. Time passes away, ten or twenty years, and O how sad ! Years of hopes blighted ; years when the dense clouds of sorrow rarely parted for the sunlight of joy to gleam through them, only leaving the darkness and gloom the more impenetrable. O, those terrible years! How heavily they have dragged! What days of anguish! What nights of grief! What a strange, sad story they tell ! There sits, by her window yonder, a desolate woman. The fire that once flashed in her lus- trous eye has gone out. The flush on her cheek, that once vied in beauty with the rose, has faded away. That voice, once so musical, only sings its plaintive song of grief. That step, once so elastic, is slow and measured. The past is unforgotten ; the love, the hope, the promise, are yet all fresh in the mind. The manly step, the vow of fidelity, can not be lost in the dream-land of forgetfulness ; nor can the bridal day, the congratulations of friends, and the few first years of wedded life ever fade out of the recollection. They remain there, a panorama of heaven hung up in hell ! Where is that .once beautiful and happy girl? Il8 INSIDE THE GATES. There she sits, pale, wan, haggard, and hope- less. And where is he who vowed to be true until death ? Go, at the hour of midnight, to some drinking and gambling den, and you will find him there, "wasting his substance in riotous living." Say not, the picture is overdrawn. Such instances are innumerable. Then, parent and teacher, take some of your most precious time to your most precious work. The most important mission of your life is to save the child from its perils. You may have fewer acres of land, fewer stocks and bonds; but that matters nothing. You will be far hap- pier while you do live, and far richer in your dying hour, if you have the consciousness ever of having done your duty by your children. fo |p#®J Tjjiupa^ " My fairest child, I have no song to give you; No lark could pi]3e to skies so dull and gray ; Yet ere we part one lesson I can leave you, For every day : Be good, sweet maid, and let who will be clever; Do noble things — not dream them all day long; And so make life, death, and that vast forever, One grand, sweet song." " There is a land, of every land the pride, Beloved by Heaven o'er all the world beside, Where brighter suns dispense serener light, And milder moons imparadise the night ; A land of beauty, virtue, valor, truth, Time-tutored age, and love-exalted youth. 'Where shall that land, that spot of earth, be found?' Art thou a man ? a patriot ? Look around ! O, thou shalt .find, howe'er thy footsteps roam, That land thy country, and that spot thy home." VI. ¥l\e $-pifittikl ]\ftif£efy. ET us now turn and look at this «*&/{ question of childhood and its cul- ^ff ture in a still broader light. I admit that the first thing to be con- sidered in the matter is the safety and peace of the child — its personal salvation from sin and death ; the next thing is to make it useful to the world morally. The Church, society, the State, the world, all have claims upon us, and upon our children. It is one thing to train our young cadet in the military academy w T ith refer- ence to his own personal life, and another to make of him a good army officer; but the two go together. So these children in our families and our schools are to grow up to be common members of society. They are destined to take 121 122 INSIDE THE GATES. the places of the men and women who are on the stage of life now. I ask, How shall they represent us? Shall the future be more glorious than the past, or shall it be less so? This ques- tion must be answered in one way or another; and the home, the Sunday-school, and the Christian Church must render the answer. In looking over the list of institutions which every-where have foothold in civilized society, no one is more prominent than the Sunday- school, as it exists in this nineteenth century. And the importance which attaches to it, from any and every possible stand-point in which it may be viewed, is very great. The influence which it is exerting on the destiny of the world can scarcely be overestimated. And this is exactly in harmony with the spirit of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. That systematic Sunday-school work did not begin earlier in the history of the Christian Church is quite surprising. Away back in Jewish times provision was made for educating the young in the "statutes and ordinances of the Lord. ,, "And thou shalt teach them dili- gently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up." (Deut. vi, 7.) If THE SPIRITUAL NURSERY. 1 23 so much stress was laid upon child-teaching then, what is demanded of us in the superior light of this Christian age? Viewing the Sunday-school as one of the gates within whose sacred inclosure there is safety to the child, I have a few things to say about it. What I may say may not be new; but still it needs to be said. My book would be incomplete without this chapter. Sunday-schools began without the least idea on the part of their founder of the magnitude and grandeur of the work then and there inau- gurated. The little rill, which trickles from be- neath the rock on some mountain-side, is not a river; but, if you will follow it in its winding course onward, you will notice that it widens and deepens by virtue of the tributaries which flow into it perpetually, until it becomes a river, mighty in the onsweeping of its waters, a high- way for the commerce of a nation, and on whose banks great cities, with teeming populations, are built. So with the Sunday-school: a few poor, wayward, and neglected children were picked up on the streets of an English city, by a philan- thropic man. They were taken into a room, and instructed in secular as well as moral subjects. What would have been the feelings of that good man, Robert Raikes, the recognized 124 INSIDE THE GATES. founder of modern Sunday-schools, could he on that morning have cast his eyes down along the century to follow, and seen the Sabbath-schools as we see them to-day? There are some hundreds of thousands of teachers devoting themselves to a work which would fill an angel's mind and stir an angel's heart. The Sunday-school teachers of the world are doing a work which, though to some it may seem quite insignificant, is far outreach- ing in its results, and they are doing it freely, "without money and without price," doing it as a pure labor of love. The number of chil- dren in all of these schools, throughout Chris- tendom, can scarcely be ascertained; but it runs up into the millions. And the day has come when the Sunday-school is recognized as one of the most potent agencies in the make-up of the world's moral force, not to be dispensed with. The first and chief agency employed in the world's conversion is the pulpit. Preaching is the "power of God unto salvation." Next to that, I admit, comes the Sunday-school. The best auxiliary which the pulpit has is the Sunday-school; the real sub-pastors in the Church are the Sunday-school teachers. The Sunday-school is not intended to be a place of ordinary secular instruction. Arithmetic, THE SPIRITUAL NURSERY. 1 2$ grammar, geology, and similar studies, are ruled out. The teacher may use any one or all of these sciences to illustrate and enforce the "truth as it is in Jesus;" but all other instruc- tion must be subordinate to the one single study, how to bring the child to the Savior. The Sunday-school is the spiritual nursery of the world. And here let me say that there is a necessity in selecting teachers for the Sunday- school who themselves understand the "way, the truth, and the life," experimentally. The qualifications which fit quite well for teaching in the week-day school are not adequate here. If it be a rightful demand, in these days, that he who preaches shall be one who has a personal experience of the power of Christ to save, not much less, if any, should it be demanded that they who sustain the relation of religious teach- ers to our children shall be living examples of what they teach. Mere secular learning, the scholarship of the schools, is not enough. Sci- ence, language, philosophy, art, without relig- ion, will only make us strong, without making us good. The Church of Christ is a spiritual body on earth. The Sunday-school is a component part of the Church, and therefore it is a spiritual organization. It exists to teach the pure Word 126 INSIDE THE GATES. of God, just as certainly as the pulpit exists for that same object. "The world by wisdom knew not God." On this point the world has had ample experience. Nations have existed where popular intelli- gence abounded in a high degree, but where true religion was a thing unknown. These na- tions had martial courage, considerable refine- ment, and great wealth: and yet they had no good foundation, on which to rest securely. Let any people be "without hope and without God in the world," and they are wanting in the one essential element of enduring national life. Egypt was once the "cradle of the arts;" to-day it is the most sunken of all the nations. Babylon, once the mighty mistress of the Orient, is gone. Rome carried her proud eagles over the world, a terror to the nations; Greece had her temples and groves, where wise men gathered about them their disciples; but where are all these nations now? It may be said of each one, as it was said of each of the patriarchs, in the brief biography of the Bible, "And he died also." I write for Americans, and so wish to impress you somewhat, if I can, with the value of the Sunday-school, as an institution, to our common and beloved land, of which religion and educa- tion are the true foundation. The greatness of THE SPIRITUAL NURSERY. 1 27 any country is not to be gauged by the number of its square miles, or the density of its popu- lation. These are undoubtedly elements of greatness; but all can see plainly that there is sometimes weakness in size. A ship may be so large as to be unmanageable ; a building may be so large as to be useless, and fall because it is too lofty. The Continent of Africa is as great in extent as our own, and it contains nearly one hundred millions of people; but in the scale of the nations it weighs nothing. China, with her uncounted hordes, is not to be thought of in comparison with the great Christian nations of the globe. So with Asia generally; its civilization is effete. Whatever glory it may once have had has indeed become dim. And yet these regions are unsurpassed in beauty and natural product- iveness, the real source of national wealth. But the whole is stagnant; moral death reigns; a blight rests on all these lands. They worship gods of their own carving, and they have fallen under the curse of God because of sin. The real glory of a nation lies not in its broad acres, not in its millions of people, but in its real men and women; in the virtue, intelli- gence, and religion of its people. Turn now, and look at this great country of ours, stretching from ocean to ocean. See these 128 INSIDE THE GATES. extended valleys, these wide-reaching plains, these lofty mountains, these majestic rivers, these beautiful lakes, these vast mines of wealth, this wonderful soil, and these extended forests; and yet all these existed for ages, unknown to the world. Men were here, scattered over all this vast continent, pursuing the wild beast, living in huts, clad in skins; but they were men not much elevated above the beasts they pur- sued in the chase. Had the Chinaman first discovered this new world, and through some golden gateway poured a flood of Chinese pagans upon these shores, then our country would only be a second China. Had some other unchris- tianized people pre-empted the soil of America, and here built their cities and temples, then would this fair land of ours this day be fast bound in chains of moral darkness. But then such unchristian people are not discoverers, in any great sense. Such a people were here once, and the ruins of their temples remain; but they -have passed away. I wish to impress upon the Sunday-school worker, and upon the Christian parent, the thought of the grandeur of our mission in this respect; for our work has to do with the foun- dation of the great Republic. Look at Asia, crowded with people. Asia has had her vast THE SPIRITUAL NURSERY. 1 29 armies, her renowned generals, her great cities, her philosophy, and her religion. Africa, too, that sunny land, had her cities, her industries, and her philosophies. But neither has had any durable life; they have slept on through the centuries. The China of the present day can not even repair the public works which old China had the skill and power to construct. The tendency of paganism is to crush out the moral life, and so destroy man's real power. Western Europe was more progressive. The Anglo-Saxon has always had in his veins, some- how, a livelier blood. He lives in a more in- spiring climate, or the type of his civilization is one which gives greater play to his powers. He has "sought out many inventions;" manu- factured, grown in intellect and heart, and still grows in wealth and power. The Europeans are descendants of Japheth. The Bible says, 1 ' God shall enlarge Japheth ; and he shall dwell in the tents of Shem, and Canaan shall be his servant." The statement was not a decree, making the servitude of Canaan right or just; but rather a prophecy of a simple fact of his- tory. Now, in the history of this human dis- tribution, Japheth became the progenitor of all the tribes of Western Europe and Northern Asia, including the Armenians, Medes, Greeks, 9 130 INSIDE THE GATES. and Thracians. So God has " enlarged Japheth." The Anglo-Saxon race proves it. The Yankee, his descendant, is conquering the world. He is literally "dwelling in the tents of Shem," occupying his cities and his houses, sending his steamships along Asiatic rivers, and making the solitudes of Asiatic plains alive with the scream of the locomotive. Thus is the Scripture fulfilled. Europe, up to the time of the discovery of America, had tried almost every form of relig- ion, while every school of philosophy had taught its doctrines. Society was quite godless, so much so that God's best image, man, was crushed to the earth beneath the heel of kingly power. But that discovery was'the dawning of a new day in the world's life. It was like the second advent of Christ to the nations. How strange that for so long a time this land of ours should be unknown to the Old World — a land of rich soil, vast rivers, broad lakes, mines of precious and useful metals, so that any vocation could be pursued with profit! The opening of such a door to the crowded popula- tion of the Eastern Continent, blinded by igno- rance and fettered with superstition, was indeed an event of magnitude. It lighted up the hori- zon like a glorious sunrise after a dark night. THE SPIRITUAL NURSERY. 13 1 At a time when this continent was most needed, God opened its gateways, and the mill- ions have rushed in to found an empire. Here the great battles of humanity have been fought, and here the mission of the Gospel is to be seen in its greatest power. Nowhere is there a more perfect freedom, and in no place on earth is education more widely diffused. It is not enough that we should have wealth and culture, we must have virtue and religion. This is the grand arena where the great moral principles unfolded in the Word of God are to be triumphant over every form of false doctrine and false practice. God is to be loved because he is God, and man to be honored because he is created in the image of God. There is danger that we shall become materialists, and recognize no force but that which comes of steam, no wealth but the gold of our coffers. There is an intoxication attending the acquisition of wealth greatly to be dreaded. Men become so eager in the chase that they forget God, and are lost to every noble quality of head and heart. Education is not enough. Knowledge is power, as well for evil as good. We may become a nation of splendid heathens, rich and cultivated, as beau- tiful and as cold as a mountain of ice glittering 132 INSIDE THE GATES. in the sun. Our school-houses are public bless- ings; but without our Churches and Sunday- schools we should be as a ship without a rudder. Above eagle and lion and crescent, the Cross is to be the true heraldic sign of the regener- ated nations. So "the kingdoms of this world shall become the kingdom of our Lord and of his Christ." The Sunday-school exists as a spiritual nur- sery of young souls, as a feeder to the Church; but that is not all. In this work it affects and influences the nation at large ; yes, and the whole wide world, from equator to pole. To this land they are coming from all the world. We wel- come all, and we must try to save all. In the work of redeeming the world the Sunday-school must play a most important part. They who are to be our future legislators, judges, Presi- dents, poets, ministers, and merchants, are this day in the Sunday-schools of the land. What would we say if schools were established every- where, to teach burglary, counterfeiting, and kindred crimes? O, we should rise up in our might and abolish them forever. How much are we willing to do to sustain schools which teach truth instead of falsehood, virtue in place of vice, and religion instead of irreligion ? Let us not forget that the men who have risen to THE SPIRITUAL NURSERY. 1 33 the highest positions in our country have been mostly those who have had the best early moral culture. The hope of the 'world lies largely in the education of the children. Then, by some means, let us draw every child into the Sunday- school that we possibly can. Teach them the principal truths of the Bible. Warn them against the evils which surround them in life. Inspire them with a love of country. Lead them to the Savior, who said, ' ' Unless ye be converted, and become as little children, ye can not enter into the kingdom of heaven." The present great Sunday-school movement seems to be under the inspiration of the Al- mighty. God is in it. The mind of the nation is to be moved, and prepared for great future contests ; for as a people we have not yet got beyond danger. I believe that in the future there are to be great battles for the right. We can easily look forward to a time when a hun- dred millions of people shall call this land their home. All nations, all languages, all customs, all political ideas, are seeking to root themselves in this soil. They are doing it now. The battle between infidelity, in many of its forms, and Christianity is growing fiercer every day. What is our hope? The Gospel, in the pulpit and in the Sunday-school. Here is to be raised 134 INSIDE THE GATES. up a generation of Christian workers, who shall do valiant service for the Lord Jesus. And when the battle thickens and grows hot, and we look for the coming men and women, we shall see them on the distant hill-tops and along the valleys of America, coming in thousands, with open Bibles and warm hearts, God's army of occupation. "Occupy till I come." I hear them singing, as they march to victory : " We '11 not give up the Bible, God's holy book of truth, The blessed staff of hoary age, The guide of early youth." And filling all this beautiful land, from ocean to ocean, the voice shall break forth: " Our Father, God, to thee, Author of liberty, • To thee we sing; Long may our land be bright With freedom's holy light; Protect us by thy might, Great God, our King." Christianity means child-culture, child-salva- tion. I close this chapter appropriately with an extract from the late Bishop Armitage, of the Protestant Episcopal Church, touching the child and the Church. "I find," says he, "a child in no religion but in the religion of Jesus. Mohammed. seemed THE SPIRITUAL NURSERY. 135 to know nothing about a child. The heathen seemed to know nothing about children in their mythology. Their gods were not born as chil- dren. They were never endowed with the attributes of children. They were never clothed with the sympathies of children. They never threw themselves into the socialties of children. They were gods of terror, gods of passion, gods of lust, gods of blood, gods of might; but they were never gods of helplessness, a span long. O no ! That would not have been natural. That would not have been divine, in their con- ception. And hence they make no provision for children. "But the great elemental fact of Christianity is the Holy Child Jesus. Born of a woman, born under the law, in total helplessness physi- cally, laid in a manger, cared for by no man, but the child of the Everlasting Father, and the Prince of Peace. So that the Gospel of Jesus is the only religion on earth that makes provis- ion for a child, and is the only religion in which a child is laid at the basis and foundation of its faith. "The religion of Jesus is the only religion that dares to put its sacred books into the hands of a child. No other religion dares hazard its existence on such a venture as that. Sacred I36 INSIDE THE GATES. books of Hinduism, sacred books of Moham- medanism, sacred books of any religion, put into the hands of its children, would shock its authors and its votaries. But the Christian re- ligion brings its sacred books to the child. It says to the little one, 'They are able to make thee wise unto salvation, through faith that is in the Lord Jesus;' and, although the child can not master their mysteries, he can believe their mysteries, he can obey their mysteries, he can elucidate their mysteries. "The religion of Jesus is the only religion that boasts its noblest workmanship wrought in the spirit of a little child, and is better adapted to effect personal salvation in childhood than at any other period of life. " " Delightful task! to rear the tender thought, To teach the young idea how to shoot, To pour the fresh instruction o'er the mind, To breathe the enlivening spirit, and to fix The generous purpose in the glowing breast." " A little theft, a small deceit, Too often leads to more; 'Tis hard at first, but tempts the feet, As through an open door. Just as the broadest rivers run From small and distant springs, The greatest crimes that men have done Have grown from little things." " If for a world a soul be lost, Who can the loss supply? More than a thousand worlds it cost One single soul to buy." VII. d^ildfen $aved. VERY large number of the human family die in infancy or early child- hood. In all places where the dead sleep, there are many little grassy mounds scattered about among the larger ones; but in just what proportion I have not at hand the means of knowing. Some have placed it as high as one-third of all. It is a most comforting thought to those who have lost children, and they are many, to know that not one of all the millions of little ones that have died has ever gone down into the regions of the lost. The time was when some people — honestly enough, I have no doubt — believed that children of unconverted parents, dying in infancy, were lost. But that day has passed away, never to return again, let us hope. 139 JL 140 INSIDE THE GATES. The atonement, which Christ made for the sins of the world by his sufferings and death, included all the children. Whatever may be the tendencies of human nature to sin, tenden- cies growing out of an innate condition of the heart, unless there be a direct putting forth of will there is no guilt, there can be none. The child has not sinned, and therefore can not suffer any of the consequences of willful trans- gressions. So our dear departed children are in heaven — they are saved.. Had they lived, they might have been lost to all good in this world, and lost in the next; but now that they have died they are saved to us forever. Then, dear mother, if you have ever had one moment's anxiety about your dear child's safety in the spirit-land, whither it has gone, dismiss that fear at once and forever. Look heavenward. Your child is safe "inside the gates." But this is not a book on dogmatic theology, and therefore I turn from that phase of the subject. The title of this chapter implies just these few words, and I have said all I wish to say now on that point. I see your children growing up to manhood and womanhood, and it is my purpose to consider some things which relate to their safety in this world. Safety here will be safety there. CHILDREN SAVED. 141 And now, please note this, that the moral culture of the child should begin in the earliest dawnings of its infant life. The day it begins to think and act, let its training for heaven com- mence. The first word the child hears, the first smile which greets its eye, have to do with its whole after-life. That infant mind will expand, that, heart will feel, that soul will move about in this world. How shall it grow up — to vice or virtue? Away yonder, on the Alleghany Mountains, there is a high and sharp, rocky ridge, which was once pointed out to me, in one of my Summer rambles, as the ''Divider." "What do you mean by 'Divider?' " I remarked to my guide. "Why," said he, pointing to a sharp crest of the mountain on which we were stand- ing, "a drop of rain falls on it, and is split in two — one-half bounds off to the west, finding its way into the Ohio River, and thence to the Mississippi, and at last reaches the Gulf of Mexico. The other half goes down into the Susquehanna River, thence flows away off into the Potomac, the Chesapeake Bay, and the Atlantic Ocean." The point was well made — possibly a little too fine, but true nevertheless, if not with the drop, yet true with the shower. No rain-shower ever falls on that ridge when 142 INSIDE THE GATES. one part does not go to the Gulf of Mexico, and the other to the Chesapeake Bay. In my native town there was an old house, which stood just where it served as a divider of waters. Whenever a shower fell on it, the roof on one side started the waters toward the Atlantic Ocean, and on the other toward the Pacific Ocean. Too much stress can not be laid upon the early influence and teachings of home. It is the "dividing ridge," whence our children are started for heaven or hell. There is a turning- point in the life of every mortal, a time when the soul either goes up or down, turns to the right or the left; and such being simply a fact, let us make note of it, and use it in the interest of good government, and in the interest of true religion. A word fastened in a sure place may give direction to a life, and thus set in motion a train of good influences that will never cease. Dropped in faith, the sunshine of God's provi- dence will take care of the germination of the good seed. Many a deed done, and word spoken, through the good spirit of the moment, are forgotten by us ; but God always remembers to bless the precious seed sown in the heart-soil. I have before in this book spoken of the little tree, by which to illustrate my meaning; CHILDREN SAVED. 143 now let me make use of the bud. Have you ever noticed how wisely the great Author of nature has protected the buds on the trees and bushes? Examine them, and you will find in each and all vital germs, from which new branches, fruits, and flowers are to spring; and those germ-containing buds are protected by thick and firm scales, which ward off the cold winds and frosts, as in the olden times the shield, hung on the warrior's arm, warded off the arrows. So does God intend home to be a protection to the child. In every child there is a spiritual germ that must grow up to good or evil. Which? The recollection of the home education of our childhood is never wholly obliterated from our minds. In the days of busy manhood or womanhood there may be a partial forgetful- ness — things are stowed away somewhere in the chambers of the memory, as unseasonable goods in the store are packed away on remote shelves ; but once in a while the merchant looks them all over, and when he comes to take invoice for his final "closing out" he brings forth and lays every thing on his counter. I once knew a very old man, who, just before he died, re- quested that his hands might be folded on his breast, and it was done. Then, with feeble 144 INSIDE THE GATES. voice, he repeated that simple prayer, "Now I lay me down to sleep," etc.; and that first prayer of his infant life, taught him by his mother, was his last utterance on earth. I am reminded of that great and good man, Rev. Dr. Nott, who for a long time before he died was blind and childish. His wife, who was younger than he by several years, sat by his bedside day by day, and sang to him the songs of his child- hood; and he was hushed to repose by them, as an infant on its pillow. She often sang to him that precious old cradle-song, "Hush, my dear; lie still and slumber," which always soothed him most. Think of that,, my dear reader! a great dying college president, a man famous all over the Christian world, hushed into soft slumbers by a baby-song ! O r it speaks to us of childhood and its recollections with a mighty voice ! In his last days the brightest visions this good man had were those of his early home, while the name which came oftenest to his lips was the name of his mother. As with him, so with all of us : the training of childhood exerts an influence on all our after- years. We must not forget this one general prin- ciple, Develop the child from within outward. The soul gives expression to the face. We CHILDREN SAVED. 145 judge of people by the way they walk and talk and look. If a child be happy in spirit it will be brighter in countenance. The dull, sullen, and gloomy child, marred by its physical inher- itance most likely, may be cheered up and made lively, and even brilliant, by the right kind of education in the home circle. But, to do this, you must plunge yourself into its peculiarity of imagination and feeling. The child's moral nature must be studied. No kind of instruction appeals more strongly to child-nature than that which is religious. Religious culture is the '"tree of life," whose fruits, if they are first eaten, will render harmless and salutary the "tree of knowledge." Religion is the best conservator of life, and it rests primarily on the idea of God. That great idea must be pre- sented to the young mind, not as a duty simply, but in such a way as to create a spontaneous love in the heart for God as a Father. A cheerful, sunny Christianity is the only one which can ever win the world's heart. Human nature loves the bright, the beautiful, the glad- some. That fact stares us in the face, go where we will, among savage or civilized races. It is part and parcel of the being whom God has made. And one of the best ways to banish all religion from the world would be to make it right harsh 10 146 INSIDE THE GATES. and morose and dull, as some people do. Let the child know that love to God and man is not a mere sentiment, an abstraction, but an out- going of duty and kindness. O, how mistaken are those Christian people who care only for happiness in their own hearts, whose religion consists in a sort of spiritual intoxication among themselves! They care but little for the great world, that watches for good deeds, and listens for kind words. I would make emphatic that one word, home. It is a gate within whose sacred inclosure the most valuable lessons may be learned, and where the very best work of life may be done. Then take your child by the hand and lead it ; it is not able to direct its own attention to these things ; it needs your help in the unfoldings of its spiritual life, just as surely as the tottering babe needs the supporting hand of nurse or mother when it is learning to walk, or as the opening flower needs the sunshine. And if the little learner in the home school makes mistakes, does wrong, instead of heaping on it your bitter reproaches and blame, show it your pity, take it to your heart, give it your sympathy, speak words of encouragement, and thus be its guide and support as it steps toward the better life. Home is a gateway which opens into heaven. CHILDREN SAVED. 147 These children, ranging from mere infants up to young men and women, have hearts to love the good, the true, and the beautiful. They have minds to grasp the great truths of nature and of life. They have capabilities for the greatest good, and scarce one of them but often feels the deep inspiration of his being. Your children may have a fondness for mere personal charms, a relish for the outward attrac- tions of life only; but that is a "fickle fancy.' ' They are capable of better things. We must hold them in our thoughts, as having other tastes and desires as well, which they have not made known to us, possibly, or which have not yet been developed. There is a deep, strong current in every mind, that flows Godward. Look for it in the minds of your children. Seek its development, as a first duty you owe to the child. In recounting some steps necessary to the welfare of the young, I would ask, Wherein lies the true value of life? What is the child's destiny? What are the chief and crowning ornaments of every life? Every life has value. The young woman we meet on the streets is a loved and cherished in- mate of some family, a daughter, a sister. And if so, then is she linked by strong ties to others. I48 INSIDE THE GATES. She is looked upon by some father with only such feelings as a father can understand. Her mother sees in her her own image. Her step is but the echo of that mother's step as it was in the years long gone by, when she went forth in her girlish innocence and joy. In some brother's heart she lives in precious love. So I meet the young man, and the same thoughts come welling up in the mind. Whose son is he? Whence has he come? Whither is he drifting ? A Christian household is a beautiful place. The young man of noble worth and the young woman of virtuous life are indeed its jewels. Her song makes home melodious; her smile is a rainbow that arches grandly over the domestic altar; her word makes the heart beat quicker; her purity exalts home, and makes it more heavenly. His manly step has in it a courage- giving power, while his strong arm is a prophecy of future protection. The young man has a mission ; but it is not within his power to touch the home-life on all sides, as it is hers. He belongs rather to the outside world; she to the world within. He helps make the home; she softens and embel- lishes it. He fences in the plat of ground ; she plants and rears the flowers, to sweeten the air CHILDREN SAVED. 1 49 with their fragrance. He helps to lay the foundation of the home; she trains the tressy vine which clambers upon its walls. If there is any thing beautiful in this world, it is the home where innocent and joyous youth become the constant source of help and comfort to each other, and to venerable parents. Have you seen the devoted daughter caring for a sick mother? Have you seen her pushing her way modestly through the crowd, to lead away a drunken father from his cups? Have you seen her, by her gentle love, winning back a straying brother? Have you seen the brave young man keeping the family together, and caring for a widowed mother? All these we have seen, and to see was to admire. But these children of ours have another and a wider sphere in which they are destined to move. I mean this great world of society. And here, as in the home circle, their influence should be constantly exerted for good. But how can they be a blessing if they have been neglected? How can your child be useful to the world if you have allowed it to grow up in idleness? How can your girl be an ornament to society if she has . never been taught much else besides being a fashionable belle? if sha has been impressed with the idea that the only 150 INSIDE THE GATES. way to charm others is to put on tinselry? False notions are cursing the world. In these days our young people are taught that life is mostly an amusement. The real solid discipline which develops genuine manhood and true womanhood is largely forgotten. There needs to be reform at this point every-where. Our young people need some amusement and recre- ation, I admit; but not less should we think of what is called the "hidden man of the heart,' ' the "meek and quiet spirit which in the sight of God is of great price/ ' The different spheres in which we move in life call out certain traits of character. The home sphere often develops selfishness between the different members of the same family. An only child is liable to be selfish. It has no competition. The family is hence a good place to cultivate unselfishness. Children should be taught to yield to each other's wishes and com- fort always. The world never has any admira- tion for selfishness. In man, in woman, or in child, it only repels; on the other hand, unself- ish serving exalts us. "He that is greatest among you, let him be as the younger; and he that is chief, as he that doth serve." A will- ingness to do for others is not only the highest expression of goodness, but the highest degree CHILDREN SAVED. 1 5 I of politeness. This is the power that wins the world. Of Christ's own unselfish death on the cross he said, "And I, if I be lifted up from the earth, will draw all men unto me." All men admire the spirit that sacrifices its own ease for the good and comfort of others. But selfishness reverses this. The selfish young woman lives only for herself. The selfish young man seeks not the good of others, at home or abroad, and will as a result have fewer friends, be less an ornament to society, and will pass through life without doing any substantial good. Teach the child to devote itself to the good of others. Teach the young woman to cultivate what the Bible calls a "meek and quiet spirit." Therein lies the true beauty of life. Goodness is the brightest ornament any one, young or old, can wear. And as home is the place where personal characteristics display themselves mostly, so pride and vanity show off more in general society. There are some young people who, at home, are rude, selfish, fretful, fault-finding, surly, dull, irritable, indifferent, and lazy, who never cast one ray of light on the home — the poison of home they are — who in society are all honey and beauty. They seem like angels, in their sweetness. But I am sure that it will take 152 INSIDE THE GATES. more than wings to make angels of a good many young ladies in this world. It is the most difficult thing in the world to make false- hood appear in the garments of truth — to make white black, or black white. And when you endeavor to be what you are not, when you put on a character not your own, and which you do not really desire to be, else you would be, you are acting out a falsehood, and the world feels it, knows it, by a. sort of moral intuition. Soci- ety reads you as it reads a book. If you wish to be thought good and true, be good and true. Be the pure gold, not the alloy of baser metal. Remember that we must all be tested by the trying ordeal of human judgment in this world, and by the judgment of God in the end. So teach the child. But I wish to say something about destiny. Life is not .a mere play, a dream, but it is> a tremendous reality. The very thought of ex- isting in this world takes in the idea of struggle, burden -bearing, and sorrows, which shall lie heavily on the heart. O, do we fully realize what life is? Have you thought, dear parent, of the hard and stony road your child may have to travel in the future, possibly with sore and bleeding feet, and what a sad and aching heart it may yet carry in its breast? I say it CHILDREN SAVED. 153 not to discourage you, not to detract from the brightness of the picture hung up before you. I believe in crowding all the sunshine into life we can. But, then, there are some things we must meet, our children after us must meet, and it is best they should be forewarned. Your child is young now, and gay, and innocent; but time will bring wrinkled brow and faded cheek. Beauty of a certain kind will pass away; but purity and innocence, the higher beauty of soul, may remain forever. Dreams and visions be- come stern realities — poetry is converted into dull prose. The light becomes dim; Spring gives place to Autumn ; the form stoops beneath the load of care. The gay and gleeful girl, who moves around your home to-day with fairy steps and ringing laugh, may yet lean upon her staff with trembling and feebleness. The picture I have sketched is in no way one whose realiza- tion is to be desired; but that does not alter the case. Our children are destined to bear heavy burdens, and pass through hard and trying scenes. These grow out of the conditions of life. They must be met and endured; for they are of God's providence, and they are needed for life's discipline. If, then, these things be true — and who doubts them? — can you not see, as a parent, 154 INSIDE THE GATES. that to cultivate in your children the sterner graces and virtues of life is your solemn relig- ious duty? There is much they may learn now, which will come to their aid in the years to come. These burdens and sorrows of life, when they do come, will be alleviated somewhat by the preparation which they have received for them by your care. We see around us the bright, the beautiful, the pure-hearted young women. What shall be the future of many of them? O, that I could draw the picture in lines of beauty, and that I could have it as we all desire ! But facts are facts. Your child's life may be one of beauty, or it may be sadly marred. She may be the wife of some besotted and cruel drunkard. She may live to see the day when hunger shall pinch; her children may be clad in rags. Her life may be a burden, to drag her down, alone and neglected, , weary and disheartened. She may go through a miserable existence, so unlike the promise of her young and hopeful girlhood. These things have been, and they will be so again. Such is life, in this world of sinful, fallen humanity. Would that it were otherwise ! But I do not forget that all lives are not joy- less. There are many oases in the desert, many cups which overflow with joy. We must study CHILDREN SAVED. 1 55 to make the best of life. To be good, to do good, is the true aim of life. "All things," even burdens and afflictions, "work together for our good." To battle bravely with the winds and tides of life is to be grandly heroic. They who make the very best of their condi- tion, whatever it is, though it be one of poverty and lowliness, are the best examples of heroism in this world. This being true, it follows that life, however dark, is not lost. It is like the sun struggling through the clouds — there is light beyond. I come now to speak of one point especially, in the matter of doing for the child just what the foregoing implies. Cultivate in your child's life the habit of Church-going. If the home and the Sunday-school are "gates," not less so is the Church. Why is it that in our Sabbath congregations ordinarily, anywhere in Christen- dom, so few children are seen? The child is dressed up and sent to Sunday-school, as if the Church service were of no particular conse- quence. And so the child grows up without the habit of attending Church. What is the result? A nation of young people who do not think of going to Church. There are young men and young women by the hundreds, in the families of this Christian land every-where, who 156 INSIDE THE GATES. make the Sabbath a holiday, instead of a holy day. Parent, can you afford to allow your child to grow up disregardful of the claims of. public worship ? But you say, I have no pew in the church. Then, I say, get one. And if you do not fill it yourself, see to it that your girls and boys do. It is the pivotal center on which the child's life often turns. I have had an experience in my own family, in three dif- ferent cases, and consequently I am prepared to affirm that in my opinion any ordinary child, of from five to six years old, can be trained to attend Church, and to be as still and quiet as a child ever ought to be during the hours of religious service. Have you ever thought of the wonderful power of habit? Shakespeare, speaking of habit, said, "Keep a gamester from his dice, and a good student from his books, and it is wonderful." I have read many wonderful things of the power of habit over us. Once a young man was walking along the dusty highway on a bright Summer day, when suddenly his eye fell on a gold eagle lying before him. He picked it up and put it into his pocket, richer in gold by that much ; and ever afterward he looked down, instead of up. He always saw the dusty road — never the blue skies and bright sun, and CHILDREN SAVED. 157 the beauties above his head; ever afterward he crept in the dust, hunting gold eagles. It be- came the habit of hrs life. O, how sordid people may become by the force of habit ! There is an Eastern tale of a magician, who discovered by his incantations that the "philos- opher's stone" lay on the bank of a certain river, but was unable to determine its exact locality. He therefore strolled along the bank with a piece of iron, to which he applied suc- cessively all the pebbles he found. As, one after another, they produced no change in the metal, he flung them into the river. At last he hit on the object of his search, and the iron be- came gold in his hand; but, alas! he had become so liabituated to the movement that the real stone was involuntarily cast into the stream and forever lost. Many a soul is saved through the influence of good habits. Johnson said: "The law of habit is the magistrate of a man's life. It is not the pilot directing the vessel; it is the vessel, aban- doned to the force of the current, the influence of the tides, and the control of the winds." If you desire the salvation of your children, guard their habits, help form them aright. Be a watchful sentinel at the home gate, the Sunday- school gate, the gateway of the grand temple 158 INSIDE THE GATES. of holy worship. Hold the children by virtue of your authority, if in no other way, under these influences as long as you can, until their better nature has time to assert itself, or those good influences have time to mold their lives. The possibility of early conversions is no longer a matter of question in the Christian world. It is not necessary that our children should grow up to be men and women before we may reasonably expect their spiritual regen- eration. There are this day thousands in the Church who date their earliest religious impres- sions away back in the early days of childhood. Children, at five and seven, have often given the most satisfactory evidences of their adoption into the kingdom of Christ. I have some little Chris- tians in my Church to-day, whose lives bear all the fruits of genuine Christianity: and on com- munion-day, among those w T ho approach the altar, none are more welcome to the bread and wine than these same " babes In Christ. " Our children should never be considered as being outside of the visible Church. Christ died for them. They should be consecrated to the Lord in their tender infancy. They should be taught the nature of prayer, and to pray; they should be instructed in the first principles of Christian- ity, sent to Sunday-school and taken to Church; CHILDREN SAVED. 159 they should be impressed with the true idea of their relation to God and his Church. They should be led to understand that Christianity is more than a mere form. Let the "ax be laid at the root of the tree." Bear them to Christ, as needing a change of heart ; lead them to seek his saving power in their hearts. And when they give these signs, enter their names on the records of the Church, as full members. Our children should be born in the Church, live in it, die in it; and this is what I mean by Children Saved. " Catch then, O catch, the transient hour, Improve each moment as it flies ; Life 's a short Summer, man a flower — He dies; alas, how soon he dies!" ipfyitt Jb$L " There is no swerving from a right line that may not lead eternally astray." " The living rock is worn by the diligent flow of the brook." " For atoms must crowd upon atoms, ere crime groweth to be a giant." ' 'T is fearful building upon any sin; One mischief, entered, brings another in, The second pulls a third, the third draws more, And they for all the rest set ope the door; Till custom takes away the judging sense, That to offend we think it no offense." " He who once sins, like him who slides on ice, Goes swiftly down the slippery ways of vice ; Though conscience check him, yet, these rubs gone o'er, He glides on smoothly, and looks back no more." VIII. C^Hdf en I