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Uniform with this Volume 
 
 In Friendship's Name 
 
HAT MAKES A 
 FRIEND? 
 
 DEFINITIONS AND 
 OPINIONS FROM 
 VARIOUS SOURCES COL- 
 LECTED AND COMPILED 
 BY VOLNEY STREAMER 
 
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 UT, ah, no words can quite disclose 
 What makes a friend ! 
 
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 J?*Vtf( Edition : set up, electrotyped, and printed in Chicago, 
 
 October, 1892. 
 Second Edition: enlarged and printed in New York, June, 
 
 1894. 
 Third Edition : published in Boston, June, 1895. Reprinted 
 
 July, 1896. 
 Fifth Edition : again enlarged, published in New York, July, 
 
 1899. 
 Sixth Edition : published, April, 1901. 
 
 Seventh Edition : published, January, igoa. 
 
 Eighth Edition: published, January, 1903. 
 
 Ninth Edition : enlarged, published, March, 1904. 
 
 copyright, 1892, 1899, 1904, 
 By Volney Streamer 
 
 
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 UBRfiBTV ofOOMGRFSS 
 TVim Conies Revived 
 OCT 19 1904 
 JSooyrteht Entry 
 
 LASS <2. XXo'Na 
 
TO MY FRIEND 
 
 " What is bet-ween us tivo, we know ; 
 Shake hands and let the whale world g»S 
 
1H, friend, let us be true 
 
 To one another ! For the world, which seems 
 To lie before us like a land of dreams, 
 So various, so beautiful, so new, 
 Hath really neither joy, nor love, nor light, 
 Nor certitude, nor peace, nor help for pain', 
 And we are here as on a darkling plain 
 Swept with confused alarms of struggle and flight, 
 Where ignorant armies clash by night. 
 
 — Matthew Arnold. 
 
SLENDER acquaintance with 
 the world must convince every 
 man that actions, not words, are. the 
 true criterion of the attachment of 
 friends ; and that the most liberal 
 professions of good-will are very far 
 from being the surest marks of it. 
 
 —George Washington. 
 
 ]V[o distance of place or lapse of 
 time can lessen the friendship of 
 those who are thoroughly persuaded 
 of each other's worth. 
 
 — Robert S out hey. 
 
 A little peace£ul home 
 
 Bounds all my wants and wishes ; add to this 
 My book and friend, and this is happiness. 
 
 — Francesco di Rioja. 
 
|F all felicities, the most charm- 
 ing is that of a firm and gentle 
 friendship. It sweetens all our cares, 
 dispels our sorrows, and counsels us 
 in all extremities. Nay, if there were 
 no other comfort in it than the bare 
 exercise of so generous a virtue, even 
 for that single reason a man would 
 not be without it; it is a sovereign 
 antidote against all calamities — even 
 against the fear of death itself. 
 
 — Seneca. 
 
 t is chance that makes brothers, 
 but hearts that make friends. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
|RE we ever truly read, save by 
 the one that loves us best? 
 Love is blind, the phrase runs. Nay, 
 I would rather say, love sees as God 
 sees, and with infinite wisdom has 
 infinite pardon. 
 
 — Ouida. 
 
 T^hese things do not require to be 
 spoken; there is something in the 
 hand grip, and the look in the eye 
 that makes you know your man. 
 
 — C. H addon Chambers. 
 
 UT would go up to the gates of hell with a friend, 
 
 Through thick and thin." 
 
 The other said, as he bit off a concha's end, 
 
 " I would go in." 
 
 — John Ernest McCann. 
 
|0R friendship maketh indeed 
 a fair day in the affections, 
 from storm and tempests, but it 
 maketh day-light in the understand- 
 ing out of darkness and confusion of 
 thoughts; neither is this to be under- 
 stood only of faithful counsel which 
 a man receiveth from his friends; 
 but before you come to that, certain 
 it is, that whosoever hath his mind 
 fraught with many thoughts, his wits 
 and understanding do clarify and 
 break up in the communicating and 
 discoursing with another: he loseth 
 his thoughts more easily; he mar- 
 shalleth them more orderly; he seeth 
 how they look when they are turned 
 into words;' finally he waxeth wiser 
 than himself; and that, more by an 
 hour's discourse, than by a day's 
 meditation. 
 
 — Bacon. 
 
 r> eal friendship, like all best things, 
 costs; but also like them, it pays. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 

 IO word is oftener on the lips of 
 men than " friendship,'' and in- 
 deed no thought is more familiar to 
 their aspirations. All men are dream- 
 ing of it, and its drama, which is al- 
 ways a tragedy, is enacted daily. It is 
 the secret of the universe. 
 
 — Thoreau. 
 
 T t is a sad thing that there comes a 
 moment when misery unknots 
 friendships. There were two friends; 
 there are two passers-by ! 
 
 — Victor Hugo. 
 
 \I 7 ho in want a hollow friend doth try, 
 Directly seasons him his enemy. 
 — Shakspere. 
 Priendship — to be two in one — 
 A Let the canting liar pack ! 
 Well I know, when I am gone, 
 
 How she mouths behind my back. 
 — Tennyson. 
 
OFTEN find myself going 
 back to Darwin's saying about 
 the duration of a man's friendships 
 being one of the best measures of 
 his worth. 
 
 — Anne Thackeray Ritchie. 
 
 HThat two men may be real friends, 
 they must have opposite opinions, 
 similar principles, and different loves 
 and hatreds. 
 
 — Chateaubriand. 
 
 TT is a good thing to be rich, and a 
 *good thing to be strong, but it is a 
 better thing to be beloved of many 
 friends. 
 
 — Euripides. 
 
I ME keeps no measure when true friends are parted, 
 No record day by day; 
 The sands move not for those who, loyal-hearted, 
 Friendship's firm laws obey. 
 
 — Meredith Nicholson. 
 
 r\EVOTiON to a friend does not con- 
 sist in doing everything for him, 
 but simply that which is agreeable, and 
 of service to him, and let it only be 
 revealed by accident. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
 A true test of friendship, to sit or 
 walk 'with a friend for an hour in 
 perfect silence without wearying of 
 one another's company. 
 
 — Mrs. Mulock Craik. 
 
|HINK of those twenty years of 
 Napoleon, from 1790 to 18 10. 
 How he beat and buffeted the- world 
 about like a tennis ball; how he 
 hated without loving and destroyed 
 without constructing; how he smote 
 with breathless terror every nation of 
 the earth, and yet could not fasten 
 to him with hooks enduring a single 
 friend who would outlive calamity. 
 — Unknown. 
 
 TJ e who serves and seeks for gain, 
 And follows but for form, 
 
 Will pack when it begins to rain, 
 And leave thee in the storm. 
 
 — Shakspere. 
 
 T have never believed much in friend- 
 ship ; it is a tie which binds the 
 weak. Strong characters break it 
 early. 
 
 - -Willis SteelL 
 
Ul^JOW were Friendship possible? 
 MM In mutual devotedness to the 
 Good and True; otherwise impos- 
 sible ; except as Armed Neutrality, 
 or hollow Commercial League. A 
 man, be the Heavens ever praised, is 
 sufficient for himself; yet were ten 
 men, united in Love, capable of being 
 and doing what ten thousand singly 
 would fail in. Infinite is the help 
 man can yield to man 
 
 — Thomas Carlyle. 
 
 *"pHE first foundation of friendship 
 is not the power of conferring 
 benefits, but the equality with which 
 they are received, and may be re- 
 turned. ' 
 
 — -Junius. 
 
 tt is more disgraceful to distrust 
 than to be deceived by our 
 friends. 
 
 — Rochefoucauld. 
 
 
|ERE all thy fond endeavors vain 
 To chase away the sufferers smart, 
 Still hover near, lest absence pain 
 His lonely heart. 
 
 For friendship's tones have kindlier power 
 
 Than odorous fruit, or nectared bowl, 
 To soothe, in sorrow's languid hour, • 
 The sinking soul. 
 
 — Sadi. 
 
 Tf a man does not make new acquain- 
 tances as he passes through life, 
 he will soon find himself left alone. 
 A man should keep his friendships 
 in constant repair. 
 
 — Johnson. 
 
|I RST of all things for friendship 
 there must be that delightful, 
 indefinable state called feeling at ease 
 with your companion, — the one man, 
 the one woman out of a multitude 
 who interests you, who meets your 
 thoughts and tastes. 
 
 — Julia Duhring. 
 
 CRiendship based solely upon grati- 
 tude is like a photograph ; with 
 time it fades. 
 
 — Carmen Sylva. 
 
 A nd what is friendship but a name, 
 
 A charm that lulls to sleep ; 
 A shade that follows wealth or fame, 
 But leaves the wretch to weep ? 
 — Goldsmith. 
 
HERE is a common belief, 
 which perhaps is just, that 
 there is not so much friendship in 
 the world as there used to be. Vari- 
 ous causes have been assigned for 
 this — that men are less heroic, more 
 querulous, more selfish, more domes- 
 tic. In my opinion the real cause 
 is want of time. And it must be re- 
 marked that to keep up friendship, 
 it is not sufficient to have spare time 
 now and then; but you require an 
 amount of certain and continuous 
 leisure. 
 
 — Arthur Helps. 
 
 CVERY man will be thy friend 
 
 Whilst thou hast wherewith to spend ; 
 But if store of crowns be scant, 
 No man will supply thy want. 
 
 — Shakspere. 
 
WO people who are friends 
 make themselves responsible 
 for each other. If I had a friend, 
 and he went to the bad, and I met 
 him in rags and poverty and disgrace, 
 and if it ruined me to own him and 
 help him, I should have to do it. If 
 two men are really friends, nothing 
 can come between them. 
 
 — David Christie Murray. 
 
 CRiENDSHiP above all ties does bind the heart, 
 And faith in friendship is the noblest part. 
 
 — Lord Orrery. 
 
 tf you would know how rare a thing 
 a true friend is, let me tell you 
 that to be a true friend a man must 
 be perfectly honest. 
 
 — Henry W. Shaw. 
 
FRIEND is a rare book, of 
 which but one copy is made. 
 We read a page of it every day, till 
 some woman snatches it from our 
 hands, who sometimes peruses it, but 
 more frequently tears it. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
 TV To love in any relation of life can be 
 at its best if the element of friend- 
 ship be lacking, and no love can 
 transcend, in its possibilities of noble 
 and ennobling exaltation, a love that 
 is pure friendship. 
 
 — H. C. Trumbull. 
 
 "The difficulty is not so great to die 
 *■ for a friend, as to find a friend 
 worth dying for. 
 
 — Home. 
 
[HERE are evergreen men and 
 women in the world, praise be 
 to God! — not many of them, but a 
 few. They are not the showy folk; 
 they are not the clever, attractive 
 folk. (Nature is an old fashioned 
 shopkeeper: she never puts her best 
 goods in the window.) They are 
 only the quiet, strong folk; they are 
 stronger than the world, stronger 
 than life or death, stronger than Fate. 
 The storms of life sweep over them, 
 and the rains beat down upon them, 
 and the biting frosts creep round 
 them; but the winds and the rains 
 and the frosts pass away, and they 
 are still standing, green and straight. 
 They love the sunshine of life in their 
 undemonstrative way — its pleasures, 
 its joys. But calamity cannot bow 
 them, sorrow and affliction bring not 
 despair to their serene faces, only a 
 little tightening of the lips; the sun of 
 our prosperity makes the green of 
 their friendship no brighter, the frost 
 of our adversity kills not the leaves 
 of their affection. 
 
 — Jerome K.Jerome. 
 
FAITHFUL and true friend 
 is a living treasure, inestim- 
 able in possession, and deeply to be 
 lamented when gone. Nothing is 
 more common than to talk of a friend ; 
 nothing more difficult than to find 
 one ; nothing more rare than to im- 
 prove by one as we ought. 
 
 He who has made the acquisition 
 of a judicious and sympathizing 
 friend, may be said to have doubled 
 his mental resources. 
 
 —Robert Hall. 
 
 'X'he anxiety of some people to make 
 new friends is so intense that 
 they never have old ones. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
ITHERS will kiss you while your mouth is red; 
 Beauty is brief. Of all the guests who come 
 When the lamps shine on flowers, and wine, and bread, 
 
 In time of famine who will spare a crumb? 
 Therefore, oh, next to God I pray you, keep 
 
 Yourself as your own friend, the tried, the true, 
 Sit your own watch — others will surely sleep, 
 Weep your own tears, ask none to die with you. 
 
 —Sarah M. B. Piatt. 
 
 '"There is no folly equal to that of 
 throwing away friendship in a 
 world where friendship is so rare. 
 
 — Edward Bulwer. 
 
 Friendship is but a slow-awaking 
 dream, troubled at best. 
 
 — N. P. Willis. 
 
H 
 
 |N austere love springs up be- 
 tween men who have tugged at 
 the same oar together, and are yoked 
 by custom and use and the intimacies 
 of toil. This is a good love, and, since 
 it allows, and even encourages, strife, 
 and the most brutal sincerity, does 
 not die, but increases, and is proof 
 against any absence and evil conduct. 
 — Rtidyard Kipling. 
 
 A friendship will be young after 
 
 the lapse of half a century ; a 
 
 passion is old at the end of three 
 
 — Madame Swetchine. 
 
 itherto doth love on fortune tend; 
 
 For who not needs shall never lack a friend. 
 
 — Shakspere. 
 
 ho ceases to be a friend, never 
 
 was a friend- TT , 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
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[RIENDSHIP is apt to creep 
 away into some corner. of the 
 temple on whose shrine love has 
 descended. This mild affection is 
 but a twinkling taper that will burn 
 steadily on, perhaps unseen, amid the 
 dazzling glory of love's supernatural 
 lamp, to be found shining benignahtly 
 when the lamp is shattered. 
 
 — M. E. Br addon. 
 
 '"There is in friendship something 
 * of all relations, and something 
 above .them all. It is the golden 
 thread that ties the hearts of all the 
 world. 
 
 — John Evelyn. 
 
 Friendship is the highest degree of 
 perfection in society. 
 
 — Montaigne. 
 
|RIENDSHIP is the supreme 
 tie. It is stronger even than 
 the bonds of blood, as we see in the 
 case of Jonathan, who stood by his 
 friend David even against his own 
 father. When two hearts have be- 
 come one in the mystical union of 
 friendship, that relationship should 
 mean more to them than any matter 
 of circumstance, fortune, or individ- 
 ual benefit 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
 i shun a friend who pronounces my 
 actions to be good though they 
 are bad. I like a simple friend, who 
 holds my faults like a looking-glass 
 before my face. 
 
 — Ghozali. 
 
|HIS matter of friendship is often 
 regarded slightingly as a mere 
 accessory of life, a happy chance if 
 one falls into it, but not as entering 
 into the substance of life. No mis- 
 take can be greater. It is, as Emer- 
 son says, not a thing of " Glass 
 threads or frost-work, but the solid- 
 est thing we know." 
 
 — T. T. Munger. 
 
 O mall service is true service while it lasts ; 
 
 *^ Of friends, however humble, scorn not one ; 
 
 The daisy, by the shadow that it casts, 
 
 Protects the lingering dewdrop from the sun. 
 
 — Wordsworth. 
 
|FTER a man has passed forty 
 years of age he makes no more 
 friends. He has passed the period 
 when it is possible for him to open his 
 heart and confide its best secrets to 
 anybody who did not possess them 
 before ; but there is no period, if he 
 lives to be one hundred, when, if the 
 sun still shines for him as it did at 
 twenty, his heart cannot open to a 
 man whose heart is also open to the 
 rays of- the god of day, that he cannot 
 look out and find a man who can 
 sympathize with his success, who can 
 grieve with him in his sorrows, who 
 can give him a helping hand — not in 
 a pecuniary or gross sense — but a 
 helping hand if he is blue or tired, and 
 who can always be relied upon, either 
 at the festive board or away from it, 
 to say, "Old man, your hand. God 
 help you ; I will." 
 
 — Chauncey M. Depew. 
 
TEN as a traveler, meeting with the shade 
 Of some o'erhanging tree, awhile reposes 
 Then leaves its shelter to pursue his way, 
 So men meet friends, then part with them forever. 
 
 — Hitopadesa. 
 
 '"ris pity- 
 That wishing well had not a body in't, 
 Which might be felt ; that we, the poorer born, 
 Whose baser stars do shut us up in wishes, 
 Might with effects of them follow our friends. 
 
 — Shakspere. 
 
|HEIK SCHUBLI, taken sick was borne one day, 
 Unto the hospital. A host the way 
 Behind him thronged. " Who are you ?" Schubli cried. 
 "We are your friends," the multitude replied. 
 Sheik Schubli threw a stone at them ; they fled. 
 "Come back, ye false pretenders ! " then he said ; 
 "A friend is one who, ranked among his foes, 
 By him he loves, and stoned, and beat with blows, 
 Will still remain as friendly as before, 
 And to his friendship only add the more." 
 
 — Alger, from Jamee. 
 
 |t may be a cold, clammy thing to 
 say, but those that treat friendship 
 the same as any other selfishness 
 seem to get the most out of it. 
 
 — E. W. Howe. 
 
IHE books for young people say 
 a great deal about the selection 
 of friends; it is because they really 
 have nothing to say about friends. 
 They mean associates and confidants 
 merely. Friendship takes place be- 
 tween those who have an affinity for 
 one another, and is a perfectly nat- 
 ural and inevitable result. No pro- 
 fessions nor advances will avail. 
 
 — Thoreau. 
 
 Priendship that flows from the 
 A heart cannot be frozen by adver- 
 sity, as the water that flows from 
 the spring cannot congeal in winter. 
 — J. Fenimore Cooper. 
 
|E inherit our relatives and our 
 features and may not escape 
 them ; but we can select our clothing 
 and our friends, and let us be careful 
 that both fit us. 
 
 — Volney Streamer. 
 
 'oo late we learn — a man must hold his friend 
 Unjudged, accepted, faultless to the end. 
 
 — John Boyle O'Reilly. 
 
 T n pure friendship there is a sensa- 
 tion of felicity which only the 
 well-bred can attain. 
 
 — La Bruyere. 
 
HAVE always looked upon it as 
 the worst condition of man's 
 destiny that persons are so often torn 
 asunder just as they become happy 
 in each other's society. 
 
 — Boswell. 
 
 A generous friendship no cold medium knows, 
 
 Burns with one love, with one resentment glows. 
 
 — Pope. 
 
 Friendship receives its crown in 
 marriage when love is mingled 
 with admiration and respect. 
 
 — -John McLandburgh. 
 
 CRiEND is a word of Royal tone. 
 Friend is a Poem all alone. 
 
 — A Persian Poet. 
 
IIMES and places new we know, 
 Faces fresh and seasons strange, 
 But the friends of long ago 
 Do not change. 
 
 — Andrew Lang. 
 
 As people grow older friends and 
 associates of youth are apt to be 
 more appreciated, and old relations 
 are oftentimes resumed that have 
 been suffered to languish for many- 
 years. 
 
 These links with the past form a 
 chain that, next to the ties of blood, 
 forms one of the strongest relations 
 of social life. 
 
 Although pessimists declare that 
 friendship is a myth and what are 
 called intimates are people who con- 
 sort together for amusement or self- 
 interest, the very fact that there is 
 this feeling of especial kindness for 
 old-time associates proves that there 
 is such a thing as sentiment indepen- 
 dent of worldly considerations. 
 
 —Unknown. 
 
MAN'S love is the measure of 
 his fitness for good or bad com- 
 pany here or elsewhere. Men are 
 tattooed with their special beliefs, 
 like so many South Sea Islanders ; 
 but a real human heart with divine 
 love in it, beats with the same glow 
 under all patterns of all earth's 
 thousand tribes. 
 
 — O. W. Holmes. 
 
 i i tie is my friend," I said, — 
 
 n " Be patient ! " Overhead 
 The skies were drear and dim ; 
 And lo ! the thought of him 
 Smiled on my heart — and then 
 The sun shone out again ! 
 
 — James Whitcomb Riley. 
 
 riendship survives death better 
 — -J. Pettes Senn. 
 
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 than absence. 
 
|RIENDSHIP is good, a strong 
 stick; but when the hour 
 comes to lean hard it gives. In the 
 day of their bitterest need all souls 
 are alone. 
 
 — Olive Schreiner. 
 
 \ x/hen two friends part, they should 
 lock up each other's secrets 
 and exchange the keys. The truly 
 noble mind has no resentments. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
 qomething in ourselves warns us at 
 
 - once 
 a friend. 
 
 - once of any change of feeling in 
 
 — Sarah Grand. 
 
 ever to have encountered a con- 
 to one's own is tragic. 
 — Dorothea Lummis. 
 
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 stancy equal to one's own is tragic. 
 
|N youth every chance-met ac- 
 quaintance is hailed as a friend. 
 But as one grows older, and the real 
 nature of friendship becomes better 
 understood, fewer and fewer wear 
 for one the golden name of friend. 
 For the man or woman who has 
 reached middle life with half a dozen 
 friends — real friends who will bear 
 all the tests of friendship — is rarely 
 fortunate. One or two such friends 
 are all that most of us can hope to 
 win, and we may count ourselves rich 
 with them. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
 /^ommunion with the good is friendship's root, 
 That dieth not until our death ; 
 
 And on the boughs hang ever golden fruit : — 
 And this is friendship, the world saith. 
 
 Ourselves we doubt, our hearts we hardly know, 
 We lean for guidance on a friend ; 
 
 Ay, on a righteous man we'd fain bestow 
 Our faith, and follow to the end. 
 
 — Bhartrihari. 
 
|HO can afford to go through life 
 without especial friends on 
 whom he may bestow especial 
 care and love ? When old age comes, 
 that man is poor indeed — in heart — 
 compared with what he might have 
 been, if he has loved no life-long 
 friend. Select your friends without 
 regard to what they may perform for 
 you. That is not friendship which 
 forever seeks itself ; but that which 
 gives itself for others. And having 
 given once my love to any man, I 
 never will recall it. Hearts that once 
 were warmed and welded may not be 
 safely severed. When the whirlwind 
 of disaster comes and sweeps his 
 worldly goods away, I still will be 
 his friend. When the brand and 
 blaze of scandal come and ruin repu- 
 tation, I will remain his friend ; and 
 if he meet disaster worse than these, 
 his fair fame ruined, his good soul 
 soiled by sin, I still will be — and all 
 the more — his friend ! If in that 
 moment of his moral overthrow I 
 prove that I am not a friend indeed, 
 what can I say if he do never rise 
 again, when nothing less than love 
 had power, perchance, to rescue him ? 
 — Perry Marshall. 
 
IFE hath no blessing like an 
 earnest friend; than treasured 
 wealth more precious, than the power 
 of monarchs, and the people's loud 
 applause. 
 
 — Euripides, 
 
 A common friendship — Who talks 
 of a common friendship ? There 
 is no such thing in the world. On 
 earth no word is more sublime. 
 
 — Henry Drummond, 
 
 /^vne can not be a friend without 
 ^ having one. 
 
 — A. S. Hardy, 
 
IRIENDS— Old friends- 
 One sees how it ends. 
 A woman looks 
 Or a man tells lies, 
 And the pleasant brooks 
 And the quiet skies 
 Enchant no more 
 As they did before ; 
 And so it ends 
 With friends. 
 
 — W. E. Henley. 
 
 /^vnly he who is unwilling to love 
 ^ without being loved, is likely to 
 feel that there is no such thing as 
 friendship in the world. 
 
 — H. C. Trumbull. 
 
 "II 7hen friendship goes with love it 
 ' * must play second fiddle. 
 
 — German Proverb. 
 
IHE man who will share his purse 
 with you in the days of poverty 
 and distress, and like the good Sa- 
 maritan, be surety for your support 
 to the landlord, you may admit to 
 your confidence, incorporate into the 
 very core of your heart, and call him 
 friend; misfortunes cannot shake him 
 from you; a prison will not conceal 
 you from his sight. 
 
 —J.Bartlett. 
 
 Qay not that friendship is only ideal : 
 
 ^ That truth and devotion are blessings unknown; 
 
 For he who believes every heart is unreal, 
 
 Has something unsound at the core of his own. 
 
 — Eliza Cook. 
 
|E can never replace a friend. 
 When a man is fortunate 
 enough to have several, he finds 
 they are all different. No one has 
 a double in friendship. 
 
 — Schiller. 
 
 r\ ne faithful friend is enough ; it is 
 ^ even much to meet with one, yet 
 we cannot for the sake of others 
 have too many friends. 
 
 — La Bruyere. 
 
 A faithful friend is the true image 
 ^ of the Deity. 
 
 — Napoleon. 
 
HOU mayest be sure that he 
 that will in private tell thee of 
 thy faults, is thy friend, for he adven- 
 tures thy dislike, and doth hazard thy 
 hatred ; there are few men that can 
 endure it, every man for the most 
 part delighting in self-praise, which 
 is one of the most universal follies 
 that bewitcheth mankind. 
 
 — Sir Walter Raleigh. 
 
 "To friends and eke to foes true kindness show ; 
 No kindly heart unkindly deeds will do ; 
 Harshness will alienate a bosom friend, 
 And kindness reconcile a deadly foe. 
 
 — Omar Khayyam. 
 
 "Fhe love of man to woman is a thing 
 common and of course, and at first 
 partakes more of instinct and passion 
 than of choice ; but true friendship 
 between man and man is infinite and 
 immortal. 
 
 —Plato. 
 
jOW many of us can say of our 
 most intimate alter ego, leav- 
 ing alone friends of the outer circle, 
 that he is the man we should have 
 chosen, as the net result after adding 
 up all the points in human nature 
 that we love, and principles we our- 
 selves hold, and subtracting all that 
 we hate ? The man is really some- 
 body we got to know by mere 
 physical juxtaposition long main- 
 tained, and was taken into our confi- 
 dence, and even heart, as a makeshift. 
 — Thomas Hardy. 
 
 *npHE vital air of friendship is com- 
 posed of confidence. Friend- 
 ship perishes in proportion as this air 
 diminishes. 
 
 — Joseph Roux. 
 
|HY friend will come to thee unsought, 
 With nothing can his love be bought, 
 His soul thine own will know at sight, 
 With him thy heart can speak outright. 
 Greet him nobly, love him well, 
 Show him where your best thoughts dwell, 
 Trust him greatly and for aye ; 
 A true friend comes but once your way. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
 "~pHE supreme happiness of life is 
 the conviction of being loved for 
 yourself, or, more correctly, being 
 loved in spite of yourself. 
 
 — Victor Hugo. 
 
 friendship is a word the very sight 
 of which in print makes the heart 
 warm. 
 
 — Augustine Birr ell. 
 
WONDER if there is anything 
 in this world as beautiful as 
 good, strong friendship between two 
 men ? They don't go round doing 
 the molly coddle act ; they don't kiss 
 each other every time they meet ; in 
 fact, they never do kiss each other, 
 unless one is lying cold in death; 
 but they are sure one knows the 
 other is always going to stand by 
 him, and they feel that, no matter 
 what happens, each can rely on the 
 other. 
 
 — Unknown, 
 
 \A/e talk of choosing our friends, 
 but friends are self elected. 
 
 — Emerson, 
 
O moisten with one's tears the other's brow, 
 
 If needs be. 
 To turn one's back on pleasure, maybe life, 
 To take and hold all troubles, burdens, strife, 
 
 If needs be. 
 To bind oneself with an unwritten vow, 
 
 If needs be. 
 
 To ever yield a sympathetic ear, 
 
 If needs be. 
 To laugh when laughter onward flies, 
 To laugh, though for us mirth but cries, 
 
 If needs be. 
 To bravely face, and show no cowardly fear, 
 
 If needs be. 
 
 To be stone deaf when censure's in the air, 
 
 If needs be. 
 To lose one's wit and give no apt reply, 
 To seem a fool, rather than draw a sigh, 
 
 If needs be. 
 To yield in all thy dealings double share, 
 
 If needs be. 
 
 — Charlotte Mansfield. 
 
IUSCEPTIBILITY is the 
 foundation of attachment; 
 but it is strength of feeling that 
 ripens it into a genial and durable 
 friendship. 
 
 It is a curious circumstance when 
 persons past forty before they were 
 at all acquainted form together a 
 very close intimacy of friendship. 
 For grafts of old wood to take, 
 there must be a wonderful congeni- 
 ality between the trees. 
 
 — Richard Whately. 
 
 \xter einen Freund auf Erden hat, 
 oh ! der halte ihn fest ! Denn 
 die Welt ist so arm fur ein warm fiih- 
 lend Herz. 
 
 J. Lilsen. 
 
(ANY kinds of fruit grow upon 
 the tree of life, but none so 
 sweet as friendship; as with the 
 orange tree its blossoms and fruit 
 appear at the same time, full of re- 
 freshment for sense and for soul. 
 
 — Lucy Larconi. 
 
 '"To contract ties of friendship with 
 any one, is to contract friendship 
 with his virtue; there ought not to 
 be any other motive in friendship. 
 
 — Confucius. 
 
 M 
 
 ark the difference between inti- 
 macy and friendship. 
 
 — Erwin E. Wood. 
 
|LWAYS leave my friend some- 
 thing more to desire of me. 
 Be useful to my friend, as far as 
 he permits, and no further. 
 
 Be. much occupied with my own 
 affairs, and little, very little, with 
 those of my friend. 
 
 Leave my friend always at liberty 
 to think and act for himself, espec- 
 ially in matters of little importance. 
 — Gold Dust. 
 
 •"There are no rules for friendship. 
 It must be left to itself. We can 
 not force it any more than love. 
 
 — Hazlitt. 
 
|HINK of the importance of 
 friendship in the education of 
 men. It will make a man honest; it 
 will make him a hero; it will make 
 him a saint. It is the state of the 
 just dealing with the just, the mag- 
 nanimous with the magnanimous, the 
 sincere with the sincere, man with 
 man. 
 
 — Thoreau. 
 
 Deople who always receive you with 
 great cordiality rarely care for you. 
 Your true friends make you a partaker 
 of their humors. 
 
 — Manley H. Pike. 
 
 A man's reputation is what his 
 *"*• friends say about him. His char- 
 acter is what his enemies say about 
 him. — Unknown. 
 
|EJOICE, and men will seek you; 
 
 Grieve, and they turn and go, 
 
 They want full measure of all your pleasure, 
 
 But they do not need your woe. 
 Be glad, and your friends are many ; 
 Be sad, and you lose them all, — 
 There are none to decline your nectar'd wine, 
 But alone you must drink life's gall. 
 
 — Ella Wheeler Wilcox. 
 
 Tt is easy to find a lover and to re- 
 tain a friend: what is difficult is to 
 find the friend and to retain the 
 lover. 
 
 — Levis. 
 
 T aughter is not a bad beginning 
 for a friendship, and it is the 
 best ending for one. 
 
 — Oscar Wilde. 
 
IHERE are many moments in 
 friendship, as in love, when 
 silence is beyond words. The faults 
 of our friend may be clear to us, but 
 it is well to seem to shut our eyes to 
 them. Friendship is usually treated 
 by the majority of mankind as a tough 
 and everlasting thing which will sur- 
 vive all manner of bad treatment. 
 But this is an exceedingly great and 
 foolish error; it may die in an hour 
 of a single unwise word; its condi- 
 tions of existence are that it should 
 be dealt with delicately and tenderly, 
 being as it is a sensitive plant and not 
 a roadside thistle. We must not ex- 
 pect our friend to be above humanity. 
 
 — Ouida. 
 
|N the hour of distress and misery 
 the eye of every mortal turns 
 to friendship; in the hour of gladness 
 and conviviality, what is our want ? 
 it is friendship. When the heart 
 overflows with gratitude, or with any 
 other sweet and sacred sentiment, 
 what is the word to which it would 
 give utterance ? A friend. 
 
 — W. S. Landor. 
 
 Tf your friend has got a heart, 
 There is something fine in him ; 
 
 Cast away his darker part, — 
 Cling to what's divine in him. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
|HE tide of friendship does not 
 rise high on the banks of perfec- 
 tion. Amiable weaknesses and short- 
 comings are the food of love. It is 
 from the roughnesses and imperfect 
 breaks in a man that you are able to 
 lay hold of him. My friend is not 
 perfect — no more am I — and so we 
 suit each other admirably. 
 
 — Alexander Smith. 
 
 *"rRUE friendship cannot be among 
 many. For since our faculties 
 are of a finite energy, 'tis impossible 
 our love can be very intense when 
 divided among many. No, the rays 
 must be contracted to make them 
 burn. 
 
 —John Norris. 
 
|STEEM of great powers, or 
 amiable qualities newly dis- 
 covered, may embroider a day or 
 week, but a friendship of twenty 
 years is interwoven with the texture 
 of life. A friend may be found and 
 lost, but an old friend never can be 
 found, and nature has provided that 
 he cannot easily be lost. 
 
 — Samuel Johnson. 
 
 De able for thine enemy 
 
 Rather in power than use, and keep thy friend 
 Under thine own life's key. 
 
 — Shakspere. 
 
 ^pRUE love and fidelity are no more 
 to be estranged by ill than false- 
 hood and hollow-heartedness can be 
 conciliated by good usage. 
 
 — Charles Lamb. 
 
IN old friendship is like an old 
 piece of china. It is precious 
 only just so long as it is perfect. 
 Once it is broken, no matter how 
 cleverly you mend it, it is good for 
 nothing but to put on a shelf in a 
 corner where it won't be too closely 
 looked at. 
 
 — Amelia B. Edwards. 
 
 tf we would build on a sure founda- 
 tion in friendship, we must love 
 our friends for their sakes rather 
 than for our own. 
 
 — Charlotte Bronte. 
 
 qatire is a greater enemy to friend- 
 ship than is anger. 
 
 — Attwell. 
 
|N real life, help is given out 
 of friendship, or it is not 
 valued; it is received from the hand 
 of friendship, or it is resented. We 
 are all too proud to take a naked 
 gift; we must seem to pay it, if in 
 nothing else, then with the delights 
 of our society. 
 
 — Robert Louis Stevenson. 
 
 CRiendship is an education. It 
 draws the friend out of himself 
 and all that is selfish and ignoble in 
 him and leads him to life's higher 
 levels of altruism and sacrifice. Many 
 a man has been saved from a life of 
 frivolity and emptiness to a career of 
 noble service by finding at a critical 
 hour the right kind of friend. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
 CRIends slowly won are long held. 
 — Unknown. 
 
|RUE, it is most painful not to 
 meet the kindness and affection 
 you feel you have deserved, and have 
 a right to expect from others ; but it 
 is a mistake to complain of it, for it is 
 no use*; you cannot extort friendship 
 with a cocked pistol. 
 
 — Sidney Smith. 
 
 IVTever refuse any advance of friend- 
 ship, for if nine out of ten bring 
 you nothing, one alone may repay 
 you. Everything is of service to one 
 who knows how to use his tools. 
 
 — Madame de Tencin. 
 
 Oeason is the torch of friendship, 
 * judgment its guide, tenderness 
 its aliment. 
 
 — De Bonald. 
 
JOT understood. How trifles often change us! 
 The thoughtless sentence or the fancied slight 
 Destroy long years of friendship and estrange us, 
 And on our souls there falls a freezing blight, 
 £Jot understood. 
 
 — Thomas Bracken. 
 
 '"Take envy out of a character and 
 it leaves great possibilities for 
 friendship. 
 
 — Elizabeth B. Custer. 
 
 TVTever yet 
 
 Was noble man but made ignoble talk. 
 He makes no friend who never made a foe. 
 
 — Tennyson. 
 
|LD friends are the great bles- 
 sing of one's later years. Half 
 a word conveys one's meaning. They 
 have a memory of the same events, 
 and have the same mode of thinking. 
 I have young relations that may grow 
 upon me, for my nature is affec- 
 tionate, but can they grow old friends? 
 — Horace Walpole. 
 
 FJriends are like melons; shall I tell you why? 
 
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 To find one good you must a hundred try. 
 — Claude Mermet. 
 
 ''The only true and firm friendship 
 is that between man and woman, 
 because it is the only affection ex- 
 empt from actual or possible rivalry. 
 . — A. Comte. 
 
IEOPLE who have warm friends 
 are healthier and happier than 
 those who have none. A single real 
 friend is a treasure worth more than 
 gold or precious stones. Money can 
 buy many things, good and evil. All 
 the wealth of the world could not 
 buy you a friend or pay you for the 
 loss of one. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
 '"pHE ideal of friendship is to feel as 
 one while remaining two. 
 
 — Madame Swetchine. 
 
 ""po act the part of a true friend 
 requires more conscientious 
 feeling than to fill with credit and 
 complacency any other station or 
 capacity in social life. 
 
 — Sarah Ellis. 
 
|F one have any oro sodo about 
 one at all, either mental or 
 moral, one never counts what shreds 
 of the good metal one drops along 
 the roads. If others pick it up, let 
 them. To be of ever so little use is 
 all one can hope for in this world. 
 
 — Ouida. 
 
 k friend that you have to buy won't 
 be worth what you pay for him, 
 no matter what that may be. 
 
 — George D. Prentice. 
 
 *-po practise a deception is almost to 
 commit a crime. The flow of 
 kindness thus driven back is with- 
 drawn from others whom it might 
 have benefited. 
 
 — Carmen Sylva. 
 
IHE new joy in a new friend- 
 ship is a joy that could not 
 have been known in an earlier friend- 
 ship. Yet the old made ready for 
 the new. If the new friendship be 
 in the line of true growth and true 
 progress, it is a gain to the friend 
 and to all his friends. It needs no 
 apology, it provokes no challenge, in 
 view of the highest claims of all pre- 
 existing friendships. It advantages 
 them all by its added benefits. Yet 
 it is a new joy : a joy unspeakable, 
 and full of blessing ; a joy both new 
 and old. 
 
 — Unknown. 
 
 n friendship lies the joy superlative, 
 
 And nearest Heaven. We touch God's hand whene'er 
 
 We clasp a friend's. 
 
 — Olive T. Dargan. 
 
jHOUGH the seasons of man full of losses 
 Make empty the years full of youth, 
 If but one thing be constant in crosses, 
 
 Change lays not her hand upon truth; 
 Hopes die, and their tombs are for token 
 
 That the grief as the joy of them ends, 
 Ere time that breaks all men has broken 
 The faith between friends. 
 
 — Swinburne. 
 
DEFINITIONS OF "A FRIEND." 
 
 London Tit-Bits offered a prize for the best 
 explanation of the meaning of the words 
 "A Friend." The winning definition is given 
 first, followed by some of the best of the others 
 submitted. 
 
 |HE FIRST PERSON WHO COMES IN 
 WHEN THE WHOLE WORLD HAS 
 GONE OUT. 
 
 A bank of credit on which we can 
 draw supplies of confidence, coun- 
 sel, sympathy, help and love. 
 
 One who combines for you alike the 
 pleasures and benefits of society 
 and solitude. 
 
 A jewel whose lustre the strong 
 acids of poverty and misfortune 
 cannot dim. 
 
 One who multiplies joys, divides 
 griefs, and whose honesty is in- 
 violable. 
 
 One 
 
One who loves the truth and you, 
 
 and will tell the truth in spite of 
 
 you. 
 The Triple Alliance of the three great 
 
 powers, Love, Sympathy, and Help. 
 A watch which beats true for all 
 
 time, and never " runs down." 
 A permanent fortification when one's 
 
 affairs are in a state of siege. 
 One who to himself is true, and 
 
 therefore must be so to you. 
 A balancing pole to him who walks 
 
 across the tightrope of life. 
 The link in life's long chain that 
 
 bears the greatest strain. 
 A harbor of refuge from the stormy 
 
 waves of adversity. 
 One who considers my need before 
 
 my deservings. 
 
The jewel that shines brightest in 
 
 the darkness. 
 A stimulant to the nobler side of our 
 
 nature. 
 A volume of sympathy bound in 
 
 cloth. 
 A diamond in the ring of acquaint- 
 ance. 
 A star of hope in the cloud of adver- 
 sity. 
 One truer to me than I am to myself. 
 Friendship, one soul in two bodies. 
 An insurance against misanthropy. 
 A link of gold in the chain of life. 
 One who understands our silence. 
 The essence of pure devotion. 
 The sunshine of calamity. 
 A second right hand. 
 
RONDEAU 
 
 TO W. H. 
 
 |H AT makes a friend ? The heart that glows 
 With changeless love in Arctic snows, 
 Nor fails to cheer 'mid desert sand ? 
 This plainer speaks than clasp of hand : 
 Hands may be firmly clasped by foes. 
 
 How quickly liking often grows, 
 
 Before the speech we understand ! 
 By gleam of eye one often knows 
 
 What makes a friend. 
 
 A thing far frailer than a rose 
 
 Turns sudden strong as iron band : 
 The world again is newly planned ; 
 Upon the soul there comes repose ; 
 But, ab, no words can quite disclose 
 What makes a friend ! 
 
 — Volney Streamer. 
 
words came as ready as ideas, 
 and ideas as feelings, I could 
 say ten hundred kind things. You 
 know not my supreme happiness at 
 having one on earth whom I can call 
 friend. 
 
 — Charles Lamb, 
 
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