Cornell University Library BJ1571.H73 L7 1864 Letters to the Joneses / bv Tmothy TItc olin 3 1924 029 201 866 a Cornell University y Library The original of tliis bool< is in tine Cornell University Library. There are no known copyright restrictions in the United States on the use of the text. http://www.archive.org/details/cu31924029201866 LETTERS ' ro T H hi JOIs"ES his. BY TIMOTHY TITOOMB, c'^**^'!.^ tnTHOE or " LKTTEES TO TOnSG PEOPLE," "OOLti rOIl," "LESSONS IK LIFIS, ETC., rro. ELEVENTH EDITION. NEW YORK-. CHARLES SCRIBNER& CO., 654 BROADWAY. ' 1868. ^. ^// SKT17RED, accorchngr to ^ct of Ow:»tjress, in tne yeai 186^ BY CHAELE3 SCEIBNEE, !b the Clerk's OfSceof tlie District Court of the United States for tlie Sijath'jra D'stiiet of New Yort. JOHN F. TEO"W, ?KXMTEB ANP BTBRE0TTPE3, 50 Qreene street PREFACE. Thebe is pretension in all works of a didactic nature, wliile in those which are not only precep- tive, but critical of character, motive and life, there is an assumption of superiority on the part of the author which can only fail of being offensive by being ignored. The writer of the Titcomb Series of Books has always felt this, and, however little he may have concealed himself, has hidden his head under the shadow of a nom de flv/me. The only apologies which he offers for appearing as a censor and a teacher are his love of men, his honest wish to do them good, and his sad consciousness that his nom- inal criticisms of others are too often actual con- demnations of himself. 6 Preface. Since the appearance of the author's "Letters ■ to The Young," in 1858, he has received every year a large number of letters from their readers, asking for counsel in a wide variety of specific cases. While the present volume was not intended as a reply to these letters, it was naturally suggested by them. The author has attempted in it to present and criticise certain types of character and life, and to furnish motives and means for their improvement and reform. In order to do this successfully, it was found necessary to deal with pereonalities, to which it was desirable to give " a local habitation and a name;" and as the Smiths had been some- what overworked by the literary guild, as represen- tatives of the human race, it was determined to address the Joneses of Jonesville, who, though rep- resented in the well-known firm of Brown, Jones & Eobinson, were comparatively fresh in the field, and endowed with the average amount of " human nature." Now, if the reader will so far favor the author as to suppose that, when a young man, he taught the district school in Jonesville, "boarding aroxmd" according to the primitive New England fashion, that he has kept himself acquainted with the lives and fortunes of his old friends and pupils there, Preface. 7 tliat thej have known something of him,^and, through an officious representative of the family, have Requested him to write them letters for the public eye, which he had no time to write for their private reading, — I say, if the reader will suppose all this, he will supply all the necessary machinery of the book, and the writer will have his justifica- tion for the direct and homely talk in which he indulges toward the family. Sfkiuqfisld, October, 186S. CONTENTS. THE FIRST LETTER. PAOI To Deacon Solomon Jones— Concerning his system of family government, 13 THE SECOND LETTER. To Mrs. Martha Jones (wife of Deacon Solomon) — Concern- ' ing her system of family government, ... 27 THE THIRD LETTER. To F. Mendelssohn Jones, Singing Master — Concerning the influence of his profession on personal character, . 41 THE FOURTH LETTER. To Hans Sachs Jones, Shoemaker — Concerning his habit of business lying, 67 THE FIFTH LETTER. To Edward Patson Jones — Concerning his failure to yield to his convictions of duty, 71 THE SIXTH LETTER. To Mrs. Jessy Bell Jones — Concerning the difficulty she experiences in I^ecping her servants, .... 86 THE SEVENTH LETTER. To Salathiel Fogg Jones, Spiritualist — Concerning the faith and prospects of his sect of religionists, . . . 100 1* 10 Contents. PAGI THE EISHTH LETTER. To BiNjAMiN Fkanklik Jones, Mechanic — Concerning his habitual absence from church on Sunday, . . . 115 THE NINTH LETTER. To Washington Allston Jones — Concerning the policy of making his brains marketable, . . . . .128 THE TENTH LETTER. To Key. Jeeemiah Jones, D.D. — Concerning the failure of his pulpit ministry, . ... . . . .142 THE ELEVENTH LETTER. To Stephen Girard Jones — Concerning the best way of spend- ing his money, 167 THE TWELFTH LETTER. To Noel Jones — Concerning his opinion that he knows pretty much everything, . . . . . . .171 THE THIRTEENTH LETTER. To Kerns Ohoate Jones, Lawyer — Concerning the duties and dangers of his profession, 184 THE FOURTEENTH LETTER. To Mrs. Rotai Purple Jones — Concerning her absorbing de- votion to her own person, * 200 THE FIFTEENTH LETTER. To Miss Felicia Hemans Jones — Concemmg her strong de- sire to become an authoress, . . . . .21* THE SIXTEENTH LETTER. To JKHtr Jones— Concerning the character and tendencies of the fast life which he is living, 229 Contents. 11 FAGB THE SEVENTEENTH LETTER. To Thomas Arnold Jones, Schoolmaster — Concerning the re- qiurcments Euid the tendencies of his profession, . . 242 THE EIGHTEENTH LETTER. To Mrs. Rosa Hoppin Jones — Concerning her dislike of routine and her desire for change and amusement, . 258 THE NINETEENTH LETTER. To Jefferson Datis Jones, Politician — Concerning the im- morality of his pursuits, and their effect upon himself and his country, . , 269 THE TWENTIETH LETTER. To Dr. Benjamin Rush Jones — Concerning the position ot himself and his profession, 284 THE TWENTY-FIRST LETTER. To Diogenes Jones — Concerning his disposition to avoid society, 299 a THE TWENTY-SECOND LETTER. •To Sacl M. Jones — Concerning his habit of looking upon the dark side of things, 310 THE TWENTY-THIRD LETTER. Te John Smith Jones — Concerning his neighborly duties, and his failure to perform them, S23 THE TWENTY-FOURTH LETTER. To Goodrich Jones, Jr. — Concerning his disposition to be content with the respectability and wealth which his father has acquired for him, ' 385 LETTERS TO THE JONESES. THE FIRST LETTER, C0:SOEENING HIS SYSTSir OF FAMTLT GOYEnNMENT YOU are now an old man, and I do not expect that anything I shall write to you will do you good. I only seek, through what I eay to you, to convey useful hints and lessons to others. It is not a pleasure to me to wound your self-love, or to disturb the complacency which you entertain amid the wreck of your family hopes. It is not delightful tp assure you that your life has been a mistake from the beginning, and that your children owe the miscarriage of their lives to the train- ing which you still seem to regard as alike the offspring and parent of Christian wisdom. If there were not 14 Letters to the Jonefes. others in the world who are making the same mistake that you have made, and moving forward to the same sad family disaster, you should hear from me no word that you could shape into a reproach. But you will soon pass away, with the comforting assurance that your motives, at least, were good ; and to these, your only comforts, I commend you. You were once the great man of JonesviUe. You then deemed it necessary to maintain a dignified de- portment, to take the lead in all matters of puhUc moment, to manage the JonesviUe church and the JonesviUe minister, and to exercise a general supervis- ion of the village. There was not a man, woman, or child in the village who did not feel your presence as that of an independent, arbitrary power, that permitted no Uberty of will around it. You had your notions of politics, religion, municipal affairs, education, social life ; and to these you tried to bend every jnind that came into contact with you. You undertook to think for your neighbors, and to impose upon them your owh law in all things. If one independent man spoke out his thoughts, and refused to be bound to your will, you persecuted him. You beset him behind and before, by petty annoyances. You took away his business. You sneered at him in public and private. In tlis way, you banished from JonesviUe many men who would have been an honor to it, and finaUy alienated from To Deacon Solomon Jones. 15 yourself the hearts of your own kindred. You drove a vrhole village into opposition to yourself. You forced them to a self-assertion that manifested itself in a mul titude of improper and offensive ways. If you opposed a harmless dance at a neighbor's house, the villagers revenged themselves by holding a ball at the tavern. It took only a few years of your peculiar management to fill Jonesville with doggeries and loafers, and to prove to you that your village management had been a sorry failure. You seem to have conducted life upon the assump- tion that all the men in the world, with the single excep- tion of Deacon Solomon Jones, are incapable of self- government. It never has occurred to you, in any dis- pute with a neighbor, or in any difficulty which ai" rayed the public against you, that you could possibly be in the wrong ; and it always has offended you to think that any other Jones, or any other man, should dare to controvert your opinions, or question your decisions. And you were so stupid that, when all your neighbors — after much long-suffering and patient waiting upon your wMms — ^rebelled against you, and went to extremes to show their independence of, and contempt for you, you attributed the work of your own hands to the devil. Deacon Jones, the Lord gave you brains, and Yan- kee enterprise got you money? Had there been proper management on your part, Jonesville would be 16 Letters to the Jonefes. in your hands to-day ; but you are aware that by far the larger proportion of your fellow citizens either do not love you, or positively hate you. How has this state of things been arrived at ? Do you flatter your self that you have been as wise as a serpent and harm- less as a dove ? Do you honestly believe that the loss of your influence is attributable rather to the popular than your own personal peiwerseness ? I do not expect to make you see it, but you really did your best to make slaves of your fellows, and your fellows, recog- nizing you as a tyrant, kicked over your throne, and tumbled you into your chimney corner, where alone you had the power to put your peculiar theories into practice. A man does not usually have one set of notions con- cerning neighborhood government and another concern- ing family government. You managed your own family very much as you undertook to manage your village. I can, indeed, bear witness that you gave your family line upon line and precept upon precept, but I am not so ready to concede that you trained them up in the right way. Your family was an orderly one, I admit, but I have seen jails and houses of correction that were more orderly stiU. An orderly house is quite as liable to be governed too much, as a disorderly house is to be governed too little. I always noticed this fact, with relation to your To Deacon Solomon Jones. 17 mode of family training. You enforced a blind obe- dience to your commands, and never deemed it neces- sary or desirable to give a reason for them. Naj', you told your children, distinctly, that it was enough for them that you commanded a thing to be done. You refused to give them a reason beyond your own wish and win. You'placed yourself between them and their own consciences ; you placed yourself between them and their own sense of that which is just and proper and good ; nay, you placed yourself between them and God, and demanded that they should obey you because you willed it — because you commanded them to obey you. It is comparatively an easy thing to get up an orderly family, on such a plan of operations as this. A man needs only to have a strong arm, and a broad palm, and a heart that never opens to parental tender- ness, to secure the most orderly family in the world. It is not a hard thing for a man who weighs two hun- dred pounds, more or less, to make a boy who weighs only fifty pounds, so much afraid of him as to obey his minutest commands. Indeed, it is not a hard thing to bi-eak down his will entirely, and make a craven of him. I declare to you. Deacon Jones, that the most orderly families I have ever known were the worst governed ; and one of these families was your own. You are not the first man who has brought up " an orderly family," 18 Letters to the Jonefes. and fitted them for the devil's hand by his system of government, Now will you just think for a moment what you iid for your children ? I know their history, and in many -respects it has been a bad one and a sad one. You governed them. You laid your law upon them. You forced upon them your wUl as their supreme rule of action. They did not fear God half as much as they did you, though, if I remember correctly, you repre- sented Him to be a sort of infinite Deacon Solomon Jones. They did not fear to lie half as much as they feared to be flogged. They became hypocrites through their fear of you, and they learned to hate you because you persisted in treating them as servile dependants. You put yourself before them and thrust yourself into their life in the place of God. You bent them to your wiU with those strong hands of yours, and you had " an orderly family." My friend, when I think of the families that have been trained and ruined in this way, I shudder. Your children were never permitted to have any will, and when they went forth from your threshold, they went forth emancipated slaves, and imtried children in the use of liberty. When they found the hand of parental restraint removed, there was no restraint upon them. They had never been taught that most essential of all government, self-government ; and a man who has not To Deacon Solomon Jones. 19 beon taught to govern himself is as helploss in the world as a child. A family may be orderly to a degree of nicety that is really admirable, and stiU be as incapa- ble of self-goTernment as a family of idiots. Families that might be reckoned by thousands have left orderly homes, all prepared for the destniction to which they rushed. The mihtary commander knows very well that he says very little as to the moral character of his soldiers when he says that they are under excellent discipline. The drill of the camp may make the camp the most orderly of places, but this drill does not go beyond the camp, or deeper than the surface of the character. Take from the shoxilders of these soldiers the strong hand of military control, and you wiU have — as ordinary armies go — ^a mass of swearing, gaming, di-Lnking row- dies, ready to rush into any excess. The state prison is the most orderly place in the world. The drill is fault- less. I know of no place where, among an equal number of men gathered from the lower walks of society, there are so few breaches of decorum ; yet, when the in- mates reappear in society, they are not improved. You undertook to introduce a military drill, or prison driU, or both, into your family ; and you failed, precisely as generals and wardens fail. You never recognized the fact that the essential part of a child's education is that of teaching him the use of his Uberty, under the control 20 Letters to the Jonefes. of his sense of that 'which is right and proper and laud- able in human conduct. You did not undertake to de- velop and enlighten that sense at all. Tou managed your children instead of teaching them how to manage themselves. Tou never appealed to their sense of honor, or to their sense of right or propriety, as thft motive to any desirable course of conduct ; and when you placed your command upon one of them, and he dared to ask you after a reason, you crushed him into silence by assm-ing him that he had nothing to do with a reason. It is not uncommon to hear the assertion that the sons of ministers and deacons turn out badly. Statis- tics show that the statement is too broad, and yet com- mon observation unites in giving it some basis in truth. It is not at all uncommon to see the children of excel- lent parents — children who have been bred in the most orderly manner — going straight to destruction the mo- ment they leave the family roof and cease to feel parental restraint. These parents feel, doubtless, very much as you do, that it is all a mysterious dispensation of Providence ; but it is only the natural result of their style of training. I know of public institutions for the reform of va- grant children, that are celebrated for the delightful manner in which those children are brought to square theii- conduct by rule. They march like soldiers. 'I'o Deacon Solomon Jones. 21 They sing like maoMnes. They enter their school" room in silent files that would delight the eye of an Indian warrior. They recite in concert the most com- plicated prose and verse. They play by rule, and go to bed to the ringing of a bell, and say the Lord's prayer in miison. And they run away when they can get a chalice, and steal, and swear, and cheat, and prowl, and indulge in obscene talk, as of old. I know of other public institutions of this kind, or, at least, one other, that has no rule of action except the general Christian rule within it. The children are taught to do right. They are instructed in that which is right. Their sense of that which is true and good and pure and right and proper is educated, developed, stimulated, ' and thus are the childen taught to govern themselves. They govern themselves while in the institution, and they govern themselves after they leave it. It is im- possible to reform a vicious child without patiently teaching that child self-government. All the drill of all the masters and all the reformers in the world will not reform a single vice of a single child ; and this show of juvenile driU that we meet with in schools and charit- able institutions is frequently — nay, I will say, general- ly — ^a most deceitful thing — the specious cover of a system of training that is terribly worse than useless. If dogs could talk, they could be taught to do the same things in the same way ; but they would hunt cats and 22 Letters to the Jonefes. bark at passengers in the old fashion when beyond the reach of their master's lash. You will see, Deacon Jones, that your mode of family training has introduced me to a field of discus* sion as wide as it is important. It relates to public institutions as weU as to families, and to nations as well as to public institutions. You and I, and all the democrats of America, have been indulging in dreams of democracy in Europe, but these dreams do not come to pass, and are not likely to be realized. at aU. The people of Europe have been governed. They know nothing about self-government, and, whenever they have tried the experiment, they have sadly failed. That which alone imperils democracy in this country is the loss of the power of self-government, and that which alone prevents the establishment of democracy itt Europe is the lack of that power. The governing classes of Europe wiU take good care to see that that power be not developed. But I return to this matter of family government and I imagine that, before this time, you have asked me whether I have intended to sneer at orderly fami- lies. I answer— not at all. There must be, without question, more or less repression of the in-egularities of young life, and of such rough passions as sometimes break out and gain ascendency in certain natures ; but this should be exceptional. I do not sneer at orderly To Deacon Solomon Jones, 23 families, but I like to see ordei- growing out of each member's sense of propriety, and each member's desire to contribute to the general good conduct and harmony of the family life. I like to see each child gradually transformed into a gentleman or a lady, with gentle- manly or ladylike habits, through a cultivated sense of that which is proper, and good. I know that children thus bred — taught from the beginning that they have a stake and a responsibility in the family life — used from the beginning to manage themselves — are prepared to go out into the world and take care of themselves. To them, home is a place of dignity, and they will never disgrace it. ■ To them, liberty is no new possession, and they know how to use with- out abusing it. To them, self-control is a habit, and they never lose it. Do you know what a child is. Deacon Jones ? Did you ever think whence it came and whither it is go- ing ? Did it ever occur to yoii that any one of yom* children is a good deal more God's child that it is yours ? Did you ever happen to think that it came from hea- ven, and that it is more your brother than your child ? Never, I venture to say. You never dream that your children are your younger brothers and sisters, intmst- ed to you by your common Father, for the purposes of protection and education ; and you certainly never treat them as if they were. Tou have not a child in 24 Letters to the Jonefes, the world whose pardon yon should not ask for tho impudent and most unbrotherly assmnptions which ypu have practiced upon him. Ah, if you could have looked upon your sons as your younger brothers and your daughters as your younger sisters, and patiently borne with them and instructed them in the use of life and liberty, and built them up into a self-regulated manhood arid- womanhood, you would not now be alone and comfortless. A child is not a horse or a dog, to be controlled by a walking stick or a whip, under all circumstances. There are some children that, like some dogs and horses, have vicious tendencies that can only be repressed by the infliction of pain, but a child is not a brute, and is not to be governed like a brute. A chUd is a yoimg man or a young woman, possessiag man's or woman's faculties in miniature, and is just as sensitive to insult and injury and injustice as in after years. You have insulted your children. You have treated them imre'asonably, and you ought not to complain if they hold you in dislike and revengeful contempt. You never did anything to make j'-our children tcTO you, and you cannot but be aware that the moment that they were removed from your authority, you lost all influence over them. Why could you not reclaim that boy of yours, who madly became a debauchee, and disgraced your home, and tortured your heart? To Deacon Solomon Jones, 25 Because you had never made him love you, or given him better motives for self-restraint than your own arbitrary will. He had been governed from the out- side, and never from the inside ; and when the outside authority was gone, there was nothing left upon which you hS,d power to lay your hand. Why did your daugh ter elope with one who was not worthy of her ? She did it simply because she found a man who loved her, and gave her the consideration due her as a woman — a love and a consideration which she had never found at home, where she was regarded by you as the dependent servant of your will. She was nothing at home ; and, badly as she married, she is a better and a freer and a happier woman than she would have been had she continued with you. I wish to impress upon you the conviction that these children of youi>s went astray, not in spite of your mode of family training, but in consequence of it. If I should wish to ruin my family, I would pursue your policy, and be measurably sure of the desired result. It is not pleasant for me to tell you these things, but I am writing for the public, and can have no choice. I tell you, and all who read these words, that, if you do not get the hearts of your children, and build them up in the right use of a liberty which is no more theirs after, they leave your roof than it is before, you wUl be to them forever as heathen" men and publicans. If 26 Letters to the Jonefes. they take the determination to go to destruction, they will go, and you cannot save them. A child must have freedom, within limits which a variety of circumstances mast define, and he taught how to use it, and made responsihle for the right use of it. It is in this way that self-government is taught, and in this thing that self-government consists. All children, on arriving at manhood and womanhood, should he the self-governed companions and friends of their parents, and on- going out into the world, or losing parental control, should not feel the transition in the slightest degree. No chUd is trained in the right way who feels, when he' steps forth from the family threshold — an independent actor — any less resti-aint than he felt the hour before. If he does, he is in danger of falling before the Brat temptation that assails him. THE SECOND LETTER. f n ife. itadl^a |Dnc=i {mih of §tnmx Mamn). 002'rCERNIS'G BEB SYSTEM OF FAMILY aOYEBNMENT. I SUPPOSE I have thought of you ten thousand times within the last twenty years. I never see a clean kitchen, or a trim and tidy housewife, or an irreproachable "dresser," with its shining rows of tin and pewter, or a dairy full of milk, or a cleanly raked chip-yard, or polished brass andirons, flaming with fire on one side and reflecting ugly faces on the other, or catch a certain savory scent of breakfast on a frosty morning, or see a number of children crowded out of a door on their way to school, without thinking of you. Thriving, busy, exact, scrupulous, neat, minute in your supervision of aU family concerns, striving to have your own way without interfering with the dea- con's, you have always lingered in my memory as a 28 Letters to the Jonefes. remarkable woman. You sat. up so late at night and rose so early in the morning, that it seemed as if you never slept. There was a chronic alertness ahout you that detected and even anticipated every occurrence in and around the house. Not a door could be opened or a window raised in any part of Hie house, however distant it might bo, without your hearing and identify- iag it. E'ot a voice -was heard within the house at any time of the day or night that you did not know who uttered it. Your soul seemed to have become the tenant of the whole building, and to be conscious of every occurrence in every part of it at every moment. You not only knew what was going on everywhere, but every part spoke of your presence. It was a curious way you had of maintaining the family harmony without the sacrifice of your own sense of independence. You really carried on a very independent life within certain limits. You were aware that, in the matter of will, the deacon, your husband, was very obstinate, and that you could never hope to dispute his empire. So you shrewdly managed never to cross him where the course of his will ran strongest, and to be sure that no one else crossed him. I remem- ber very well your look of amazement and reproof when you heardme treat with apparent irreverence some of his most rigidly fixed opinions, and assail prejudices which you knew were as deeply seated as To Mrs. Martha Jones. 29 his life. I enjoyed your look of amazement quite as much, as I did the deacon's anger, for it seemed to me a very justifiable bit of mischief to break into a family peace that was maintained in this way. By humoring and indulging your husband, in all matters over which he saw fit to exercise authority, and by so closely attending to everything else that he did not think of it, you kept him in a state of self-complacency, and were the recognized queen of a wide realm. As I look back upon your life, I find but little to blame you for. Wherever your errors have been pro- ductive of mischief, they have been errors of ignorance — mistakes — ^possibly excusable in the circumstances under which they were committed. You loved your children with all the tenderness and devotion of a good mother, but, in your anxiety that they should not cross their father's wiU, and provoke his displeasure, you became but little better than an irksome overseer to them. You knew that if there was anything that your husband insisted on, it was parental authority. You knew that the strict ordering of his family was his pet idea, and that family government, in the fullest mean- ing and force of the phrase, was his hobby. This pet idea — ^this hobby — ^you made room for in your famUy plans. You knew that he was often unreasonable, but that made no difierence. You knew that his will ran strongest in that direction, and you made it your busi. 30 Letters to the Jonefes. ness to see that as few obstacles lay in its path as pos* sible. On one side stood the deacon's inexorable Jaws and rules and wUl, by which his children, of every age, were to square their conduct. On the other stood those precious children of youi-s, with aU the wilfulness and waywardness of children — with all their longing for parental tenderness and indulgence — with moods which . they had never learned to manage, and 'tempers which they did not know the meaning of; and you became supremely anxious that the deacon should not be pro- voked by them to wrath, and that they should escape the consequences of his displeasure. Well, what was the consequence ? This ceaseless vigilance which you had learned to exercise over every portion of the household economy, you extended to the bearing and conduct of your children. You exercised over them the strictest sm-reillance. You carried in your mind and in your manners the dread of a collision between them and their despotic governor. You tried to save him from irritation and them from its conse- quences. You kept one eye on him and another on them, and nothing in the conduct of either party escaped you. Your children, as they emerged from babyhood, grew graduaUy into the consciousness that they were watched, and that not a word could be uttered, or a hand lifted, or a foot moved, witho'ut a degree of notice which curtailed its liberty. It was To Mrs. Martha Jones. 31 repression — repression — nothing but repression — eveiy- where, foi- them. Ifo hearty laugh, or overflowing, childish glee, or noisy play for them, for fear that the deacon might be disturbed. At last, every chUd you had, in addition to the fear of its father, came to entertain a dread of its mother. I think your children loved you, or would have loved you, had they not associated you forever with restraint. If they played, you were near with your everlasting " hush ! " If they sat down at table, they knew that your eye was upon them — ^that you watched the position of every head under the deacon's long " grace " — ^the passage of every mouthful — ^the manner in which they asked every question and responded to what was said to them — ^the amount of food and drink consumed — everything. They felt themselves wrapped up in — de- voured by — a vigilant supervision that took from them their liberty and their wi!l, and with them, all feelings of self-respect and self-possession. It is not the opinion of your neighbors that either your husband or yourself has had anything to do with the ruin of your children. The deacon was so strict and so efficient in his family government, and you were so scrupulously careful in everything that related to their manners at home and away, that they did not imagine it possible that any bad result could naturally flow from .such training. I do not say that they are 32 I^etters to the Jonefes. mistaken from any -wish to blame you, but I must tell you the truth. Your minute -watchfuhiess and censor- ship exercised over these children until you became to them God, conscience, and wUl, were just as fatal to a manly and womanly development as the deacon's irresponsible conamands. A boy that feels that every word of his mouth and eveiy movement of his body is watched by one whose eye never sleeps, and whose hand is ever ready to repress, becomes at last a coward or a bully. There are natures that wUl not submit to this surveillance ; and when these . become weary of the pressure, they kick it aside, and parentaT restraint — associated with all that is hateful in slavery — ^is gone forever. Under the peculiar training and home influences to which your childi-en were subjected, there were but two things that they were . likely to become, viz. : rebels or cravens. Your children were naturally high- spirited, like the deacon and yourself, and they became rebels. Otherwise, they would have carried with them through life the feeling that whatever show they might put on — ^however much they might struggle against it — they were underlings. There are some men and soma women, probably, who, living through a long life under favorable circumstances, recover from this early discipline of repression, and this abject slavery of the will, but they are few. They must be few. The To Mrs. Martha Jones. 33 negi'o wto lias once been a slave cannot, one time in ten, refuse to take off Ms hat or bow to a wMte man He is never at home, when placed on an equality with him. He carries in his soul the badge of servility, and he can no more, thrust it from his sight or banish i from his consciousness than he can change the. color of his skin. This is not because he is a negro, simply, but because he has been a slave — ^because he has been trained up to have no will, and to be controlled under aU circumstances by the wills of those who had him in their power. A child can be made the slave of a parent just as thoroughly as a negro ever was made the slave of a white man, and such a child can be just as everlastingly damaged by parental or family slavery, as a bondman can be by any system of bondage. A child can be made as meanj and cowardly, and deceitful, and devoid of self-respect, by a system of management which puts a curb upon every action, as the devil himself could possibly desire. This system of watchful repression, and minute supervision, and criticism of every action, among children, is utterly debilitating and demoralizing. You intended no harm by it, madam. Under the circumstances, it was a very natural thing for you to do ; but I think you can hardly fail to see that, unwittingly, you perfected the. work of destruction in your childi-en which the deacon so thoroughly began. 2* 34 Letters to the Jonefes. and for wliich he would have been, without youi assistance, entirely sufficient. Oh! when wiU the world learn that children are neither animals nor slaves ? When will the world learn that children — the purest, sweetest, noblest, truest, most sagacious creatures in the world—with a natural charter of liberty as broad as that enjoyed by the angels — should be treated with respect? When shall this idea that all legitimate training relates to the use of liberty — ^to the acquisition of the power of self-government — become the universal basis of family policy ? Tou ask me what I really mean by aU this, for you are a practical woman, and are not to be taken in by a set of easily written phrases. Well, I wiU try to explain, or illustrate, my meaning. I remember a gathering at your house — a party of friends — to which your children were admitted ; and I remember with painful distinctness the telegraphic communication which you maintained with them during the whole evening. If James got his legs crossed, or, in his drowsiness, gaped, or if he coughed, or sneezed, or laughed above a certain key, or make a remark, or moved Ms chair, it was : " James, h — ^m ! " — " James, h — m ! " " James, h — ^m ! " And James was only one of half a dozen whom you treated in the same way. You began the evening with the feeling that you were To Mrs, Martha Jones. 35 entirely responsible for the behavior of those chiL dren — -just as much responsible as if they severally were the fingers of your hand. You acted as if they were machines which, for the evening, you had under- taken to operate ? They felt that they were undei the eye of a vigilant keeper, and they did not dream of such a thing as acting for themselves. They were acting for you, and they did not know until they heard your suggestive " h — ^m ! " whether they were right or wrong. You undertook for the evening to be to them in the stead of their sense of propriety ; and the com- munication between th^m and you being imperfect, they often offended. I know that your own good sense will tell you now that this is not the way gentle- men and ladies are made. I was recently in a family circle where I witnessed a most delightful contrast to all this — where the sons and daughters were brought up and introduced to me by the father and mother with as much politeness and cordiality as if they were kings and queens every one, and with as much freedom as if the parents had not the slightest doubt that the children — from the oldest to the youngest — would bear themselves like ladies and gentlemen. There was no forwardness on the part of these children, as you may possibly suppoi*e ; yet there was perfect self-possession ; and each child knew that he stood upon his own merits. I suppose 36 Letters to the Jonefes. that if any one of these children had indulged in any impropriety during this interview-^as not one of thenj did — ^he would have been kindly told afterward, by one of the parents, what he had done, and why he should never repeat it. Tour children (pardon me for saying it) were always awkward in company, and for the simple reason that they did not know whether they were pleasing you or not. They had no freedom, and were guided by no principle. Your will was their rule, and your wiU, so far as it related to all the minutiae of behavior, was not thoroughly known ; so they were always embarrassed, and always turning their eyes toward you. Tour entire system of management was based on distrust, while that of the family with which I contrast yoxu-s was founded on trust. Tour children, while you could possibly keep your hold upon them, were never permitted to outgrow their petticoats, while those of the other family alluded to were put upon their own responsibility just as soon as possible. Is there any doubt as to which system of treatment is best ? Perhaps you, and many others who read this letter, think that parental authority cannot be maintained without its constant and direct assertion. If so, then you and they are mistaken. I liave known families that possessed fathers and mothei-s who were honored, admired, loved, almost worshiped — fathers and motlers To Mrs. Martha Jones. 37 ■whose children dreaded nothing so much as to give them pain — ^yet these same children knew no such word v as fear, and would have been utterly ashamed to render the assertion of parental authority necessary. Parents and children were fi-iends and companions — the children deferring to the wishes and opinions of the parents, and the parents consulting the happiness and trusting the good sense and good intentions of the children. Whenever I hear a young man calling his father " the old man," and his mother " the old woman," I know that the old man and the old woman are to hlame for it. If your children had turned out well, it must have been in spite of a system of training which was so far from being education as to be its opposite. There was no inner life" organized ; there was no building up of character ; there was no establishment in each child's heart of a bar of judgment — no exercise in the use of liberty ; but only restraint, only fear, only slavery. I do not entertain those opinions of one variety of disorderly families, which you and. the deacon seem to have entertained all your lives. I have never yet seen the house where children were happy that did not show evidences of disorder ; and a man is a fool, or something worse, who quarrels with this state of things. Where children have playthings, and where they play with them, there must necessarily be disorder. d8 Letters to the Jonefes. and furniture more or less disturbed and defaced, and noise more or less disagreeable, and litter that is not highly ornamental. And before children have had an opportunity to learn propriety of speech and deport- ment—before they are educate'd— there will be in their conduct— in playroom and parlor alike— more or less of irregularity and extravagance. Remarks will be made that will shock all hearers ; laughs too boisterous to be musical will be indulged in ; sudden explosions of anger will occur, with other eccentricities of conduct that need not be named. There are remedies for all these — in time. "When, in the course of their educa- tion, the sense of propriety is stimulated and strength- ened, and pride of character is developed, these irreg- ularities will disappear, and an orderly family will be the consequence, each chUd having become its own reformer. There was a feature of your family government (which you held in common with your husband) that made still more complete the slavery of your children. It was the deacon's opinion, you will remember, that a boy who was not too tired to play at ball, or sUde down hill, or skate, was not too tired to saw wood, and it was his policy to direct aU the excess of animal life which his boys manifested into the channels of industry and usefulness. You seconded this opinion, and maia- tained that a girl who was not too . sleepy to make a To Mrs, Martha Jones. 39 doll's hat, or a doll's dress, was not too sleepy to hem a handkerchief, or darn a stocking. So your children never had what children call " a good time." Always kept at "work when possible, and always restrained in every exhibition of the spirit of play, home became an irksome place to them, and childhood a dreary jieriod. Tour children were never permitted to do anything to please themselves in their own way. Eveiything was done — or you insisted that everything should be done — ^to please you, in your way. If one of your daugh- ters sat down to rest, or resorted to a little quiet amuse- ment, you stirred her at once by some pettj lommand. I was often tempted to be angry with you because you would never give your children any peace. You had always something for them to do, and something that had to be done just at the very time when they were enjoying themselves the best: " Precept upon precept " is very well, in its way, but principle is much better. The principle of right and proper acting, fully inculcated, renders unnecessary all precepts ; and until a child has fully received this principle he is without the basis of manhood. The earlier this principle is received and a child thrown upon his own responsibiUty, and _made to feel that he is a man, lacking only years to give him strength and wisdom, the safer that boy is for time and for eternity. The moment a boy becomes morally responsible, he 40 Letters to the Jonefes. becomes in a most important sense — a sense whicli you and the deacon never recognized — free. I do not say that he is removed from parental control or rational restraint, but that it is the business of the parent to educate him in the principle of self-govern- ment. A boy bred thus, becomes ten times more a man than a boy bred in the way which has seemed best to you ; and when he goes forth from the parental roof he goes forth strong, and able to battle with life's trials and temptations. Children long for recognition — ^to do things for themselves — ^to be their own masters and mistresses. Their play is all based on the assump- tion that they are men and women, as, in miniature, they are ; and, insisting on the right use of liberty, and teaching them how to use it, they should have it, restrained only-when that liberty is abused. THE THIRD LETTER. ^0 d. pjcttbtlffio^n: loTOS, Singing Paslor. COnCEBNIBG THE mFLUEMOE OW HIS FBOFESSION ON PER SOlfTAL OBABAOTEB. IOIfCE heard the most renowned and venerahle of all the professors of music in this coimtry say that he always warned his classes of young women to beware of singing men, and, with equal emphasis, warned his classes of young men to beware of singing women. He alluded, of course, to professional singers, and I have too much respect for his Christian character to suppose that he was not thoroughly in earnest. The statement win not flatter your self-conceit, but I immediately thought of you, and the life you have led. You were what people called a bright boy. Indeed, you were what I should call a clever boy. You were quick, inge- nious, graceful, skilful ; and your father and mother told me, with evident pride, and in your presence, 42 Letters to the Jonefes. that you had a remarkable talent for music. " Felix Mendelssohn could sing," they said, " and carry hia own part, hefore he 'was three years old." And Felix Mendelssohn was brought out on aU possible occasions, to display his really respectable gifts as a singer, and was brought out so often, and was so much praised and flattered, that, before he was old enough to know much about anything, he had conceived the idea that singing was the largest thing to be done in this world, and that Felix Mendelssohn Jones had a very large way of doing it. Twenty years have passed away, and where and what are you ? You are a singing master, with a lim- ited income, and a reputation rather .the worse for wear. You have never been convicted of any flagrant acts of immorality, but men and women have' ticket- ed you " doubtful." Careful fathers and mothers are careful not to leave their daughters in your company. Ladies who prize a good name above aU other posses- sions never permit themselves to be found alone with you. There are stories floatiag about concerning your intrigues, and the jealousy and unhappiness of youj wife. Everybody says you are an excellent singer, that you understand your business, &c., &o., but all add that you know nothing about anything else, that they would not trust you the length of their arms, that you are a hypocrite and a scapegrace, that you ought To F. Mendelffohn Jones. 43 to be horsewhipped and hissed out of decent society, that it is strange that any respectable man will have you in his family, and a great many other ugly things which need not be related. I am aware that you have warm friends, but not one among the men, unless it be some poor fellow whose wife's iiame has been coupled with yours in an uncomfortable way. Wherever you go, there are always two or three women who become your sworn partisans — women who have your name constantly oh their lips — who wiU not peaceably oi without protest hear your immaculateness called in question — women who, somehow, seem to have a per- sonal interest is establishing the uncompromising rigid- ity of your virtue. I do not think very highly of these women. You are a handsome man, and how well you know it ! You are a " dressy " man. There is no better broadcloth than you wear, and no better tailor than you employ. You are as vain as a peacock, and selfish beyond all calculation. A stranger, meeting you in a railroad car, or at a hotel, would not guess the manner in which you get your money, and least of all would he guess- that ia your home, where you are a contempt- ible tyrant, yom- wife sits meanly clad, and your chil- dren eat the bread of poverty. I have asked myself a thousand times why it is that you and a large class of singing men and singing 44 Letters to the Jonefes. ■women are thus among the most worthless of all human beings. One -wotild suppose, from the nature of the case, that you and they would be among the purest and noblest and best men and women in the world. Music is a creature of the skies. It was on the wings of music that the heaven-bom song — " Peace on earth : good wiU to men " — came down, and thrilled Judea with sounds that have since swept around the world. It is on the breath of music that our praises rise to Him whose life itself, as expressed in the move- ments of systems and the phenomena of vitality, is the perfection of rhythmical harmony. It is music that lulls the fretful infant to sleep upon its mother's bosom, that gives expression to the free spirit of boyhood when it rej6ices upon the hiUs, that relieves the tedium of labor, that clothes the phrases by which men woo the women whom they love, and that makes a flowery channel through which grief may pour its plaint. It stirs the martial host to do battle in the cause of God and freedom, and celebrates the victory ; and " with songs " as well as with " everlasting joy," we are told, the redeemed shall enter upon their reward at last. Why, one would suppose that no man could live and move and have his being in music, without being sub- limated — etherealized — spiritualized by it — kept up in a seventh heaven of purity and refinement. This may all be said of music in general, but to me To F. Mendelflbhn Jones. 45 there seems to be sometliiiig peculiarly sacred in the human Toioe. There is that in the voice which trans- cends aU the instruments of man's invention. It is one of God's instruments, and cannot be surpassed or equal- led. It is the natural outlet of human passion — the opening through which — in love and hate, m grief and gladness, in desire and satisfaction — ^the soul breathes. It pulsates aind trembles with that spiritual life and motion which are bom of God's presence ia the soul. It is not only the expression of all that is human in us, but of all that is divine. One would suppose, I repeat, from the nature of the case, that you and all the professional singing men and singing women would be among the purest and noblest and best men and women in the world, but you and they are notoriously no such thing. On the contrary, you are the mean and miserable profligate I have already charged you with being, and many of your associates are like you. In saying this, I do not mean to wound the sensibilities of some singing men and women who do not belong in your set. I know truly Christian men and women who have devoted their lives to music, but they are in no danger oi being confounded with your crowd and class. They despise you as much as I do, and regret as much as I do the facts which have associated music with so much that is mean and unworthy in character and conduct. 46 Letters to the Jonefes. It may be interesting to the public, if not to yon, to study into the causes of this wide-spread immorality and worthlessness among those who make singing the business of their lives. In your case, and in many others, personal vanity has had more to do than anything else. You were bred from the cradle to a love of praise. Your gift for music was manifested early, and youi- parents undertook to exhibit you and secure praise for you throughout all the years of your boy- hood. You grew up with a constant gi'eed for admira- tion, and this grew at last into a passion, which has never relinquished its hold upon you. You became vain of your accomplishment, and vain of your personal beauty, and vain of your whole personality. You have been singing in church all your life, and giving voice to the aspirations and pi-aises of others, but, prob- ably, there has never, in all that time, gone up from your heart a single oifering to Him who bestowed upon you your excellent gift. You have, during all your life, on all occasions, sung to men, and not to God. As your voice has swelled out over choir and congregation, you have been only thoughtful of the admiration you were exciting in the minds of those who were listen- ing, and have always been rather seeking praise for yourself than giving praise to your Maker. This love of admiration and praise has been, then, the mainspring of your life ; and no man or woman To F. Mendelffohn Jones. 47 can he even deceat with no higher motive of life than this. With this motive predominant, you have grown superlatively selfish. Tou refuse to share your earnings with your wife and children, because such a policy would detract from your personal charms, or your per- sonal comforts. You quarrel with every man of your profession, because you are afraid that he will detract somewhat from the glory which you imagine has settled around you. Your mouth is constantly filled with detraction of your rivals. In the practice of your pro- fession, you are thrown into contact with soft and sym- pathetic women, who are charnied by your voice, and your face, and your style, and your villainously smooth and sanctimonious manners, and they become easy victims to your desire for personal conquest. Thus has musie become to you only an instrument for the gratification of your greed for admiration, and, among other things, a means for ■ winning personal power over the weak and wayward women whom you encounter. Life always takes on the character of its motive. It is uot the music which has injured you : it is not the music which injures any one of the great brotherhood and sisterhood of vicious genius. There are those among musicians who can plead the power of great passions as their apology for great vices. No great musician is possible without great passions. "No man 48 Letters to the Jonefes. without intense human sympathies in all directions can ever be a great siuger, or a great musician of any kind ; and these sympathies, in a life subject to great exalta- tions and depressions, lead their possessor only too often into vices that degrade him and his art. But you are not a great musician, and I doubt very much whether you have great passions. I think you are a diddler and a make-believe. I think your vices are affectations, in a considerable degree, and that you indulge ia them only so far as you imagine they will make you inter- esting. There is something Yery demoralizing ia all pursuits that depend for their success upon the popular applause. We see it no more in public singing than in acting, and no more in acting than ia politics. I doubt whether more singers than politicians are ruined by the character of their pursuits. A man who makes it the business of his life to seek oflSce at the hands of the people, and who administers the affairs of office so as to secure the popular applause, becomes morally as rotten as the rottenest of your profession. I never hear of an American girl going abroad to study music, for the purpose of fitting herself for a public musical career, without a pang. A musical education, an introduction to public musical life, and a few years of that life, are almost certain ruin for any woman. Some escape this ruin, it is true, but thero To F. Mendelffohn Jones. 49 are temptations laid for every step of their life. They find their success in the hands of men who demand more than money for wages. They find their personal charms set over against the personal charms of others. Their whole life is filled with rivalries and jealousies. They find themselves constantly thrown into intifliate association on the stage with men who subject them- selves to no Christian restraint — who can hardly be said to have had a Christian education. They are con- stantly acting ia operas the whole dramatic relish of which is found in equivocal situations, or openly licen- tious revelations. In such circumstances as these, a woman must be a marvel of modesty and a miracle of grace to escape contamination. I do not believe there is a woman in the world who ever came out of a public musical career as good a woman as she entered it. She may have escaped with an untarnished name — she may have preserved her standing in society, or even height- ened it, but in her inmost soiil she knows that the pure spirit of her girlhood is gone. It is the dream, I suppose, of most women who undertake a musical career, that, after wuming money and fame, they shall settle down into domestic life gracefully, and be happy in retirement. Alas! this is one of the dreams that very rarely " come true." • The greed for popular applause, once tasted,' knows no relenting. The public life of women unfits them for 3 50 Letters to the Jonefes. domestic life, and the contaminations of _a public sing- ing woman's position render it almost impossible for her to be married out of her circle ; so that a woman who spends ten years on the stage usually spends her life there, or does worse. I do not wonder at the old professor's warning against singing women, or singing men. It is enough to break down any man's or wo- man's self-respect to be dependent -for bread and repu- tation upon the applause of a capricious public — to devote the whole energies of one's being to the winning of a few clappings of the hand and a few tosses of the handkerchief, and to feel that bread, and success of the life-purpose, depend on these few clappings and tosses. I have a theory that it is demoralizing to pursue, as a business, any graceful accomplishment which was only intended to minister to the pleasure and recreation of toiling men and women. I have not read history correctly if it be not true that the artists of all ages have been generally men of many -vices. There have been men of pure character among them always, but, as a class, they have not been men whom we should select for Sunday school superintendents, or as husbands for our daughters. If you, Felix Mendelssohn Jones, had been a tailor, and had worked hard at your busi- ness, and only used your talent for music in the sodal circle and the vUlage choir on Sunday, and been just as vain as you are to-day, you would have been a better To F. Mendelffohn Jones. 51 man tliaa you are now, I think. I think this devotion of your life to music has had the tendency, independ- ently of all other influences, to make you intellectually an ass and morally a goat. Whether there is soundness in this theory or not, singing as a pursuit must come under the general law -which makes devotion to one idea a dwarfing process. A man who gives his life to music — who becomes absorbed by it — and who really knows nothing else, win necessai-Uy be a very small specimen of a man. The artist is developed at the expense of the man. Music is thrown entirely out of its legitimate and healthy relations, to his life, and he makes that an object and end of life which should only minister to an end far higher. When a man undertakes to clothe his manhood from materials furnished by a single pursuit, even when that pursuit is so pure and beautiful as that of music, he runs short of cloth at once. I have ni doubt that one of the principal reasons why musie has such a dwarfing effect upon a multitude of those who make it the pursuit of their lives, is, that it is so fasci- nating and so absorbing — ^because it possesses such a power to drive out from the mind and life everything else. There is no denying the fact that, in the eye of a practical business man, musical accomplishments ir men are regarded as a damage to character and a hinderance to success. It is pretty nearly the universal 52 Letters to the Jonefes. belief that a man who is very much devoted to music is rarely good for anything else. This may not l3e true — and I douht whether it is strictly true — ^but it is true enough, and has always been true enough to make it a rule among those who have no time for nice distinctions and exceptional cases. I do not wonder, Felix Mendelssohn Jones, that intelle.ctually you are a dwarf. I do not wonder that men who have nerve and muscle and common sense, and practical acquaintance with the great concerns of life, and a share in the world's earnest work, should hold you in contempt for other reasons than those which relate to your morals. What did you ever study besides music ? Upon what subject of human interest are you informed except music ? Upon what topic of conversation are you at all at home unless it be music ? Why is it that you have nothing to say when those questions are discussed which relate to the political, moral, social, and industrial life of the race or nation to which you belong ? No man has a right to be more a musician than a man, and no musician has a right to complain when men who are men hold him in contempt because he is the slave of an art of which he should rather be the kingly possessor. There is a vast deal of nonsense afloat in the world about being married to music, or married to art, as if music were a woman of a very seductive and exacting character, and musicians To F. Mendelffohn Jones. 53 were very gallant and knightly people who make it their business to bend before a lifted eyebrow, and follow the fickle swing of petticoats to death and the worst that follows it. There is another cause that has operated to make you much less a man than you might have been under other circumstances, and this is almost inseparable from your life as a public singer. Your life has been a vagabond life. You, in your humble way, passing from village to village, have only had a taste of that dissipation of travel which the more famous members of your profession are obliged "to suffer. From the time a public singer begias his career until he closes it, he has no home. He is never recognized as a member of society. He is obliged to be all things to all men, everywhere. He has no nationality. He shouts for the stars and stripes in New York, but would just as easily shout for the stars and bars wherever they float. He is equally at home in England and France and Italy, and salutes any flag under which he can win plaudits and provender. He has no politics, he has no , religion, " to mention," he has no stake in permanent society whatever. The institutions of Christianity, public schools, educational schemes and systems, the great, permanent charities, municipal and neighborhood life — ^he has no share ia all these. He runs from coun- try to country and from capital to capital, or scours the 64 Letters to the Jonefes. country, and does not cease his travels until life or health or voice is gone. It is impossible for any man to be subjected to such dissipation as this without receiving incalculable damage of character. He can think of nothing but his profession under these cir- cumstances. He can have no healthy social life, no home influences, no recognized position in religious and political communities. He can be nothing but a comet among the fixed stars and regularly revolving systems of the world, making a great show for the rather nebu- lous head which he carries, occupying more blue sky for a brief period than belongs to him, and then passing out of sight and out of memory, leaving no track. I might go further, and show how nearly impossible it is for a public singer, who sings everything every- where, who wanders over the world and lives upon the breath of popular applause, whose life seems almost necessarily made up of intrigues and jealousies, to be a religious man. Ko matter what the stage of the theatre or the platform of the concert room might be, or may have been ; we know that now they are not the places ^(There piety toward God is in such a state of high culti- vation that good people throng before them for reli- gious motive and inspiration. The whole atmosphere of a public singer's life is sensuous. Like the beggarly old reprobate in Rome who obtained a li-tdng by sitting to artists for his « religious expression," they coin their To F. Mendelffchn Jones. 55 Te Deums into dollars, and regard a mass as only a style of music to be treated in a professional way for other people who have sufficient interest in it to pay for the service. Man is a weak creature, and it takes a great many mfluences to keep him in the path of religious duty, and preserve his sympathy with those grand spiritual truths which relate to his noblest development and his highest destiny. These influences are not to be secured by a roving life, and constantly shifting society, and mraistering to the tastes and seeking the favor of the vulgar crowd. On the whole, Mr. Felix Mendelssohn Jones, I do not wonder that you are no better than you are. You have really had more influences operating against you than I had considered when I began to write this letter to you. Nevertheless, you ought to be ashamed of yourself and institute a reform. Recast you life. If you cannot settle down permanently in your profes- sion in some town large enough to support you, and become a decent husband to your wife and father to your children, and take upon your shoulders your por- tion of the burdens of organized society, why, quit your profession, and go into some other business. I know you furnish a very slender basis for building a man upon, but you can at least cease to be a nuisance. I know a good many musical men and women whom music or devotion to music has not damaged; but these 56 Letters to the Jonefes, men and women have entered as permanent elements into the society in wHch they lire, and are something more than musicians. Singing is the most charming of all accomplishments when it is the voice of a nohle na- ture and a generous culture ; and all music, when it pre- serves its legitimate relations to the great interests of human society, is refiniag and liberalizing in its in- fluence. But when music monopolizes the mind of a man ; when it becomes the vehicle through which he ministers to his personal vanity ; when it either becomes degraded to be the instrument for procuring his bread, or elevated to the position of a master passion, it spoils him. I pray that no friend or child of miae may become professionally a singing man or singing woman. All the circumstances that cluster about such a life, all the influences associated with it, and the great majority of its natural tendencies are against the development and preservation of a Christian style of life and character, and, consequently, against the best form of happiness here and the only form hereafter. THE FOURTH LETTER. f D flans Sm\» I01US, M}^ozmnht. CONCMBNINO HIS JBABIT OF BmmUSS LYIMG. Y'OIT have always seemed to me to be an anoma- lous sort of personage. On the street, you are a respectable and decent man. I would take your note for any sum you would be likely to borrow, and rely upon its payment at maturity. N"ay, I would accept your word of honor at any time, when your coat is on and the wax is off your fingers, with entire confidence. You have been intrusted with responsibilities in civil and social affairs, and have never betrayed them. You are a good husband, father, friend, and citizen, but you stand behind your counter from morning until night, and lie as continuously and coolly as if you were a flowing fountain of falsehood. You will not assail me in the street because I so plainly tell you this, for you knoTV 3* 58 Letters to the Jonefes. it" is true, and that I like you too well to insult you. You know that you never made a pair of boots for me that did not cost you more lies than they cost me dollars. I have stood before you, on some occasions, thor- oughly astonished at the facility and ingenuity and boldness with which you lied your way out from among the fragments of your broken engagements. The glib- ness of your tongue, and the candor of your tone, and the immovable sincerity of your- features, and the half- discouraged, half-wounded expression of face and voice with which you apologized for your failure to keep your pledges, were really overwhelming, I have sometimes wondered whether you did not suppose you were telling the truth — whether you had not, by some odd hallucination, come to believe that the causes of your failure to keep your pledges had a real and per- manent existence. Never was so much sickness suffered by journeymen shoemakers as by yours. Never had shoemakers such sickly children, and never had shoe- makers so many children born to them. It is a strange fatality, too, that always keeps your best workmen on a spree. I have never known any class of artisans drink so much as those you employ. You are always getting out of the right kind of leather at the wrong time, or suffering by some occurrence that renders it impossible for you to keep your promise and, at the same time, make just such a pair of boots or shoes as you To Hans Sachs Jones. ■ 59 feel particular about making for your particular cus- tomers. You resort to the most transparent flattery to keep your patrons good-natm-ed, but there is not a mau or woman who enters your shop who believes a word you utter. Day after day, and week after week, youi promises are broken with regard to a single job, and your patrons smile in your face at the excuses which your tongue holds ready at all times ; and you know that they know you are lying. You are not a sinner in this respect above all shoe- makers, and shoemakers are not sinners in this respect above all artisans and tradesmen. You happen to be a very perfect specimen of a class of men who work for the public in the performance of essential every- day jobs in the various mechanical arts. They do not all lie as much as you do, but many of them lie in the same way, and for the same reason. They are not aU as cool about it as you are, and most of them are much less fertile and skilful than you are,, but lying is their daily resort. IJTow, what is there in your business, or in the rela- tions to society of that class of employments to which yours belongs, to develop the untruthfulness which all must admit attaches to it in ■ some degree ? In the first place, you began business in a very small way, and were able to keep your promises, never making any that you did not intend to keep. Business in- 60 Letters to the Jonefes. creased, and you found among your best customers— those whose patronage you most desired to retain — a degree of unreasonalble impatience -wMcli you could not -withstand. You were imperiously urged into the making of pledges for the delivery of work which you could not make, consistently with your previously existing engagements. Tou were desirous to please ; strong wills, backed by money, were brought to bear upon you; the keeping of your protaise looked possible, even if not altogether prac- ticable ; and you promised. You felt, however, that somebody was to be disappointed, and you undertook to find an excuse which would lift the burden of blame from your own shoulders. You did not dare to stand before your customer a voluntary delinquent ; - so, when he came, and you were not ready to see him, you justified yourself by throwing the blame upon others, or upon circumstances over which you had no control. He may have believed you at first, but his faith in you soon wore out. You learned, at length, that people loved to have their work promised early, and that they would take your apologies for failure goodnaturedly ; and yon ran into the habit of promising work early, with the expectation, if not the direct intention, to break your promise. I have given you jobs when I knew you lied while taking them, and expected to lie a great To Hans Sachs Jones. 61 many times before you finished them. You have told me repeatedly that work was nearly finished when I knew it had not been begmi ; and aU this for the purpose of pleasing me, and saving yourself from blame. You were not naturally untruthful, and you are not untruthful now where your busiuess is not concerned, but in your business' you have made false- hood the rule of your daily life. Your promises are always in advance of your power to perform, and the breaking of them has become habitual. It is paiaful to see a man — otherwise so respeet- able — ^unreliable in the place where men meet him most ; for it weakens his hold upon the popular regard, and cannot fail to depreciate his own self-respect. You must feel ashamed, at tunes, to^realize that your word is not believed, and to know that you have not a customer in the world who feels at all sure about getting work done by you until it really is done and in his hands. The kind of life you lead must also be an exceedingly uncomfortable one. Now, my friend, there is not the slightest necessity for this, and there is no apology for it. It had a very natural beginning, but you ought to have learned long ago that it was not requisite either to your prosperity or your comfort. You get your work in spite of your lying, and not in consequence of it. That is the only thing people have against you. They give you their custom because 62 Letters to the Jonefcs. you are a good workman, and for notbing elaa ; and no man leaves your shop for another except for the reason that he cannot depend upon your word. You nevei made a dollar or saved a friend by all the lies you have told. Honesty, reliableness, truthfulness — these are at a premium in all the markets of the world ; and you have made yourself miserable and contemptible throughout your life for nothing. Your business is always at loose ends, everybody is crowding you, many of them abuse you, and it all comes of your promising to do work before it is possible for you to do it. Not a decent man, whose custom is worth keeping, enters your shop who would not wait your time patiently, if he could rely upon having his job upon the day promised. I have no doubt that, as you read this letter, you say to yourself that I talk as if a man could always keep promises, honestly made, and as if there were men in the world who never break promises. I know, indeed, that there is no man who can so thoroughly depend upon circumstances, or so control them, as always to be sure to keep his pledges. Sickness happens to all. Calamity in some form comes to all. Drunkenness sometimes overtakes a journeyman shoe- maker, though, to tell the truth, such men are not com. monly employed by masters who care about keeping their word. Men of business punctilio, and regular To Hans Sachs Jones. 63 business habits, can always secure the best -workmen. It is only the unreliable masters who are obliged to Ac- cept unreliable hands, though I would by no means inti- mate that I believe in your representations concerning tlie drunkenness of your workmen. Your men are shame- fully belied ; and if they knew how you slander them they would rebel. No, I admit that the most prompt and punctual men must fail, through unforeseen imp'ed- iments, to keep all their promises ; but such men do not lie their way out of their difficulty, and are only the more careful about making and keeping their engage- ments afterward. To me, one of the most admirable things in the world is business punctilio. I think it is rare to find very bad men among thorough business men. I do not mean to say that a good business man is necessarily religious, or even necessarily without vices. I mean, simply, that it is difficult to be strictly honest in busi- ness, and sensitive in all matters pertaining to business engagements, and thoroughly punctual in the fulfil- ment of all business obligations, and at the same time to be loose in morals and dissipated in personal habits. I have great respect for those rigid laws of the count- ing room which regulate the dealings between man and man, and which make the counting room as exact in all matters of time and exchange as a banking house — which ignore friendship, afFection, and all personal Letters to the Jonefes. considerations whatsoever — wMch place neighbors and brothers on the same platform with enemies and aliens, and which make an autocrat of an account- ant, who is, at the same time, strictly an obedient sub- ject of his own laws. I say it is hard for a man to enter as a perfectly harmonious element into this grand system of business, and submit himself to its rigid rules, and maintain his position in it with perfect integrity, and, at the same time, be a very bad man. To a certain extent, he bows to and obeys a high standard of life. He may not always recognize fully the moral element which it embodies. He may take a selfish view of the whole matter ; but he cannot be entirely insensible to the principle of personal honor which it involves, or fail to be influenced by the per- sonal habits which it enforces. Some of the best business men I have ever known, have been the most charitable men I have ever known. Men who have acquired wealth by rigid adherence to business integ- rity, and who have sometimes been deemed harsh and hard by those with whom they have had business relations, have shown a liberality and a generosity toward objects of charity which have placed them among the world's benefactors. Men who have exacted the last fraction of a cent with one hand, in the way of business, have disbursed thousands jf dollars with the other, in the way of charity. To Hans Sachs Jones. 65 On another side of this subject, it may be stated that it is not possible for a man to be careless in busi< ness affairs, or unmindful of his business obligations, without being weak or rotten in his personal character. Show me a man who never pays his notes when they are due, and who shuns the payment of his bills when it is possible, and does both these things as a habit, and I shaU see a man whose moral character is, beyond aU question, bad. We have had illustrious examples of this lack of business exactness. We have had great men who were in the habit of borrowing money without repaying it, or apologizing for not repaying it. We have had great men whose business habits were simply scandalous — who never paid a bill unless urged and worried, and- who expended for their per- sonal gratification every cent of' money they could lay their bands upon. These delinquencies have been apologized for as among the eccentricities of genius, or as that unmindfulness of small affairs which naturally attends all greatness of intellect and Latellectual effort ; but the world has been too easy with them, altogether. I could name great men — and the names of some of them arisebefore the readers of this letter — ^who were atrociously dishonest. I do not care how great ■these men were. I do not care how many amiable and admirable traits they possessed. They were dishonest and untrustworthy men in their business relations. 66 Letters to the Jonefes. and that simple fact condemns them. I am ready to belie-ve anything bad of a man who habitually neglects to fulfil his business obligations. Such a man is certainly rotten at heart. He is not to be trusted with a pubHo responsibility, or a rum bottle, or a woman. 'Now, Mr. Hans Sachs Jones, you have customers of this class. WUl you permit me to ask you how you like them ? Some of these men are poor, but quite as many of them are rich. You lied to them a great many times before they made their little biUs with you, and they hare -lied to you a great many times suice. When you have had money to raise, they have promised to furnish it to you, and then they have failed to keep their pledges. Not unfrequently, when you have upbraided them for disappointing you, they have retorted by telling you that you made them wait for their work, and that it is perfectly proper that you should wait for your pay. Their reply was a fair one, so far as you were concerned. It was just as much a matter of business honor that you should keep your promises, as it was that they should keep theirs. It was just as wrong for you to promise your work before you could give it to them, as it was for your customers to promise to pay you before they could pay you, or before they intended to pay you. In your heart, you think these men arfl To Hans Sachs Jones. 67 very meau, and in their hearts they think that you are just as mean as they are, and they are right. Theii- plea leaves you defenceless, and they banter and badger you until you become disgusted with your business and yourself. Oh ! if you had never given these customers of yours an advantage over you, by your constant failures to keep your word with them, you would be worth a good many more dollars to-day than you are. Then you should remember that you owe a debt of honor to your guild. A very admirable thing among tradesmen of the same class is that esprit de corps which enables them to join hands in a recognized community of honor and of interest, and to look upon their trade as the kind mother that feeds them and that deserves at their hands the treatment due from grateful and chivalrous sons. You have doubtless heard of associations of men engaged in much humbler employments than yours (humbler in the world's judg- ment), that really won the respect and admiration of the communities in which they lived — ^men who felt strengthened and ennobled by their association — men who came by their association to feel the slightest insult offered to their trade as a personal affront. I say that this esprit de corps is a very admirable thing, and, further, that it gives, or may give, a true dignity to any honest calling under heaYen. We do not have 68 Letters to the Jonefes. so muoli of this in this country as we ought to havft All European countries are ahead of us in this matter, principally, perhaps, for the reason that in those coun« tries the acquisition and pursuit of trades are more particularly a matter of legal regulation. Here a man may set up a trade whether he ever learned it or not, and few learn their trades thoroughly It is more difficult, therefore, to secure community of feeling • among those engaged in the same pursuits here than abroad ; but it is none the less desirable and necessary, that, among good workmen like yourself, there should be brotherhood of feeling and interest — pride and sympathy of guild. It would give you dignity, protection, respectability; and you would feel in ail your business transactions that, however reckless you might be of disgrace to yourself, you have no right to disgrace your business, or your brother- hood. I repeat, then, that you owe a debt of honor to your guild. There are many men engaged in the same calling with you who scorn the petty arts of falsehood to which you resort. They are men of character — ^men who never make a promise which they do not intend to keep, and who faithfully and con- scientiously strive to keep every promise which they make. These are the men who give to your calling all the respectability which it possesses. All labor To Hans Sachs Jones. 69 of the hands, pursued for bread, is honoraWe, and honorable alike. One trade is respectable above another only in consequence of the superior respecta- bility of the class of men engaging in it. Now you have a right, in a certain sense, to disgrace yourself but you have no right to disgrace your trade and your gmld. Your devotion to this idea should be almost religious; for, in a certain degree, you have the reputation of the "whole class with which you are identified in interest in. your keeping, and you are bound by every priuoiple of justice and honor not to betray it. I have not appealed, iu what I have said to you on this subject, to those higher motives of conduct which grow out of your relations to the God of truth, nor do I propose to. Tou know, just as well as I do, that your system of business lying is morally wrong. I simply wish, in closing this letter, to call your atten- tion to the fact that you have arrived at the point where your conscience ceases to trouble you. Yor do not use profane language. You are shocked when you hear others use it, but you are aware that many of your acquaintances swear from habit, and, by habitual swearing, have ceased to look upon their profanity as profanity. They take the names of God and Jesus Christ in vain, and call for curses upon the heads even of their friends, without a thought of sin. 70 Letters to the Jonefes. and without a twinge of conscience. Over a certain region of their moral sense profanity has trampled, until it has trampled the Ufe all out of it. So, over a certain region of your moral sense, these lies of yours have trod their daUy course, untU not a hlade of grass or a flower is left to give token of life, or breathe complaint of the invaders. They have trampled out all sensibility, and you lie without feeling it ; and when you are detected and indignantly rebuked, as you sometimes are, you only feel your detedtion as an inconvenience, which might have been avoided by more ingenious lying. I beg you to discontinue this ruinous practice, and see if sensibility will not once more inform those functions of your moral nature which persistent abuse has indurated and rendered useless. THE FITTH LETTER. vowoEBmira ms failube to yield to bis oonviotjonh OF DUTY. As I write your name, there comes Tbefore me the vision of a fair-haired, blue-eyed boy, who had been fed by smiles and pleasant words at home so constantly that his whole nature had been sweetened by them. I remember how you used to look up into my face for recognition and for the greeting and the smile which you had learned to crave and to expect of everybody. Into few faces did those expectant blue eyes look in vain, for you were a universal favorite. I remembel" that I was always so much impressed by your pure and precious nature that I could never resist the impulse to put my arm around you, and draw you to my heart. It was easy to love you, and sweet to be loved by you ; and those who knew your 72 Letters 'to the Jonefes, sainted mother knew why you were what you were in personal and spiritual loveliness. That mother has been dead a long time, but do you not sometimes recall her reason for giving you the name of Edward Payson ? Ah, yes ! I know that you must sometimes remember that in her heart of hearts — even before you were born— she dedicated you to the service of the Saviour of men, and that she crowned you with a name hallowed by a wide wealth of Christian associations, that she might be reminded of her gift whenever s? pronounced it. The absorbing hope of her life was t'^ see you in the pulpit, and to hear you preach the everlasting gospel. To compass this end, she would have been wUling to work her fingers to the bone; to live in want ; to deny to herself every worldly pleasure ; nay, to lay down her life itself. She died, as you know, without seeing the attainment of the object for which she had labored and prayed so ardently. Well, you are a man ; and you are just as widely a favorite to-day as you were when you were a boy ; but you are not the man whom your mother prayed you might become, and are not likely to be. That you are stifling convictions of duty by the course which you are pursuing every man knows who remembers your early training and the nature upon which that training could not fail to leave its impress. You are a man whom To Edward Payfon Jones. 73 everybody loves — whom everybody praises — whom everybody believes to be in a measure the subject of Christian conviction — whom everybody believes to be, within certain limits, controlled by Christian principle ; yet, in an irreligious community, you have never, in a manly way, declared yourself in the possession and on the side of personal Christianity.' Under these circum- stances,, there are some things which it seems to me to be my duty to say to you. Will you read them ? Christianity is everything, or it is nothing — it is divine, or it is nothing — it has a right to the entire control of your life, or it has nd claims at all. Is it necessary that I should argue to you the transcendent worth, the divine origin, or the grand claims of that religion which made an angel of your mother, and transformed the little room in which she died into heaven's gateway ? Is it necessary for me to assm-e you that these convictions of duty which haunt you everywhere, which assert themselves in your heart in every scene of questionable mirth and care- less society, are not superstitions engendered by eai'ly education in error? Is it necessary that I should try to prove to you that a life which does not acknowl- edge a rule of action imposed by the Author of life must necessarily be a life of transgression and the fruits of transgression ? Not at all. You do not ask me to do^ this. You know — you are entirely con- 4 74 Letters to the Jonefes. vinced — that you owe the devoted allegiance of year heart, the obedience of your will, and the gift of your life to that religion in which alone abides the secret of the purification and salvation of yourself and your race. Ton are convinced that, without Christianitj, this world v^ould be as dark as the infernal shades — that it alone gives significance to life — that it alone can give such direction to its issues that they shall rise to everlasting harmony and everlasting happi- ness. There are those around you who do not believe in these things. They were not trained as you were trained. Their mother was not your mother, and they were not endowed with your nature. They do not possess your pureness of insight. In short, they are not, to any great extent, the subjects of religious con- viction ; and yet you choose these men for your associates and fellows. I ask you now whether you consider it a manly thing for one like you, with your convictions, to live like one who has no convictions — whether you do not feel that you are really disgracing yourself and depreciating your own self-respect by constantly refusing to yield your heart and life to the claim of those convictions which never leave you. While you give such answers to these questions as I know you cannot fail to give, and while 3-ou half To Edward Payfon Jones. 75 - • . resolve to yield to convictions wHoh I know are press- ing upon you now with redoubled force, you look forward to the possiWe consequences of a change in the motives and regulating forces of your life. Before your imagination, glaring gloomUy in the distance, there stands a lion in the way. A hearty and uncon- ditional surrender to your convictions would involve changes in your social relations, in habits which have become endeared to you, in the general sources from which you have drawn the satisfactions of your life. You know that a change like this would bring with it a public declaration of your faith, and a publicly formed union with those men and women who have organized themselves into the Christian church. You shrink from this with a sensitiveness of selfish pride which ought to show you that you are very much farther from being a Christian than you suppose your- self to be, for, with all your consciousness of religious convictions stifled, you are fondly cherishing the fancy that you are already quite as good as Christians average. Now you know, my friend, that I do not entertain a very extravagent opinion of the prerogatives of the Christian church. No church has the power to save you or me, or to say whether you or I shall be saved or not. You know also that I am no propagandist of sectarian doctrines and policies. If a church is a 76 Letters to the Jonefes. i . Christian church, that is enough. I do not care the value of a sti-aw by what name it calls itself. I look upon it as a school of Christian disciples — of imperfect men and women who have phosen Christianity as their Veligion — their reforming motive and their rule of life — the grand system of spiritual truths in which they ^ave garnered their hopes for this life and the life to come — garnered their temporal and eternal satis- factions. I do not believe in the infallibility of any church, or in the sinlessness of any member of a church. N"ay, I do not believe that the act of uniting with a church has in itself any saving grace whatever. Church is npt Christianity, and Christianity is not church, in any practical sense. A man is probably just as good a Christian the moment before joining a church as he is the moment after ; but a Christian wiU cast in his lot with Christians, if he possesses a decent degree of manhood, and share with them in the Chris- tian work of the world. I know very well what the influences are which restrain you from yielding to your convictions, and from taking the public step which would naturally follow such a surrender. You love praise. You love to be loved by everybody, and you have very strong friends among all sorts of people. The good people praise you, and, feel as if you, with your straightforward life and pure habits, belonged to To Edward Payfon Jones. 77 them. The bad people love you, and feel that, by your practical denial of the claims of Christianity, you make their position respectable. But where do you find your delights ? Who are your cronies ? "Whose society do you seek ? When you feel iaclined to yield to your convictions of duty, whose are the ehi-ugging shoulders and the pitying smiles— whose are the quiet jest and the banter and badinage which come in quick vision to you, to shame and scare you ? My friend, you do not love that which is characteristic- ally Christian society. You love that which has no Christian element in it except the element of decency ; and you feel that to become the member of a Chris- tian church would throw you out of sympathy with men whose good wiU and good fellowship you count among your choicest treasures. You cannot bear that these men should think you weak and womanish. You cannot bear to become the subject of their lenient and charitable scorn. Human friendship is very sweet. These ties that bind heart to heart — these sympathetic responses of kindred natures — ^these loves among men glorify human life ; but they not nnfrequently form a bond of union so strong that one powerful nature wiU, through their aid, carry whithersoever it will — even into the jaws of destruction — all the lives taat are joined with it. The ice upon the mountain side links 78 Letters to the Jonefes. rock to rock till the lightning or the earthquake loosens the hold of the giant of the group, and it drags them aU into the valley below. Life nearly always follows the current of its friendships or flows parallel with it. If a man finds his most grateful companion- ships among those who are irreligious — either nega- tively or positively — he shows just what and where his heart is. Like seeks and sympathizes with like. I ask you, Edward Payson Jones, to apply this test to yourself. What kind of society do you delight in most ? Do you love and cling to those most who best represent to you the religion in which your mother lived and died, or those who practically hold tlat religion in very light esteem ? I ask you to apply this test, because I think you are entertaining the idea that, although you make no professions, you are quite as good a Christian as those are who do. My friend, you choose freely to give your most intimate friend- ships to the worldlings by whom you are surrounded. I state the fact, and leave you to your own con- jlusions. There is another powerful influence which dissuades you from yielding to your convictions. You are absorbed in business. AU the activities of your natm-e are given to it. Great business responsibilities are upon you, and your heart gives them glad entertain- To Edward Payfon Jones. 79 ment, for they are full of promise to your ambition and your desire for -wealth. Business occupies nearly all your waking thoughts, and even haunts your pil- low and breaks your slumbers. It obtrudes itself upon your family life, and monopolizes both your time and your vital power. Your heart is so fuU that you have no room in it for another object. Wife and children and friends and business — these four ; but the greatest of these, practically, is business. If you will candidly examine yourself, you will see that I do not overrate this power of business which shuts out from your heart a guest who sits and shivers in its anteroom in the cold society of youi- convictions. To make this matter still worse, you are thrown into contact with men in the way of business upon whom you are, to a certain extent, dependent for your prosperity, who hold Christianity and its professed friends and possessors in contempt. You cannot bear this contempt. These men, with their business thoughts and schemes, break in upon your Sab- baths, they tempt you, they familiarize your ears with profanity, and invest you constantly with an atmosphere of worldliness. You have in your present position no defence against the influence of these associations. You have never declared yourself upon the side of Christian- ity, and these business friends of yours know it. They recognize you as one of their own number, and treat you accordingly; and yet, you are foolish enough to so Letters to the Jonefes. believe, or to try to make yourself believe, that a man can be just as good a Christian outside of the church as inside of it ! Why, my friend, you are a man of honor. However much disgusted and abused, your nature is a chivalrous one. If you felt yourself iden- tified with a great cause, would you betray it ? Have you not often comforted yourself with the considera- tion that, if you have failed to become what your convictions have urged you to become, no one has been harmed but yourself? I have spoken of you as a man of honor. I think you are sensitively such. I know of no man who more thoroughly despises a mean and unmanly spirit, or a mean and unmanly deed. If you were to see a man who, for any reason, should cast his vote at an election contrary to his convictions of political duty, or any man who should stand upon the fence iu an important canvass and refuse to place himself on the side of the right, or who, in a great public emergency, should fail to perform his duty through absorbing devotion to his private pursuits, you would think him a mean man. You would despise, particularly one whom yen knew to be the subject of strong political convictions, which were so feebly pronoimced that all parties claim- ed him. I take your own standard and apply it to you. I say, on the authority of your own best judg- ments, that it is mean and unmanly for you, with yout To Edward Payfon Jones. 81 strong religious convictions, to refuse to stand by them, and act up to them. It is mean and unmanly for you to refuse to identify yourself with the society, and assist in maintaining and forwarding the cause of those whom, sooner or later, you deliberately intend to join, and whom you feel and know to be in the right. If you were not convinced of the truth, I should be more charitable toward you. If there remained anything to be done in shaping the judgment of your intellect and your heart, you would have some excuse ; but no such exigency exists. No, su' : you are convinced ; but you flinch, and you refuse to stand in a manly way by what you know and feel to be right. While I thus blame you, I pity you. I know how much your heart bends before these words of mine, and how impotent yon feel for action in the right direction. You almost feel as if your hands and feet were tied. You almost feel as if you WMSt foUow your old friendships^ — that they have fastened them- selves to you by hooks of steel which cannot be broken You feel that your business is upon yon, and all its associations, and that neither can be lifted. You feel that you really have no room in your life for those experiences and those duties which accom- pany the surrender of the heart to religion. You feel yourself waUed around by obstacles, and, what 82 Letters to the Jonefes. is really -worse than this, you know that -you grow more and more in love with the life you lead, and less inclined to take the direction of your early train ing. The oath does not shock you as it once did; vulgarity is not as offensive as it once was ; you have learned to look more leniently upon the vices of the men by whom you are surrounded ; worldliness does not seem so harren a form of life as formerly ; you are charmed and excited hy success ; and you cannot deny to yourself the fact that, strong as your convic- tions of duty are, your heart and your Kfe are growing more and more widely estranged from them. Where do you suppose all thi« will end ? Tou have common sense, and can judge as well as I. JDo hahits grow weaker by long continuance ? Are the cares of busi- ness less absorbing as life advances ? Is moral con- viction the stronger for constant .denial and insult ? I say, you have common sense, and can judge as weU as I. You know as weU as I that this Hfe of yours must have a ruptiu-e with its surroundings — that your feet must turn into another path— that you must yield yourself a conquest to your convictions, or that your life will be one of disaster, and that its end wiU be wretchedness or an induration worse than wretched ness. Tou are surroujided by a crowd of men and women who do not regard life as a very serious thing. They To Edward Payfon Jones. 83 take it carelessly and gayly. You see the multitudes rusLing along in the pursuit of haubles. Men live and die, and there conies back no voice to tell whether thej sleep with the brutes or wake with the angels. Men eat and sleep, and love and hate, and make display ol their equipage, and pursue their ambitions and indulge in all the forms of vanity and pride, and all life comes at last to seem like a sort of phantasmagoria — empty, unreal, insignificant. You see that these convictions of yours have no place in the multitude of minds around you, and no place in the current of life by which you feel yourself borne along. There are moments, I suppose, when you doubt the soundaess of these convictions — when you half believe that you are the victim of a morbid conscience, or of a super- stitious impression. At such moments as these — when the tricks of the world delude you most, come back to your mother, and learn the truth. That life of hers, so pure and unselfish and useful, and that death of hers, so peaceful and triumphant, are realities. They can never lie to you, and the moment you touch them, you know that you touch something divine — something by the side of which all worldliness and wealth and material success are chaff. You will perceive, in what I have written to you, that I have not undertaken to convince you of any- thing. I have not imdertaken even to deepen your 84 Letters to the Jonefes. convictions. I have simply endeavored to reveal yotj and your own experience to yourself, and to urge you to jdeld to convictions wHch. I know are striving to gain tlie control of your life. I have simply urged you to be true to yourself — to take a bold, manly, consistent stand upon the side which you know to be right — ^to be a Christian man in Christian society, and to refuse longer to stand upon what you mistaken- ly regard as neutral ground. Do you know that you are abusing and ruining yourself? Do you realize that the passage of every day renders it less probable that your convictions will ever gaia the victory over you? I appreciate the struggle it would cost you to welcome the new motive and change the pohcy and issues of your life. The preacher may talk as he will of the ease of the path of life and the ease of yielding up the wiU, but you and I know that there is no ease about it. We know that whatever may be the truth touching the doctrine of universal total depravity, it is not natural for us to lead religious lives. It takes sacrifice and fighting and heroism to do that. I know it, and you know it. Easy to be a Christian man? It is mean for a man like you not to be one — it is wrong for a man like you not to be one — ^but Heaven knows it is not easy for you to be one, or you would have been one long ago. No, my friend ; it wiU be To Edward Payfon Jones. 85 hard for you to be one, and it will grow harder every year till yoa become one. But it pays, and when you are once fairly on the right side, you will not care for the straggle, for you will have good company, a clean conscience, and an outlook into the far futiire imclouded and fall of inaniration. — ^-^w^-.^,^.,-^-. THE SIXTH LETTER, io ITrs. |«ssg itU |oTO. CONCERNING TKE DIFI'ICVLTT SBB EXPERIENCES IN KEEPING EER SERVANTS. IT has been stated to me, confidentially, that yon have had nineteen different cooks and thirteen chambermaids in your house during the past year This may be slightly above the annual average. I should hope so. I do not understand how flesh and , blood could endure such changes. Yet you live and thrive ; and the new servants come and go at about the usual number per month. Your husband grew tired, long ago, with rasping against so much new domestic material, but has learned fortitude by practice. One or two attempts on his part to tell you that there were women who kept their servants for months and years without change, and to convince you that it was possible that there were bad mistresses To Mrs. Jefly Bell Jones. 87 in tlie world as wdl as bad servants, resulted in scenes which will be avoided in future. N'ot if he were to see a procession of young women entering your house and emerging from it through all the weary year — not if ho were to hear a constant storm raging in the kitchen and echoing throughout the passages and chambers, would he ever intimate that you were not the paragon of mistresses, and that your girls were not the mean- est, dirtiest, sauciest pot-slewers that ever invaded an abode of civilization. No, Mrs. Jones ; you will have it all your own way, without any interference from him. He knows you are in the wrong, and so do you ; but he wiU never tell you so again. On the contrary, he will sympathize vrith you after a fashion, and take your part in aU your quarrels and all your domestic difficulties ; but he will quietly "wish, meanwhile, that you had the faculty of getting along pleasantly with your servants. I have intimated to you that you know yom-self to be in the ■wi-ong. You are not a fool. On the contrary, you are a very sharp, bright woman, and you cannot fail to see that there is a reason, somewhere in your house, for your failure to keep your servants. Tour neigh- bor lives in the same climate that you do. The roof of her house is covered by slate from flie same quar- ry ; her Stuart's stove is of the same size as yours ; her laundry is no more convenient than yours; her 88 Letters to the Jonefes. servants are no better fed than yours; she gives no better wages than you; but she keeps her servants, and you do not beep yours. When one of her servants marries, or sickens, or, for any reason, wishes to leave her, fifty others stand ready to take her place, and she has her pick of them aU, while you are obliged to take such as come, and such as feel compelled to come after having heard that you are a hard mistress. For you must know that masters and mistresses have reputations among servants — reputations made up, and weighed, and widely known. You, and a hun- dred other women whom I -know, have bad reputa- tions among servants ; and when you deal with them you are always obliged to deal with them under the disadvantage which a bad reputation bears with it. Suppose we have a little plain talk about these matters, and see if we can get at an understanding of them. Tou will pardon me if I tell you, in the first place, that you are an opinionated person, which is a mild way of stating that, in certain respects, you are very conceited. Tour pet conceit is that you are a model housekeeper, and your opinion is that you know the best and only proper modes of doing the work in your kitchen, and in your house generally. You have your own way of doing everything. You have your particular order, in which aU things about you are to be done. The machineiy of your household arrange- To Mrs. Jeffy Bell Jones. 89 ments, as it exists in your mind, is a perfect whole, and every executive element that you introduce into it must adapt itself to that machinery, or it is cast out at once, or is so harassed that it casts itself out. Sup- pose a girl enters yoar kitchen who understands her business, hut who has learned it under another mistress, and a different household economy. She has learned to do her work in a certain way, and after a certan order. She has her notions as well as you. It is quite possible that j;hos6 notions may be in many respects better than yours. You insist, however, from the moment she enters your service, that she shall do your work in your way. Tou do not wait to see results. You do not wait to see how she will succeed if left entirely to her- self, but you go into the kitchen with her, and superin- tend every act. You give her no freedom, you encour- age no independent effort ; you take the whole burden on yourself, and insist that she shall be your machine. When she forgets your directions, or steps aside from them, you find fault with her. She soon tires with this sort of treatment, and you are told to look for another girl. I have told you that your pet 3onoeit is that you are a model housekeeper, and tried to show that your diflSculties with your servants grow out of your insist- ing that they shall do everything in your way. I think I may justly say, in addition, that there is a 90 Letters to the Jonefes. certain sensitiveness of will in your constitution wHch aggravates these difficulties. You -are impe- rious. There is one spot in the world where you have . the right to rule — one spot where that will of yours has the right to assert itself and make itself law. Perhaps there is no other spot where your will is recognized. Your house is your only domain. There you are a queen, and you are sensitively alive to aU interference with your prerogatives. It frets you to feel that there is any other person in the house, with a will, who has anything to do or Say ahout your domestic affairs. You do not feel that a servant has a right to an independent opinion on any suhject connected with her service ; and when any such opinion finds practical expression, it enrages you. A servant may feel that if she does her work well, in the way most convenient to her, she does aU that you can reasonably claim ; but you feel that unless that work — ^in all its modes and particulars — ■ has foUowed the channel of your will, you have been insulted in your own house. In short, madam, you are " touchy," and when you are touched, you scold, and when you scold, off goes your girl. You have excellent pluck, however. I have never known you to lament the loss of a servant. They were always such terrible cre;atures that you were glad to get rid of them. I do not know how you came to be just the sort of To Mrs. Jefly Bell Jones. 91 mistress you are. . You were a yery pleasant little gii'l, with a sweet .temper. It has really puzzled me to find out the reason for your peculiar development. I suppose there must be an " ugly streak " in you somewhere, hut you did not show it when you were a child. Tour hair is red, I know (caU it golden), and your eyes black, but the hair is beautiful and soft, and the eye has a world of love in it for the man it worships and for his children. My theory is that every nature which has any force in it wiU assert itself somewhere, in some form, and that if it fails to be recognized in society, it wiU make itself recog- nized where there are none to dispute its claims. I do not recall a single famous housekeeper, with a splendid faculty for getting rid of servants, and a bad reputation among them, who, at the same time, was a woman widely recognized in society. If you, Mrs. Jessy Bell Jones, were an acknowledged power and authority in the social circle ; if you were a fine musician with the opportunity to. charm your friends ; if you had a high degree of literary cidture and were received everywhere in literary circles as an ornament or an equal; if you possesed a recognized value out of your house, or in your parlor, beyond other women of your class or set, I think you would be content- that your servants would get along well enough, and that you would get along well enough with them.